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Part of it is due to evolution probably. For example, men like women with wide hips because they can give birth easier, so perhaps this has some advantage. Either that or they like a bit of bum fun.

It's a massive plus for me - like a dream come true. I am the kind of person that likes people who treats it like it's special.

I find also the guys that are generally successful are the guys that take risks. For example, lots of not so good looking guys (ie like the average chav) will probably hit on loads of girls, and try and show off in front of them and all that. The guys that are unsuccessful are usually the shy guys etc, who tend to keep themselves to themselves, and fear rejection maybe, and lack self confidance. However, if your good looking, girls will usually be attracted to you - but thats genetics and a good dress sense, not so much about what you do. This is the type that most shy but good looking guys fall into.

If a guy speaks to a girl (like says "hi"), but he never really has done before, and she kind of puts her head down and to the side but looks up with her eyes (ie like a puppy dog eyes) and says "hello" after like a second gap, would that be typical of a shy girl? And maybe also if she looks a bit red and has a smile on her face. The response didn't feel like 2 neutral people would have. If someone said Hi, I would say Hi back straight away with perhaps a smile and it would just seem friendly, and natural, but her response seemed either like she was shy (hence the bowing of head but keeping the eyes looking up, and the gap where she could be thinking like "!"), or she thaught I was an idiot (ie. "how dare he talk to me!? Who does he think he is..."). Is bowing of the head with eyes up and a smile, and thinking before responding, something shy girls do? She looked a bit red, but she could of been red anyway.

Also the more you drink, the more drunk you get. Sometimes you can be drunk, but never do certain things often associated with being drunk. or you can feel fine, but others notice you are drunk.

I was going to say the same as Annie more or less LOL. If they are kicking a ball or somehting, or wearing a soccer shirt, say "hey did you see the game last night?". This will usually start an hour long convo 8) , as long as you either watch it/ blag it.

I even think about girls I didn't like LOL. When i'm home alone, I think "I've had so many chances in life, but yet right now, i'm single. Surely something is better than nothing?"

In response to the original question: No. There can be attraction at first site, but you can't read what someones personality is like by seeing them for a split second.

WOW! I just found this through searching... this is a brilliant post!

Your right, it normally is a sign. If you search for older posts, im sure many people will say it is. And yes your right it is a way of getting you to notice them. A few times I have been walking down a corridor and girls with their friends have purposely moved so the girl that liked me walked into me. If she didn't like me, she would of just stepped sideways, or avoided bumping into me. I think it can be quite obvious sometimes... unless they want to start a fight with you 8)

Yeah, go for it. If she liked you before you rejected her, chances are she probably still likes you, just thinks that you are now to good for her or something.

It'll only make you stronger! You'll learn, and next time, be better somehow.

I would think she must like someone, just is perhaps shy and doesn't show it. Things don't look good for you at the moment, but if you really want to try, your going to have to take the first step, I think, like go over and chat to her, then fade a way for a while. Perhaps you will successfully land your hook, and you will just have to wait for her to bite (ie look at you in class, or show some sign of interest - she will probably have thought about you aproaching her, and have you on her mind), then you can reel her in. Good luck.

Controversial Kitz! LOL What I know, others told me (infact must advice I give, I get from asking girls I know). I hope MetallicGuy can help me someday? Infact i'm sure he will. But yeah, I agree with MetallicGuy etc; getting the girl alone also makes you look less embaressed if she turns you down (unlikely), because no one else would be around.

Hi, I've noticied that alot of people seem to find it hard to have conversations with people they like. However if the opposite happens, and two people have like a really good conversation (attraction/flirting), how can you tell it is different from a friendly conversation? I mean, how can you tell? Just a general vibe? Body language? Are these signs wrong? Are there any others? -Eye contact -Touching -Leaning in (getting close - the closer the better?) -Happy tone of voice -Lots of questions about you -The way they sit Please can you share your own expeirences, and how you knew, if you have any? Any general input is welcome. Thanks.

TBH, when I look at a girl, part of my attraction for them is how good their genes are. If they are tallish (around my height - 5'11), give or take an inch or so, then it's the best for me. I want my children to not be small (my dad is big, and my mum is small, and it bugs me I'll never be as tall as my dad ). Small kids get picked on aswell sometimes, but most people fear the big kids 8) All in all, around 5'10 is my ideal height. I guess like 6'5 would put me off a bit though... come to think of it, alot.

IM'ing her will make you look weak, and someone who hasn't got the confidance/guts to do it face to face. It also lacks charm. I suggest against it... but I don't know, could work. She may think your kidding around anyway if you do it through IM'ing.

LOL! This reminds me of an episode of South park I recently saw! It dealt with this exact problem!

When I see those american high-school / college films, it makes me look at my life, and think, how come no-one I ever knew was like that? My expierence of school was alot more boring to be honest, and no way as it should be. There was probably only like 3 couples in our whole grade/year. And another thing, I swear the actors they use are like 20 something. No way on earth are they passing of as teenagers.

TBH, I hate brand stuff. I personally feel they are exactly what fashion is not, if that makes sense. For example, I think people with little or no fashion sense think "I'll just buy some £100 shirt, it's bound to look good", but in reality, you can pick up shirts that look much better, for like £5, if look in the right shops. I consider myself to be fairly metrosexual, and I believe I can usually spot what looks good and what doesn't. The other day, a friend said to me "How do you afford all your clothes, you must of spent hundreds of £'s on clothes", but in reality, in the last year, i've probably spent £100 max, probably a lot less than that. I believe the key is too avoid over-priced brand names, and instead go to fashion shops, you've probably walked past and thought "That shops too stylish/expensive for me" or something, but usually if you go in, things arnt as expensive as the popular brand names, mainly because not alot of people buy them (few knew they probably exist), and the shop will only have limited stock, which they will have on sale, due to them not selling. The other day I bought 3 pairs of very stylish jeans, all reduced from between £30-£60, all for about £3-£5 each, simply because they wern't selling, and they were bringing in new styles. In conclusion, don't worry about brand names, because they are just over-priced clothes that people with little fashion sense buy, just to show off (no offence to anyone that does this). A plain white shirt, which will cost like next to nothing will probably look just as good with certain pairs of jeans etc.

Wow, I just had a wake up call... I didn't realise girls buying you a drink was like a way of approaching you - that just totally didn't register in my mind! I hate it when girls approach me, and are over confidant. It's normally chavs, or atleast my initial inpression of them is that they are. For me, a girl that does that in my mind doesn't really 'value' dating as such (for me its kind of magical - ie there should be a click). If a girl was to get me interest when she approached, I think I would like her to appear shy, as that would give me an amazing ego boost, and i would think "wow shes got the guts too approach me, especially since shes shy", if i got the hint that is (which is likely if i never talk to this person). I think if a girl melts my heart by being cute (perhaps by looking pathetic), then I should like her alot.

Yeah, I make loads, even around people i'm not attracted to... I guess i'm terrible at quick fire responses. One time, there was this girl, i liked her, she liked me, we were both young, you know the rest. Anyway, one time, I accidently bumped into her (although it was probably the other way around), and she said somehting like "Ow that hurt" (tbh, i cant remember the words, but it was kind of like that), and instead of saying something amazing like "sorry, let me rub/kiss it better for you" I responded with "I know" and walked off. Afterwards, I was like "....sugar (replace with real word)". I ended up sounding like a jerk etc - possible the worst possible thing I could of said, topped off with a very hostile tone of voice... LOL

yeah takes me under 60 seconds to tell if im not attracted to someone or not. However, the not is a lot more stronger for me. For me theres girls that I don't find unattractable, but would take a while for me to like them. And then there are the babes... but they are probably nasty, so I don't really consider dating them... Hmmm

You know it, she knows it, we know it. Make it happen

If she smiles at you a lot (like every other day for a few weeks), then I guess, she wants to get friendly with you.