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I dont think im over weight much, if any. I was 5'10 and betweem 10 and a half to 11 stone, then I gained height a little 5'11, and now weigh between 11 and half stone and 12 stone... again this stone that I put on happened quickly, and I didn't notice it. I do have sweaty hands etc, but not really under the arms much, and I do urinate more than most people during the day, but then I also drink alot of water. You guys are probably right, its probably something to do with the water levels. Thanks! Also about 7 pounds, thinking about it does seem a fair bit... I don't really count to be honest, I just see where the arrow stops, and round to the nearest half. Probably more like 4-5 pounds then I guess.

I'm sorry, I don't understand what your all talking about... what is popping your neck etc?

Hey, is this normal? When I wake up i'm nearly half a stone (7 pounds I think) lighter than when I go to bed... I always put that weight back on when I go to bed. I can understand why my body might do this - stores all the food, then digests in the night, but I dunno if its normal. Also, when giving my weight, which weight should I use? My lightest weight, my heaviest weight, or an inbetween weight?

The other day I encountered a stunning lady, and tried my luck. OK a little background: The other day I was waiting for my bus when I noticied a stunning girl and her mates. As luck would have it, the bus was full so I had to stand and hold the rail, and the only free spot was infront of these girls. I was to much of a coward to stand facing them so I stood sideways. Anyway, a week later, i'm waiting in a fairly large waiting room to catch the bus, and I notice the girls come in again. They sat with their backs to me in the row of seats infront of me (space inbetween of a few meters). A chance to get some good eye-candy I thought, but things soon changed. The stunning girl, who I liked the most, kept turning around and looking in my direction. Now she didn't look at me as such, but there wasn't anything behind me... She turned around a lot of times, maybe 10 times. I was doubting if she was really looking back at me, because she didn't look at me directly, just an over the shoulder glance, but as I said, the bus time table wasn't behind me it was more to her side, so if she was looking at that, she was turning her head too far round... Nothing was behind me apart from a wall, and I was the only one there. Using my enotalone wisdom I decided to play it cool, and walk past them to the toilet, then check them out on the return trip. I noticied none of this girls really looked at anyone that walked past them, so I thought if atleast one of them looks, its good. So anyway, on my return walk I checked for some eye contact, and wham, I got some. I kept my cool, had a little smile, and nodded at her, in an acknowledging kind of way. She looked away to her friend. I felt kind of blown out, and returned to my seat. She turned her head around a couple of times, and then that was it really. All in all, she is just a random girl i'll never see again, but oh my, she was stunning, and yet strangely mysterious... those half signs of maybe interest. LOL. Comment if you like. Thank you for reading.

Interesting topic. A lot of people in my family tree are mixed ethnically, so I don't really consider myself being of any ethnic background, and as a result I like to date people of any ethnic background. I think that people who have problems with multi-racial dating, are often people that arn't exposed to other people outside their race/whatever, and they are just scared.

Just so long as the guy and girl have talked a few times before and know of each other, there should be no problem. If the guy rejects the girl it could be out of shock if they havn't talked before... For me personally I have to develop a liking for someone, I can't just like them because they ask me out or something. Also, in England the vast majority of times its the girls that initiate, as most english guys are shy, and usually make moves after getting drunk. The guys that don't are usually full of themselves.

First rule of martial arts: Always walk away from a fight. Going off topic slightly, I get so annoyed at these idiots who say "martial arts is useless - you could have a black belt in everything, but if i've got a gun, your dead". Martial arts is so much more than fighting, and plus it makes you into a weapon. Think about it, how likely is it that you will be carrying a gun with you? Not likely. If somebody tries to mug you or something, one slight movement of your foot (as little as an inch of movement), and wham, they are on the floor. As for the attraction thing, yeah I admit it can be kinda hot, because they are obviously well toned and that, and plus you sometimes get very close when fighting. However, some women are very manly (no offence), and some men are gay. To an outsider, when they see some of the groundwork stuff, like pins etc, they look gay.

Something I painfully learnt - turning her back on you, and not wanting to reply to what you say to her. Then when you ask "whats wrong?" they reply "It's OK...". What I believe this actually means is "No its not OK, but im not going to speak to you about it, because I dislike you, and i'll get revenge on you one day".

Sometimes guys just practice on girls... like to build confidance and that. Sorry.

Congrats on having the courage to do it 8)

It's alright. Me and a friend once got paid £30 each to kiss each other in a bar once by a group of girls... I aint gay though, and to be honest, no passion what so ever in the kiss... easiest £30 I ever made.

Hi, i've been a while for a bit, and noticied the forum for 'Asking someone out' or whatever it is called is gone I may of imagined this forum... But I dunno, what happened to it?

Take it or leave it, but heres my opinion (i'm guesisng you know of each other before): She was slowling down so you would talk to her, and speeding up to keep with you. Sounds to me that she was giving you the perfect chance to speak to her. I think I am thinking of the same scenario as you. Perhaps she was trying to pluck up the courage to speak to you? Think about it, when a guy asks a girl out or makes a move, he may 'stall' for a little while first, trying to think of what to say. Next time say Hi or something. Good luck!

I agree with outoftheblue9. I think it is often shyness, and I'm also like this sometimes. I guess I don't want to make an idiot of myself, and I want to seem normal and mysterious...

My advice would be to ask her out. Rejection is no way as bad as missing a chance in my opinion. At the moment, im currently trying to ask out a girl, but I know she has a BF, and I know my chances of success are like slim to nill, but atleast I can say I've tried, and i've done everyhting I could do. Believe me, I've learnt that if you don't ask this girl out, you will regret it forever probably, but you will never regret asking her out, even if rejected. Good luck!

Yup. I think you and ReadyorNot have it.

So true...

Yeah influences me. There's a song called "YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL" by James Blunt. link removed has it as their 12th song if you want to watch the video etc. I think the songs really good, but at the moment, it's not really appropriate to my situation in life, but I'm sure others might be able to relate to it.

Go for it! However, to me I can't see why other people are sure she likes you... personally I would think the "I'm not attracting anyone" comment has a warning... Still though, im sure you should ask her out, and you'll regret it if you don't!

I don't hate the attention... I just hate 'the game'. It's like, I think these people that go on these night outs just get drunk and want to have sex, bluntly put. Yeah I can understand why, but I feel different to most people, because I don't have this 'urge' to go out and get drunk and pull. Feels to me like a quick and kind of 'desperate' way to get results, without actually going through the whole dating and relationship business first, hence cutting out all the romance. I'm not insulting others or saying they are in the wrong, I'm just saying I feel a bit weird about this whole scene, as it feels a bit 'empty' and not my thing. Just seeing if anyone else feels this way. Thanks.

Maybe this sounds weird, but I find bars and clubs etc uncomfortable. When I go, because of the way I look, I get lots of attention, but I feel weird about it. It seems so... easy? I don't know, I just feel uncomfortable about it. Sure I could quite easily pull atleast once on a night out (every where I go, girls always seem to come over to me, and give me the look and the wink and all that), and most of these girls are like perhaps 7's or higher, so I am attracted, but it just doesn't feel like it's what I want. I like girls who I have known of for some time, like i've worked with them, or they are friends, as I feel more comfortable knowing a bit about them first. Seems to me that places like clubs destroy the myth of romance and everything like that...

I've found the more I sleep, the more tired I feel. Seems strange, but it's true for me. When I sleep for like 2 or 3 hours, i'm fine. However, when I sleep for like 10 hours, I feel so tired I go back to bed (this is on weekends) if I have nothing to do. I think the longer I sleep, the deeper my body goes into 'hibernation' mode, and then the longer it takes me to get out of it. This is my opinion, based on no science or anything.

I have a similiar opinion to you smiles21. I don't think it will matter to me so much when im older, or when I have been with loads of girls, but at the moment, im still young, so perfer girls that havn't slept around a lot. Probably something to do with being 'pure', and sleeping with only those you love. Hang in there my friend 8)

I feel much the same as asdf about the subject. Peer pressure? I don't think I have ever had peer pressure to drink. I do it because it makes me more relaxed. Everyone is always so serious and streesed and stuff, but then on a friday or saterday at the end of the week, you can just have a drink and unwind. A lot of people find the expeirence fun, as they don't have to worry so much about things, and people generally find things funnier etc. I think perhaps you don't like drinking because you might be a control freak? The thought that maybe you arn't in control, and you just let things happens scares you. Yes bad stuff happens when people drink, but from my expeirence, that is VERY rare... I can't even name one case over the last few years.

That reminds me rionmccloud of a similiar time for me. I worked out what to say when I was going to ask this girl out, but when the time actually came, she said yes before I even finished my sentance, like she had been waiting for me to ask her, but this caused my brain to get confused, as I didn't think she would be predicting what I would say, and say yes. Unknowing what to do, I carried on asking her out like I planned, eventhough she already said yes. LOL.