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Im not from the USA, but we have proms too, however we don't always call them proms... actually what does 'prom' mean? Prominard? Hmmm Anyway, from all the other prom's I have been to, you didn't really ever need a date. Sometimes I just go with a bunch of girl mates, and then no-one really knows or not - thats probably what I'll do this time too. Most people just get drunk though, and chat, and dance (but not really much 1 on 1 slow dancing). Prom's, I think for me atleast, are one of those fairytale things that in real life isn't at all fairytale'ish.

My take on this is she does like you, and the reason she was uneasy about you knowing she would go to the prom with her, is because she thought you might not take the bait and ask her out (leaving her to think of another way to get with you), or you may reject her. If I was you, and I was good at convo's, I would of said something like "So... I hear you wanted to go to the prom with me? - perhaps as a subtle question, yet a statement at the same time, so its casual, and smiling the whole time, so as to make her comfortable. Idealy, if you get the balance right, you could turn a postive response into leading onto aksing out for a date, or if its a negative response, turn it into a slight tease, kind of like "Thats not what i heard LOL". Heres something else to think about - it's more or less a garante that you are going to die. You could die in 5 mins, or 90 years. Either way, what ever bad stuff happens now, before you know it, you will of forgotten it, and if you havn't, when your dead it doesn't matter. You'll kick yourself if you don't go for it, as this looks very likely it will positive.

It seems to me in the past that when girls seem to hit on me etc in public (ie girls in bars etc), that several of them happen within a short space of time (ie in a few weeks i'll maybe 'meet' more girls than in the next few months). Is there any logic behind this? Or am I just noticing something that isnt there? Basically what i'm asking is if theres certain times of the year when girls go 'looking', I know animals do, so I wouldn't be surprised if humans do. Thanks.

Seeing as you live in the UK, I imagine he has to be 18 or over to work there. Thing is, if he is really attractive and that, he would probably be going out with, or wanting to date, someone nearer his own age (ie someone who's allowed to drink and just do adult type things). To be honest though, showing him interest may make his day, and you never know Good luck! The only tip I could suggest is perhaps eye contact, and just chit-chat.

LOL so true about women being better at it! Man, I have so much expeirence at it, but at the end of the day, I don't notice it till like after, when it's too late. LOL

I agree 100%. Ask the open ended questions, and solve the problem. TBH, I doubt it would make her think you like her though, as all your doing is asking open questions. You seem sure she likes you, and i doubt you would want to lie to yourself, so just go for it Good luck!

Some times people like to look for some one better than who they are with, so perhaps they judge you to be better than her husband, or an alternative? I'm not saying she would divorce etc, just that maybe she's seeing what she 'could' have? Lots of girls in relationships do this. Some girls just like attention. I studied psychology and about relationships etc, and there is a well known theory for this, i've just forgotten it (it was a while ago) - I think its something like the 'social exchange theory' or 'economy theory'. Either way, I know how you feel, kind of.

As others said, you have 2 options: Forget her, or view her actions as a sign that she is very shy around you. I personally would go with option two. TBH, you can wonder for ever if she likes you or not, but the only way you'll know is to ask her out.... or get a mutual friend (if you trust them) to find out if she likes you. Sometimes friends of mine that are girls might start a convo with the girl I like, and say good stuff about me, and ask her what she thinks etc, then if its good or bad, they report back etc. Do something or move on. Doing nothing and wondering wont solve anything. Good luck mate!

Asking out (ie dating) comes before being bf/gf. Before asking her to be your GF, date her a few times first, and TBH, it should feel natural.

Don't worry. I think theres a lot of pressure on most people to of achieved certain things by a certain age, but in reality, most people don't achieve those things - it's just people showing off, and the majority staying quiet because they don't want to seem like a looser or something. In all fairness though, good things come to those that wait.

I find it crazy that people in the USA that arn't Muslims or jews are cut... TBH, I would of thought mutilation would be against Christian belief :S As for it being healthier... I highly doubt it. Originally it was for people in the deserts and stuff, but it's highly unlikely in a country like America, men would have their penis's exposed like that... By cutting off the protective skin, it's actually making it more vulnerable.

Seeing as news went back and fourth indirectly, I don't really think that news can be trusted. I think perhaps she may of liked you, but was unsure if you really liked her because you didn't tell her, and maybe she was embaressed or unsure about how she felt for you. To be honest, the only way you can know for sure is a direct one to one convo. The way I see it, she's either getting friendly with you because she perhaps wants to start a relationship with you, or atleast check you out, or she knows you like her (or thinks she knows), so shes going to twist you around her finger, and basically use you. I know girls like that, and openly critise them.

My plan for the future is to remember what happened this time, and not miss it next time. Thanks.

Sorry for confusing you. Both girls are alright, but never thought of dating either etc. Basically Girl A is the girl I think was possible hitting on me. I chatted to girl A. Left, and came back, to find Girl A gone as planned, but with Girl B in my seat, so I chat to her. Girl B mentions Girl A, I find it odd, Girl A is standing next to me. Is it possible Girl A wanted to 'get with me', and that Girl B knew, thats why Girl B mentioned Girl A, and possible hinted for me to chat to Girl A, only I didn't get the hint due to my drunkness. Hope this has cleared it up...

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The other night I was in a bar, and well to cut a long story short, I wasn't trying to pull, and I got fairly drunk So anyway, I was sitting by a mate at the bar ordering a drink, and before I knew it, a girl that I knew from elsewhere sat down on the empty seat next to me. Now at the time, I was fairly drunk, so I thought nothing of it, and just started chatting to her, as I hadn't ever really spoken to her before. She seemed interested, but I put that down to the fact we never talked before. I probably wouldn't of remembered this the next day if it wasn't for the following events. I received a phone call so had to go outside, and we basically said something like "chat later". Anyway, I came back later, and found a friend of hers had taken my seat next to my friend, so I took the empty seat and started chatting to her. Now the odd thing is, she appeared to just randomly mention the other girl that i was chatting to earlier, and that she was great etc. I was like 8| as I was a bit stunned at the apparently random comment, so then she pointed to the other girl, and she was standing behind me smiling. I was drunk, and so was like "Oh hi" and carried on chatting to the girl, and decided to worry about what was going on the next day. In hindsight now, I think perhaps the other girl was trying to reintroduce me to chat to the other girl, either because a) she didnt want to chat to me (unlikely or b) the other girl did want to chat to me. Now the thought came to me today, that maybe she wanted to chat to me, because she was trying to hit on me etc, as thats what usually happens at bars. Most people there actually made out at the end of the night, so I think, maybe I just let an amazing oppertunity slip? I don't really mind though, as i'm probably reading too much out of it... Sorry for the long in depth post.

TBH, she would probably be too shy to call you, or think your winding her up or something.

As the others mentioned, it's probably just her teaching style. I had a young teacher once who used to be overly nice to me, and quite frankly it used to annoy me because i thought she felt sorry for me or something Perhaps she is just being friendly towards you, and thinks you are a good student, and so she feels like she has a teaching connection to you. In other words, I highly doubt she would be doing this because she likes you, as she would loose her job etc, and it's far more likely she's just ocnnetcing with you to get your attention. Good luck!

Good... but could turn into bad...

A nice face. Not overweight, or really skinny. All the rest aint so important. As for nice personality etc, thats not my thing. I havn't got a good personality, so I don't mind if they don't.

I admit that I have been situations like those described. One time I thought I had something with this girl, and I hesitated, and was asking myself those same questions like you did, and when she asked me to the prom, I thought she was winding me up, because I have seen like 'nerdy' people been basically humiliated by nasty girls before, and I wasn't sure if this was happening to me. Anyway, after rejecting her unintentionally, she moved on, and then a few weeks later when I knew she wasn't joking, I asked her, and she was like speechless, and then eventually said she moved on, and was going with someone else. I was like so confused, because at the time it wasn't clear. And then the next girl after that, well I hesitated to make a move, although she clearly had a crush on me (her friends kept telling me to make a move on her etc), but I was still feeling weak from the girl before, and was generally anti-girls. However, once I learned what really happened with the first girl (I didn't know if she liked me and then moved on or if she was just saying that, as she didnt actually say she liked me, and i was very pessimistic), I decided to make a move. Trouble was, so did 3 other boys in one week. I was like such a chicken, I didn't want to be drawn into the game, and potentially hated by these other guys. She got with one of those guys, who may of kicked me @$$, and then there has always been that weird 'should of been' between us. I learnt from this, and i've more or less made a move everytime since. Believe me, that 'should of been' feeling is so frustrating. Thanks.

I thought only Jews had it done? Unless of course its for medical reasons. I'm sure where I live, mutalation is not that common.

Well I first found these forums because of the articles on this site. I think this site still has articles on the index page?

LOL IMHO once you go out with a girl thats got one, you don't wanna flatish one again! I would say the second thing I look for now is a nice behind. It is more important than nice legs or nice breast to me.

As a guy, I can't really speak for the ladies, but I think the first pic is the best pic, no offence. The first pic looks modern, and like you've done your hair and your happy etc. The other 3 look a bit 'on the spot photos'. I guess this gives a real indication of what your really like, but i guess they don't want that so much. I suggest taking 3 new pictures of you like in the original (ie hair cut nicely, smiling etc). This is just personally what I would do, even though i'm not an expert by far. Good luck!