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Not in my experience. Oh, sure, the girls will ~flirt~ with the guys, but it's the guys who usually make the move. I've even seen instances where the girl slips the guy her phone number (without him having to ask!) but she never actually ~asked~ for a date. See, what she's done there is intentionally put the ball in the guy's court, so to speak. She's unlocked the door, but he's STILL gotta ask if he can come in.

Hop on Limewire and try and find something. There are probably some good how-to documents out there.

Here's what NOT to do... do not turn on Winamp and set the stupid thing to "random." The last thing you want is something like the theme to Rocky ("Gonna fly now") or something by Queen (make that ANYTHING by Queen). Ummmmmmm... Try Sigur Ros. Staralfur is a nice song? link removed

Here's how it goes: Your address Date Employer's name Employer's address Dear (Insert name here - and you better have a name to put in here, "sir or madam" won't cut it): First paragraph outlines how you found out about the job, including the names of the people who reffered you (ask permission to use the names first), and how/why you think you'd be a good fit. Second paragraph outlines more of your applicable skills. Mention school if you are currently enrolled anywhere, pointing out the full program name and date of graduation. Do NOT re-write your resume here, as tempting as that may be. Try and match your skills to the skills they requested in the job ad. Third and final paragraph contains your contact information. Thank them for considering you, and tell them that you look forward to hearing from them soon. Tell them you're available for an interview anytime (even if you're not... you can work out a time for an interview when you're on the phone with them later). Sincerely, Sign your name here Type your name here. Be sure to sell yourself.... this is like an ad... you want the person to buy the product. But be sure to point out what the product can do for THEM.

She's a hopeless flirt. As are probably 1 in 5 women. She probably doesn't even realize she's doing it half the time. But she probably doesn't do it to you anymore because you told her you liked her. You gotta get a handle on that jealousy thing. You need to stop thinkng about her that way.... it's clear that she doesn't want you (sorry, pal) and you're never gonna get her. Don't hold on to the hope that if you keep being a "nice guy" she'll one day think, "Hmmm, that is really such a nice guy." It ain't gonna happen. Women form their opinion of you within probably 5 minutes of meeting you. Unless she's attracted to you from the get-go, she's not gonna be interested later. Boy, that sounds harsh. But it's the bitter truth, amigo. The BEST advice I can give is to be her friend, that's it. If you can't do that, you better start looking for some new friends soon, because that jealousy of yours is just gonna push you two farther and farther apart...

Seriously, I agree with these guys and gals. This girl should NOT be hanging around with all these tools. Sit her down, and tell her, right up front, that you have a problem with how she lets these guys treat her. Keep in mind that she might not see anything wrong with what she's doing - you have to assure her that you, as her friend, only have her best interests at heart.

Well, the million dollar question is, Can you be "just friends" with this girl or not? If so, stick with that. If not, run like heck. When she says she doesn't wanna date, what she's probably saying is, "I don't wanna date YOU." Not to be insulting, or anything, but that's probably what she's thinkin'. One of the biggest problems guys have today is picking up the signals. "No means no." If you keep pushing her, you're gonna lose the friendship. Best thing to do is make a clean break. Find someone else to hit on.

Well, like, you gotta send emails to get 'em, right? Maybe all of your friends are sitting around, waiting by the phone, waiting to hear from you! Just try getting in contact with your friends. Make more of an effort to stay in touch. Just because they don't drop you an occasional line doesn't mean they don't wanna talk to you. If, however, they give you the brushoff after your repeated attempts to be sociable, start packing those bags.

I agree with bleeder - emotions cannot be turned off as easily as turning off a light switch. If they could, there'd be no need for enotalone.com, would there? "I don't feel too good today" - click! Okay, so you gotta do something to occupy your time. You have to remember, you do have a life, or at least part of one, that does not include this person. It's rough, and it might not seem like it, but it's true. So you can do what I do - focus on your job/jobs, watch movies nonstop (except the romantic comedies - they'll only make ya feel worse) and talk to friends. Or, help people. That seems to work too. When "She" made it clear she wanted nothing to do with me, instead of moping, I tried to keep myself moving by helping others - you can't believe the change you feel when you focus on doing good rather than doing nothing. I've helped my aging grandpa with his lawn, I've helped my sister with her problems at work, and now I'm helping you! (I hope)

It's cool that you wanna be her "best friend," but she's probably already got one of those, too. That seems to be my way of going about things. Friends first, test the water, then dive in. (Of course, this hasn't worked for me so far, but I'm hopin'.) This may not be the best way of going about things: This plan could be a little more long-term than you might like: Make sure this girl is worth the effort! For this plan to work, you have to genuinely want to be her friend. If you're just being her friend for the sake of trying to bed her later, she's gonna pick up on that and steer clear of you. It's already gonna be difficult being "just friends" when she already knows you have the hots for her. It'll take a while to get over the awkwardness (provided she ever does), and even then, if your plan works, who knows how long it'll take for the her and the bf to break their ties? Maybe never. Here's one final piece of advice: Don't be the sneaky bastard who whispers nasty things about him in her ear, trying to break up the happy couple. It almost always backfires. For more info on this, read "Othello."

May I say - your buddy is one lucky guy! One "piece" (heh) of advice - don't hit on existing friends. Try ads on the net or in papers. There ARE candidates out there. The last thing you need is unwanted rumours spreading throughout your social circle.

Try being a 24 yr old virgin, like me. The 22nd year is the hardest. Naw, naw. Look, don't focus on getting laid. Keep with the GF, and progress the relationship. If you simply, absolutely cannot wait, then take a walk down "that street" (believe me, there's at least one in every city) - and bring lots of cash. I kid! I kid! No, please, please, don't censor me! Awwwww, man!!!!!

Too bad this message board is censored, or I could tell everyone exactly what fear REALLY sucks. Okay, so there's fear that you might ruin the existing relationship. Tell her you're still friends, and she isn't cool with going further than that, then forget about it. Just be her friend and be happy with that. If something is gonna happen, it will. In the meantime, throw your arm around her neck next time you go to the movies. Keep being "friendly."

There aren't any good ways of telling your friends that you wanna cross "that line" without the fear of scaring the bejeezus out of him/her. If there were, there'd be no need for these message boards. It implies some risk. But the best thing to do is be honest with him, and yourself. If you can't take that risk, be happy being his friend, and nothing else. If you wanna take the chance, we'll all wish you the best of luck. If all goes well, let us know!!!!!! There are some out there (myself included) who would benefit from any advice. Even if it only serves to boost our confidence!

I'm a "test the waters" kinda guy. If she seems genuinely interested, and you can spot any other "quirks" that would suggest she might be interested, then act on it quick!!! Actions speak louder than words. Grab her hand, look into her eyes, and say the first thing that comes to mind. If she doesn't return, oh, well. At least you'll know for certain, right?

Ah-heh.... Maybe he likes the shyness? Maybe he thinks it's cute! Maybe he doesn't notice. Maybe you're making a big deal out of nothing. But are you really shy? Or do you just find yourself at a lack for words and conversation when it's just the two of you? When there's more people around, there's more that can be said. But if the two of you have already said everything that needed saying, then enjoy the sweet silence. Spend the time looking into his eyes. You won't even notice that you're not saying anything. As for the age...? Don't even think about it. Age means nothing when you care about each other. If "society" frowns upon it, turn up your nose at "society."

Dang... if he's a shy fellow, this'll be easy. Throw an extra smile here and there. Talk to him. Brush your hand against his, if you can get close nough. If he's a quiet fellow, and shy like you say, ANY extra attention will push him in your direction.

Wellllllllll...... If they really liked someone, they'd probably throw an extra glance or two in the direction of their object of affection. Possibly smile a little more. Small, and subtle. Also note the reactions of her friends (if any). If THEY throw and extra glance in your direction, and she goes beet red, there's something there. AS for not liking you, you wouldn't notice anything. It'd be stone cold. She wouldn't devote any extra time or effort.

Not nearly as long as some of the others I've read... Heh... she's SMILING at you?? I personally would take that as a very good sign. Giggling, too. This obviously means she enjoys your company. Whether or not this will go further than that remains to be seen. Now, as you pointed out, she DID say she was dating someone. Try and steer your next conversation in that direction. "How are things with you and.... uh.... oh, shoot, whats-his-name?" Get the lowdown. Maybe it's just some dipstick who never really had a chance. Maybe she's just biding her time until Mr. Right swoops in on his white horse. Maybe she's trying to make you jealous!!! Don't dive in head first. Take it slow, test the water. If the pool looks just right, stick a toe in there and.... uh... okay, this is going in a weird direction now.

Okay, what I'm about to say is going to make me sound like a world class a**hole, but I wish to god somebody had told me this a while back. You DON'T love her. You have a CRUSH on her. You have a physical attraction to this girl. That's all. What do you know about her? What's her favorite color? What does she want to be when she gets out of school? Does she drink? Does she smoke? (Don't automatically say no to the last two before you know for sure) Identify your fear. Are you more afraid of rejection? Failure? Or is it that if you went up and talked to her, she might actually HEAR you? Perhaps it's fear of success? Keep this in mind: DON'T put her on that pedestal. She's not the perfect virgin madonna. She's human, like you. She's flawed, In more ways than one, I'm sure. It's not a matter of confidence. I'm sure you're confident enough when you need to be. But if you really, really want to try your hand: Slap yourself in the face, say "What the heck is wrong with me? She's only human." and then go ask her out. Want a good opening line? "Hi, I'm ."

I can smell commitment problems a mile away. Okay, so I can't form a great opinion without all the details but... Before you try sex (as I'm sure it will probably be inevitable anyway), go out in public and introduce him as your "boyfriend." See how he reacts, gauge the reaction. If he freaks, sit him down privately and ask him where you're going. If he starts introducing you as the "girlfriend," well... I dunno. Only you can really judge where you're at.

Ha! Racked my brain, this is the best I can come up with. She constantly says that she's "such a dork." I constantly try to prove the contrary, but one day I just gave up. "Fine. You're a dork, and I'm a geek. We're made for each other." Not the best in the world, I'm sure.

Punch your best friend in the face and say "stay away from my girl!" Just kidding, only kidding. Look, there's obviously some trust issues here. Have faith that she'll stick with you. If there are any signs or indiciations that she's going to leave you for the ex, then confront her. Tell her it's uncomfortable. If she does end up falling for him, dump her ... ! You're better off without. As for the "next level," if this relationship is gonna work, it'll get there eventually anyway. Sooner would be better than later, right? Experiment. Poke around. (Uh, I didn't mean that like it sounded.) If she gets snippy about it, back off, hang up and try again later.

You treat it like it's a BAD thing!!! You're on the inside!! These girls like you, trust you, confide in you.... You've already skipped past the whole "getting to know you" awkward phase of the relationship! The only seemingly difficult part is making the transition from friend to boyfriend. The journey might seem like going from the north pole to the south pole, but really it's more like going from the living room to the bedroom! You're already in the house, man!

Unless your date is to a wedding (or a funeral), keep it casual. Wear your BEST, NEWEST casual clothes. Keep 'em straight and clean. You want to give off a good impression without going overboard. Sure, it does depend on the situation, but you'll find yourself the centre of attention if you wear a tux to a rave.