blinkingbear

OK here's the situation (people who have read my previous posts might already be familiar with my story) It started just before xmas when I asked a girl (charlie) out from work. We started texting each other and it became obvious we had a mutual attraction. Anyway, I went home from uni for xmas and when I got back it seemed that whatever was there before the holidays wasn't there anymore. We don't text each other (she says she has no credit all the time) and last weekend I got really drunk and texted her saying that i really fancy her and want to take her out and be her boyfriend for real. Normally I wouldn't be that open about my feelings, and nothing I wrote was untrue. When I phoned her tonight I apologised for sending it to her and really badly wanted to tell her that even though I was drunk I still meant it. But she didn't seem to bothered about what I'd wrote, it was obvious that it hadn't made her think about me as much more than a friend. Now I'm really fed up, because I really liked her and really wanted it to work out. I can't see where my next relationship is going to come from. Not that I ever get round to having proper relationships as I manage to screw them up without any help from the other person. Please someone tell me where I went wrong!!

I know how you feel - I posted something almost exactly the same as you a little while back on the sex and romance forum. I found there was a lot of support out there for people in our position. I'm a big believer in there being someone perfect for everyone out there and when you find that person you should have no problems expressing yourself. I haven't found my soulmate yet, but I'm not giving up and neither should you. All the best mate.

hi all! Me and this girl (charlie) from work have been interested in each other since just before christmas. We haven't been on a proper date yet (we always seem to be busy) which is something i hope to resolve as soon as possible. Anyway, my problem is that I went out last saturday and got very very drunk and decided to text her. Looking at the text in the cold light of day is very embarrassing, and I've had no reply from her yet. Basically I said i'd love to take her out and make her my girlfriend (by the way, when can you start referring to someone as your girl/boyfriend?) and a few other things besides. I've been working up to phoning her since (we won't meet again at work till next saturday) but haven't got the nerve, because she'll either love me or hate me. If anyone's been in a similar situation I'd love to hear from you. Thanks

I'd just like to say thanks to everyone who's replied. It's been a great help! Anyway last night I went out and got really drunk on cider and texted Charlie (girl from work) and said everything bar proposing marriage. I'm now extremely embarrassed and not sure if she loves me or hates me now. I haven't got the courage yet to phone her and find out.

It seems that all of my mates have lost their virginity by now, and I'm the only one left. Some have progressed to serious relationships that look like leading to marriage. I'm starting to feel a bit left behind, and its been really bothering, particularly since I went to Uni. Apparently universities are full of loose women just waiting to be jumped on, but that hasn't been the case with me....perhaps I'm just going to the wrong places!! I've started seeing this girl at work who is way more experienced than me, and I don't know how to broach the subject of sex with her. I don't want her to feel like I just want to get laid quick (I do, but it isn't the only reason I like her, she's a really great person). Any advice on how to solve this little dilemma would be really appreciated Thanks.

Hi, this is my first post here. I've known this girl at work for a few months now, and just before Christmas we began texting each other and it became clear that we both fancied each other. Anyway, I went back home for the holidays (I'm at Uni in Reading), but since I came back she hasn't been interested in going out properly. I asked her on the phone once last week, and she said she was free the following Saturday, but when at work that day she said she'd made other plans. My other point on this is that she is 16 and I'm 20. Does that make any difference? Is it wrong? How do I turn this into the boyfriend/girlfriend situation I want it to be?