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ok i dont know how bad this is or how bad this could be...but i just wanted to ask something..how old are you??.(im sorry if its rude) but looking at the age uve put down it says 34..if u really r 34 then dont u think u r totally grown up and mature to know what to do and not be convinced by friend talk. im not here to make u feel bad but i just wantef to point that out. if by any chance he does find out then just be honest tell him that i wante my things back and i knew u wouldnt give them to me... or just try to tell him without riskin the fact of him findin out. you know honesty is the best thing and he might take it much better than from finding out and u might not be hurt after all...so just think about it...take care and good luck

its soo sad my sympathies to all those with families there...i wish we could do something to help them...my cousin lives in sri lanka and i dunno if hes ok just prayin he is

hey...i agree to some extent to wut u guys r saying....maybe u should move on but when i come to do it i just cant..... me and my boyfriend had this relationship for 20months we broke up for 5 weeks and now we broke up again like 2 weeks ago...i called him today i dunno why and he told me he is leaving to angland in january and england is 7 hours away from where i live by PLANE!!! i dont want him to go i want him to stay i know u guys will be like get over him but i tried the first time we broke up and it didnt work and im still tryin but it doesnt work...how can i at least convince him to stay...i sound pathetic...but i care about him soo much i love him...i really mean LOVE him....and the thought of not being with him hurts so much...it hurts now..so any suggestions....pls dont tell me to drop the case and move on...because he means everything to me..i know he loves me so any suggestions

ive been in a very similar situation before..things got really physical from his side when we got into fights...but i never let go of him...even though we had a lot of problems and we were quiet unhappy in the end of our year and a half relationship...i loved him very much i still do and i find it very hard to get over him but to tell u the truth whenever i used to think he would be off with another girl i would feel like killin myself...so dont do that for a while unless u really want her to know ur over her.... listen i will tell u most of the advice others told me...they told me to move on and try and do things that dont remind me of him it worked for a while but the memory of him just came bcak every night.... u wont forget that easily and things might work out with u guys just give it time and give her space but not too much space if u want her back...i gave him space and then 5 weeks later we got back together but then u know things were better for a while and then we just decied to let go... this is my advice for u....just take some time off for a while DONT MESS with anyone else if u really want her back cuz then she will keep using that against u... good luck

yah my ex hurt me bad and we got back together after a short break up things went good for a while but as u said its hard to forget the problems u had b4 breaking up and then things started again and now i think hes gone...he said it to me that he would be lookin for someone as soon as possible..i kept on holdin on to him so bad...i never wanted to let go i still dont want to let go i loved him so much and was soo loayl to him seriously even when he wasnt at some stage...but htings happen they do think of us after they leave us and when they c we're gettin on so well they'll come crawling back thats what i believe...but u never know u can get chances again right now i still wanna be with him and just hope things will be ok but yet i know theres no chance... and as u guys say life goes on...life is to short to waste it on one person

i completely agree.....even though i got my ex back but now things r not going so well and it really hurts but the good thing i managed to sort of get my life back a bit when we were on the break.... things r not good now and i dont know wut to do... but i agree with u on every word....and dont leave the current female for ur ex if she ever comes back....i dont think thats a good idea ..think of it

every once in a while i post a prob i ahev with my boyffriend... well this time this post is concerned with 2 subjects..my boyfriend and my parents whom i both love dearly... ok me and my boyfriend got back together around 7 months ago after a 5 week break up ever since then we tried to keep it on a low profile..his parents knew about it but mine didnt since they dont like him and they dont want me to be with him...anyway so everything was ok until they got to find out about some things the other day....they confronted me but i didnt know wut to say. Honestly they put me in a position where i dont know where i have to chose between them and him and serisouly it is sort of difficult. My mum keeps lookin through my stuff to see if i talk to him or have anything to do with him she has taken my phone from me now...so icant call him and theyve seen his number on the house bill which i have nothing to explain to them about and my father has threatened to kill him... which doesnt make it easier..i try to concentrate on my studies but both parents and my boyfriend make it hard!!! as for my boyfriend he doesnt trust me and doesnt believe me...i was meant to be with him in university in dubai starting in jan but i started uni in september where we both live but he doesnt want me to be there and wouldnt talk to me until i leave it...which i dunno how cuz i have to come up with a PERFECT excuse to convince my parents which rnt very easy to convince.... i havent been a perfect girlfriend to him either..as i tend to hide things from him and i dont always tell him everything like where i went or who i spoke to ..( hes very OVER PROTECTIVE) i dont always say the right things if u guys know wut i mean and i promised to be with him in uni and now i cant and he wants to leave the country...i dunno wut to do part of it im to blame for cuz i lied to him about some things..but its like to keep him happy u know. there r things he wont let me do but i have to do them like for example the other day was my sisters birthday and he wouldnt let me go out with her...but i had to because shes my sis and i didnt tell him about it...cuz then hell get so pissed off....do u guys like follow.... basically im in a situation where i have no clue wut to do....things go wrong and i dont know whether things can be fixed with my boyfirned and my parents....i dont want to lose my boyfriend...weve been together for like 2 yrs now...pls any advice would do anything would do...anything...i havent spoken to my boyfirned since tuesday( im not really sure if he wants me now) i know he loves me cuz the look in his eyes when he says it just shows how much he means it....so pls dont tell me that he doesnt...he has this weird way of thinkin thats for sure cuz he has grown up in a very conseravtive enivronment...and so have i but he takes it very serioulsy ... so pls anything just to fix things with both sides....help as soon as possbile is needed before i lose him..

im a girl and i would like to know about the guy what he does in life, if he does drugs and gets drunk, that he would be honest to me and not lie to me no matter wut. where he lives how old he is about his family about himself....just general things and if things go ok then u'll eventually learn more about each other good luck

wwwwooooooooooooooowwwwwww i owuldnt want to be in ur situation. listen this is my opinion on ur situation im only 17 and maybe u wouldnt want to listen to me but i have a boyfirend whos 18 and we'r plannin to get married so now that u have mentioned all this i guess i need to think again. anyway this is about u...personally i think u love ur wife and u care for ur sister in law...because if u really loved and had stronger feelings for ur wifes sister u would have left and walked away a long time ago and u want my advice u cant start anything with ur sister in law no matter what u will just hurt ur wife and u would prolly cause a lot of problems between the sisters and the relationship wont be as good as u think. Now if u guys have kids involved i think u should really sit down and think properly about this would u want to start something with ur kids aunt?!?!?! i seriously think u should stop doin drugs and everything and get ur mind cleaned out and just think it out properly. maybe u guys married too young but deep down u do love ur wife.. why dont u like take a vaccation with ur wife for 3 days to a resort or something and maybe then u will realise how much u love her cuz im sure she cares a lot about u and it would hurt her if u leave her for her sister. think of it man...if u do leave her then ur left with nothing cuz u definitely wouldnt have a chance with her sis....so its either ur wife or nothing...think about it.. wishing u luck

do u really think i should do that i mean isnt it sort of my fault that im the one whos parents wont let her go to university outside the country she lives in while he planned to be with me in uni he says he wants to marry me and live with me could this be a lie of some sort i mean im really in a state of confusion. I also might have to wait till next yr for him to enter university which means i stay at home for one year which my parents wont allow no matter what and he doesnt want me to work and have a job im only 17 and i really love this guy but i just dont want all this to happen. when i told him i might stay he was like i wasted all my life on u..i understand what u guys mean but i cant report him to the police because i live in a very conservative environment and country and they will deport both of us from the country if i report him..so it wont be much of help...

i have posted b4 but to talk about a different problem. i got back with my boyfriend after having broken up for 5 weeks. Things have been much better ever since we got back and well now we both finished school and we have to go to university. The plan was that we both go to the same university outside the country we live in. But the problem was that my parents dont know we're back together and he failed his last year in school and now he has to wait till january or maybe next year to go to university when i told my parents i want to go to university in january they flipped and they dont want me to go in january. They applied for me to go to university startin in september and then i can leave in january but the university they picked my boyfriend hates. I told him today about it and he had a breakdown over the phone he couldnt breathe and just basically lost his mind. He WILL break up with me if i go to this university and he will leave the country and go to england and never come back and i know he means it he threatened to blackmail me with confidentail stuff he has of me and he just left me in a state i dont know what to do please help i hate this university and i dont want to go to it either i tried explaining to my parents but they wont listen to me and they dont want me to w8 till january. anyone if u have any advice i need it quick i love this guy and i dont want to lose him over university. PLEASE i need ur help as soon as possible

im sorry u feel this way but dont do anything stupid to yourself...why dont u feel safe whats making u feel that way? everyone has someone to run to trust me even though it might not be obvious to u now but u will find someone who u can open up to. iknow thismight sound stupid but as others posted write it down write how u feel on a piece of paper get it all out of u and u will feel better maybe not straight away but u will eventually. and if u ever need anyone to open up to we r all here for u. we r all here to help u get over what ur going through pls dont do anything stupid to urself. everyone has something that bothers them u must not givein to it u must face it even though t seems really hard. If u ever need to talk we r here just spill it all out take care of urself ok..and dont do anything stupid pls..

hey man... u know i used to think like u..all i wanted to do was just commit suicide and leave this world but then when u sit and think to urself seriously its not worth it u have a lot to live for trust me on this. what i do is listen to music, something that i can relax to u know...or drive somewhere quiet and just sit down by urself with no one around...just go out and be alone dont do drugs or commit suicide. You know maybe the best thing is to drive at nite to somewhere really quiet and just sit by urself for a while and c how things go i did that once and i felt much better... if its ppl that get to u just dont listen to them ...u know pretend theyr not there...try it and tell us how u feel

yeah i guess ur right but im just worried about losing him u know i have this big feelin he wont be around next year and i really want to spend whats left of his time with him i know its how he feels because hes been sayin it to his friends...and i see the way he looks at me but i know he wont do the first move and is probably waitin for me...i understand everything u guys sa but gettin back on my feet needs a lot of time...and i dont think i have it....i dont want to lose this guy i really dont he is everything to me...and right now i feel so empty without him..i know i sound so stupid but i do want to know what to do b4 it does get too late and i actually lose him..

hey..im facing the same problem...im still on the no contact rule with my ex and its been goin for a month however i have spoken to him only twice. my prom is also comin up and i want him to be my prom date..so i really worried on how to ask him. a couple of days ago i just saw him sitting alone and went up to him and just asked him to be my prom date....dont be to happy for me cuz he wont be in the country then so i guess theres no date and possibly no prom 4 me....but anyway good luck just say whats on ur mind keep us posted

i understand what ur sayin but he left me so how am i meant to be happy i miss him so much i was happy when i was with him even though we did argue a lot but was happy with him he made everything seem to be ok for me even when things werent....i really love him and i cant go on without him...all im askin is how can i get him back how can make him my boyfriend again...i know how he feels about me...so pls try and help me

my ex broke up with me 4 weeks ago and hes on this no contact rule he wouldnt talk to me in school and wouldnt even look at me....i really want to go up to him and talk toh im but i know that things were really messed up between us and they just went out of hands in the end of the relationship...i still see him every day and i cant take it any longer i miss him like hell ive never felt like this towards anyone and i truly do love him ...but hes so stubborn..he has given me chances b4 but i sort of messed up and now i think ive done that there r no more chances between us...i know he still loves me and misses me cuz hes been tellin my friends ex...ppl tell me to give it time and give him space but what if lose him to this time and space thingy u know....i dunno what to do i have posted b4 about my situation and what has happened so pls feel free to check them out andf tell me wut i should do .... i really miss him and cant take it anymore i love him so much to the extent that i feel guilty when i talk another guy cuz i know he doesnt like itr im tryin to avoid doin things which he doesnt like me doing so i would be able to win his heart but at times i just dunno if i should be doin it....i really miss him and cant live without him famile\y and friends dont want me to be with him...but my heart and mind just cant live without him im like a walking dead person. i look like a ghost i cry 24/7....pls help me b4 it gets too late its already a month and i cant do it anymore

i have started to go out more with friends but i still feel this emptiness inside...ive been with other guys before but i havent felt this bad after the break up....its been three weeks now and im gonna tear my hair out.... when it comes to the mockery part...we had this serious problem with the school and they got our parents involved...and when they were talkin to me i laughed at something his dad said which i thought was funny to be said in the situation we were in but then i was near to tears the whole meetin and as soo as his dad left i broke down into tears.... maybe ur right i need to move on and all that but i tried so many times to move on and forget him but i couldnt i dont know all i think of is him....i know i sound stupid and all that but i dont want someone else....if u know what i mean....i really love this guy and he told his parents he wanted to marry me....i dont understand i know he loves me but at times he just confuses me!!...pls tell me if i should go to him again and talk to him..... i need help!! i cant take it anymore i cant take not being with him anymore....my prom is comin up an di want him to be my date..or else i just wont go.....help ppl pls....

ok i posted earlier......um i couldnt get to sit with him ina private place because we were in school but i got the courage to go upto him and talk to him....when i was goin up to him i looked at him he was lookin down and listening to music and when i stood there for a while tryin to stop myself from shakin like an idiot he was cryin!!...i couldnt believe it so i started shakin even more...he then looked at me and im like listen i need to talk to u if thats ok with u...so he just looked at me for a minute.he got up and was like yeah..i didnt get to talk to him much i didnt get to say what i wanted to ....all i said was that the no contact rule is killin me and i cant live like this so hes like ok i understand hes like ill talk to u more often then when i turned around to say something else..hes like u made a mockery out of my family me and my parents r a joke to u...i was soo close to cryin .... and then im like listen i did a mistake hes like listen to me..u laughed when my father and the head of school where havin a serious talk with u about this situation so im obviously a joke and he walked off.....i couldnt believe it ...so i stood there for a while and looked at him i went up to him again....and then he looked at me smiled at me...and was like whats wrong im like y u smilin at me he then shjowed me something on his phone and his friend came and that was it and i had to leave...... and i came back home cryin like a child.... what can i sum up from this should i go talk to him again?!?! i mean i want to i have to finish what i wanted to say... help me pls.and tell me what u think...i mean he was cryin???

hey i think ur right maybe we need to talk but im scared he wouldnt want to or he wouldnt hear me out till i finish. im just worried i wont be able to say what i want to.im just wondering..even if i know what to say i dunno how to start or what to say to him i want to ask him to be my prom date but would that be takin it too far at this time in the situation.... agghhh im scared and confused.

ok so the guy isnt leaving anymore....and the giving him time and space thing is killin me i cant stay in school im cryin like a child every single day ...i cnat not be with him...he went cryin to his friends tellin them that he still loves me and cant live without me but im a b***h!! i dunno what to do u guys please im diein just to talk to him anything im tryin to give him space but i dont want to lose him to the space.... i know im pretty messed up... his friends keep tellin me that he hasnt gotten over u and all that ....but he makes it look like it ....i dunno what to do im gonna go insane at times i just duno wish i would die or something... any help pls anything

i understand what u guys r saying..yes it does bother me to know he has cheated on me and it does actually hurt but as u said let bygones be bygones....but he did say he was sorry and realised his mistake i hope...now whether he loves me or not im not really sure but he does say he does and does show it most of the time....he is a possessive person and thinks he owns me and no im not ok with that but i accept it and live with it because hes everything for me i dont know what id do without him....he does love me deep down i know it cause his mum even said it to me...but why hes doin this i dont really know im not gonna say that ive been completely honest with him and i wasnt a complete angel either but i did my mistakes and did appologise please help me u guys ive tried pleading but nothing happened

hey thank you for ur advice...but what im worried about is the fact that i might not have enough time to work things out in the future...cause theres a slight possibility that he might leave within the next couple of weeks i know we both need time maybe sort of a break for the relationship but i dont want to lose him during this giving time phase if u know what i mean....its painful living without him and i havent felt this way bout anyone in my life ever before. i really dont want to lose him to anything in this world hes my life life without him isnt worth living....hes not coming to school and im worried i want to call and check on him but im scared. things wont be the same if we get back together i know he wont ever forget that but i mean i also lived with the fact that he cheated on me with other girls and i never said anything i didnt leave him...isnt that enough proof to him that i love him...?!?! no offence but guys sometimes are confusing... if uve got any other advice please tell me i dont want to lose him to giving the situation time...or by not talkin to him i know he still cares well i guess so .... please post me as soon as possible...

my story is quite complicating so u got to bare with me for a while...ive posted something quite a while ago.....me and my boyfriend have tried to work thingsout and managed to keep the realtionship goin for a year and month now...but things got out of hand and a lot has happened between us. i met this other guy while we the realtionship was in a break and became good friends with this guy we used to talk once in a week and msg each other just the same....i told my boyfriend that he liked me and all that and he was sort of pissed off but then things went ok after that...not for long though...around 2 weeks ago he read the msgs on my phone and thought that i was cheatin on him with that guy i tried explainin that i didnt and i did everything to convince him but he wouldnt get it i mean he cheated on me more than once and i didnt say anything and i stayed with him....durin the last week i got into a fight with my parents and i was really close to leavin the country so i called him cryin and i told him what was goin to happen he started cryin and told me how much he loved me and that we will always be together..no matter what happened...now i know that i was mistaken by talkin to that guy and all that....i love my boyfriend well my ex now i love him so much and i dont know what to do without him.....a couple of days later he told me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore.... its been a week now and he hasnt said a word to me he doesnt want to talk to me at all...and never wants to be with me...he actually made me promise his dad that i wont call him anymore or talk to him...and now i dont know what to do ...i love this guy so much i really do i know he loves me deep inside i guess and i want him back so bad i mean i feel so heartbroken depressed and empty i feel worthless.....my parents are happy i aint with him anymore but i mean im goin through hell not bein with him...pls help me i love him so much......please help me ....PLEASE........

ok ive been goin out with my guy for a year now... ok and weve been through ups and downs throughout the whole relationship. now me and him have had this talk about "what would u do if i cheated" and "id never cheat on u" u know wut im sayin anyway..lsn......eight months into the relationship he cheated ok now i didnt know what to do but the good thing is he came and told me the next day ok fine i mean cheatin isnt what i consider good but sayin the truth about it and not findin out from someone else is what i consider something good u know what im tryin to say. look if he really loves u and if u want this relationship to really work out and if the guy means nothin to u......then i think u should tell him just tell him the truth dont lie to him about this it will only hurt him more.....u dont want to live with the fact that u cheated on him and never told him u know.....i forgave my boyfriend cuz i love him ok and yes im hurt and i was hurt but i chose not to remember i forgave but i didnt forget he mmight not forget it and it will take time for him to trust u again so u got to say the truth and if he decides to stay then thank god uve got him....and do everything u can to make him be able to trust u again and DO EVERYTHING TO MAKE IT UP TO HIM now i dunno i might not be givin the right advice but thats wut i did i forgave him and if u want this to work out then i think u should tell him......he will be hurt ! good luck!!