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Just ask, where is this going, and see what she says but be prepared for a responce that may not be what ur looking for.

There are no gurantees that you could get her back, but the best thing to do is totally no contact. I cut my ex off for two months and she came running back then she got cute again with me and i cut her off again about a week ago. When your not in the picture they see what they had. But it takes time. No contact, no emails no text mess, no phone,, no cards no letters, no excuses. So go out have some fun, get real busy. I know its hard,believe me Its been 4 months since my relationship ended but i am talking from experience. 2 months no contact and I am the love of her life again. So, thats all the advice I can give. U have to be willing to walk away to get them back, but again u never know. good luck and stay strong

Thats the problem. Your too available. Even if your sitting home with nothing to do, you have to stop making her number one. No one can take advantage of you unless you let them. See what happens when you dont call her back or jump when she is wants you too. I bet you she begins to call you and chase you alot more. I read this thing that you are only supose to accept 50% of all the invites you get from a woman. So i think your long over due to just not be around. Good luck

leaving a message is contact dude. lol, dont do it for your own good. I did not talk to my ex for almost two months then she called me for a full night before i returned her calls the next day after i got off work. Moral now she wants to work on things as soon as she cleans up a little mess she created. I still dont call or contact her. U look needy by contacting them. Bro get real busy. No joke you have to keep busy or this will tortue you. Work out, go out with friends, get a hobby, but dont wait for the phone to ring, it could be a while. Two weeks is no time except when ur the person waiting for the call

ok pal, here is a book that i read that helped me big time. Now my relationship is not saved yet, but we are trying to work throught things slowly. The book is called stop your divorce or lovers rejection. I think the web site is called link removed It has been a 4 month process from the time we broke up till the day she said, lets get back together. We are not back together, she has some mess to clean up, but we are spending time and working on things and we will see what happens. Keep in mind she wanted nothing to do with me told me she did not love me anymore, etc,, now 4 months into it she tells me i am the love of her life. So we will see,, good luck

Well i guess it depends. How long did the two u get together after the break up. My ex and I were together 6 years (how long together could be a factor too) she left me for this other guy. Who is totally jealous of me and always thinks my ex is sneeking around with me. Well as of last week she is. She wants me back. So if your gf/bf just got out of something i would be worried too, espically if they did not have time to get over them. Let me make this point, my ex told a friend of mine that we would never get back together again, and she told that to many people when she was angry and i bet she is telling that to her new boyfriend, who she is going to dump as soon as she cleans up her mess, they break up and get back constantly. Even if u do the breaking up, u need time to get over the relationship before u jump to the next. My ex found this guy before we broke up. Good luck

Why not try that book light his fire. It may help make him feel special. I got the light her fire book because my now ex told me i did not make her feel special. We are currently working on fixing our relationship, and today i sent her an email romantic letter. She responded very positively, i have heard nothing but positive things about the series of books. good luck

Ok, check out this web site, link removed.. i think that is the site, i got a book there to help me save my relationship. It helped alot, i am not going to tell u its saved right now, but we are talking and spending time trying to fix what went wrong. This woman was hating me, told me she did not love me any more. Well as of last week she wanted me back and said i was the love of her life. the book is called, Stop your divorce or lovers rejection when your the only one who wants too. Its an e-book,,,, me and my ex did not talk for almost two months, this process has taken about 4 months. from the day we broke up to the day she told me she wanted me back. Good luck.. feel free to private message me if you have any more questions.

First are u sure its love or just infatuation. When my ex left me she was crazy in love so she thought with this other guy. So i did some research and realized that she was infatuated. Well now four months later, she wants me back. I myself before my relationship ended, thought i was in love with this other woman. I never did anything about it because i had a girlfriend at the time. After all is said and done, i am single now and still would not go out with the girl because i realize its not love. Maybe u have to figure out whats missing in your relationship that makes you u so happy with this other guy. When me and my ex talked we figured out what happened we both had issues that we are now trying to address and in time maybe we can get back together. U dated your husband before and u two got married so i would say your in love with him.

from all the things i read on infatuation, it rarely turns to true love. Most of the time the reasons they liked the person then becomes the reasons they hate the person.

Ok the first thing to do is relax. She is not going to get over four years. How do i know, i was in a 6 year relationship and my girl left me to for someone else and last week she came to me crying and wants to work things out after she cleans out the mess she made. now that was almost 4 months later. The first few months, i chased her, called constantly,, etc,, then i got this book called how to save a relationship when ur the only one who wants too. I also checked out what infatuation really was and yes she was in it. So I will tell u get real busy real fast. Go out have fun, u look more confident and it kind of tosses cold water on them because she is expecting u to be home pining for her. Now no contact, no emails, nothing from u. Only respond if she calls and keep the calls short, no joke less then 10 mins. If not u look needy and conqured. What happens is women see us guys as conqured when we chase. I learnd the hard way. I did not talk to my ex for almost two months, no contact and then now we are talking, and she emails me daily and calls me. Now dont be home for all the calls and if u are, just dont pick up the phone the first time and call her the next day. My ex began calling me last tuesday. I did not pick it up then she called my job the next day. I did not return the call until that night on my way home from work. Dont get me wrong its hard as hell but the sooner u cut her off the sooner u will get her back. I can kick myself for wasting two months of chasing on her. now in the mean time work on you. I been creating the complete package, i been working out, cooking and learning how to be a romantic guy by getting some books like how to light her fire,, etc,,, work on u, and really give her the space she needs. dont let your emotions dictate how u will act or u will lose,, read the art of war that helped me too,,, so get busy, get educated and become the complete package, in no time she will be calling. I have proven that and let me tell you a few friends of mine got the books i told them and got their bfs/gfs/ back,,, no joke, I have been educatecd and this wont happen to me again. My girl is on her way back and I will keep her this time and wont lose her again. stay calm

I was in a similar situation. My gf of 6 years decided that she was not in love with me anymore and broke up with me. She really did not tell me too much as to why. I tried from may-july to get her back and it was not working. She had hooked up with someone that she met while we were together. I got this e-book called how to save a relationship when your the only one who wants to. I also cut off all contact with her. No calls, no emails nothing. She instant messaged me not too long ago and after a month and a half no contact, i called her because a credit card bill of hers came to the apartment that we shared. The phone call kind of broke the ice, but it was not very good because her new BF was sitting right next to her through the conversation. This guy lives in MA and I live and NY and she is in NY too staying with a friend. He is always up her butt.. Well when she got back to NY on tuesday of this week she called me four times, but I did not pick up any calls. The next day she called my job and again i did not take the call. We played phone tag for a bit on wednesday but finally we connected. It was awkward, then finally she got angry because she felt i was being phony. We met and had it out. Actually in a positve manor, it was two months since we last saw each other. We hung out last night too, she wants to work on things with me. It will take some time because she has to end what she began with this guy. I told her we cant just be friends so either we fix this or move on and she agreeded. She wants to go to theraphy together. It took her until september to actually tell me what happened to us and the time apart let me reflect too and think how things went wrong. I dont know what her issues are but my ex told me when we broke up that she did not love me anymore, etc she loved me like a friend but that was it. Then Wednesday night she told me exactally how she felt and all the whys. I guess the time apart made her reflect. I told her we are both good people we just made mistakes and she agreeded. Give her time with no contact, get that book, it will help you in ways u never imagined. Honestly after our last conversation a week ago, i totally decided that we were done. I was moving on and not going to try anymore. It was not until i totally gave up and did not care of the outcome that she came around. The no contact gives both of you the time to see things and miss each other. Hell my ex even cryed last night, and this woman in 6 years may have cried 5 times. I was floored. She says i know things will be fine it will just take some time. I told her i dont trust her or her intentions, but lets just hang and have fun. BUT she does not have an endless amount of time to cut things off with this guy. I am seeing a few people (i am not but i said i was) and since we both know we just cant be friends, we are not just going to keep hanging out. We hugged last night and both said see u soon.. I wont be too available to her, she has to see life goes on. A few of my buds this summer got dumped too. They moved on much quicker then i did, i guess because they were not together as long. But as soon as they stopped chasing, cut off contact and moved on, their women came back. good luck

It does not mean your putting out any signals. They enjoy being around you and in the moment they want to fool around. I know this girl i will call her the kissing bandit,,lol when she drinks she likes to make out with anyone and yes she has a boyfriend. I dont understand it but that is how it seems to go. You could also be seen as a challenge because you dont go along with the kissing etc. Women love a challenge. When i want a woman i just act as if i dont and I always seem to get them. I agree with you not being a dog and fooling around with these women. Take their advances as a compliment.

I tell you my ex was calling me all the time after she left me for someone else. But she had such an attitude and was lieing to me about things i was not even asking. That i just will never understand. Well i cut her off for over a month almost a month and a half. I called her last week because some of her bills came to the apt we use to share (surprised because i thought she had them forwarded) i called and left a message on her cell she called me back with her new thang right by her side,,lol not sure whos benefit that was for but ok,, she talked to me for 40mins, but she was still very high on herself and finally i told her to stop blowing smoke up her a$$ that i was not still into her (but i am) and right now i dont even like her and i will make no efforts again to have anything to do with her (she wants to be friends of course). She told me she will call when she comes back to ny,, her new thang lives in MA.. ok well she is back because 7 mins after i am normally home she called then called my cell,, BUT guess what i wont answer. She did not leave a message so there is nothing to return,,lol see how that works. It has been my experience that they ususally eventually call, but its on their time not ours. So be patient go have fun and live life. It easier said then done but i tell you me and my bow flex have become best friends and i am so focused that is crazy. I dont wonder what she is doing, and when she will call.. KEEP BUSY people. like a good friend told me, if they were thinking of you they would be there but they are not with you so they dont care. I wonder how many calls i will get tonight,,lmaoo,, guess what i still wont answer.. [/img]

LOL ok i wont lie those i slept with right off i did not want to turn them into anything. The woman i was with for 6 years we waited a month. But your on the right track, dont sleep with him and just begin to get to know each other and see where it goes, but dont tell him how you feel yet. That is scary because you two slept together he may think your a stalker or something..lol He keeps calling, its hard to say he may be interested in getting to know you or he may just want more of what you gave him the last time. good luck