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In response to your question, the best workout is to not overwork your chest. In order for muscles to grow, you need to do short sets and about 3 reps per exercise. Make sure you don't take too much time between sets to rest, you want to shock the muscle so I suggest 30 sec. to 1 min between sets. You choose how much weight you'll need, and try and choose a weight that you can only do somewhere between 6-9 reps of.Here's my routine: flat bench: 4 sets 8 reps incline bench: 3 sets 8 reps decline bench: 3 sets 8 reps butterflies: 3 sets 8-10 reps That's my routine besides all of my other body parts. You may want to get into a full body workout routine, because you don't want to be disproportionate. It would look funny if your chest was huge but your arms and shoulders were the size of straws. go to link removed, you can get really good tips there also. If you really are serious about this, you need to make sure you get a lot of protein and some good carbs in your diet, either through supplements or the food you eat. You can't grow without protein. Make sure you do only one muscle group per week also, just like this: Monday: Chest, shoulders and triceps Wednesday: Back and biceps Friday: Legs Trust me, once a week is plenty, that's the key to growing. Your muscles don't grow in the gym, they grow when you're resting so give them 5-7 days to repair before working them again. Hope this helps!

If by waiting to see what happens means that she'll have to make the first move then that is probably unlikely. Trust me from experience when I was in school, I passed up so many great chicks because I waited to see what happened. You need to just go for it before she gets picked up by another guy. A girl can only wait so long before a guy she likes doesn't ask her out and she just goes for someone else.

I can't say it's not possible to be friends with your ex but I've never been able to do it myself. Once two people have been in a romantic relationship, it's almost impossible to revert back to a friendship because of the difference between just a friendship and the intensity of a romance, you just can't seem to go back. I think it's just better not to contact each other and just go on with your life and meet someone else. If you keep in contact with your ex then it will be harder to lose your feelings for them and you won't truly be happy with the person you are currently with or will be with in the future.

Thanks enadevoli, I know you're right. It will take time and I'm not sure if she is with someone but I always felt we weren't right for each other, just better as friends and I always told her that if she feels there's someone better out there for her then we shouldn't be together and vice versa. Truth is that I always knew we wouldn't be together forever, I just went along for the ride and now we are both free to meet the right people for the both of us. Or at least find them eventually. I really do want her to be happy. I also want to be happy and if we stayed together then I wouldn't be able to feel the joy of being with someone new or getting butterflies in my stomach from a first date.

Okay so I've posted a few times about breaking up with the ex. Here goes, it's been 2 1/2 months since we broke up and we had been together for 1 year. I sat her down and asked her what she wanted from the relationship and that's where the truth came out. I'm 26 and she told me she's only 22 and she's still young, she wants to see what's out there. For a while I was thinking of breaking it off but I loved her (not in love but loved as a person). I figured things would get better but we seemed to grow distant. We spoke for about 2-3 weeks after we broke up but now it's be about a month and a half and not contact whatsoever on both parts. I really know I'm not going to contact her because that will help me get over her. While I was with her I wasn't taking care of myself anymore like I would eat whatever and I wouldn't work out. She said she didn't want me to lose weight because she thought I would leave her for another girl. I also wasn't trying to get out of my dead end job either. Now that we broke up I started working out and eating right since I had time and I thought it would be good for my own health and ego. I also found a great job that I'll be starting in a week from 9/22/03 that I got through a friend of mine and the money is really great with a potential of a six figure a year salary. I know I should be happier and I should be getting over her and being 26 I've been in a few relationships but this was actually the longest (not the most intense though). I feel like I'm getting over her but I still wake up and think about her and always picture her with someone else. It bothers me so much and I hate it. I really want to forget about her and I know time heals all but damn it seems so slow. Right now I don't make much money at all so I don't even want to date right now. In this new job I won't be getting paid for the first two months either because of training and processing takes a month and a half but my friend that works there went through the same thing and she told me I'm going to have to stick with it and when the money starts rolling in, it really starts rolling in big. Anyway, I'm getting off the subject. I really need to get her out of my head. Anyone have any suggestions, I'm tired of waking up and thinking about her. I guess I just need the time to pass. Also, lately it seems like my friends haven't been around much so I can't find people who want to hang out. It seems like they'll be around more now though since they'll be in the states more often due to work. Thanks for listening and sorry for the long post.

This is just my honest opinion and maybe it does work out for a few people but I think friends should just stay friends no matter how hard it is. If you do end up breaking up, it's twice as hard to remain friends because of the double dynamic the relationship faced with being friends and lovers. Seriously, I know from experience.

If they are razor bumps then you can buy a cream called 'bump stopper' sold at most pharmacies. The bumps come from a hair follicle growing under the skin and entering another pore in your face so you may need to tweeze the ones you already have now even if you can't see them before you apply creams.

Wow, have you tried marriage counseling? Maybe you can surprise her and find someone to take care of your children and go on vacation for a week or two, maybe re-ignite the flame. I mean 16 years is a heck of a lot of time to be together to just toss out the window. Or maybe just take the whole family on vacation, you really need to try something.

Write down what you want to say first like major points on how you feel, then put it all together in a letter. Don't hold back either, you say he's stubborn and thinks he's always right, nows your chance to prove him wrong, he can't argue with a letter.

It sounds like you really have feelings for this girl. I mean, if you have a way of contacting her, I would say go for it. If not, then try and get her number from someone......you never know if she may be the right one for you. It's damn well near worth a try, you two sound like you get along really well and could possibly make a great couple.

Hey, there's nothing wrong with what you did. I wish I could do the same, I broke up with my ex 2 months ago and it's been a month since I spoke to her. I do want to hear from her but at the same time I don't want to hear her voice. Maybe in 3-4 months I'll have the courage to call her and see how she's doing, I should be over her by then. Anyway, I'm proud you just went with how you felt and sent her an e-mail, hopefully she'll respond in a good manner but if she doesn't respond at all, then just leave it at that. Good luck man!

Okay, I'll try to make this short. Most of you may know a bit about my story but here goes. A good friend of mine (about 3 months) ended up becoming bf/gf for one year. She's about 4.5 years younger, me being 26 and her 22. She's in her last year of college and she never used to party much. Our relationship was never really intense being that we never had an argument and we never fell in love but we really loved each other a lot. Anyway, I always thought of her as a friend during the relationship so I wasn't fully romantic with her, I mean I was at times but I could have been more. I just didn't feel the butterflies with her and I don't think she felt them with me, at least in the last few months of the relationship. Okay so we did love each other company and were together a lot. The last few months though we weren't intimate any, aside from just kissing and holding hands. Again, we did spend a lot of time together and she always wanted to see me. So it's been two months since we broke up and I do still miss her a lot. I know she has new friends now and she may be seeing someone but I'm not sure, I haven't spoken to her in a month. She would e-mail me after the split and always told me to call her, I did but not all the time, I mean we weren't together anymore. I've been fine lately about our split because I've kept busy working out a lot and being with my friends. The thing is I had a dream last night that I called her and her roommate picked up, she told me to hold for my ex but she never came to the phone. This forced me to wake up and it really bothered me, I just feel like she really doesn't want to talk to me, but we didn't have a bad break-up. I know I don't want to call her now but I also miss her a lot. It'd be nice if she called but I really don't want to talk to her and I'm sure she feels the same way. I mean when you break-up you do need that time where you don't talk for a while. Man this sucks, I mean I am 26 and I've been through break-ups before but I hate when I feel over someone and all of a sudden I'm reminded of them again. I can't wait until I'm fully over her. Thanks for listening you guys!

My philosophy on relationships is this: I don't understand what people mean when they say they've found their 'soulmate'. What? Soulmate? You see, we limit ourselves and say that there is one person out there that is perfect for us, when in truth, there are really a countless amount of people that are right for us, it's just that we stop looking when we feel we've found a good one. Don't ever think that there is just one person out there that's right for you, because you're only lying to yourself and that's not fair to you. You have to understand that there are so many people out there that can bring you so much joy, you just have to either find them or hope they come to you through chance like most great relationships start.

I know you do want to be friends with him but are you ready to actually be friends with someone that would leave you for someone else when you were bf/gf? What does that say about his loyalty to people? I know you care for him and you want him in your life but don't be foolish and accept him after he did something like this to you. Maybe you should take a little while off where you both don't speak and see how you feel when you're ready to talk to him again. Don't hurt yourself at the risk of just wanting to stay in contact with your ex, it's not good for you.

reborn and katana, wow, your stories are very descript and I want to thank you for sharing them with me. Thank you all for your input. I don't feel I'm waiting around for her call, but it would be nice to hear from her and know that she was at least thinking of me, as shallow as that sounds. I think I'm already moved on but I just miss my friend you know? It'd be nice to hear from her but like I said, I could live without ever hearing from her again. It's just a matter of time before I don't even really think about her but I was with her for a year so it's not that easy to just up and forget. Anyway, like they say, time heals all and I feel good about myself now that I have more free time to workout and hang with my friends too. Thanks you guys for listening and keep posting!