pregnantkitty_1985

I agree. My friend paid me a visit today and told me I should train him like a dog; teach him his own lesson, and he'll stop. I wouldn't say it's that simple, however.

Update: He came home and said he's going back to that store (which is one hour away because this candle is unique..) tomorrow to get a new one. Well, that's very nice and all, but why bother when it's just going to get broke again? When he gets mad, his brain seems to stop working.

He's been doing this sort of stuff for awhile now. It's started escalating, I guess the more comfortable he's become with me over the months, the more of his true personality he can let slip.

As for marrying him, well my name might still be Engagedkitty, and I might still wear this ring, but I really can't see myself marrying him until he gets some psychiatric help!

Yes, it happens quite often actually. At first he would break his own stuff; glass ashtrays, glasses, a glass IHOPS juice container, bedroom & bathroom door, holes in the walls.. lately he's been breaking stuff of mine, stuff I guess he figures he has the "right" to break because he bought it.. He's broke two other candles of mine, big candles in plain glass jars, and a cool blue wine glass I had.. but this candle was like the icing on the cake. Or more like the dingleberry on the poodle. That candle was fantastic. I am a self-proclaimed candle connoseiur; this candle was superior. It was mine. It was a gift. Why would someone go and do that?

I TRIED to make my post as short as possible, because I always write really long ones and I know that some people don't wish to read long, drawn-out stuff. Hopefully this is not too long and I'll get some advice/opinions..

I hate to be childish and use emoticons, but I don't care right now. We were arguing; he fell asleep on the couch at 9pm which was fine because I had the chance to go ahead and buy him something else online. I had already bought him one gift online and decided to get his other gifts at the store, because the S &H was so pricey. But then I found this particular item online that was really awesome. I had been debating on whether to buy it or not and finally decided to do it, thinking of how nice it would be. (I love to receive but I also love to give.) Anyway... At around 12am in the morning, I decided to go ahead and wake him up and get him to go to the bedroom, as that's where his alarm clock was at and he had to get up at 5:30am. He cannot wake up by himself, and he can't even wake up with a damn alarm clock! I usually end up tapping him until he wakes up. So, with only good intentions in mind, I woke him up to briefly have him make the transition from the couch to the bed, so he could be by his alarm clock. I know I am not his mother and should not mother him, but I didn't want him to be late for work or miss his ride. I also didn't want his friend (also his current boss this week) to have to come bang on the door and get annoyed with him, so again, this was all with good intentions in mind. He started getting really angry at me and told me to leave him alone and stop messing with him. Fine. I left him alone but tried again a few minutes later and he again got an attitude, so I said, "it's cool, I'll just go get your alarm clock from the bedroom for you and put it out here." He started yelling at me and telling me not to. He finally got up and we started fighting because of his 'tude, and then he suddenly switched it up and started asking me what I got him for Xmas (still with an angry tone.) He's been doing this also pathologically for the past coupla days, trying to manipulate me into telling him. There's no lengths he's not gone to to get me to tell him. He's threatened to go look up the shadow cache online (he's a tech) and all sorts of other things, in his pursuit of knowing. It's so ridiculous and childish and just plain rude. Like it's not appreciated at all. I told him if he didn't stop asking me, and didn't stop being a jerk (well that's not what I said exactly, but the mods love editing my posts) then I'd go online and cancel the orders. He said "What is it then, if you're going to cancel the orders? If you're going to cancel the orders then I should know what it was." I said I wasn't really gonna cancel the orders, but I wanted to see his surprise on Xmas when he received them. He still kept trying to manipulate me. He then said "Fine, I don't care, I told you I didn't even want anything, I don't want it, just return it." Wow, talk about cutting someone down. I am not returning the goddamn gifts but now I don't even feel excited about giving them to him. He doesn't appreciate it and doesn't "care" as he said. I just feel weird and ridiculous about giving them to him, especially since he makes such a big deal of it. He'll probably not even like it.. Anyway, he was really p*ssing me off and we kept arguing and he kept threatening to break the gift that he got me, which he had already given to me on saturday. It was a big beautiful intense-smelling peach candle (with real peaches covered in wax that melts to look like a bowl of peach ice cream) in a beautiful glass bowl decorated with outgraved (can't think of another word for it, it's not engraved but out-graved) hearts.. and I loved it. I knew it would end up getting broke though, I just knew it. Didn't think it'd be so soon but I knew it was bound to happen. So I got the candle and moved it to the bedroom so he wouldn't, but he kept threatening to do it. Then I moved it back when I thought everything was safe and he got mad again and took the candle, threw it accross the floor (hard, too) and it shattered. I saw this coming. I don't know why he even bothered getting it, when he knew he was going to do this. It always ends up happening. He picked up the glass and the candle and put the candle in a glass ashtray, but it looks completely messed up now. I was so angry I went on a rampage and so, he decided to try and fix the candle. Heh. But it looks ridiculous now and it's not the same. He kept saying I should appreciate that he tried to fix it. Heh. I'd have appreciated it more if he hadn't of broke it. He tried to say he didn't "mean" to break it, he just meant for it to "roll" accross the carpet. Yeah. Right. He threw it mighty damn hard if you ask me. He later said he felt "bad" and promised to buy me a new one. Well, he wouldn't have to buy me a new one if he hadn't of broke it. It's expensive. I told him to just wait till after Xmas to get it sometime and for now, save up his money this week so he can get his daughter a ton of toys for Xmas. I'd prefer that, it would make me happier to see him buy her a lot of cool stuff. But yeah. I'm venting. This was so wrong. It seems to me like a form of control.

I guess you will have to find other ways to connect on a deep level, Veneratio. I understand what you mean now. I'm trying to think of ways you could do so but I'm a loss for ideas... I'll come back to this thread when I come up with some valuable input.

Yes, it does depend on if it's legal. Chances are a 24 year old isn't a virgin and isn't getting into a relationship for friendship only. Common sense, honey. I seriously doubt he would stick around waiting for the day she would turn 18 so they could engage in any sort of sexual encounter. If anything, he'd do it before then. Sorry you don't agree with my opinion but I don't really care. Also sorry you seemingly take offense but again, I don't care. This site is made up of opinions, that's what we're all here for. Advice & opinions. And I gave my opinion. The OP and everyone else doesn't have to agree with me, but don't have to "flame" me either. If you can't handle it, put me on the ignore list, if they've got one.

Just because you don't agree with me, doesn't mean I'm going to recant my post or apologize for it. And my post was geared towards illegality. If it's illegal in his state, then it's wrong. You can argue about that all you want, but if 17 is illegal in his state, then no, it's not okay for him to have a relationship with her. He should wait until she's 18. If it's legal in his state, then he can do what he wants but I'd still somewhat balk at the idea. There's a difference between a 19/20 relationship and a 17/24 relationship. A 17 year old is still in high school. A 24 year old man is near to entering his mid 20's. My point was not that couples can't date if one is a teenager. If you read my post carefully, you would have seen that. My post said if one is a teenager and one is much older, at a different stage in their life, then yeah, they shouldn't date. There could be legal issues depending on the state he lives in and moral issues too. (As in, why date teen girls when you're a grown man of 24 and could find a equally grown woman?)

Ooh, nice gifts FCTex, any girl would love that. I would post what I got my fiance but he's nosy and likes to see what I've posted on enotalone when I'm in the shower.

What do you mean it doesn't work, you can't orgasm by masturbating? Or do you mean that you can, but it's just not the same as real sex? Feel free to ignore this question if you want, but I'm only asking so I can help advise you. I'm very glad to hear that you're not going to cheat and won't be tempted to cheat. It's refreshing and relieving to hear someone say that, when I've seen so many posts about "She won't give it up! How do I get her to do it, or should I just dump her!!" or "I am having an affair because I'm not being sexually fulfilled!" and etc.

First I want to commend you for not ending it over sex. That's an admirable quality. Secondly, I want to say one word: Masturbation. That's how you deal. I have never been celibate but I imagine that is how one would deal with celibacy. Out of curiosity, have you two stopped all relations all together? By that I mean, is it a no kissing/touching/recieving handjobs/blowjobs sort of thing? Or has she forgone everything? If she's still doing that sort of stuff, but not sex, well, you could still get off that way. That's another way to deal, besides masturbation.

I would agree that it comes down to the individual and the choices they make. Not age. I don't think age is a factor at all. I have a 16 year old brother who has been with a girl for 2 years now, and hasn't once cheated nor thought of doing so.

Oh, and you can still complete any dream and goal regardless of sexual orientation.

Of course I'm not an expert on this because I'm not gay, but it sounds to me like you're bisexual. You can still have a family and kids and be bisexual. You could have a family and kids being gay as well. (Adoption, using an egg donor, surrogate mother etc, and though you may not be able to become legally married, you could have one of those commitment ceremonies.) There's nothing wrong with your attraction to other men. It's not sick or disturbing and you shouldn't feel ashamed about it. However if you're worried you're more attracted to guys then your girlfriend, then I'd suggest taking some time apart to see what (or who) it is that you really want. You don't want to end up hurting an innocent person in the process. Good luck to you.

Okay, first I must say that I'm not an insecure wreck of a female who doesn't let her man go out with his friends. However, it's ridiculous because he'll whine, moan, complain, and start arguments if I want to do anything with my friends. If they invite me to stay at their house for the night, he'll beg and plead with me not to go. If I go anyway (and usually I'll give in to him, but if we've been fighting I usually feel it's best if I do go stay at a friend's house) then he'll call their cell phone and then their house phone and keep their line tied up for hours. If they tell him to stop calling then he'll start pleading with them instead to bring me back home, or he'll start begging me to let him come get me. This always, ALWAYS results in my friends becoming really annoyed and frustrated, and angry that he tries to monopolize my time. Usually I'll end up going back to shut him up. I don't get to have any fun whatsoever when I'm with my friends alone, because he won't stop calling. And if they ask me to go somewhere with them, and he happens to be home, he will beg and beg until they let him go too. Which is fine, but SOMETIMES girls just want to be girls, and hang out together and talk as friends do, in private. So, it very much irked me today when his "best" friend called him, wanting him to drive him to a city one hour away from here, because he has lost his license. Now, this friend seems to only call when he wants something from my man, though I'm not going to say the guy's a horrible friend because he *has* helped my man out in some ways. However, this guy is another shady character and not someone I'd consider a good influence on my already easily influenced man. Anyhow, my man said "Hey, I'm gonna drive to (city's name) with (friend's name), do you mind?" I'm like, "Umm, what are you doing, going to strip clubs?" (There is no strip clubs in this immediate area so if one wishes to go there or to a Hooters restaurant to gawk at the waitresses then they must drive an hour away to that other city. As for me asking if he was going to a strip club, here's my disclaimer: This is a boundary we've discussed and it's been decided that such things are not acceptable in our relationship.) He said, "No, (his friend's name) needs to get a present for his wife for Xmas." Yeah, but all the way there when there's perfectly acceptable stores right here? I don't buy it. Anyhow, you could tell he really wanted to go, because he seems to jump to do whatever his friend wants him to do when he calls. So I was like "well, do whatever then.." though I made it clear by my tone I was not happy with it, though I would not stop him. He then started talking about "well, I need to get your present too.." I said sure, sure. He called his friend back and was all-loudly discussing how he was supposedly needing to get my xmas present, and asking if they did gift wrapping at the stores they were going to visit. It was so obvious he came up with that ploy so he could go without conflict. I mean, not a big deal, but because he chose to do it as such, it really makes it seem like something shady is going on, and he just wants to go out and be one of the boys while I'm stuck sitting at home. You don't ever, ever see him asking me to come along whenever this certain friend asks him to go anywhere with him, for some reason. Why is that? To prove that a woman doesn't rule him? And the way he was acting on the phone with him kinda seemed like he was going to go regardless of my feelings on the situation, just so he didn't come off as a p*ssy to his friend. When just last night he claimed that he no longer cares what any of his friends think of him and won't ever again be easily influenced by anyone, and won't try to impress people for stupid reasons. Obviously that was a lie. As usual. Anyhow, so he decided he was going, and clearly couldn't wait. Even went and took a shower. Hmm, he doesn't shower for me half the time, in fact he's not showered in some days. I don't know if this is depression or if the "honeymoon" is over and he no longer feels the need to impress me, but he was obviously trying to get all clean and nice smelling for someone, and I'm sure it wasn't his friend. I mentioned this and he said "Well, I'm not going out in public smelling nasty.." Well, uh, buddy, you sure haven't minded before! If he doesn't care about being showered for his fiance of all people then why would he need to worry about other people? Unless of course, he was planning on showing his friend he's still "got it" and was going to hit on girls. Before anyone thinks I'm overly paranoid, you should read some of my other threads. Actually I wouldn't recommend it, they're far too long. But for anyone who HAS read my other threads, well, then you know I'm not being overly paranoid, and in fact I have the right to be suspicious. Anyhow, his car has been broke down for nearly 3 weeks now and it was supposed to be fixed today. Well the guy came to fix it but he was still asleep so his car is still broke down. I've been stuck in this house for 3 weeks, with two exceptions, when I went with my friend to Walmart (and of course my man had to tag along.) He b*tches about wanting to spend time together, but the second his friend calls him up, he ditches me. And normally it wouldn't be such a big deal for a guy to hang with his friend, but if he can hang with his friends why the hell can't I hang out with mine? And why does he always have to be with me when I do hang out with them, if he doesn't want me around when he hangs out with his friends? It's okay though, my friend is going somewhere to night and she's gonna come get me when she does, so my man won't be the only one out and enjoying himself. Tired of being stuck at home.

I find it just a tinnnnnnnny bit ridiculous that my above post was deleted, because it was referring to southerngirl's post above. I was amused and was showing so. I guess I should have added "Yeah, that's what I'd most likely do as well.." to make it more relevant to the thread.

I think you know that what occurred was merely a delusional panic attack, as you said as much. You know that the feelings you had have no realistic grounds. You're not blistering all over, you don't have appendicitis, and your boyfriend likely doesn't loathe you. Of course, you may have some sort of other horrible disease. Nah. You're fine. I have no reassurances unfortunately, but at times I feel like you do. Maybe not to that extent, but at times I start getting a bit like that myself. I don't know how to stop it.

Personally, I'd be covering up the pubic area, because my breasts are the shizzle.

Uh, no. Sex is not a one way street. If we're going to work hard at getting a man off (and that's giving head and p*ssy too), then they need to reciprocate. There's nothing wrong with giving head and then sex, as you advised the original poster, but it's more selfish for a man to take, take, take, and receive, receive, receive, without giving anything in return. It's not selfish for the original poster or anyone else to want reciprocation if they're working hard their damn selves to get their man off. Once in awhile is okay, (and it happens occasionally to even the best sex partners) but when he's constantly getting on top of her, doing his thing, busting off without taking the time to get her off as well, then that's what I'd call selfish.

Yes. Tiredman is scared of some natural womanly fluids.

It's biological. Designed to lubricate the vagina for penetration. We can't help it. Nor is it a bad thing.

That's not even true, that's completely inaccurate. Must every post you write have glaring generalizations? Any man, and that's any, even you, could slow himself down. It just takes a little bit of effort and concentration, that's all. I've been told this from a man himself (and have witnessed this firsthand. ) He said sometimes if he doesn't concentrate he'll bust a nut quick, but if he focuses his mind, he'll just go for a long period of time. As for a woman needing to "speed" herself up, well, that's a bit ridiculous. It takes some women a lot longer to even warm up, I guess that's why there's foreplay? And it doesn't take a man too long to get a boner. Go figure.

This is a very, very important rule for all men to remember: LADIES FIRST!!!!!!!