Japanfreak05

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There's no talking to him about it. He said "your gonna see it your way and I'm gonna see it my way" I tried all night to try to make him see i cared, but it just went in one ear and out the other. Everything I was saying, was like he wasnt even listening. After he got his side out, it's like whatever I had to say didn't matter. like now, he's acting like nothing ever happened last night. Like he got all his stress out on me and he feels better, but i'm still upset.:splat:

OK, last weekend my BF and i were out riding around. And I hear this noise from my side (passanger side) so we pull over and he has a flat tire. So we get some air in it and he quickly takes me home. On his way home I call him every 10-15 mins to make sure he's alright. (takes him a good 30 mins to get home from my house) He gets home and his car bumper comes off (his car is really low to the ground and the bumper hit the road all the time, it just had it by now). So he's really mad, and I didn't know what to say, so i try to calm him down, but soon i got sleepy (it was after 12am) and we hung up. YESTERDAY (3 days after that car stuff happened). we are having a nice time just chatting on the phone. Then all of a sudden he gets mad, and says I don't care about his car. He flips out and gets angry about how i went out with my friends Monday. SO I'm sitting here trying to explain to him that I do care. But it just goes in ear and out the other. He's like "your gonna see it your way, and I'm gonna see it my way". So i'm like....W.T.H I'm so confused with him right now. I feel like he's taking his stress with the car out on me. He went into this big thing about how i always want to go out, and i never want to just stay at home. and if he hangs out with his friend I'll get mad. saying how i don't try to understand. and how he always pays for everything when we go out. Just a BUNCH of random stuff that he always says he's ok with, but right then at that very moment, he decided to get mad. I care about his car ( he has 2). I don't have a car, never had a car. How am I suppose to know how to deal with his car situation right now? I told him, I try to understand it, but it's hard cuz i i've never been in this kind of situation. He spends SO much money on that car ( 1500 just went in it for its turbo). I told him he should save some of his money and not spend it all on the car all the time. BAD IDEA he took that as, I want him to save his money so he can spend it all on me. And yes, he does pay for everything when we go out. BUT whenever i try to pay he knocks my hand out the way, and says "nah it's ok, i'll get it". I have my own money, but he never lets me use it, whenever i try. I've tried to help him get stuff for his car, but he turns that down too. WTH I'm so confused as to why he all of a sudden got mad. PMS!!!! He started school today, so he could have been stressed out about that and his car. But why take it out on me!!! I don't know if I should be mad at him, cuz of the hurtful things he said to me last night, or just act like nothing happened. He seems to be acting like, he didn't say any of that stuff last night. Like nothing is wrong. Like what he said last night, didn't even happen. Well I'm going out of town this weekend (my great grandmother is turning 100!!!!) so I guess the time appart will be a good thing??? help!!!](*,)

well dang Beec that was pretty good. I guess I'll have to try that out....ugh. lol

I buy him things every once in a while. Like the glasses, that was a few weeks ago. So it's not always material things, I like sentimental things more. We both work so when I have a day off, he's still at work. So I'll send him little "i love you" texts and stuff sometimes while he's at work. Sometimes when I have to work after he gets off, I'll send him an email for him to read when he gets home. Just talking about my day or whats on my mind or how I much love him. I'll get home from work, and he doesn't even respond to the emails. Nor did he send me a single text while I was at work. Like I do for him. I don't even know if he ever even gets my emails sometimes. He doesn't say anything about them. (I sent my last one last month, and the only thing he said about it was "i feel the same way"....) I've already talked to him about the email thing a while back, but nothing's changed. Just dont know what to do about it. I stoped sending him emails, but i still send him texts. Sometimes I just need that little reminder to let me know he's still feelin me. but I don't get it. I guess he shows his love by paying my cell phone bill, or paying for me when we go out. He likes money, but i guess he's not a sentimental romanitc guy, which is what i'd like. *shrug*

Sunday, with my boyfriend!!! Cars are fun

How do you get a guy to be more romantic?????? My boyfriend is not romantic what-so-ever and I'd LOVE for him to be more romantic. I'm talkin about, doing things just because he wants to, just because he can. like getting flowers, sending sweet texts, etc. I'm always getting him stuff out of the blue, but it never gets returned. Like I bought him some shades that he really wanted, and a few weeks ago I sent him an email about how much he means to me (all he could say was "i feel the same way"). Like he never does anything like what i do for him. Can't he take the hint We have been together for over a year (1 1/2) so maybe he's just comfortable. If I can't find a way to get him to be more romantic I guess I'll just have to deal with it.....boooooooo. lol Maybe I'm being too demanding of him, but it's not much to ask for!! I know guys won't know what we want unless we tell them sometimes, but I don't want to flat out tell him "hey be more romantic" I kinda want him to do it on his own

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Thanks....that makes me feel alot better

Every now and then I get in these little dark moments. when i just feel like crap. Like now, everything seems to just be going down hill. I don't have anything to look forward to. I have a job, but they don't really need me so I work about 2 days a week, this week i don't work at all. I don't like working there at all either. I live at home with my parents, my mom I don't get along with at all. She treats me like begs me for money, drinks, just a very negitive person. It's hard for me to live in the house every day with her, i just want to get out. I don't have a car, so I really can't go anywhere. I'm not sure if i'll even be able to go back to school next sememster. It's like everything is just going so bad. I know i'm just looking at the negitives. The only positives I see is, having my boyfriend that is always there for me. But lately I'm always coming to him with some sort of problem, like i never have a good day. I know he's going to get tired of that soon too....but how am i suppose to be happy when i have nothing to be happy about. I've done alot of "faking" but really on the inside i feel like crap.

yeah I live with her, so there's not much I can do about staying away. Unless I go outside. I try to avoid her as much as I can, but I don't have my own room, i sleep on my sisters floor. She likes to just act like she runs everything in the house and can bust in anywhere she wants to. Even tho she doesn't pay any of the bills. I really just, don't know what to do at all.

I've been with this guy for about 1 1/2 years. Things are great with him, and he's really really the guy I want to be with forever. We get into little battles from time to time but we always seem to work them out or agree to disagree. But it's one little thing that bothers me. Me and my mom don't get along at all. None what-so-ever. She's locked me out the house, treats me like crap, selfish, begs me for money, drinks, lazy, bashes the relationship i have with him, the whole nine. So he really doesn't like her either. But I always run to him when she makes me sad/mad. I've got to tell him the story. He's so easy to talk to. But lately I've been feeling that he's getting tired of me always b*tching and moaning about my mom. He's actually told me "you let too much stuff get to you, i don't know what to say everything i say is old i say everything i could". I know I have to put up with her until i can move out, so i just try to stay strong and press on. But when I do need some comfort I run to him, but it's like he's tired of it already. So I don't know what to do.

hey, I'd feel a little mad about the fact that he went to a strip club too. but 4 years, that's a long time. You should talk to him about how you don't trust him, if he knew then maybe he could make actions towards changing that. Get real serious with him. 4 years, he's probably just getting a little comfortable too. Just thinks he can do what he wants sometimes, but remember you have feelings as well. He wants to spend more time with his friends, that's cool. But you still want to see him too. Just let him know how you feel, communication is key. Tell him exactly how you feel. Basically everything you just said. Sometimes well alot of times, boys don't really think. They know what they want and they'll act on that. But they don't exactly KNOW what WE want unless we tell them. Good luck!!!

ok!! 1. He is always here for me whenever I get down or need to talk to someone. He always lifts my spirts up. 2. He is so funny!! he's always crackin jokes. I love to laugh and it's just great that he makes me laugh all the time. 3. We hardly fight. And when we do we try to work it out. But he is a guy and sometimes doesn't want to talk about it, raither just move on. But I like him for who he is. 4. He pays my cell phone bill 5. We are complete opposites in the things we like. But that keeps our relationship exciting, we always find out new stuff about eachother. If we were alike I'd already know everything cuz it would be the same things I like. Pretty long....Wish I could keep going hehe

I'm 19 and he's 22

Wow..... I have a similar problem too. My ex best friend and I had a falling out about two weeks ago. She randomly showed up to my house 10:30 at night because I wouldn't answer my phone. We had been off again on again friends as well. But everyone pretty much thought she was crazy. I was the only person to befriend her. We had a lot of fun together as friends, but sometimes people just grow appart. She'd send my boyfriend texts and stuff about how much I was being a {mod edit} and she even slept with my boyfriends brother. Just crazy stuff you know? Soon my boyfriend and his brother were about to fight her boyfriend. Just crazy stuff that she'd start to get attiention and it'd just escalde into something alot bigger. People do grow appart. Maybe ya'll just grew appart. Your in your senior year and have a new best friend and a great boyfriend. She could be jealous of you and making your life crazy because she is mad. I'm sorry you had to take online classes because of her. Just stay strong. She will get over her little tantrum soon. Just try to stay happy with your new friend and your boyfriend. It's your last year in high school, next year it will be college and you'll get new friends. Trust me lol. My boyfriend told me "you know it's something wrong with a person when they only have one friend". My ex friend and her boyfriend split up and be and my boyfriend are still going strong. What goes around comes around. She'll get what she's got coming sooner enough. Just try to cut her out of your life. There's no sense in being friends with her again after what she's done. No one can make you happy but yourself, so just DO YA THANG!!!!

Pretty blunt but very true. Once you reach a certian point in a relationship, the possibility of them leaving you becomes less. You become really close and it takes a lot to break you appart. You get to the point where you really don't want to go through finding someone else, letting them meet your parents, going through another relationship. Just my opinion tho, I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, and that's how I feel.

OMG the same thing happened to me 2 days ago lol. Yea we both have accounts too, and i was just looking at his. he changed his top 8 now it's like mostly girls. Already i'm like WTC so I look at their profiles. And one picture had a comment from him. it was like "no, that is sexy that is the sh*t" I got soooo mad. I didn't want to be mad, cuz it's stupid myspace. but still, don't call other girls sexy. he explained it (got to love boy explinations). He was responding to a comment she left on his picture about his car being sexy. he was referring to her motorcycle not her (whatever lol). Just think of it this way. you've got to be on his top 8 right? if your not #1 your close to it right? and there's no other girl in front of you right? so dont be upset. He probably doesn't even talk to thoes stutty girls. he's with you not them. Stupid myspace tho, most girls have slutty pictures, to attract guys, but they also have like a million friends, i don't think they'd take the time to talk to all of them. so don't worry. Even tho I know I was mad too at first. Gotta love the female intuition too. But as long as he calls you everyday, he's with you or you know where he's at, don't worry. be happy

I have a job now and i'm trying to save up for a car. He knows all this, so i hope he understands that I am trying. I'm not just complaining without trying to put forth effort to change it. I just hope he doesn't "burn out" before I acomplish getting a car. We see eachother on the weekends, so during the week he, that's when he hangs out with his friends, goes racing, or i'll hang out with my friends. It's never at the same time, one of us is always at home while the other is out, so I guess that makes it a little bit harder, i don't know. I don't have too big of a problem with the car, I just hate to see how all his money goes towards it ALL THE TIME. Like he worked crazy overtime to get 1300 dollars to put something in the car. And he's still not done, he still wants to get, this that and the other for it. I understand that's his hobby and he has goals for it though. Maybe I have some negivitves towards it cuz I'm not into cars. Maybe I should wait to see what happens after he pays the car insurance? I try to keep calm and don't get mad when he's going through tough times like this, when he has to work alot to save up for something big, I already know he's tired and stressed. Just trying to be a good girlfriend at the same time. He says he doesn't mind driving all the time and paying for everything, he says that's what he wants to do, since he is the man of the relationship, but I feel bad about it, and It's always hard for me to ask him for something cuz I know he does everything. confused grrr.....

I am sorry......you should def. tell him how you feel tho. If he has anything bad to say about how you feel, then he's not the one you need to be with. Boys can be such jerks some times !!!! But really let him know how you feel, cuz you gave it up for HIM to make HIM happy. You got to think about yourself sometimes, what do YOU want. He knew you wanted to wait but he did it anyway....that was selfish on his part....to me. He's got to know in order for it to be a relationship he's got to put some effort in it as well. I hope you feel better!!

I've been with this guy for the past 1 1/2 years and at first our relationship was very exciting. We always went out together, always spent time together. Even tho I lived with my parents we still made time to see eachother as much as possible, and when we couldn't see eachother we'd always be on the phone. He likes to street race his car. Ever since I've known him that's been his hobby. He is always spending a load of money fixing up his car to make it go faster. So I kinda felt like I was on the back burnner compared to his car for a while. But on our 1 year anniversary he bought me a 800 dollar promise ring. I lived with my parents for about 6 months into our relationship. I soon started college and started living in an appartment. We got to spend loads of time alone and without the constant nagging of my mom, dad, and two younger sibblings. I lived in the appartment for 9 months. School had let out so I had to move back in with my parents (which is where I am now). Ever since I moved back in with them, things have somewhat changed. Me and him we never go out anymore, he's been working non stop to pay the insurance for his car so I don't get to talk to him much. If we do get to talk it's only for a short time because he soon falls asleep. and if we do hang out he takes me home early so he can go out with his friends to some meet up spot and race his car (which he just spend 1300 dollars on a few weeks ago). The worst part is, I didn't have a job the whole time I was in school, so he was always the one paying for everything, everytime we went out. I just got a job last week so I know that's going to change. He got me a new cell phone a while back(he wanted me to have a nextel like his) and he's always paid the bill. Another thing is I don't have a car, so he's always been the one driving back and forth all the time as well. I feel like he does so much for me, I don't have the right to get upset at anything he does. So anytime we argue I'm always the first to give in, and apologize. I don't want him to be mad at me. I know I don't have much to offer him at the moment, but I'm trying very hard. It's good that he's sticking here with me and all. And he's always here for me when I need him, and he tries to talk to me as much as he can. Really, he's sweet, i'm just confused by some of the little things he does. I dont know if in reality it's slowly falling apart....I don't know.... I really don't know what to think of this situation. So just tell me stright up how it is. What does it look like to you? if I'm being a selfish attention hogging girlfriend please let me know, I'll take anything.