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  1. Japanfreak05
    I want him, and I want to be with him. We have plans for the future and what not. So I guess I will have to just deal with it.....no matter how much i wish it could be different.
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    i really don't see him wanting to leave me tho.....everything else is fine, but when it comes down to talking about problems it's messed up. He got me a promise ring and stuff. I don't know why he'd want to get me that, but want to leave me at the same time?? I guess the only thing for me to do is talk to him about it, but I've tried that before, and he blows up, I guess cuz i'm like making him seem like a lower person. But he makes me feel like that whenever we argue. He STAYS bringing up old issues as well. Stuff I thought we had talked about, but I guess he's not over them. He uses thoes to back up whatever he's telling me, during an argument.
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    Well not really, i try to stay positive as well. but when i do have a bad day i usually go to him about it. so maybe it does seem like that to him. If so, how am I suppose to fix it? just stop telling him about my bad days?
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    I don't undersand him. He is a great boyfriend and all. I don't want to leave him. But it's like I need to find a different person to talk to when I have a problem because when I try to talk to my boyfriend, he "doesn't know what to say" or just doesn't say anything at all. I don't know how to change that.....at all. I just tell myself to just move on cuz even tho I can't talk to him about my problems, there's many other qualities I like about him. But I still feel bad about it. He just makes me feel kinda like 'what i feel doesn't matter' to him.
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    My boyfriend and I rarely get into arguments. but when we do they are the worst things in the world. He'll say things to me that just hurts me so bad, but then the next day it's like he didn't even say them. Last night for example: I did not have a good day. Issues with my job and trying to work and get a car. I didn't talk to him most of the day cuz he's at school or work. So when he did call he was freaking out cuz his brother got into a car accident. It wasn't bad his car just got alittle beat up (it's a honda). They ended up giving his brother the ticket, even tho the woman he hit ran a stop sign and was on a cell phone. But that's not my point of this problem.... He was bent up about how they blamed his brother for the accident so I just tried to make him feel better and tell him it's gonna be alright, what goes around comes around, all that jazz. So a few hours later I decide to tell him about my bad day. and he just blows up on me telling me: "I can't handle your problems and mine" "you always get like that". And it's like I can't say anything to him about the stuff he says cuz "i didn't say anything mean to you". It's like he'll say whatever it is he wants to say. but when i have something to say, it's in one ear and out the other, he's always right. Ugh....it just makes me so mad!!! ](*,)
  6. Japanfreak05
    yeah I gotcha!! thanks a million!! you are great. I gonna stick to this and see where things go. I was getting lost trying to be all up in his life that i got behind in my life. do our own things, but still do things together when we can, i think this will turn out good. i feel better. I don't want him to get tired of me. and since we plan to spend the rest of our lives together, we have all the time in the world to do things. I gotta do me so i can be better in the future and he has to do the same. It's all a growing process I believe.
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    Dang man....I feel you. I understand what your saing. I don't want to be crowding him. During the week he'll get off work at 7pm but I don't hear from him till sometime after 8/9pm. He has a car he loves to race, so he can do what he wants and I go hang out with my friends as well. I guess I need to have other stuff to do than have "i wonder what he's doing?" "where is he at" "why hasn't he called me" in the back of my mind. I guess like live my own life. And we can have those days were we go hang out together. It doesn't have to be every weekend. I guess that's something I should have BEEN learned lol. ' I don't have a car yet (working to get one by thanksgiving) so he's always been the one to drive. Sometimes I'd get my moms car on her off day and hang with him. So I don't have any say so on when he comes over (I recently moved back home from school). If I DO ask him to come over at a specific time he gets really mad. So I don't have ANY control over when he comes over my house. So it's like "he'll come when he gets ready to come". I guess maybe to throw him off I need to just be like "no not today i'm going out with my friends" or I might have to work that day. I don't know...that confuses me too. Am I going in the right direction with this?lol
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    Dang FCTex!!!! You tell it like it is don't you. but that's exactly what i want. Maybe I am crowding him a little. But I do want to spend time with him. Not seeing him or talking to him everyday bothers me cuz we started out talking non stop, now its, going a day or two without saying more than 3 words to each other. I just don't want things to fall appart. He has his days where he can go hang with his friends. I go hang with my friends. So i still don't see what more does he want? or what should i do? Ya'll are pretty much the same age FCTex so I'm listening. As for the other girls. we pretty much talked that out and stuff. I guess I should leave it alone. I don't bring it up with him much unless we're joking around. He doesn't talk to them anymore....but he hasn't cut the off completely....him having girls for friends, is kinda hard. But I know he talks to me more than he talks to them.
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    yeah i've been stressed alot lately and it's like he's just not there. He doesn't try to comfort me or make me feel better. I took it as, maybe he's not that type of person, maybe he's not really romantic and stuff. The times i do see him are nice. but the weeks we go without talking much or seeing eachother really takes a toll on me....maybe that's what stresses me out?? That and I'm working to get a car, so I work work work....that stresses me out too. and I don't have him to comfort me and stuff....so i'm kinda lost.....stuck.
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    I can't help but be parinoid too cuz, i don't get to see or talk to him that much anymore. I don't know what he's doing....and we don't get to talk or spend time together. i don't know what to do about it.... The girl he said "gald to see you" he said, he doesn't like her....and i've seen the girl, she's not very attractive. but what made it so bad was, I had went out of town the SAME night he went to go see her. It was her birthday so he went to tell her happy birthday with his brother. (this girl is his brother's X girlfriend friend lol) so my BF really has nothing to do with her. OH!!! and they were talking before me and my BF met. so my BF chose me over her. crazy complex I know. but my whole problem isn't her, it's not being able to see or talk to him....
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    My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now. He just started school and he works for a few hours after school. The problem I have is that I never get to talk to him anymore. Especailly during the week. I work as well so my weekends are never free. So we basically have no time to spend together or talk to each other. He never calls me, so I'm usually the one sending texts or calling him on his breaks between classes, before he goes to work, and when he gets off. The only reason I got to talk to him today was cuz I called him. That was this morning, and I haven't talked to him since. A few weeks ago we traded sim cards in our cell phones so he could give me some ringtones, and i found a couple of texts in his "deleted messages" box. Him telling some girl "i love you" and another girl "i'm glad i got to see you today" (to make a long text short). We talked about it and the girl he said "i love you to" was a girl who he's known since Elem school. and the other text was to a girl he doesn't like.....we've moved on, but i'm still a little parinoid about it. I just don't know if what's happening is a sign or something? I love him very very much, and it's been about 2 years. I have a promise ring and everything. I don't want to end the relationship, I just DON'T know what to do.....
  12. Japanfreak05
    Thanks guys!! That helped alot. I will talk to him about it!!! Phew
  13. Japanfreak05
    Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 1 1/2 years. and things with us are kinda loose. Like he was a differet person when we were dating for months, but now that's it's been a year and some months it's like he's gotten really "comfortable". He doesn't call me much anymore I find myself calling him more than he calls me, we never go anywhere anymore he finds it easier to stay at home and sleep instead of seeing me it's always "i'll see how I feel later on". The list can go on, but you get the picture. I know he still loves me and all that. It's just his actions sometimes that just make me wonder.... I write him emails and get him little gifts from time to time to let him know how much I love him and stuff, but it's not the same with him. He doesn't do anything like that. Sometimes its like I love him more than he loves me. I dont know....I always want to just go a few days without calling him or acting like i could care less what he's doing. but I always give in. Right now I don't know what's going on with us.....help me understand please!!
  14. Japanfreak05
    yeah like I REALLY don't like my mom. we have some issues. so when he gets mad at me he'll say stuff like "you act just like your mom". Which ain't cool.....he usullay ends up taking it back. That was probably off subject.....lol but yeah, if you keep it bottled up, it will soon come out....maybe you should tell her how you feel. what's making you depressed....then maybe she can cope......idk sometimes i don't think my boyfriend understands what i'm going though.....he always says "i don't know what to say".....*shrug*....maybe i'm not much help?? lol sorry.....
  15. Japanfreak05
    I feel the same way...... I'm not sure what to do either....I just try to not to say things to make him mad at me....*shrug* which doesn't help. I do know that he's not the reason I get all depressed....things that go on at home and stuff make me depressed, but i just don't want it to affect our relationship.....
  16. Japanfreak05
    its ok...... I go through the same thing and basically i see i as..... guys want to be strong, they don't want us to see them down, sad, afraid. So most times they just act like everythings ok. Sometimes that doesn't always work, he'll get fustrated and we can just tell something is not right. We ask them what's wrong and of course it's "nothing" but we (girls) continue to wonder "did i do something wrong" and we pressure them to tell us what's wrong (when really they don't want us to know) so they end up blowing up on us. Don't get it at all but i try to understand it. i'm sure if i've done something wrong he'd tell me. so i let him know that if he wants to talk, i'm always here for him. just let him know that your there for him and that the door is open if he wants to talk. leave it at that, he'll soon tell you what was wrong, if not wait a day or so before asking him what's wrong. give him sometime to cool down. guys like to think things through in their minds, and girls like to talk about things......just weird, but learn from it.
  17. Japanfreak05
    I'm not gonna leave him for a bigger penis....I mean we got more going for us than just sex....I just want to know if it matters or not. *shrug*
  18. Japanfreak05
    I lost my verginity to my boyfriend last year. I'm still with him now, so I haven't been able to experience any other man. I was just wondering if size really matters? I probably won't know what it feels like to be with someone other than him, so I just wanted to know anyway....I guess maybe to see if i'm missing anything hahaha. Thanks!!!
  19. Japanfreak05
    Yes Ma'mam!!!!!!!! Amen to that!!!!!! It is alot of weight, but it does beat getting pregnant!!! YEAH!!!! I have crazy mood swings too. Like around PMS it's just real crazy. I don't like that either!!! like before i didn't get all moody, but now i get real moody. UGH!!!
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    I started taking birth control about this time last year. I went from a size 10 to a size 14!!!!!!!!!! Did anyone else gain alot of weight by being on birth control????
  21. Japanfreak05
    I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half. We've been doing OK for the past week. He started school last week, and his car has been acting up so he's been really stressed. It got to the point where he'd take his fustrations out on me (just getting mad at me, and telling me "i don't understand, and i don't try to understand") Next week, I start working again. I work 4-11pm. He goes to school 11am-3pm then he goes to work 4-8pm. So there's REALLY not going to be ANY time for us to see/talk to one another. I'm not sure how this is going to work out. I really want to be with him, this is my first really serious relationship. He got me a promise ring and stuff. I don't want things to fall appart, cuz I don't know what i'd do without him. I just hope some how we can work though this, but stuff is looking a little rocky right now.
  22. Japanfreak05
    Yea I know what you mean, I don't want my relationship to fail either. This is like my first real serious relationship too and i want to make it work. But I think if you keep working on a relationship, communicate, then you should be together for a while. You learn alot from past relationshps too. but i'm not too sure myself.
  23. Japanfreak05
    I've been with my boyfriend for over a year. We have little battles at times, but in the end we are really happy with eachother and things always tend to work out, for the most part lol. Just one thing that keeps bothering me We have sex on the regular. It's always exciting for me. But he usually comes before I do. so that means I have to wait for him to get back up before we can go at it again. By the time he gets back up, i'm kinda out of the mood and it never works out for me. The whole time we've been together I haven't had an orgasm during intercourse. If he goes down on me (which he doesn't like to do often), it takes no time. but intercourse never ever works out for me. I haven't said anything to him cuz I don't want him to feel like he's not good enough or whatever. Maybe it's me, maybe i'm not thinking the right thoughts or something?? I don't want to end our relationship over sex. I mean there HAS to be something we can do to make things work on this end right????
  24. Japanfreak05
    yeah my boyfriend will snap on me out of nowhere alot of times. I know how you feel. But we do spend alot of time together, so i figured that was the reason we were getting into it alot. So I went a few days without calling him as much, just waiting for him to call me, and sometimes when he did call i'd ignore it until he called a 2nd time. I don't know, it worked for me. Maybe there's something on his mind.....has he been stressed out? that could always cause an argument, cuz that happened to me last night. geeze guys do PMS hehe
  25. Japanfreak05
    I don't think i'm going to buy him a gift. I buy him things all the time. Last night he was bashing me, but today he's acting like nothing even happened. I'm still confused as to what to do about it. He doesn't really appriciate the things I do for him, the only thing he can say is "i feel the same way", all i get is a free meal (which i could have paid for myself) and a bad attitude, like last night.
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