Japanfreak05

i give up...... I guess ii'll just have to take him for who he is. i'm happy with him 98% of the time, everyone has their flaws and whatnot. I still wish the same things but i really don't know what to do....but i really wish i did know.....i know there are guys out there who have the romantic side i want. but they'll probably be slacking in some area that he does great in. he likes to act like "i didn't know!" so i guess i will just have to TELL him or give him obvious hints lol......boys.......i'm still confused and all but oh well heh. and layword....i wish he realized that i was trusting and all.......am i being taken for granted?

Thanks thanks, best wishes are always welcomed!!! Yeah she already got a little of what she wanted....to be on his mind. He actually got off the phone with me tonight to "air out" so he's probably just laying on his bed thinking about what he's going to do about HER. Whenever she does stuff like this I get alittle UGH cuz they used to be together. They lost their virginty together. blah blah We can spend hours talking about the crazy things she did while they were together (which is what we just did lol). I don't want her to break us appart but my ex best friend already tried that, so I guess me and him can handle pretty much anything if we stick to it.

Don't you just wish sometimes you could trade places with your BF??? I wonder if I did/said half the stuff my BF does, would he even want to be with me lol. Tonight was just one of thoes nights when I needed to talk to someone, issues with my mom and just everything is going crazy. But he was too tired to talk. I understand he did work all day today....and he did tell me once "i can't handle your problems and mine"....and today with all his Ex GF from 2 years ago won't stop causing drama.....he just wants to get away from it all. But I feel alittle left out cuz I was looking for alittle compassion, a little comfort, but I'm left high and dry. Who am I suppose to talk to now? lol. I'll be alright tho!! I always get over it...until the next breakdown. Sometimes I think my BF is a little selfish. When we get into arguments, he's dead set on he doesn't do anything wrong. He "works every day, goes to school, pays the cell phone bills" when I try to talk to him about being selfish, thoes 3 things always come back up. And it's like my problems dont compare to what he's going though, my problems are brushed aside, when i do get something out, there's nothing but scilence on the other end of the phone, either he didn't hear me, or he doesn't know what to say. It's really fustrating. The intimate times are not so intimate.....I'm a girl....and I like foreplay....or something of the sort....he's always just ready to get in and get out. Most times I don't even reach an orgasim heh. He tries to act like he cares about me not reaching, but he doesn't ACT upon it. We've had a talk about it as well, but still no luck. Maybe this is just a rant on how I'm feeling at the moment. I don't think I have a really clear head, I'm so caught in love. I love him so much and I don't plan on leaving him. I'm just so afraid to make him mad. Even tho he says he wont' leave me, just him being mad makes me think he's going to leave me anyway. I wish he was more romantic....and I know I can't change him. But we aren't married. Every once in a while it would be nice just for him to do something, just cause he wanted to (me not have to ask him, or give 20 hints without telling him what to do). Like actually CALL when he says "let me call you back" "i'll call you back" or want to go out to dinner or something, not just sit around the house and sleep. I really would like some flowers, our whole 1 1/2 year relationship I've gotten flowers once....well it was A flower...maybe 2. I'm almost 20 and he's 22 we aren't 50!!!! Relationships get so complicated at times....

Ok I just told her off, this is what I said... "No wait, here is a better idea..... Just don’t talk anymore. I know your trying to be nice or whatever and warn me, but I do trust him. I trust him a lot more than I trust you, that’s for sure. For a split second I forgot you were the same girl that keeps trying to talk to him, the same girl that came to my job for no good reason. I don’t know why you keep trying to talk to him, every time he just blocks you, don’t you get the hint? I’m not tryin to be mean but dang. Just leave us alone, cuz whatever your tryin to do ain’t working. You’ve got a son and a man, what else do you want? Take care of what you got. Whatever happened between you and Jerome is between ya’ll two. I just know we got something very different, and we are not about to go anywhere, but up, this 1,000 dollar ring on my finger is not about to come off any time soon. I know where he is 24/7, I don’t even have to ask him, he tells me. If we’re not together, we are on the phone. So I don’t have any thoughts in my mind about him cheating. I’m not trying to be mean, I’m just trying to be honest. Just if you want to be a woman, rise above your past, cuz dwelling on the past will get you nowhere. You’ll be stuck in the same place for the rest of your life. Liz"

wow....asianlk that's too funny!!! My BF and that girl were off and on for about 2 1/2 years. Him and her had the same friends, so he'd give his number to one of his friends, his friend would give it to his girl, and his girl would give it to the crazy ex. lol. But I did get onto him at one point in time about her calling and calling. She's blocked on his house phone, so she calls from other numbers. yeah I know whatever she has to say is a lie. I trust my BF very much and I know he'd tell me everything, I know him like the back of my hand. I guess I just have to come to terms with this girl and realize that she's crazy and is not gonna go anywhere unless I tell her to. Which is probably what I'm gonna do in a second. I have lots of things to say to her, and we'll see what happens, good thing she doesnt know where I live. haha

I don't know....should I respond to that message she sent to me?? I could make up something easily....or i could just yell at her.....or just not say anything?

AMEN!!! He needs to put an end to it some kind of way!! yes she REALLY did come to my job and he really did change his number twice. He thinks if he just ignores her, she'll go a way. but we've been trying to ignore her for over a year now. So I'll let him know about the restraining order. SOMETHING needs to happen cuz I don't think she'll ever give up!!

Short and simple.... My boyfriend (of over 1 1/2years)and his X girlfriend had been appart for over a year before he met me. He basically wishes that he never met her, but she keeps trying to contact him. Sending him emails and he's had to change his number twice just to get her to stop calling. So she gets a hold of my myspace last night (gotta love that myspace drama) and she sends me a message, trying to "warn" me of his lies and cheating. This is the same girl that came up to my job last year cussing me out saying "i don't want him, he wants me", the same girl that got my number somehow called and cussed me out some more. I haven't said 2 words to the girl in my entire life!!! I don't believe anything that comes out her mouth, but I just wish she'd leave us ALONE!!!! She cheated on my BF and ended up getting pregnant (which is why they broke up). I have no clue what's going though her mind. Does she want him back? I just know i want her away, but it's like she can't take a hint....or a slap in the face.

Pays for everything when we go out, and my cell phone bill. I'd love for things to be more romantic but, i guess he's not that type of guy. I love him anyway tho.

Yeah I think you can see your Bf/Gf too much. Like with my BF at first we would see eachother all the time, like none stop. Sooner than later we started getting into arguments and such. It's good to remember when your in a relationship that you still have your own life to live. And it's good to get out sometimes on your own or with your friends. You don't really have to see them every day. I know with mine, I don't see him during the week, we have school/work so on the weekends he breaks the speed limit to come see me. If we saw eachother everyday on top of doing our own lives, we'd be tired and stressed out, but we talk every day. But everyone is different. Just my personal experience.

Tonight my boyfriend of like 2 years has gone to his co-workers birthday party. He didn't even ask me if I wanted to go. So he went by himself. I find it kind of strange that he didn't make any moves to want to take me with. I guess he just wanted to spend time with his friends. BUT there will be girls there, and I am 100% positive there will be drinking. Though my BF doesn't drink, he can get talked into it. I'm just wondering why he didn't want me to go.....We had plans to go to the movies tonight, but he droped them to go to the party without me.....ugh.....boys.....

I'm going though somewhat of the same thing with my boyfriend. He's been taking me for granted and treating like I don't do anything. It's hard. But if it's ment to be, she will come around. Just yeah, give her some time. use this break to get yourself on track. She will soon know what she's missing.

I talked to him about saying "it's possible you could have guys over your house when your at home alone" thing. And he was like, "i said it cause I was mad". In the end he says things out of anger all the time, and it really pushes me away. I just wish we could go back to the way things used to be. The day he brought me flowers cuz I was having a bad day. the days where he'd call me all the time and he wasn't too busy to answer my phone calls. the days when we didn't argue every other week. I don't want to end things with him cuz I feel we can work it out if we really try. 2 years is my longest relationship and maybe I don't know how to handle being with someone this long. his longest realationship was 2 1/2 years, but they went on breaks alot, she cheated on him twice, and while in the relationship he was looking for other girls (guy thing i guess). I really don't want to go on a break either because I don't want him to find anyone else. but sometimes I feel like we need a break.....although I try to erase that thought from my mind

he's 22 and I'm 19. I'm happy with him overall but when we get into these arguments, old stuff gets brought up (like from last year) and nothing ever really gets solved. LIke I think he made up the whole "you have guys over your house when your at home" thing to upset me cuz I was mad at him.

What?? English please. hehe

Thanks a lot!!! that makes me feel better. ugh boys are so complicated some times lol.

So last night we got into it....well....we talked about it. It's so hard to get though to him cuz he always things he's right. So when I have to say my piece he doesn't listen. So the whole text to the girl. They are supposably "good friends" from a long time ago, she moved up to maryland so I was Ok with that I guess. I just wasn't ok with him telling her "i love you", no matter how close they are! So I told him I listened to the voice messages and everything seemed pretty cool. But then, he brings it up again, and he's mad that I went though his stuff. I tried to tell him that's the only time I went though his voice messages in a long time. I only go in his stuff, when he wants me to look at something. So he brings up the time I went though the text he sent to her (the "i love you" text. WHICH was in his 'deleted mail folder'). We had traded phones for a day, and I found that. It was like he was trying to hide it from me. He told me "i pay the cell phone bill" so i'm like "that doesn't mean you can send texts to girls saying 'i love you'" So I'm trying to expalin to him that I don't sit around and go though his stuff he calls it "defending myself". So he comes up with this story about, how he thinks I have guys over my house when I'm at home. I told a few of my friends about our fight and every time i say that part they say, "YOU???". First off I live with my parents, 2nd that's just something i woudln't do. It's like he doesn't even know me anymore. It's like, he just made that story up to make me feel bad or something. It's not fair, I had to drop all my guy friends because that made him uncomfortable, but he's gonna say "i have other guys over my house when i'm at home". He pretty much dropped the girl that he sent the text to. but she's in town now, and he hasn't called me all day. So for all I know, he's with her right now. I told him "i don't have guys over my house" and all he can say is " I don't know that". It's so FUSTRATING!!!! What makes things more complex is he gave me a 800.00 promise ring back in may. this like dimond ring with white gold band. So i'm like, "why would you give me this ring if you think i'm having other guys over". Most the time he didn't even say anything, he's just like "i'm tired of repeating myself" So I'm just trying to work things out, but he's being so stubborn, like what he says goes because he pays my cell phone bill. Every time I try to give him money he doesn't take it! then last night he's all like "i have to pay for everything". WTC.........*so fustrated* I guess i'm venting......tell me what you think.

So last night we got into it....well....we talked about it. It's so hard to get though to him cuz he always things he's right. So when I have to say my piece he doesn't listen. So the whole text to the girl. They are supposably "good friends" from a long time ago, she moved up to maryland so I was Ok with that I guess. I just wasn't ok with him telling her "i love you", no matter how close they are! So I told him I listened to the voice messages and everything seemed pretty cool. But then, he brings it up again, and he's mad that I went though his stuff. I tried to tell him that's the only time I went though his voice messages in a long time. I only go in his stuff, when he wants me to look at something. So he brings up the time I went though the text he sent to her (the "i love you" text. WHICH was in his 'deleted mail folder'). We had traded phones for a day, and I found that. It was like he was trying to hide it from me. He told me "i pay the cell phone bill" so i'm like "that doesn't mean you can send texts to girls saying 'i love you'" So I'm trying to expalin to him that I don't sit around and go though his stuff he calls it "defending myself". So he comes up with this story about, how he thinks I have guys over my house when I'm at home. I told a few of my friends about our fight and every time i say that part they say, "YOU???". First off I live with my parents, 2nd that's just something i woudln't do. It's like he doesn't even know me anymore. It's like, he just made that story up to make me feel bad or something. It's not fair, I had to drop all my guy friends because that made him uncomfortable, but he's gonna say "i have other guys over my house when i'm at home". He pretty much dropped the girl that he sent the text to. but she's in town now, and he hasn't called me all day. So for all I know, he's with her right now. I told him "i don't have guys over my house" and all he can say is " I don't know that". It's so FUSTRATING!!!! What makes things more complex is he gave me a 800.00 promise ring back in may. this like dimond ring with white gold band. So i'm like, "why would you give me this ring if you think i'm having other guys over". Most the time he didn't even say anything, he's just like "i'm tired of repeating myself" So I'm just trying to work things out, but he's being so stubborn, like what he says goes because he pays my cell phone bill. Every time I try to give him money he doesn't take it! then last night he's all like "i have to pay for everything". WTC.........*so fustrated* I guess i'm venting......tell me what you think.

I trust my boyfriend. And I know "well if you trust him what's your problem". It's just that his Ex girlfriend has been contacting him sending him emails and junk. They had a bad relationship, he ended up not wanting to be around her as much and they became distant. She thought he was cheating on her so she went out and started cheating on him. That's just some background info. He has alot of friends that are girls!!!!!!!!!!! I don't know how to deal with that!!! cuz I had alot of guy friends, but he got mad and I kinda just dropped them all. And today one of them left a message on his phone and was like "i'm in town, why won't you answer your phone, you must not want to see me" this is the same girl that he sent a text to saying "hey i was thinking about you and just wanted to tell you I love you and your birthday is coming up soon". I know what he's doing most of the day, but there are times where I don't know, he says he'll be at home sleep or something. I always believe what he says. But I'm just so afraid to get hurt by him. I dont' want to even think about him cheating on me. We've been together for 2 years and I couldn't bare to hear him tell me he cheated. or like me trust him like i do and let him do whatever and he ends up cheating on me. Maybe I'm just going crazy.....lol and it's no help with my mom and all her friends randomly telling me "yeah right he ain't sleep", "you can't be tied down to one person right now, your too young".....ugh!

geeze, you really think so?? lol yeah I really wish he would have decided to move out sooner. He's 22 and he's content with living at home. I really want to get our own place, but he's living rent free, and his parents are pretty cool. But I'm going crazy!!! I hate not having any alone time (his mom does not allow girls in his or his brother's rooms). The only alone time we have is in his car. And don't even get me started on sex. It's either in the backseat, or we wait till the house is empty. As for his brother, he seems to be more into getting an appartment than my boyfriend. I guess my BF is waiting for his brother to make the move out. ugh.....can you say fustrating? lol. btw. my BF and his brother are the same age, they're twins.

yeah yeah I see. I wasn't moving in with him to get away from my mom, but I see that she is probably the biggest reason I want to move out in the first place. I guess I have to sit down and think about moving in with him. It woudln't be just me and him, it would be me, him, his twin brother, and his brothers girlfriend. I want to get my own place, but there's no way I could pay for that, car insurance, and school stuff on my own. I wanted to move in with him, so maybe we could split rent or something. I don't have that many girl friends I could move in with, most are not on the same page as me, their parents pay for everything. I have to work for everything. So I don't think that would work. lol

My boyfriend and I have been together for going on 2 years. And if you check out my thread under Familes called "my mom is jealous of me" you will see my current living situation. He's 22 and I'm 19 amlost 20. I was just wondering do you think it is too early for us to move in together? There's no doubt in my mind that I want to move in with him and away from my mom, but I just want to know if I'm doing the right thing, or should I save up and get my own place? Thanks guys!!

Man, I wish I could do that!!!! lol

He needs to choose which person he wants to be with more. I'm a suspicious person as well. YOU are a strong person to even be ok with him going with the girl in the first place. I don't think I could do it! lol. Once he told you they had kissed, that should have been the end of their relationship together. I know their friends and stuff but personally, I would have been angry. He says he wants to be with you, so he'll stop talking to her. But he hasn't stoped talking to her. I'd say, either tell him you saw the email or wait for him to say "hey i'm going with that girl" or if he tires to make up a lie like "i'm going out with my friends" then based on that, you will know if he's trustable. If you tell him you read the email, he shouldn't get mad....just tell him, you don't trust the girl, cuz girls can be very sneeky even if the guy has a girlfriend. Tell him you trust him, but don't trust the girl, and if anything else happened between the two of them, you don't know if you could trust him. *thought* Maybe the girl has some issues and she likes attention from your BF she wants someone to care about her and make her feel better. All in all, Everything happens for a reason.

My boyfriend told me he loved me fast also. We've been together for 1 1/2 years so I guess it all depends on if the feelings are REALLY there on both sides and if you can make it work. But one down thing about it is, He said he loved me so fast and he got REALLY comfortable fast. Like we stopped going out a lot and I saw that I was calling him more than he was calling me and stuff. If that does happen, the best thing to do is talk about it. But yeah, it's not always a bad thing if he says I love you so soon. You just got to be on the same page.