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I feel for you girl. But you really have pretty reasonable parents. When my sister was 17 my parents found out she was having sex. They put her under full house arrest and she was never allowed to see him again. At least your parents will let you see him. Well, then you'll know. I know this may sound strange, but take this as an opportunity to really look at your relationship with out sex. It may help you find out if you really love him, or if you love the feeling. I hope it all works out for you. Christina

If your having sex, you should see a gyno regurally for check-ups anyway. Christna

BABY OIL is inexpensive, easy to get, and works very well.

As adults it is our responsiblity to warn teens about the costs of having sex. I don't think we should do it in a "holier-than-thou" kind of way either. I was lucky enough to have a mother who I could talk to about anything, inluding sex. And she always gave me an honest answer. That's OUR responsiblility. We arn't here to suger coat the truth. I also know some teens are going to have sex no matter what adults say. So, again, it's our responsibility to give the correct information regarding protection and the dangers/risks. Do I think it's wrong for teens to have sex? It doesn't matter. They are going to do it no matter what I think. So, I want to make sure I'm being responsible. I don't want a 16 year old end up pregnant b/c I didn't warn her about the costs of sex. Simply put, we are going to give you honest answers. If you don't like it, don't post. Christina

Oh, is that why I've put on some extra pounds? LOL Anyway, just relax, and have fun with it.

I don't think the age itself is the problem. I've seen ppl with 30 year age gaps have happy, fulfilled marriages. However, I think they are just using eachother. It sounds like he doesn't want to die alone and he's so exicted he's met someone who wants to marry him, he's blind to the fact, she's not the right one. And it sounds like she's using him to get out of her parent's house. I've known ppl on both sides of the fence, and this won't end good. So, you can either tell him (respectfully, and lovingly) that you don't think she's the right one for him. Or you can keep your peace and watch a trainwreck. It's up to you. At least if you say something, you'll know you did your part. Christina

I, for one, was concieved on birth control. My niece was concieved on birth control. Both my cousin's 2 sons were concieved on birth control AND condoms. The only thing 100% is abstinance. Let's here it for all the "mistkes" in the world! Christina

Have you asked him what he wants to get out of this relationship?

WHAT???? I have NEVER hear that! Can you site your source? Or am I in the dark about this? Christina

Extreme?? How?

Can you site your source? Christina

Look at how he treats you AFTER sex. NEVER before or during. Some guys will do or say anything to get you into bed. But look at how he treats you in front of friends and family. Does he like to spend time with you outside of the bed? These are things I look at. You could also withhold sex and see how he reacts. Sometimes that's a good indicator of what he really wants. Christina

Ok, I'm on my period. And the other day my b/f told me that when I'm on my period is the safest time to have sex. Has anyone heard that before? I don't think it's true. I just think he's horny. lol

LOL.........I'm 21 and I've never dated anyone in thier 20's. So my cut off would be anyone younger than 30. But that's just me. Christina

LOL! That's great! Happy for ya!