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  1. Lansing
    umm.. there is probly a reason why he is divorced!
  2. Lansing
    I think you should drop it. Why would she enroll at link removed if she has no intention of paying to read people's e-mails... It sounds like she isn't interested. Is there no way to tell if someone read your message like on other dating sites? You will look weird by contacting her... and if she doesn't respond, you will be disappointed... Move on to another girl.
  3. Lansing
    I am curious on how old you are... It might help to put things in perspective.. You talked about graduating but I wasn't clear what level you were graduating from?
  4. Lansing
    3 hours is nothing..... If you don't hear from her in a few days, then start to wonder... what did you say to her in the text???
  5. Lansing
    wow.. yeah, step back COMPLETELY.. Don't contact her at all.. You know you can't be friends with her now. Despite what you say, you still want her as your GF. I can tell because I have beeen there before. Whatever you do, don't keep trying to find reasons to talk to her... Just back off... It obviously isn't helping what you are doing...
  6. Lansing
    What exactly is a "proper date". I.e. , if I invite a girl out for coffee, does she know it is a "date" or is she thinking it is a friendly get together? Context: I meet the girl at some event or some place, I get her phone number and say I would like to keep talking with her, I call her up the next night and suggest we get together for a coffee in a few days. She accepts. Is it a "date"? Or.. maybe she just thinks I am friendly? Like, a girl in one of the other forums posted about how she wasn't sure what a guys intentions were who asked her out for a drink. And she wasn't sure if it was "Friendly" or more... (the thread where she didn't know if he had a girlfriend)...
  7. Lansing
    Man... Need2bme.. You are TOTALLY hung up on this girl you dated for a few weeks... You need to drop it. And one way you can start is to stop analyzing and thinking about it so much. I know it is hard, but, it seems like you see your situation in everyone elses post. You really need to move on from her and start meeting new girls. FOr whatever reason, things happened, it doesn't mean it will happen the same with the next girl. Get your confidence back and move on.... As for the OP... I think a guy will call if he is interested as long as you are giving him good vibes that you are interested back. Otherwise, he may think he could better use his energy elsewhere if you are coming accross as disinterested.
  8. Lansing
    yeah... ok. Thing is... maybe by you agreeing with her, you came off as clingy because she didn't see her own actions, just your reactions... So, if you are using it as a learning tool for the future.... If you feel reason to be "Cautious" you should be cautious and not jump into it too quickly.... She sounds kind of flakey. I would forget about her if I were you. However, I know that you are probably more confused on "why" she did this vs. really trully wanting to be back together with her. I think you need to move on as you are waisting a lot of energy on her...
  9. Lansing
    I agree... Returns his calls because the whole "Rules" thing is just lame... If you were the guy posting on here saying "I am calling her five or six times and she rarely returns my calls" pretty much everyone here would say "she is just not that interested... move on"... I think you are sending a very mixed signal. I dated a girl that was sending mixed signals like that (wouldn't return phone calls but, in person would be all over me) and the first thing that came to mind was "flake". It isn't the type of person I want to be in a relationship with... So, yeah, you probably shouldn't be calling him every day... but.. you can at least return his calls!
  10. Lansing
    I agree... that is TOTALLY rude....He made plans with you and didn't have the deceny to tell you what was going on.... I know that you probably "like" him still and are trying to figure out why he would treat you so poorly.... But.. the reality is.. he did treat you poorly.. I wouldn't waste your time with him.....
  11. Lansing
    Actually... "No" isn't the worse answer... it is "Yes, I will call you tomorrow to confirm" and then she never calls you and then she doesn't return you call when you try to call her Or any other game that people (not just girls but guys too) play...
  12. Lansing
    I agree.. Just ask her out.. Stop analyzing... Ask her out and see how she responds.. Or.. If you are out for drinks with the whole group, then break off a bit so it is just the two of you at some point so you can chat with her only. However, you probably just want to ask her out to a completely different event/activity and go from there.. It will be easier to read the situation that way and you won't be stuck wondering "does she like me" so much...
  13. Lansing
    What do you have to lose? Leave a casual note.. Explain that you didn't have her number but was interested in getting it touch with her. Maybe leave your e-mail on the note and ask her to e-mail you her phone number and you will call her... That way, you can move on regardless.. It sounds like you are thinking about her and it might be hard just to "forget about her"
  14. Lansing
    EDIT: OK.. I was typing this post while Aquaman was writing the above.. so, ignore it... Well, whatever you do, I suggest you don't do what Blemished suggested! Girls "think" they know what they want to hear, but, really, that is the worse think you could do from my own personal view.... I think you will keep thinking about her until you try one more time. If you can just forget her and meet someone new, then, do that. Otherwise, call her one more time, even if you have to leave one message. If you don't hear back from her, then, you know not to waste anymore time thinking about her.
  15. Lansing
    I suggest calling at least once more... And as Heloladies said, you need to remain "calm" and come accross as normal/not upset...
  16. Lansing
    haha... I would love to have received a text like that after a date if I wasn't sure on how she felt... Hopefully this gives you confidence to keep moving things along...
  17. Lansing
    I would say. DO NOT ask her.... It will make things weird if you ask her... Just keep stepping things up a bit until she stops you.... If you invite her out to things and she is accepting, that means she is interested... Keep going out.. after you hug her, hold on to her a bit longer and look down at her and see if she is looking at your lips.. go for the kiss...
  18. Lansing
    Sure... as a guy, if a friend says "wow, you are lucky" , or "wow, she is hot" or whatever... it kind of re-inforces your choice. However, at one point when I was younger I was interested in this girl and my friend was like "what, she ain't all that great" and it didn't change the fact that I wanted to pursue her.
  19. Lansing
    You don't have to tell you ex-bf anything about the new guy..... What for? He already hurt you by flip flopping back to his ex-gf... No need to tell him anything.. He is an ex for a reason... This new guy..... I would take things slow and then get a better idea of what he is looking for... Sounds pretty "playerish" to say to a girl "why don't you kiss me already"... So, give him the benefit of the doubt, but, if he is looking to move things up physically and you aren't comfortable with that... slow down...
  20. Lansing
    You haven't even met her and there are so many issues/problems! You don't even live in the same city. Seriously, find another girl, despite how hard it might be......
  21. Lansing
    Yeah, I am wondering the same thing! I think both posters have given good advice... I think the key is how you follow-up...You want to come accross as confident even if you are feeling "nervous" or scared she will reject you again...
  22. Lansing
    I agree with the above poster. You sound like you have made more than enough effort. You have probably built her up a lot in your mind. If you haven't met her in person but have just seen pretty pictures of her and talked to her on the phone you probably have filled in a lot of "blanks" in terms of who she is... She isn't treating you well and the only chance you have of changing things is by walking away.... And, even then, if she started treating you well you should think really HARD if you want to be with her...
  23. Lansing
    Maybe he was bored and wanted someone to watch a movie with. (sarcasm).... Yeah, I would stay away from going to this place. If you want to hang out as "friends" it should be done outside his place... Sounds like he was getting horny so he invited you over for some making out/whatever...
  24. Lansing
    Umm.. HurleyBabe6917 , you seem to have bumped up a thread from over 2 years ago!!
  25. Lansing
    I think you are overanalyzing this WAY too much.... I know because I have done it too in my personal situations... The only way you will "know" is to ask him out to do "date" like things, the two of you. If you don't want to be the one to make the move, then, try to stop thinking of all of this "does he like me" type stuff...
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