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My BF is 18 and dosen't have a license. I don't think any differently of him if he does or dosen't drive. A car isn't required to date, unless its a distance issue?

Ok I don't understand this really. My BF hasn't called me in 5 days, not even to say Hi. I didn't want to be the one to call him this time b/c I always am but I was worried about him so I just tried to call him and completely humilated myself. It turns out he was at some important meeting at the time and really got upset with me that I called him. This isn't the first time he has been uninterested in talking to me. I told him to just call me back later or something but I don't think I want to talk to him now. I didn't know he was at a meeting so he didn't have to be so rude to me. In the past our relationship had been great. He used to tell me that he loved me and everything. Now there is like no communication at all and I'm really feeling bad from it. When he calls back should I even answer? what do I do?

thanks everyone for the replies. Im not so sure its mono after all. My nose has literally been running water for the past 3 hours. My throat pain has subsided somewhat. I already taken a tylonel, drinking orange juice, and gaterade. Just Hopefully tomorrow I will better and not worse.

I have been feeling really ill today and yesterday. It started out with chills. Today my nose is running, my glands are really sore, bad headache, and a intense feeling of fatigue. Im pretty sure that I got mono, but haven't seen a doctor, what would be the best cure for this? I don't feel like being around anybody today or even talking to anyone, although tomorrow I'm hoping to spend some time with my BF but don't want him to get sick. So far I just have been resting, and drinking fluids... anyways I can feel stronger?

I've heard of Saltwater spray, supposedly the Saltwater rinses and saline sprays thin your mucus and get rid of irritants.

I'm also 18 and in a relationship like yours. I have had past relationships that haven't worked out and was first worried that if I went into another one I would get hurt again. I really feel love for the guy I'm with now and him for me, so I learned its all about TRUST. When you enter a relationship you have to learn to trust your partner. Try not to look at your past but look toward the present and future. good luck!~

Congrats!!!!

aww.. I think you should just talk openly to him about your feelings. Its good that you both want to spend more time together. And completely normal to miss each other. Maybe if you both are shy you should tell him you would feel better if he did make a effort to call every night or so, so there won't be any akward NCs and you won't be as confused. Maybe for the time being you should hang on to an object of his, then while he is away you wont feel as alone. Just giving some advice.. Good luck though!

nice poem~

Dave, It sounds as if you are not over your ex completely but want them back as a friend. Breakups are VERY hard. I have been through them. So after a breakup the partner may not want to communicate on even a friendship level and it's hard. By not answering the phone when you call or not calling you back it shows a sign of disinterest. But forget it because you did nothing wrong. ^ I'd listen to Annies advice and keep meeting new girls, good luck!

congrats on the promotion!!!

notice not them looking at you but the WAY they look at you, if girls stare a lot and smile thats most likely a sign of interest.

Im 18 in College and my BF is 17 in high school... when he first told me that he loved me, I kind of didnt know how to react. I was thinking, does he really know what love is. I felt like I loved him but it's a very strong word to use. I told him don't say that unless you mean it and he looked me into my eyes and said he meant it. We say it to each other all the time because we mean it. Even though he is still in HS we have discussed our future together, marriage, children and all that. It could be years away but love is a incredible feeling for two people no matter how young, once you are there its euphoria.

Dating is a process, and dating does take much time but from reading what you wrote it dosen't seem to me that your aggressive at all, nothing wrong with wanting to spend more time together. In the new stage of dating, I expeirence this with my boyfriend all the time... the first dates will leave you wanting more and more, and the only gift you feel like having is their time with you. It can be especially akward when you really have a desire to just call and talk to them but don't know what to say. If talking on the phone everyday would make you feel good, then go for it. Just make sure, she is doing some of the calling too.

accept it and enjoy it... When me and my bf were making out.. He told me I was beautiful. I felt weird at first. I didn't know what to say. I told him that nobodys ever said that to me before. I told him I suffer from low self esteem I kept telling him no because I didn't know what to say... but He kept saying that I was the most beautiful girl over and over. So I just let him say those things and learned to enjoy those moments, its best to believe

Sorry for bumping this... But I was in the same situation as you. Yeah my bf and I were trying to find intimacy.. He kept stroking my arm and what not and I wanted to put his hand were I wanted it. I kind of put it on my upper stomach.. He asked me if it was ok for it to be there and I told him it was. Then he kind of guided it himself up there. I don't think it matters if the bra is padded or what size, at least I hope not. He seemed to like it though.

Yeah things are going great now~!!!

My bf told me he loved me yesterday after being together for a couple months. It scared me at first but I think if there is a strong feeling between two people, and that chemistry is there it is Love. And love is a good feeling.

bump................!

awww.. tightyo361 Im usually no good at giving advice but these are a couple of tips that will may make her feel beautiful and good about her self: Give her lots of hugs and kisses. Cuddle up with her. Take her out on a special date....maybe a dinner or a movie, or let her decide. Often let her know how beautiful she is and reasure her If there is a certain physical feature you love such as her eyes or smile, tell her that. When she dresses up, tell her how sexy, and desirable she is. And always remind her How Much You LOVE her!

Whoah!!! ok I haven't posted in this thread in a while.. I'm sorry it turned out to be so controversial. But in the mean time I have done some work to get to know this guy and his intentions and I really wanted to figure out if he was really shy or not so I figured I go to his work and go talk to him. This is what happened!!!!! I went over to his work and saw him working all alone. He was scared of seeing me so went and hid in a back room. I literally looked in every row but could not find him. So I decided to hang around until he came back out because I wasn't giving up. So about a half hour later.. he was actually sitting on the floor talking to a customer. He was trying to hide from me b/c he was letting his shyness get to him and then I knew he was afraid. Anyway I knew what I needed to do so I did it. I went and told him that I wanted to hang out with him again and I wanted him to call me tonight. I complimented him on a few things and tryed to make him feel better. Anyway he really surprised me because he called me back after he got home from his work and actually carried a pretty good convo with me. He called back on the phone and told me that he wanted us to be boyfriend and girlfriend for real and we are going to hang out this week. So I was very impressed with his confidence boost. I really always have liked this guy and knew he could open up to me. Sometimes with shy people it just takes a little bit of time and patience is needed. Never give up though.. B/c I think I really met a difficult challenge that took a while but it finally happened. Anyway from reading this thread I want to thank all of you for responding.. particularly ShySoul, you made me realize more about what I could do and what options I had and by reading your experiences you seemed to relate pretty well to him. You were right when you wrote that it takes time and when they are comfortable they will give you the world. -- I really hope everything works out for you and b-ion and anyone who struggles with shyness. Thank you!!! You guys Rock!!

I put together a list of tips for those who have trouble with phone communicational skills... Hope it is helpful!! Useful Phone Tips 1. Preperation If your new to the phone thing, The biggest thing I have learned is to prepare before hand just like you would a speech. Write down everything on paper that you want to say to them and don't want to forget. Try to write as much as possible so there won't be any akward pauses. Then go over what you wrote a few times. I know This method sounds funny.. but I think its pretty effective. The more times you talk on the phone, the less likely you will need notes to guide you. Not that there is anything wrong with Silence, but too much silence can make it awkard for both of you. 2. No Hefty Issues Talk about your interests, ask questions but try not to bring up hefty issues such as religion and politics or even the weather. 3. Be yourself Most importantly, Have confidence in yourself and don't worry about sounding dumb or saying something wrong. All people make mistakes. Usually the other person on the phone is not going to be too trivial about what you say though but is also thinking of things they can say back to you. After all they WANT to hear more about you and get to know you. 4. Look for a Common Subject Look for something you both have in common and talk about that. If your not sure, Its ok to ask a few questions about interests. But you don't want to be interrogative. 5. How to start and end Think about how you will start a conversation and end it before you call. This is Important. Good ways to start include.. Hi so and so This is so and so How are you? How was your day? Which then the intro will lead into the convo. Then consider how will end it. Don't say anything like I love you if you don't know how they will react. Maybe just simply say something like Have a Good night. 6. Don't go too in depth. Try to avoid long, in-depth convos. Know what should be said on the phone and what should be said in person. Some subjects you may not what to bring up on the phone b/c you can't see there expressions and body language. 7. Be Clear about your Intentions After all this is the person you are interested in romantically right? Its good to let them know that so you start on the same page and won't get the 'just friends' response. 8. Make Plans If you are planning a date, make sure you have an idea set in mind before you call. Be specific as to the details, time and where you will meet. If they are busy on the proposed date,ask them if there is another time that works for them or if they have a better suggestion. 9. Call from a Comfortable Setting This is an important one. Make sure there are no major distractions around you. When your comfortable and relaxed it shows through your voice. Avoid calling from places such as offices or in your car. Instead the best place to be is alone in your room so you are giving them your undivided attention. It can be difficult if parents or siblings are trying to listen in on the convo.. If this is the case, consider calling them back at a time and place where you can concentrate and be more open. -- thats about it for now.. If you have anymore to add let me know!!

Yeah, he always says he is busy and has school and stuff. When he is around me he is very shy, dosen't make eye contact, and blushes. All I really asked him for was to spend some time with me... He can't seriously be that busy. I thought he wasn't interested in me but then he sent me a letter that he was, but I guess he wasn't really being sincere. He is so hard to figure out and its really hard to know where we stand b/c of the mixed signals he always gives. Anyway I think I have been suffering from his mind games for a while now... and its really hurting me so I have finally decided to stop thinking about him and find somebody who is more sincere and a lot more honest. Thanks every1 for your help!!!~

Ok.. so I kind of have a problem. I have been friends with this guy for quite a while so we started dating. But boy does he like to play mind games with me. I write to him a lot, but it always takes him a few days to respond. He sent me an email that he has a hard time expressing himself. He has never called me, I always have to call him. He sent me another email that I am a real find, really cute, and he likes a lot of things about me. He goes on and tells me he will buy me whatever I want just ask for it. And he will call me today. So I wrote back to him thats nice but I only want to spend time with you. But He never called me today. Is he really scared to talk to me, or not interested??? Im upset and so confused. #-o

edited... thanks guys for the advice!!~~