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I'm going. Thankyou to the nice people who were kind and gave advice that I appreciated to me and other people.

If you want to salvage a friendship then yes you will have to tell her why you aren't talking to her and explain to her what it is that you want.

Maybe it makes you feel like there is more affection for you because the sentences (specifically their content...lol) are personalised for you? And if people do it to show affection then maybe they are aware of this? That's what I believe.

Don't put any pressure on yourself... just be yourself. You could call him "dear" sometimes, I think it's nice I think talking to him like a friend is fine... you will be enjoying each other and that's all that matters. Don't act a certain way, just be yourself... do whatever feels right. There is no pressure, just relax and enjoy it.

I would think that it is better to still say "i love you" to him... maybe just casually and done carefully as to not put him on the spot - by not giving him the oppotunity to respond. If he becomes comfortable with the fact that you say it he might come around. I am not prepared to think that this is necessarily bad or a sign that it won't ever happen. So personally I think that you just have to give it some time. The "i love you"s will come, and when they do it will be so great. Try not to think about it and just concentrate on what you do have. Saying "i love you" is a big thing (for some) and so it does take time. All the best.

I don't think you need to worry about whether you need to believe him or not. The future isn't the main issue here - he has a girlfriend now. Why doesn't he break up with her? If he wanted to be with you he would break up with her wouldn't he? What's the purpose of being with her? Don't you feel any guilt knowing that you are involved in his cheating on his girlfiriend? So firstly be concerned with his values. Why would you have to move out of state? Is there a reason for this in particular? (Is it because of college?) And remember that guys mature more slowly... you probably have many years on him mentally...

Her Mum is more than lonely... she sounds like she is mentally ill and doesn't do a suitable job of being a mother - what do you think? Her mother should see a psychiatrist... there isn't much chance of that happening though (unless you can know of a way...) and so I don't think you can avoid her in any way. I like Tigris' suggestion of moving in together... it is a HUGE thing to do and shouldn't be taken lightly or without immense consideration. But if you two are in love then it will be good for both of you to get away from her mother and her control. Could she move into your house (I assume you live with your parents..). Do you have any friends she could move in with? What about some relatives of hers? Or relatives of your own? What does the girl think of her mother? Does she realise that she isn't all there? Surely she can't enjoy her life as it is... if she doesn't she should try and change it. You two are relatively young (I'm assuming she's about high school age too) and changing your life dramatically at such a young age is not good and is very hard - but when it is the best option then it should be done. Do you think it is the best option?

"Undeniable evidence"...if you have this then you owe her nothing. Go NC and do not tell her why you sent the text, you don't owe her anything. Forget about her and move on... you don't need to associate with her at all and shouldn't.

Firstly just be yourself. You seem to have this under control, so great! Don't assume to much about the people in various groups... give them a chance and get to know them first, I am sure you will be surprised in some cases. Join some sorts of clubs or groups at your school... also try ones elsewhere in the community like sports leagues, debating, car clubs etc. You are shy but I assume you have good social skills... so really you shouldn't have to many problems talking to new people, just talk to them and you will find people who are similar to you. And you will be able to fit into their "groups". If you are not interested in going to clubs/social events then just do what you do... you will come accross people definitely, but the best places to meet people are outside of classes.

(((hug))) I'm so sorry dwbh. Your poem is full of pain, but hopefully this is the beginning of expelling that pain from inside.

"No" I don't feel it necessary. I don't know if I'd want to.... I am too indifferent lol. The only value I see in marriage that cannot be attained without it is the public display of togetherness and expression of your committment to one another. edit: I mean the public display of such committment

You're a top guy Dako... I'm glad you can realise it too. Enjoy the beautiful day

With people who are good at faking it I don't think you can tell... that's what it's about to me... putting the trust in someone and hoping for the best. I don't know if I'll ever trust anyone... I wrote a thread about this a little while ago... I can't know if anyone is genuine or not because if you do things for people you can never know. So there's my answer - if you are the worlds biggest jerk/a**hole then if someone likes you they probably wouldn't be faking it. So if you want to know you'll have to be an a**hole if you are a good person, well life will punish you with uncertainty... LOL. I don't think you need to know... I think that's part of what it's about. Enjoy it and chances are you won't get burned.

I'm glad your feeling good about it all, well done for getting to this!

hey lost_status. I'm going to pm you