katie_emma

You said if he likes your friend, then what are you? Didn't you just say you were a one night stand?! I'm not trying to be rude, but you said it yourself...... does he care about you in a romantic, relationship way... ? Doesn't sound like it. Plus, would you ever see him?! Get to spend a lot of time with him?! You barely know the guy....

To be honest, I think you need to re-think your criteria.... I dont believe that it's fair. My first time, I was practically forced into it... I regreted it deeply. I cried about it for the longest time.. I felt dirty... When I met my current boyfriend, when we were ready to have sex, he knew about my past and didn't hold it against me. He was the second guy I had sex with... and he wanted to make it perfect, we agreed that we were each others "firsts"... because at heart, we were. I think if he had judged me on my past experiences, that would have really really hurt. I would have felt like he was shallow, and inconsiderate. But maybe your views are because of the way you were brought up, I don't know. I'm not saying you are shallow, but with what i've read, you could come accross that way.

Have you talked to him about what's going on!? I think a talk would be the best idea... because if he's not into dating you, and being with you... then maybe you need to move on and find someone who is ! But if he is, then you two can get on with it... and decide where things are going. You cant sit around wondering whats going on your whole life. Ask him

Yeah, that tends to work. I do that with my boyfriend, Brad... if i don't yell and say things I dont mean, things that i'll regret.. he'll realize he was being ridiculous, and apologize. Is he not willing to let the past be the past?

Thats a really good question..... before I started dating my boyfriend, Brad... he lived that single life. Going to the bars all the time, going to see strippers, drinking with his buddies at his apartment, golfing, doing whatever he wanted, whenever he wanted. And then he met me, he changed his ways completely. And that's not even a slight exaggeration. He went to the bar a couple of times, had buddies over to our apartment to drink, watch movies, whatever... and that's definitely okay... he had a crazy lifestyle before, what's going to the bar a couple times ? ... but he changed for me. He hasnt gone to the strippers since we started dating, he said he never really enjoyed it... he doesnt do any of the stuff he did before. Now hes into having a family, he got us a puppy... the whole bit. I believe they can change if they're REALLY willing. But be careful... he could be saying that because he wants you to stay, because he's so used to having you there, letting him do whatever he wants, but still having you. He may not mean he actually wants to change. Let him prove it before you go back to him.... Good luck and keep us posted!

For me, its my parents... they're very successful, have strong beliefts and are ultimately, joyful. They're always inspiring me . Also my dog, he's my best friend, I can always count on him Friendship.. I would be no where without my friends . Love... my boyfriend always helps me grow and become a better person. His love gives me so much joy, and so much encouragement. As for "material" things, it would be fashion, I LOVE it... everything about it is so fascinating. I love going shopping and seeing what kind of new fun things i can find. I also love swimming. I've been told I have talent.. swimming makes me feel really great about myself. I love to run, work out... All of these things drive me. If you dont have that motivation yet.. just think about what you love to do! What makes you feel good about yourself? Good luck!

Wow, thats an intense story..... I think you two just need to learn to let go of the past ! It's over and done with . You can't change your mistakes, all you can do is learn from them. You don't have the past anymore, but what you do have, is your future. Maybe a good talk is needed, making sure you make an agreement not to get angry and not to over react about things. good luck . keep us posted!

Ultimately, it's up to you. If he loves YOU and wants to share this child with YOU ... then you need to decide whether you want too or not. Do you see yourself being with this man for the rest of your life? Do you want a family with him? Do you want to have kids with him? Just some questions to consider. Good luck!

To me it sounds like you're not ready to have sex... unless you can have it somewhere private, where no one can catch you, somewhere you can make it special. But if you are going to have sex, the pill and a condom are a GREAT idea. A baby can wait... As for doggystyle, yes it is a GREAT feeling for the girl, and the guy! Good luck with whatever decision you make.

thanks for the reply guys! my periods are regular... no change. I get worried easily sometimes... thanks!

Well I'm on Alesse 21... been on it for about 6months now. But for the past couple of months I've been having a weird feeling in my stomach... So the thought of being pregnant crossed my mind... My boyfriend and i have sex on a regular basis... and I've had regular periods... always. But is it possible to have regular periods while on the pill, but be pregnant, and not know ?! My boyfriend says its not possible because I've had my period at the right time, every month. I need some answers. Plz help!!! Maybe its all in my head because I think about it ..... Katie