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I really do think my bf has self-esteem issues.We've been friends for 3 years and he's always been like this.He has also told me a lot of times that he used to be really depressed before,but not anymore since he's with me.What bothers me is that sometimes he puts himself down and it makes me so mad that he'd do that.He was very insecure until a couple of months ago cause he wasnt sure about his career goals,finally he decided what he's gonna major at but he's gonna have to do 3 more years instead of 2 cause he wasted time not being sure what to do.Then he used to have this crappy job that he was not happy with so he recently got a new one that he liked very much but now it turns out it wasnt as great as he thought cause he's not making the money he'd like.Then there's his physical issues.He loves to play soccer and used to be a great player but he hasnt played in a long time.So last year he went to play with these guys and since he hadnt played in years,he ended up not playing well and completely exhausted.After that he's been even worse about the whole situation, but I told him he first has to practice before trying to play a whole match! Anyway,the thing is,I hate when he says things like 'I'm not good enough for you' and such.So today we had this discussion which was really stupid actually.It all started about how he felt emotionally,he told me he felt weak and bad cause he couldnt play and all,so then I told him that I've been telling him for a long time that he should go practice and he always makes up excuses.And then things went downhill I'm supposed to go see him in 2 weeks and now he told me I shouldnt go cause he's feeling bad.I got sad and offended when he said that.It just makes me SO mad that he'd talk like that! make himself look like a weak,inferior person.I really do love him and I always try to help him but I dont always know what to do.Up until recently we were having some issues cause I was having some personal problems but I sorted that out.And he was just here on saturday and everything was so great and special I'm just so frustrated right now and sad.I've mentioned to him before going to see a doctor (therapist) but he said he didnt have money for that but I know that the real thing is he wont go anyway cause he's not the type of guy that'd talk of his feelings and emotions with a stranger.I just know him. I just wanna know if anyone's been through this and what can I do? Thanks.

I'm a Catholic too,but there are some things I dont agree on.Like the mastubation thing,you have to agree with me that's nonsense there's nothing wrong with masturbation.They also say women shouldnt take birth control pills,I too think that's not right,I mean,whats wrong with that? women have the right to choose what from of birth control they wanna use.

I know but my bf didnt care cause he knew it wasnt true Thank God my sweetie is intelligent

My bf went to a Catholic school where everyone told him that masturbating was bad.Which is completely untrue cause masturbating is normal and even healthy.However,if you masturbate all the time it could become a problem.I dont really know much about it but my bf told me this: the trick is when you masturbate try to last as much as you can,do not masturbate and come in 2 minutes cause that can lead to premature ejaculation and then when you have sex with someone you'll come too fast.Maybe that's your problem?

First loves are very special because its the first time you love someone and have all those emotions and feelings.Thats why they're all so special and noone easily forgets their first love.But it doesnt mean they're more intense or better than the others.I think you learn with time and experience.My first love was probably at 16,I thought I'd never be without him and we'd get married and all,but it didnt work that way.I was too young and too naive,and he was too young too and when you are young you can easily confuse your feelings.And when we broke up I thought I'd never feel that way about someone again! I know now that I wouldnt marry him if we'd still together,because what I feel for my present bf is more than what I felt for anyone else before and I know that this is real.Sure,my first love was special cause of the way he made me feel and because he was the first love of my life but it was not better than my present one. The thing is,when you meet someone that you feel so comfortable with and have all these feelings of love,passion,caring and when the other person feels the same way towards you,then its a relationship that can work and have a future.If you dont feel that way about your bf or you feel like something is missing in the relationship then it might be you dont really love him.If you feel you loved your ex bf more but he hurt you,then why keep thinking about it? you broke up,end of the story.If you were really meant to be together you wouldnt have broken up,dont you think? It does not matter how much you loved him.Its no good to dwell on the past.What matters is that you find someone that you can love again and that can love you.

Exactly RayKay.Thats totally true so dont even worry about the size when its flaccid!

If it was your first time then its normal to last only 2 minutes.And stop taking viagra if you dont really need it.

I cant believe she'd take a guy to your place to sleep with him,thats beyond disrespectful.At least if shes gonna cheat she should do it elsewhere! If my bf would be laying in bed with a girl and then fall sleep with her even after I've seen them (not that I'd put up with that,cause I wouldnt ) he'd be gone in a flash. She should at least give you some more respect,dont you think? Its obvious she's not right for you,so I agree with the others in not wasting any more time with her.

Please dont shave.I'd personally not like it,it'd look weird.Its recommended to trim your hair a little bit though,specially if there's gonna be oral sex involved.As for the positions,if its your first time doing it then I think you on top would work best,but if she has had sex before then maybe she'd want to be on top which is ok to.I dont think you should be doing a lot of stuff the first time you have sex you know,I mean,a lot of positions and stuff,just get together and learn and take it slow.But I too think you should talk to her and ask her.Its always important to communicate. And dont worry about not lasting long enough,its your first time! and plus,I was my bf's first last year and the first time we made love he lasted more than enough,I was actually surprised,so you might not really know how long you're gonna last. Good Luck.

Porn star like?? LOL

Didnt I read you're pregnant? Do you know that your breasts are gonna grow now that you're pregnant? I dont see the necessity to get an operation done then...I dont know,just think about it.

What you mean is that you got your period early while on the pill? is that possible? I mean,I didnt know that could happen,one of the main points of the pill is to have your period at around the same time every month.Have you talked to your doctor about it? Well,I think you should,just in case you know.

I know how you must be feeling.I havent actually had cancer but last year they told me I could have cervical cancer and I endured basically 2 months of hell until I got the results back.It was awful,so many things go through your head,you almost have it all figured it out and I was only 20 when that happened.And the way doctors look at you when they talk to you,so serious,I know it feels awful.So I understand how scared you must be and I'm so sorry that you're going through this,but you musnt give up.You're way too young to give up,you have to keep on fighting and have faith and I'm sure everything will be allright.Dont be scared about the anesthesia,there are different kinds and you cant be allergic to all of them.I'm sure your doctors are gonna do whats best for you. I'll keep you in my prayers,please PM me if you ever want to.

5" is average,its not small.As far as I know more than 7" is big.

No I dont think its sex,sex to me is intercourse.I DO think its a very private thing to do though,just like sex

I'm on Ortho-Tri Cyclen too,I've been taking them for about 5 weeks.I've had some nausea,not everyday but I'd say 2 or 3 days a week.I take them at 10:00 pm everynight (I set up my my cell phone alarm cause I know I wouldnt be able to remember otherwise) As far as I know I havent been more b*tchy and I havent gained any weight either.The thing is,I read somewhere that OTC is one of those pills that make you gain weight but then I read somewhere else that they dont so I dont know,I guess it depends on the person.I think I've been a little more sensitive too which is not soo good always But so far the nausea has been the worse.I was talking to my bf the other evening,right after I took my pill and I started feeling so nauseous I had to bring the alcohol bottle and stuck it up to my nose,lol,it didnt stop for at least 2 hours.But well,at least I prefer taking them in the evening and that way I dont have to put up feeling like this the whole morning.

I agree with what has been said above.She's not pregnant.She might believe she is and thats why she's having all this nausea and stuff.The mind is even more powerful than the body,you make yourself believe you're sick and you can become sick.Trust me,I know this for a fact.So in order to relax herself she might want to take a pregnancy test. About aborting,I think its always too late to do it.Did you know that the heart of the fetus starts palpitating after only 3 weeks? So its always killing,at two weeks pregnant or 2 months.

Everyone is different,so not everyone experiences the same side effects.Light bleeding is normal when you start taking the pills but it happens usually during the 3 first months,after that you can experience bleeding only if you miss a pill.So,as long as its not a heavy bleeding and you have no pain,then its normal. Also,there are a lot of different brand of pills and they all work differently.My doctor told me that I should have protected sex only the first week of taking them cause after that the pills become effective.

I dont know about your pill,but mine says if I miss only one then I dont need to use condoms.I think it says when you miss 2 or more then you should use them cause there's the risk of pregnancy.Of course its always better to never forget one. I had some nausea at the beginning,which was only last month,but overall I feel fine so I dont think I'm gonna change brands.I used to take another brand of pills a couple of years ago and they were perfect,never had any side effects or anything but I couldnt remember the name when I went to the gyno last time,can you believe that?

Do you think you're fat Mysterious Gurl? I doubt you are.I felt the same when I was your age and so did almost all of my friends,even the thin ones! It's crazy.Of course I keep worrying about it nowdays (which sucks sometimes) but I dont know,that's the way society make all women feel.And I'm not fat and never been,but I'm not skinny either,not that I wanna be skinny.But you know,I'm most of the time watching what I eat and if I eat a lot in one day I feel bad and guilty,and if I dont diet at least one week a month then I dont feel good with myself and think I'm getting fat,which I know is stupid.And I know deep down that what matters the most is for you to be happy with yourself and your body,and the hell what people say but I know its not an easy thing to do either. I also know that a lot of women do not like skinny guys,but I know that a lot dont like guys with big muscles and all either.My bf is thin,but he actually looks thinner with clothes than without them,lol,isnt it crazy? but thats the way it is,I swear.

I guess its different cause the relationship between mother and daugther is different than mother/son,in most cases at least. Its the same as father/daughter relationship or father/son.Per say,my dad couldnt care less which women my brothers date,but when it comes to me,its a complete different story.I know my mom is not the type of jealous mother but in the past I've heard her making kind of jealous comments about my brothers partners.I guess thats just the way it is.And she used to do my brothers laundry and mine as well so it doesnt make a difference and she's used to cook for everyone in the house and all that.I guess its just a mother/son thing.

I dont know if its just me but I wouldnt like giving someone a blow job with a condom,I mean,I'd be sucking a rubber,not very pleasant.However,if you dont know if the other person has some disease then you should make him wear one by all means.But,I'd personally refrain from doing it.Giving blow jobs was not my favorite thing,until I met my present bf,that is

If you got your period then you're not pregnant,however,I've heard of cases where women got their periods and were also pregnant,but I know thats very rare. Better use condoms next time,dont you think?

I dont know if this topic has been discussed before,it probably has,but I havent been here long so forgive me if I'm starting it again I was just wandering around here and reading all these posts about women dieting and wanting to lose weight and being fat,that I just thought about it.I wonder why is it so important to be thin? I know being overweight is unhealthy but being skinny is too. I just hate the fact that society makes standards for how our bodies should be.And why have the standards change so much through the years? A century ago men liked women who were almost overweight.Havent you realized how those fine artists used to paint all these women? My bf told me a while ago: 'Until the 50's,most of the stars on tv were curvy,with nice legs and all,and then in the 60's it started to get all screwed up,peple started liking skinny women' LOL,well,he does not like skinny girls,thats why he said it like that,but then,isnt it true? Marilyn Monroe wasnt really thin,she was curvy if anything,and yet she was beautiful and men loved her! So what do you think about this topic?

Well,thanks for answering again He does come to my house a lot,more than what I go to his.His mom can be kind of annoying to me sometimes so I prefer him coming,of course I havent told him this. The thing is,we cant see each other more than 2-3 days straight cause he works and so do I.So even if I could take a week off from work he would still have to work. My mom told me that cause she knows that we love each other and she likes him a lot,and cause she knows that when he does come here to live he needs to get a decent job so we can both pay the rent and stuff.Plus his car takes more than half his money away so he DOES need a decent paid job. Anyway,he's told me that before he moves here he needs to sort some things out,doesnt want to tell me what,but he said its got something to do with money and his parents.I'm not trying to pressure him,cause I'm not ready to move in with him next month either so we're planning on December. Well,as for now,we've been e-mailing each other some days,cause at least when e-mailing we cant fight.But we talked yesterday for a while,it was great,I miss him a lot.I dont wanna cut him off my life entirely cause I know it'd hurt too much and not be fair for any of us,but giving each other more space is what feels right right now. Thanks everyone for the replies.