JynX

I guess some people just think "well if it hurt him so much, I'm stronger, so it wont be that painful for me". I dont know why some never listen to others who speak from experience; maybe it has something to do with their pride. I understand what you mean on that. But once again, our character determines how we react to what we're told. We either listen or we let it blow by unnoticed. I also think that if a person's been through a lot of pain before, through past experiences, they're more willing to listen to others and save themselves some trouble. JyNx

Yeah that too

Agrajag- In my opinion, even if pain is foreseeable and avoidable, people still do whatever it is that's going to get them hurt more often than not. It's basically the same as telling a little kid to not touch a stove because it'll be hot and burn. Does he listen? No, no matter how many times you tell him, he still reaches up for that hot stove, gets burned, and never does it again. Why? Because sometimes it's no use having all the facts in front of you. Some people only learn from their own mistakes; not from listening to others. So if the pain is foreseeable and avoidable, should we go ahead with it? That depends on the person. Some will avoid it; others will go right through it. JyNx

I think pain is what gains people their maturity and wisdom. I've noticed that those of my friends and even myself are a lot more mature due to family problems and other serious issues happening, than those who've never had much stress and pain in their lives. Without pain you wouldnt know happiness and joy. Pain is what shapes our character, more or less...because how we react and cope with pain affects us and how we act. JyNx

Throughout life, you'll travel many different roads. As they turn, bend with them, or stand against them. One way or the other you'll fall...but will always be able to stand once more. A close friend told me that ^ during one of my hard times, and really, it helped. It reminded me that YOU have the option to stay down or get back up and try again. I've been through depression because of my frequent family troubles and changes, and yes, I did come to a point where I just felt like giving up on everything. It felt like: what's the use of even trying anymore if all its going to do is hurt in the end, you know? But you have to remember...you're given one life, and what you do with it is up to you. You can either sulk and be down all the time, or you can go out there and try to cheer yourself up and be happy. Only you can make you happy. JyNx

Ask during a conversation or somehow lead the conversation to past relationships and what not and ask just as if out of curiosity so she won't be able to tell you've thought a lot about it. JyNx

Cutting leads to major relationship problems; I've seen it happen to my friends. Honestly I'd advice to stay away from people like that because most liekly they get depressed a lot, and that can get you depressed as well. At your age I wouldnt worry about how long it will last...you're young; so even if it doesnt last that long, there's plenty of other fish in the sea. JyNx

My social skills weren't the best at one point a year or so ago. I used to be really shy and quiet. To improve social skills, my advice would be to ask your friends to introduce you to some new people and be yourself. Don't worry about what people think. Act goofy; be funny. Laughter is always a great way to relax and start talking to a new person. Take me for instance; I'm a complete klutz, so I guess that sometimes starts a few conversations with people I hardly know. From there, just find a common thing and talk about it. Before you know it, you have a conversation going. Since it's summer, you can use the time off school to practice. Go out with a friend to a public place and meet new people. I find it easier to meet someone new if I have someone I know pretty well by my side, because that way you can jsut let lose and be yourself. Not being confident isn't a good thing, but I'm afraid, everyone is at one point or another. Just because you're overweight doesnt mean you should lose confidence. The only way you'll be happy is if you accept you for you; then everyone else will see that you're happy to be you and that'll boost your confidence up. I'd sugest maybe going out and jogging 20 mins or so a few times a week? It's healthy plus it gets you in shape. I gotta do it for Crosscountry, and I'm starting to find that running is a great stress relief. I'd try it. Feel free to PM me if you need anything else... JyNx

I've known girls who said they had a boyfriend as an excuse to get out of the conversation because as you said, they weren't interested. Personally I think that's low and cowardly, but that's me. To your above post: I'd ask if she has a boyfriend before you ask her out. If she has a boyfriend, chances are she'll say no. JyNx

What caused you to become this way? The best way to cope with depression is time, and also things you enjoy doing, such as hobbies. Get away from whatever is bothering you and do something you love - read, write, walk outside - just whatever relaxes you. As long as you keep yourself occupied and keep your mind off the negative thoughts, in time, you should see improvement. JyNx

For me, my favorite place is my neck. Some others are: lips, of course anywhere on my face, inside of my thighs, stomach, hands, etc.

My boyfriend loves it when I stroke or mess around with his hair. He says it feels really good, plus I like messing with his hair. Some of his "spots" are his neck (major one), ears, and there's a special way I run my hands over his back sometimes that gives him shivers. JyNx

By 7 months it should be clear if a connection is made or not, so if it was, things are easier to keep interesting. I'd say do a variety of things; movies, bowling, beach, trips, etc. That should keep things interesting. For a girl, there's nothing like getting small things such as flowers just for no occasion or a sweet little note. It's true when they say the smallest things are the most important. JyNx

I'm no expert at this, but I'd say a day or so...I wouldnt wait longer because then it sends off a signal that you're not interested and she might be a last resort... JyNx

I think you should end it and just leave things like that....if she finds out you cheated it'll hurt her.

It doesnt sound like this is going to work.

Eh...the old jealousy problem. My close girlfriend has this same problem with her boyfriend, and trust me, jealousy causes a lot of unnessesary fights and cannot be solved by just simply saying, "Oh well you cant talk to any girls and I cant talk to guys." That's not healthy. At all. And come on, be realistic for a minute: is it really possible to stop all communications with the opposite sex? Of course not. That's not something that will help out your relationship, only fail it. I've heard that jealous people tend to be insecure and lack trust in their parther, I'm not saying it's true for your situation, but it's a possibility. It's normal to feel a little jealous when you see your girlfriend talking to some other guy and vise versa. But, why be jealous if you know nothing will come out of it? If you trust her, then you know she won't cheat on you, so why be so overly jealous? JyNx

Not too clingy, but protective. Sense of humor is always good, especially if it's one of those dull nights and there's nothing to talk about. Someone who's trustworthy and honest. Knows how to have fun but also when to be serious. I like guys who are themselves. For example, I don't want a guy who's always happy around me. I'm not stupid, I know sometimes there are bad days and such. So if he's having a problem, I dont want him to just blow it off and act happy just because I'm there. I don't like guys who hide all their problems away and never mention them and have that "I'm happy all the time" attitude.

kskm is right, Misery, there's no need for jealousy. In relationships we all get that way at one point or another, but as long as you guys have full trust in each other, I highly doubt there's need for jealousy.

Every night is maybe a bit much for a guy that likes you/you like...but it's alright if it's a boyfriend. It's actually pretty sweet and thoughful in my opinion.

I run into the same situation sometimes...I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months, and there are days where we both just sit there, not saying much. Other days, we can't get each other to shut up. So it's like a balance. I thought these same things and after talking to some people about it, I realized that in relationships you can't ALWAYS have something to talk about that's all that exciting and new...because honestly, sometimes nothing much is going on. Besides, 5 months into a relationship, you guys ahve already probably talked about pretty much everything, right? So don't worry, it's normal to be like this. As an alternate example to prove my point, look at my mom and her boyfriend. They have days where they don't talk much. It was the same with her and my dad. It's nearly impossible to have something to talk about each and every day...so don't stress over it! JyNx

He does sound controlling and jealous. It may be just jealousy right now, but with time, it could turn into something more dangerous. I've seen things like this happen...the endings weren't your usual "happily after". You care about him, but think about yourself first. Do you deserve to always have someone who constantly tries to control your life and tell you who you can and cant see? Of course not. He sounds like an insecure guy. Maybe thats why he asks you if you'll love him forever so much, he needs to hear it to be sure. Any good relationship has one thing that both partners need: freedom. It sounds like he's not giving you yours. I'd try to talk to him about this, and if things dont improve or he doesnt change, I'd leave. JyNx

I wouldnt tell him. I've been in a similar situation. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year now, and a few months back his ex of 3 years told him she loved him still and wanted him back. That caused some issues it hurt me in the process. So from experience, I wouldnt say anything. He's taken. You saying something might cause problems for him and his girlfriend. A year is a serious amount of time to be with someone, I wouldnt want to be the reason for their break up if it ever comes to that. What would you telling him accomplish? Or better question is, what do you expect to happen after you tell him? JyNx

After thinking about it for 5 minutes you still agreed, knowing it'd be cheating and that it's wrong? Are you sure you love your boyfriend, because you don't do something like that to someone you love. It might have been best to never tell him. What people dont know won't hurt them the saying goes. But seeing how you did tell him, why lie about it? Either way it'll probably hurt him, except now if you tell him the truth it'll hurt him more. I'd have to agree with other posts on here...maybe you should break up with him and find out what you're looking for? JyNx

I like it....good job! JyNx