Imagine_it65

In response to Hope75: Shortly after recieving a few comments in response to my post, I had a phone conversation with him. He started up questions about my recent trip to Orlando (who I was with, what I was doing). I confronted him about his insecure behavoir, and I attempted to keep it from sounding like I was accusing him. He actually seemed to realize what I was saying and appologised "for hurting me in anyway". This makes me hopeful for the future, but I realize it's easier for people to apologise for their actions than to actually change their ways. -Imagine_it65

this is my first time posting here, and I'm really greatfull for all the helpful advice I've recived within only a few hours. Thank you! -Imagine_it65

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 8 months, but I am starting to feel he's making attempts at controlling me. He asks questions like, "Will you love me forever?" "You promise?" not once but ten to twenty times a day. He tries to guilt me for cutting a phone conversation short because something else demands my attention. When he hears of things like me dancing or talking with other guys, he jumps to conclusions and demands the details of the encounter. I googled "controlling relationships" and found a description that seemed to fit my case perfectly: "Jealousy is an expression of insecurity that your partner has in him or herself and it has nothing to do with you personally. Unless you give your lover good reason to feel jealous, there is no right reason for them to take their insecurities out on you and you should talk to them about it early in the relationship before it gets out of control." I have never given him a reason to be jealous, and I have a very faithful and loving nature. He doesn't want us to hang out with our friends much anymore (we have the same circle of friends). And when the possibility of a friendly get together between me and a few friends arises, if any are males going to be present he attempts to discourge our meeting. He tries to prevent me from going on vacations or going out at night, and when questioned about his jealous nature he claims its only out of love for me and a desire to protect me. I love this guy alot and would rather fix our relationship than cast him aside. I need help. Please help.