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one thing that I did learn since the first time I ever smoked pot is that if you believe that pot is damaging to your body, that it can impair your judgement so much or that it gives you difficulty in breathing or convinced of having a heart attack, then the paranoia is more likey to cause these things to happen than the effect of being high... my first couple of joints were terrible. I kept thinking the police were about to kick the front door open, i imagined everyone i met could tell that i was stoned, i imagined my lungs collapsing or my heart stopping, having a brain aneurism... it was pretty unpleasant, but you have to rememebr that I had come from years of brain washing in school and from parents... after a while I began to loosen up and actually enjoy myself and feel in control, and I realized that all these things they say about pot is mostly lies to scare you from doing it (they used to claim pot turned you into a murderous cannibal back in the old days to make an effect)... and now im totally cool. Occasionally I smoke more than I can handle and feel a bit stoned, but then I just remind myself that theres nothing to worry about and life should be enjoyed, and everything is fine. 1. Kills Brain cells - As far as I'm aware, pot does't really kill brain cells. And they don't really know what effect it has on your brain, other than that some molecules attach themselves to fat particles in your brain used to transmit from neuron to neuron or something like that. So all it probably does is alter the blood flow in your head, sorta like standing up too quickly. Alcohol, on the other hand, does kill brain cells, because the process chemical dehydrates your brain cells, killing them. 2. Addictive - I've never met anyone addicted to pot, except for seriously depressed people who are having a rough time in life and the only reason they cant stop smoking is because its the only thing that makes them feel ok. It has no addictive substance in it... although, like anything, it can be habit forming, but this is the realm of psychology. 3. Cant OD - well, technically you can, but it is so unlikely, its impossible... something like 50,000 joints in 1 hour... You'd die beforehand from over-exerting your lungs, more likely. With alcohol, it something like 3 times the amount that gets you drunk, which is significantly more probable and happens a lot. 4. Kills people every day - alcohol kills people everyday from violence and drunk-driving. While alcohol is well known to make people more risk-taking, pot is more known to make people more cautious and slower, but both do affect your judgement... true... Personally, I think alcohol is more likely to be dangerous than pot, even when all things being equal. 5. Can lead to violence - this is some of the propaganda that they came out with in the 40's/50's time, that they claimed pot could eventually turn you into a deranged psychopath and cannibalistic... or what ever... thats non-sense. And furthermore, I've never gotten into any fights when I or the people around me were high. It just _never_ happened. Alcohol, on the other hand, it can barely go out for an hour without meeting someone who is drunk and aggressive. Dont get me wrong tho, I still think alcohol should be legal, but I believe that pot is mostly harmless, while alcohol is the one thats actually more dangerous. Pot is like catnip for humans. Go figure.

sounds like my ex, i thought she was the only gal for me, still hurts and its soon 2 years ago...i dunno what to suggest, but really he doesnt seem like he wants to be with you anymore... and i guess you just have to accept that some people handle their emotions differently than you do and can just let go like that... sorry, but such is life

well, either he's not being completely honest because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings... just as it might bug some guys to hear that their cum tastes bad. or he could actually like the taste. My girls friend is constantly giong down on me, and the last thing I want to hear from her is that its gross. I dont think girls taste any different. This from personal experience and from what friends have told me. But there are some people who like Marmite and some people who are revolted by it. It is the same tastes tho...

bs... i told you... it was all bs. she had her eye on you from the first moment and was doing the transferance phase... and people on this board were trying to convince us that it was just a friendship. ive seen this all before... good luck friend. just dont get too attached to her.

i know what you are saying, but you have to remember that some peopel entertain the idea of commiting suicide to make those they love who have hurt them feel sorry and guilty for pushing them off the edge. heh, suicide is such a complicated thing, i almost think that its a matter of horomonal imbalance so no matter what you do, you cant change the way the person feels, nor can they themselves... because in life there are plenty enough reasons to give yourself for suicide... its a matter of how much our horomones control us to focus on things... thats one of my ideas... could be wrong of course

hehe, stick it to the man

haha, im not part of any church just being the devils advocate... or gods advocate... erm... lol

hm, i always thought it meant something of a particular sexual perversion... according to any church, oral sex is a perversion. and last time I checked, the mainstream you speak of applies on to a small percentage of the population. The one that tends to think that most people are like them, few people are religious, and most cultures are just as open and accepting of different sexual practices and persuations, to name a few examples. last time i checked, very few people were like that, even in the united states but i could be wrong. oh, and finally, not to be too annoying "coming soon... brand new iSteve Forums!" on your website link removed is spelt wrong ("Coming soon..." etc etc). I know its an annoying thing to point out, but sometimes I'm an obsessive compulsive (one which has been able to conquer his dyslexia). I cant help it...

well, if oral sex isnt foreplay, and foreplay isn't supposed to be kinky... then i dont see the point of doing it obviously, its not the only or most kinky thing you can do with your partner, but i wouldnt be so nonchalant about it

well, personally i do see it as part of her problem, and although its not something she can change anylonger, its something i think is relevant to explaining why she's in a tight spot at the moment. i dont believe advice necessarily has to come in form of a solution to your problem. it can sometimes be insight into the nature of the problem.

grins... you make it sound like your fanny is an exquisite foreign fish and if you add just a little too much salt or spices, it changes its taste completely. anyways, i just wanted to express my disagreement. while its true your lady will taste a little more acidic depending on her menstrual cycle, dont expect it to taste of chocolate one day, then skittles the next... it still tastes of battery acid... although one thing you can apparently do is get her to drink lots and lots of pineapple juice, and this will apparently make her taste a little more sweetened... should do the same for guys too oh, and i think it also depends on how drunk you are

ur not ugly. and i think the fact i have had several hot gf's is testament that looks is not the most important factor. just be yourself, be friendly and outgoing and receptive to meeting new people, maybe update your wardrobe, get funkier hair and try not to be too computer geeky ^_^ good luck. i hope this was a bit of a pep talk

they taste like battery acid... with slight nuances. its not the most pleasurable experience, i think anyone is weird (different) or lying if they think it tastes great, but something you can get over if you love your girlfriend and want to please her and like being kinky... also, good hygene is a plus++ ps. Morrissey/the smiths is awesome

my ex did that too, and then she eventually broke up with me. i dont know if thats much advice, but more of a caution. somethings going on in his head and he's not letting you in. so just hang in there and brace yourself for things to go either way. but just be yourself and try to be happy, even though i know it must be hard. good luck!

the only thing im aware of is just be sure to show her a really good time and get completely wankered (wasted/drunk in other words)... may or may not be your girlfriends thing, but certainly is an irish tradition (seeing as half my friends are irish and me having lived in the uk for years).

well, i know my advice doesnt do much good anymore, since you are already pregnant. I do realize that it doesnt always happen out of choice. but its also fustrates me to see young old mothers (like 16 year olds), who lose the chance to achieve a future career, become a burden on other people who may not necessarily want children, eventually regret having lost the best years of their life and then later on take it out in their children. So, this is why I said what I did. it may not necessarily apply to you tho Good luck, none the less.

i can understand where he's coming from. you're only 13 and you are suicidal, he's only presumably the same age and he has to deal with someone being suicidal. and he's probably been supportive for so long and not seen you change that he doesnt see the point in carrying on, because it just hurts him to see that you aren't atleast changing in some ways. just giving you his perspective on things. honestly, tho... 13 years old and you are suicidal? thats crazy. Wish I knew what you could possibly feel suicidal about. When I was 13, I was busy having fun and enjoying my innocence before growing up, because you are a kid only once in your entire life. and I was even a bit of a loner and was teased at school, that happens to a lot of people and is just the way life is. maybe you physically/sexually abused as a child? maybe you've got some medical condition? you should seek professional help perhaps

unlike the united states, most developed countries have a more relaxed attitude towards weed, knowing that the only damage that it causes is an increased risk of lung cancer. the reason weed is illegal is due to political history stemming from, again, the united states. A Harry J. Anslinger took it upon him to become a hardliner (one of those extreme political figureheads, like those who don't believe gays should have rights and that it is an illness), who promised to make hard drugs illegal and could not distinuish the difference between herion, which is very harmful, and weed, which is recreational. In order to get support for his extreme views, he made up a few lies/propaganda. link removed Does this sound like the person you know? Even though such propaganda was later on proven to be ludicrous, the effect of propaganda is so strong that even to this day people (especially those who have never tried it) have no understanding of it and often have irrational fears. So, which crime was really commited? It's a crazy world.

i know, thats why I am saying that I am simply giving my advice based on my experiences and that I felt it seemed likely that she could be the same. but i know that theres no way I can be certain. so its up to elysium_dreams_ to make of it what he will

is his smoking weed really affecting him in any way negatively, or is she just scared of it, because it is illegal and that she's had so many commercials tell her that 'drugs are bad, umkay'? if it were my girlfriend, if she forced me to choose between the two, I wouldn't choose either. I'd choose to have my independance from people who use emotional pain on others to get their way. she should lighten up... weed isnt all that bad. just the same as alcohol.

Not necessarily so. It took me 1 1/2 years to get over my gf and I'm still not completely fine. I'm now with a girlfriend who I love very much and treats me well, but that feeling of intense love isnt there like it was for the ex, and I still miss my ex and in many ways still think she was the right one for me, she was just too immature in her feelings and made a bad desicion which she cant change anymore. Such is life

1. I would never treat someone the way she did. If I didn't respect someone, I would not have it in me to be with them. This is nothing special. Just basic human decency. 2. I don't trust this girl. 3. Sorry if I didn't make it clear, but I did not have a relationship with the girl. I told her that I wasn't interested, after all her advances on me. Which means that I would have nothing to worry about, seeing as there was no relationship to speak of that she could possibly stab me in the back with. Hope that made more sense PS. The only thing that I regret is not having told her boyfriend about her behaviour. Because instead I let him have his heart broken and suffer the pain of rejection, when really he had done nothing wrong.

Skyteph, I've been in a situation like this before. I wasn't really interested in her, because I knew she had a boyfriend, but we became good friends quickly, me thinking it was perfectly harmless, although the fact that she didn't introduce me to her boyfriend and would only see me when he wasn't around did make me suspicious. She too described it as "just friends". Then slowly she started making slight advances on me and started confiding in her wanting to flirt a bit with guys, even though she admitted that she loved her boyfriend and that he was a great guy. Then she started getting more obvious about it by sending me text messages and complimenting me all the time, saying that I was such a nice person and that I was quite good looking. But I kept deflecting her attention and sort of acting as if I didn't see her motives. Then finally she started touching a bit, giving hugs and then she started casually holding my hand, at which point I decided I would do something about it and tell her that I didn't want to get involved in a relationship with her, out of my sense of decency, and that if she was unhappy with her boyfriend, she should just break up with him. But she said she couldn't, because she didn't want to hurt his feelings and that she loved him. But since then, she stopped being that close to me and later on I met her bf, who was actually quite a nice guy. At the time, she had moved out of her apartment and needed a place to live for 6 months, so she stayed with her boyfriend. When she finally moved out, it only took her a week when she suddenly dumped him out of the blue, and later that night a friend and I happened to spot her at a club getting intimate with some guy. So in the end, what really happened is that this girl had been using people to her advantage and hurt people, and her method of doing so is by having a safe "home base" until she was ready to move on. I assume there are more people like that in this world, and I wouldn't be surprised if this girl was like that too. In the end, I'm giving you advice based on my experiences...

its called the "transition phase". she is scoping you out and judging you for what you're worth (the "dates") before making the move or not, because she already knows that you like her, so the ball is in her court. she's trying to figure out if you are a bigger, better deal than her bf (money, job, tastes, living quarters, any sort of thing that might make you a better proposition than him). as far as im concerned, infidelity starts in the mind. whether or not theres been any physical contact is meaningless. if the person is intending to cheat on her boyfriend, its at that point where they have cheated already. tell you what, if she thinks you are "just friends" and not doing anything bad by seeing you, why dont you ask her to invite her boyfriend on the next date? see how happy she is about that? no? thats because she is keeping you a secret from her bf, for reasons that are infidelous in nature. so... the question is, do you you really want a girlfriend who would gladly stay with a boyfriend she doesnt even fancy anymore, and secretly transition to a new guy as soon as she meets someone else that she likes, who doesnt even have the decency to stay single for a while and not be dependant on having a relationship?

i say, back off... why do you think you've got a gut feeling that its not right? thats because it isn't... and you will likely feel guilty for it later. and if you ever do manage to hook up with her, the fact that she cheated on her bf with you may come back to haunt you, as she may and is more likely to do the same to you. and finally, not saying you should, but if i were in your shoes, i'd try to get in contact with the bf and let him know what she's doing... or suggest that she does. cheating is fun because its naughty, but it will only end in hurting one or more people.