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  1. otrebla
    Hi, First, learn the very basics, Second, Start listening to music in that language, try to understand the lyrics and when you're tired of it, get the lyrics and read them. Third, start chatting online!, it's one of the best things you could do. Fourth, Read a lot of books and magazines in your chosen language. This is my advice, you can learn it fast and funny, wasting almost no money. Always carry a dictionary, and, I haven't tried myself, but voice chatting might help you. Cheers
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    Yeah it doesn't matter how long you were together, as long as there was love, we were together for one year and eight months. Good luck!
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    Maybe, maybe not, I know this is a post for the "Healing After Break up or divorce" forum, but I saw how many suffer in the first days. If my ex wants to get back together forgiving and forgetting does work. If not, well, it's just my particular case, everything can happen to you. just be relaxed.
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    Hello. I haven't posted here in a while, I just gave up trying to get my ex-gf back. It was not working well, always beside the phone, doing nothing but waiting for her calling, in bed, depressed, wanting to die, becoming a vegetable, and when she called I was just thinking "oh no, did I say it right, I spoiled it, etc." the same you newbies do, but believe, don't. If your ex will get back to you it doesn't depend on what you say. Stop planning what will you do, how to dress, stop planning it! it doesn't work and you will only look stiff, forced to her, whatever you plan when you see her/him , stop planning it. Don't call your ex, no contact is always the way to go. Think about yourself and let the time do its job. I know you won't believe me and you don't have to, most of you are on stage 1, and what I say seems to be bulls**t, but now I've learned a lot of things about break ups, women, destiny, psychology, myself... It's been eight months since my ex left me, and I haven't seen her in six months, I decided to forgive and forget her, I moved house and didn't give her my new number, she contacted me on an old cell phone, we chatted and now two months after, she sends me a text message telling me to call her because she NEEDS to talk to me, if she wants to get back together I don't know and I don't mind, I won't call her until she contacts me again. It's been eight months since the break up, you just have to be patient. Good Luck and enjoy life, it's your life, not your ex's.
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    Great post bgbillo!! That's the way to go instead of wasting time making strategies, if it's over for now, it's over, so let's better concentrate in being happy with ourselves. If the ex comes back, great, if not, great anyway, it's quite true the thing of forcing things, it's better to live life without expecting something in return, just doing things for the pleasure of doing them and everything will be fine and there will be success. Greetings
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    I'm sorry, but in my opinion, that's not moving on. It's just doing changes in your life for the ex, not for yourself, I was told here that being friends hoping that something will happen is not recommended, it'll hurt in the end. It's been said that if you want your ex back, you must not want them back, and if you don't want them back, why would you want them back? If you get back together, it's because you forgot and you have something new, not the great moments spent together in the PAST, but something new, as if you had never loved each other. So I think the only way to go is forgetting. Although there are exceptions.
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    MrMike I don't want to be pessimist, but the times I saw my ex she was not looking happy, or at least I thought she was not. I saw her kissing her new boyfriend and I saw she was not enjoying the kiss, but she told me days later she's happy and in love with him, sorry man, but we see what we want to see.
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    I miss my baby... We used to eat tuna fish
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    It's very disappointing to have something and suddenly you've got nothing, I took care of her, I tried hard to please her and I was not exactly a good boy that finishes last, I was just good, and one day she's gone, it's over. I'm optimistic about finding real love someday but now, maybe just now I feel like it's not gonna happen, I'm starting to become a lonely guy again, but now I hate loneliness, I realize she never loved me, 1 year and 8 months to the waste!. Sorry, this is not my space to post my feelings, I just needed to vent.
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    You are right, I don't want to fall in love again, it's very painful.
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    You are so right MixMaster I'm fed up of this, if I had realized this right after I was dumped, I would be better now and probably my ex gf would be here with me, it's been 2 1/2 months, and so many things happened, I tried all the approachs, and nothing, and I don't want to take away your hopes but, as I see, exs always seem to be coming back just to make sure you're hooked on. they just want you to be there for them and give you nothing back but their back. But what if they realize you're not there hooked on? That's how it works, we humans can't stop playing mind games our whole life, and we want what we cannot have, if the dumper know we are no longer their fools, they'll start chasing us, if there's some love for us inside them, they'll do it, maybe if there's no love too. Because they hate to have no power over us. I hope you realize there's nothing you can do to get your ex back, just walk away, if they come back, great, if they don't there's nothing you could have done to get them back from the very beginning of the break up.
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    Hello everyone. My ex gf dumped me for another guy, saying it's over for me. I stalk her and she says to giver a month. We see eachother after 40 days, she refuses to tell me if I have any hope. We see eachother again and treats me like garbage. We see eachother and she tells me it's really over and she'll never come back, in my face. For me it's over, it's been 9 days of no contact, I was planning to call her on christmas, but now I think I won't. I'm moving on really fast and I realize she is not perfect and has dumped boys, friends, jobs, school, along her life. Maybe I'm lucky for not being married to such an immature person. I erased all her emails and today I'm going to burn her letters, then her photos and give away her presents. I just want to forget about her. Happy moving!!
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    Hello herewegoagain. In some cases it's not because the don't want to give themselves time to be alone, they just can't be alone, or, they dumped us for the other person. My ex gf had a boyfriend just the same day she broke up with me and is having the time of her life too. We the ones in this situation, don't have any immediate chance from the start, it's hard to accept it but as you say it, we must and move on. I feel bad for me, but I feel worse for her, if she have no time alone to learn from this, and look it in another perspective, she will never learn and will be dumping boys until she's old.
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    Great advice, Although it's hard to get rid of photos, letters and emails. ...and exercise, I just bought some exercise clothes.
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    It's strange, but money means everything and at the same time nothing for a girl. Mystery, what if I have a normal outfit but a gothic mind?
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    Hi, In my case I'm moving on at speed of light just because my ex gf killed my hopes, she asked me to see her and then in my face she made clear it's over forever. Maybe I'll be crying for her like a baby in a few days but, if you have any hope it's nearly impossible to move on, it's like being inside a house on fire, if you can escape, you'll try it with all your strenght, you wouldn't give up life, but if you realize you can't escape, you just resign and wait for the fire to burn your body. It's quite a weird comparison, but I see it that way.
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    Caldus, I don't know, I'm not a girl and I'm letting my hair grow long But there's something I know: I LOVE YOUR WINDOWS RG!!!!!
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    Yeah, thanks Vert, If I made clear what you tried to say, you made clear exactly what happened to me! My ex gf is that kind of girl.
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    Why you put your eyes on a girl who has a boyfriend? That's not fair, if you get luck, you'll pay karma. You wouldn't like it to happen to you when you have a gf, believe me, you wouldn't like it Forget and respect.
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    Wow, 4 months is such a big amount of time, you could have only texted: hello, what's up? Well, I'm planning to call her on christmas, but when she's not home(she's never home!). Well, that's what I think now, but heart doesn't listen to reasons. Good luck.
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    I am crazy too. But it's a gift we have, we do art and we should be thankful to society for giving us this blessing (you know what I mean?) Have you ever heard John Lennon's Working Class Hero? It's my anthem. I'm not
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    Yeah! Well said. 6 weeks, wow Congratulations.
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    Thanks for the words iceesnowbubble. It's true, how could I be able to make it with such an immature woman?, she's the kind of person who can't stand things when they get hard, she's dumped job several times, she's dumped school, boyfriends, friends, she's always late. She just want things the easy way, I really wish her good luck with handling her life, but sincerely I think she'll end up tired and resigning to what she has when it happens, my heart's saying good bye to her, now I'm starting to think with my brain, which is better. Good luck
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    I haven't had any luck, though this site makes me feel better when I'm down and is helping me in my healing process. I think I have no hope, my ex girlfriend acts as if all our relationship had been a game, she doesn't seem to be hurt, she's in love with her new boyfriend, and has no remorse telling me she's happy, that I was a waste of time for her, and acting like a stupid girl with no empathy towards me. "Oops, did I hurt you? but I can be your friend" She kinda said: "Do you have any hope?, sorry, but I'll never come back." At this moment I don't want to see her again. The first time she said You're the love of my life, I tod her if she meant it, she said she did, later I felt the same and thought this was gonna be forever, I gave her all my heart Everything in the universe is patterns, she once left another boyfriend in almost exactly the same situation as me, loving couple, co-worker seduces her, the love's gone. bye bye loser. I'm sorry for venting here, but I need it, I'm so sad and frustrated.
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    I understand you, I'm going through something like this. But my ex gf says she will never come back for this is not a game, and she's in love with her new bf, she insinuated he's better than me. I know she wants to hang out with me because we have a lot of fun together, but it hurts me, so I decided not to be her friend and stay away. Maybe forever.
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