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u shouldn't talk smack like that...i;m in the exact smae position as u are and i really wish i knew the answer to this...i can tell u to always look positive and say that whatever is SUPPOSED happen will happen but i can also be realistic and say that maybe you're not givining these other girls a chance either way i wish u all the best and sincerely hope u find what u r looking for and when u do please share the answer with me

I finally got the truth from this girl, we went to a club last week and I asked her myself if she was seeing anyone and she said yes but asked me what I considered "seeing". Ithen asked her for how long and she replied about a year. My next question was if it was serious and she replied that the y fight a lot and that she goes out on dates. My dilemma is whether I should still pursue this thing. I mean...I like her, she says she goes out on dates and I assume that it's with other guys and the guy that she's "seeing" tried to pick up my bestfriend. She shows some interest in me but I'm doing all the chasing. I saw her and her guy at some other club last night and it seemed that she was really into him. I spoke to her today to see if she wanted to go out but she couldn't so I asked her to be my date at our co-workers wedding. She agreed to come and she kinda sounded enthusiastic about going. What the hell do I do?

I understand why ppl would be agianst it it's happened to me before. We went to visit her last night and she told my buddy that she was single, her apparent "BF" also works at the same bar and my buddy happens to be friends with him but the "BF" is saying that they're together. What do I do now?

In my last post I wrote of this girl I recently met. I have just found out that she is dating someone, from a third party, possibly for a while now. I can't help but still be interested. I have not made my feeelings known to her but I still want to. I figure that there must be a reason why she has shown interest and I'm affraid that I may miss out on an oppoutunity by not bringinig it to her attention. The way I see one of three things may happen: 1: she's is interested and something comes out of it 2: I have a one night stand or 3: nothing becomes of it which is when I drop the whole issue. A friendonce told me that "it's better to get a no than to not know". I think I have a chance. She never ever brought up seeing anybody when I asked her out and the way that she was towards me confirmed that.

I work security in a niteclub and I met this bartender at the start of this summer. She's really nice and down to earth, I only saw her at work and I would spend my time chilling at her bar. About a month later I asked her out and I got her #. So i call but she went home to her parents house for the week. I call acouple more times in the following weeks but nobody ever answered. Then I see her at work and she apologizes for not calling back and explains her situation and I let it go. She says we should go out and takes my # down this time. So i call again and get the same result. A couple of days later I see her at work then she asks me to go to dinner. So we go and have a good time. I don't talk or see her for acouple of weeks because I had an operation. I call a couple more times and still nobody. At this point I was ready to give up on this girl. Last weekend I get a call from her out of the blue. She was calling from a payphone while shopping with her sister so I couldn't call back. I see her later on that night then she asks me to go to a bar for her friends birthday and I gladly go. I had such a good time,she spent the majority of time with me and my friends rather than with her sister and their friends. All the while constantly making sure that I was all right. At the end of the night she gives me this tight hug and tells me that she's glad I came. Then 20 minutes later she does the same thing. I need advice on this. Is she interested or not? She plays like she does but she never calls back. She told me that her grandmother is really ill and that she goes to her parents place during the week. By the time she gets back she has to work. HELP!

I work security in a niteclub and I met this bartender at the start of this summer. She's really nice and down to earth, I only saw her at work and I would spend my time chilling at her bar. About a month later I asked her out and I got her #. So i call but she went home to her parents house for the week. I call acouple more times in the following weeks but nobody ever answered. Then I see her at work and she apologizes for not calling back and explains her situation and I let it go. She says we should go out and takes my # down this time. So i call again and get the same result. A couple of days later I see her at work then she asks me to go to dinner. So we go and have a good time. I don't talk or see her for acouple of weeks because I had an operation. I call a couple more times and still nobody. At this point I was ready to give up on this girl. Last weekend I get a call from her out of the blue. She was calling from a payphone while shopping with her sister so I couldn't call back. I see her later on that night then she asks me to go to a bar for her friends birthday and I gladly go. I had such a good time,she spent the majority of time with me and my friends rather than with her sister and their friends. At the end of the night she gives me this tight hug and tells me that she's glad I came. Then 20 minutes later she does the same thing. I need advice on this. Is she interested or not? She plays like she does but she never calls back.

First I would like to thank those who responded. It was a great help. I deeply miss her. She always used to tell me to look at the bigger picture that all this is for the greater good. Deep down inside I truly feel that we were meant to be and that we will get back. Lately, we've been kinda drifting cuz of this new guy and when she doesn't call or her and I don't really talk, my mind starts to work over time. I start getting jealous and worrying that she's talking to him late at night or that she's with him. I know that as soon as she broke up withthe guy after me I saw it as an oppourtunity to get back together and I kinda was putting too much effort but I know that the time is not right. What can I do to not worry so much?

Here's my story, my ex an I broke up almost 2 yrs ago and it still kills me to this day. Initially, we stayed away from each other and thenshe started to date somebody. About half way through their relationship, we made it know to each other that we still have feelings for each other. We were together for 4 yrs. She's not with him anymore and I thought that we would get back. She calls me her "soulmate" and she says I'm "the one" but right now she basically needs to just have her fun and be free so later on when we get back she won't cheat on me and she wants me to do the same so I won't cheat on her.. I think that she's already seeing somebody else already and I don't know what to do. She tells me that she's not looking for a relationship and that she wants to just kinda play the field and have no regrets. When we spend time together it's like we're together but then she leaves my place and goes to the next guys house. We haven't even had sex since we broke up cuz she's says she wants to sve something to look forward to. She also said that with me she wants to make love and with anyone else it's just sex. She's been talking to several guys but lately she's been spending a lot of time with this one guy.I'm scared that she'll fall from him and she'l forget about me. HELP

Look, you don't even know yet. Don't jump to conclusions. Get the facts straight and then react.