Saladpants Posted April 26, 2019 Share Posted April 26, 2019 I need some advice! My boyfriend (we are in a LDR and see each other about once a week) has asked me to send him a sexy video of me. I want to clarify first that I’m ok doing this and trust him. I just don’t know where to start! I’m thinking along the lines of the sort of solo masturbation vids in porn. It would be helpful to have some advice on what to do for him really, particularly from any guys. I’m quite shy and have never done this before (we send pictures normally). As a guy, if you wanted your GF to send a sexy video, what would you expect and what would really turn you on? I’m thinking something along the lines of the sort of solo masturbation vids in porn. Any thoughts?!! Link to comment
j.man Posted April 26, 2019 Share Posted April 26, 2019 I think this is an area you should probably know your boyfriend much better than we would. Link to comment
Clio Posted April 26, 2019 Share Posted April 26, 2019 Don't do it. If you ever break up you are going to regret it BIG TIME. Things are fine now but in a few years things may change dramatically. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted April 26, 2019 Share Posted April 26, 2019 Would never do it. Breaks ups happen then your butt is shown to all his buddies and the whole internet. Link to comment
RayRay63 Posted April 26, 2019 Share Posted April 26, 2019 How many times have you seen him in person? You should be doing this based on a good understanding of what he likes. Does he like lingerie? What sort of sexual activities does he like? Can you replicate that with toys? Bear in mind, I agree with Clio to an extent. You need to know your partner very well, and be confident he won't sell them to a porn site if you have a bust up. By the way, seeing each other about once per week is reasonable at the early stage of any relationship. How far apart in distance are you? Link to comment
katrina1980 Posted April 26, 2019 Share Posted April 26, 2019 My advice? Shoot the video when together. Watch it when together. Pls don't send it, or sexy nudes, over the Internet, including text or email. It may come back and bite you in the ass, as has happened to sooooo many others, in some cases disrupting significantly or even ruining their lives. Link to comment
abitbroken Posted April 26, 2019 Share Posted April 26, 2019 DO NOT DO IT. Someone could accidentally see it on his phone and forward it to themselves. He could get hacked. You could break up and he could post it on the internet. So much bad can happen. Just get him excited about the next time you see eachother -- make sure a date is planned to do so. There are people who regret their mistakes and lose their jobs over "sexy videos" Link to comment
boltnrun Posted April 26, 2019 Share Posted April 26, 2019 This is the guy who is still active on his dating profile? Big fat NO in that case. He may be collecting "sexy" videos from all of his dates. Link to comment
Saladpants Posted April 26, 2019 Author Share Posted April 26, 2019 Thank you everyone, I appreciate your advice. There won’t be anything in the video that could identify it as being me even in the unlikely event of the worse happening. Link to comment
Saladpants Posted April 26, 2019 Author Share Posted April 26, 2019 No, I think you’re referring to a reply I gave in a post by someone else, that wasn’t my thread Link to comment
Hollyj Posted April 26, 2019 Share Posted April 26, 2019 I would never do this. If you break up, he could show it to friends or post it online. Link to comment
Rose Mosse Posted April 26, 2019 Share Posted April 26, 2019 I think the person who wants it should be putting out first. Where's his sexy video? Link to comment
Betterwithout Posted April 26, 2019 Share Posted April 26, 2019 Like a tattoo, a video is permanent. Regret may soon follow. However, keep it fun with your boyfriend, but only with the phone and camera off. Tell him you only value his eyes on you. Link to comment
smackie9 Posted April 26, 2019 Share Posted April 26, 2019 Before the internet it was OK it just sat on a shelf...but now it can easily be shared. Don't do it. Face time sure, no recording anything no matter how persistent he will be. Link to comment
Gary Snyder Posted April 26, 2019 Share Posted April 26, 2019 You want to make a video for your boyfriend and don't know what direction to go? - That sounds like a good problem to have! Link to comment
rainorshine Posted April 26, 2019 Share Posted April 26, 2019 I'm not going to bash the idea, but I do think that it is probably just a smarter and safer bet to either FaceTime or record a short video over snapchat. But hey, if you truly trust your boyfriend and have no concern that he would ever share it, you do you. I never sent my ex a video over text, but he did record one of me using his phone once. Not sure if he still has it, but I honestly don't care if he does. I have all the faith in the world that he would never distribute it to anyone else. Just because a relationship ends doesn't automatically mean the trust and respect the two of you shared is thrown out the window. To your original question, though - definitely depends on what he likes/turns him on. Which parts of the body, angles, etc. Has he shared any of his fantasies with you? That could help. Link to comment
RainyCoast Posted April 26, 2019 Share Posted April 26, 2019 Ask him if you really can't come up with anything. I don't think there's anything sex related a guy asking for sexy videos is going to be above anyway lol. As for the safety issue, you can also just make sure your face is never in the same footage as the rest of you - at least if you delete as you go or use apps where the footage is gone or "self-destructs" after being viewed that should minimize concerns. Agree with the above that not everyone is going to be vengeful if you break up, hopefully you've estimated him well and he wouldn't. Link to comment
Rose Mosse Posted April 26, 2019 Share Posted April 26, 2019 I think we're overanalyzing.. the OP said that she's comfortable doing it. Why bother correcting her or question her decision? She's asking for tips. I know what tip I want. Again, where's his sexy video? Link to comment
RainyCoast Posted April 26, 2019 Share Posted April 26, 2019 If I were on the receiving end of such a video, it would feel a little off if ( I somehow knew) the other person felt like they needed a written manual for what to do. I just wouldn't want them overthinking it so much. It's not that It would make them look not good in bed. It would make them feel not relaxed, connected, not in the moment, maybe even not like they're really enjoying themselves. I don't think it's terribly important what specifically she does, if that makes sense. He probably wants her more than he wants anything specific, so it shouldn't be terribly important. Seriously, what's he going to say "meh" to? Strip tease? Masturbating? He's probably like "bring it on!" to pretty much anything. There's always asking him too and I agree re where his video is. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted April 27, 2019 Share Posted April 27, 2019 Thread has run its course... Link to comment
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