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j.man

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  1. Does this guy make a habit of just volunteering completely unnecessary, steaming piles of awful takes? Like yeah, his opinions are bad enough on their own, but the results aren't even in yet. Dude's really determined to make sure he doesn't come in a second late for an opportunity to berate you. There are so many layers of petty to peel there. A lot of folks have provided some great comments with regard to the misogyny and lack of mutual respect. What I'll chime in with is that more generally, it's a huge red flag when somebody sees someone they claim to love enjoying success or hav
  2. It's one of those situations where someone ****ed up and there's no real fixing or remedying it. Albeit not as extreme as getting a friend or relative's dog killed, I've been the offender in some pretty consequential situations before. I've likewise had it happen to me in tragic incidents that have been comparable. What's worked to mitigate long term damage to the relationships is the person harmed (obviously in your case by extension of your dog having suffered the ultimate harm) being straight forward but not aggressive about the fact that, "Hey, I know you didn't mean for it to happen, b
  3. Echoing the suggestion from others to pursue social services. If you legit don't have the income to sustain market rent, there's a decent enough chance you'd qualify for aid, especially if you're not married to this guy. His property and income, or even the fact you live with him right now will almost certainly have zero bearing on what you qualify for. Don't know the guy to say whether he'd deserve it or not, but generally speaking it's not cool to pretend to be committed to someone for the sake of taking up their space. Likewise I'm sure it's not a fun existence for you nor a great
  4. Blacking out =/= unconscious or otherwise incapacitated. I've forgotten stretches of time after a few beers over the course of a whole evening and have fully remembered lying on my back in a parking lot in my own vomit, nauseously watching the stars spin in my younger and much dumber days doing benders. And beyond conjecture, there is a physiological distinction. Alcohol inhibits long-term memory processing. The most sure way to limit the effect is to not drink at all. Not drinking yourself to impairment and beyond certainly helps as well. If you were laid out passed out or unengag
  5. Not getting how he lied to you. He went from stopping his searching to going back to it without having promised he wouldn't. He simply lost interest in the photos at that moment, which makes sense if you two were new to each other and honeymooning. Then after the second occasion and you having voiced your concerns, the only thing you've come across is an appearance on his explore page, which as DF mentioned is algo-based. If he's searched in the past, there's a good chance something related will pop up there. Generally speaking, and especially for something as near-objectively mild, life'
  6. How long has this book been a thing for him? Expecting to make any decent amount of money off it is a bit pie in the sky, but so long as he's also got a paying 9 to 5 going, it's whatever. What have you two previously discussed as far as timeframes for life goals such as having children? It's one thing if you two had tentatively committed to getting it out of the way this year, and now he's reneging. Otherwise, I can't say I think he's definitely or even likely just using the desire to finish writing a book before navigating it along with his job and raising a kid as an excuse to drag
  7. lmao the balls on this guy Seriously, the man needs to go. Like yesterday. The longer you drag it out, the more complicated it may get to kick him out, especially with additional COVID measures intended to protect tenants / residents who aren't ***holes. It's undue stress for you and your family, and can very possible cause long-lasting damage in your relationships between you and your kids.
  8. Buying coins for 1000x the floor value of their legal tenure and grossly marked up from what the actual commodity backing it is currently valued at is about as boomer as a bad investment idea gets in 2021. Literally the worst of what both fiat and commodities have to offer. And no, neither my wife nor myself would assume a conscientiously defensible right to make the decision to drop $4,000 of our joint assets into any. That's hardly either of us lording over the other. Now in fairness to your wife, there's a lot going on where people are understandably concerned about the sustainabili
  9. Not seeing the issue. Honestly, I wouldn't have even reached out after the change in events. Would've figured my wife would get to enjoy a one-on-one activity with her sibling. Nothing wrong with you two doing your own thing one Friday afternoon.
  10. I'd argue the exact opposite. Someone gets half of your $50 million, you're still in pretty solid shape with your $25million. If you're someone who, say, puts 8+ years of work and debt into school and only after marriage ends up seeing the financial benefits of it, it's pretty reasonable to make sure those benefits aren't forfeited by default to a fully employed spouse and before any children have been introduced into the equation. In any case, this situation has very little to do with pre-nups. The guy's obviously still jaded. It's a toxic element which should be heavily considered
  11. Speaking personally, my life's too short to share what's supposed to be a home and sanctuary with someone who's demonstrably willing to inflict physical harm on me. And while tertiary to the risk of immediate physical harm to your person, it is still important to consider if ever you're put in a position to defend yourself, even an abrasion or bruise from restraining or shoving her away can be enough to get you at the very least considered equally culpable from a legal standpoint when matters are reduced to your word against hers. I can't tell you not to try to salvage things. Again, I
  12. Why should he have to gripe about work or "things that may be bothering him?" A lot of people prefer to share much more positive things, such as a construction or landscaping project gone right. Especially with someone fresh they're still getting to know. And admittedly yeah, it probably is a not-so-subtle "look what I can bring to the table" sort of flaunt. You either dig it or you don't. Fair enough either way. I'd worry much less on what problems or mundane everyday details he chooses to complain and overshare about. If you're not building positive and enjoyable experiences with
  13. I just keep saying what I was saying.
  14. I'd hate to pull the legs off a spider, but it really is bewildering how this comes to a head after several years and a child together. Moreover, being the dark when it comes to the finances of the person you share a home and child with (and possibly custody of another kid?) is likewise mind-numbing. I get you're not married, but having some vague idea of what kind of financial security your child would have should something happen to you or even should you simply lose your job is pretty ****in' barebones need-to-know. Sadly, how long you've been letting this dynamic run its course is
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