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  1. Blacking out =/= unconscious or otherwise incapacitated. I've forgotten stretches of time after a few beers over the course of a whole evening and have fully remembered lying on my back in a parking lot in my own vomit, nauseously watching the stars spin in my younger and much dumber days doing benders. And beyond conjecture, there is a physiological distinction. Alcohol inhibits long-term memory processing. The most sure way to limit the effect is to not drink at all. Not drinking yourself to impairment and beyond certainly helps as well. If you were laid out passed out or unengag
  2. Not getting how he lied to you. He went from stopping his searching to going back to it without having promised he wouldn't. He simply lost interest in the photos at that moment, which makes sense if you two were new to each other and honeymooning. Then after the second occasion and you having voiced your concerns, the only thing you've come across is an appearance on his explore page, which as DF mentioned is algo-based. If he's searched in the past, there's a good chance something related will pop up there. Generally speaking, and especially for something as near-objectively mild, life'
  3. How long has this book been a thing for him? Expecting to make any decent amount of money off it is a bit pie in the sky, but so long as he's also got a paying 9 to 5 going, it's whatever. What have you two previously discussed as far as timeframes for life goals such as having children? It's one thing if you two had tentatively committed to getting it out of the way this year, and now he's reneging. Otherwise, I can't say I think he's definitely or even likely just using the desire to finish writing a book before navigating it along with his job and raising a kid as an excuse to drag
  4. lmao the balls on this guy Seriously, the man needs to go. Like yesterday. The longer you drag it out, the more complicated it may get to kick him out, especially with additional COVID measures intended to protect tenants / residents who aren't ***holes. It's undue stress for you and your family, and can very possible cause long-lasting damage in your relationships between you and your kids.
  5. Buying coins for 1000x the floor value of their legal tenure and grossly marked up from what the actual commodity backing it is currently valued at is about as boomer as a bad investment idea gets in 2021. Literally the worst of what both fiat and commodities have to offer. And no, neither my wife nor myself would assume a conscientiously defensible right to make the decision to drop $4,000 of our joint assets into any. That's hardly either of us lording over the other. Now in fairness to your wife, there's a lot going on where people are understandably concerned about the sustainabili
  6. Not seeing the issue. Honestly, I wouldn't have even reached out after the change in events. Would've figured my wife would get to enjoy a one-on-one activity with her sibling. Nothing wrong with you two doing your own thing one Friday afternoon.
  7. I'd argue the exact opposite. Someone gets half of your $50 million, you're still in pretty solid shape with your $25million. If you're someone who, say, puts 8+ years of work and debt into school and only after marriage ends up seeing the financial benefits of it, it's pretty reasonable to make sure those benefits aren't forfeited by default to a fully employed spouse and before any children have been introduced into the equation. In any case, this situation has very little to do with pre-nups. The guy's obviously still jaded. It's a toxic element which should be heavily considered
  8. Speaking personally, my life's too short to share what's supposed to be a home and sanctuary with someone who's demonstrably willing to inflict physical harm on me. And while tertiary to the risk of immediate physical harm to your person, it is still important to consider if ever you're put in a position to defend yourself, even an abrasion or bruise from restraining or shoving her away can be enough to get you at the very least considered equally culpable from a legal standpoint when matters are reduced to your word against hers. I can't tell you not to try to salvage things. Again, I
  9. Why should he have to gripe about work or "things that may be bothering him?" A lot of people prefer to share much more positive things, such as a construction or landscaping project gone right. Especially with someone fresh they're still getting to know. And admittedly yeah, it probably is a not-so-subtle "look what I can bring to the table" sort of flaunt. You either dig it or you don't. Fair enough either way. I'd worry much less on what problems or mundane everyday details he chooses to complain and overshare about. If you're not building positive and enjoyable experiences with
  10. I just keep saying what I was saying.
  11. I'd hate to pull the legs off a spider, but it really is bewildering how this comes to a head after several years and a child together. Moreover, being the dark when it comes to the finances of the person you share a home and child with (and possibly custody of another kid?) is likewise mind-numbing. I get you're not married, but having some vague idea of what kind of financial security your child would have should something happen to you or even should you simply lose your job is pretty ****in' barebones need-to-know. Sadly, how long you've been letting this dynamic run its course is
  12. It's a difficult situation. There's a fine line between "mothering" him and outright dismissing him. Speaking personally, the wife and I are among the incredibly privileged to essentially have our biggest economic consequence be having to work more from home. Our careers have been virtually untouched, and mine having in fact improved (by no effort for my part). Frankly, if I were in a position to where I was furloughed during the first lockdown, went back to work under very questionable circumstances, and then experienced yet another furlough during a second lockdown amid a double-dip rece
  13. Who initiated and got the first dates rolling to begin with? Literally anything that could be said about them not reaching out to you could be said if you don't or wouldn't have reached out to them. It's not a man's "job" to do anything for a strange woman, no yours to do anything for a strange man. If you want something, go for it. If you feel you're putting a disproportionate effort in, then let it go. That's a genderless concept. However, if say a man initiates and gets the first date arranged, maybe pays, passes the ball to you for the easy layup letting you know he's interested
  14. Paternity has been established, which is far and away the biggest obstacle to having child support ordered. From there, it's pretty much algorithmic. You need to go file for it. I just feel bad for the dude who was told the newborn kid was his for 1.5 years despite you knowing you were sexually active with another man in that time. I can't even imagine.
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