My husband is hospitalized

[Seraphim]

TW: Mention of Suicide

 

My husband has been badly picked on at work since May last year. His entire life since childhood he has struggled with anxiety on and off and has been medicated for about 25 years. 
 

Friday his immediate supervisor emotionally attacked him again and yesterday he told me he was going to kill himself so I took him to a major city at 6 AM to the hospital. He was admitted. At triage they asked him if he had a plan and he asked me to leave so I wouldn’t hear. 
 

He reached out to many friends as well for help and they responded kindly. 
 

I had an hour meeting with his indirect boss yesterday to advocate for him. 
 

I know he is in the best place possible to get better but I can’t help but worry for him . I might get to see him tonight . 
 

I am exhausted and spinning my wheels . I wake every morning at 3 and can’t sleep. I am carrying on working because I don’t want to sit and think. I am on the verge of tears all day. 
 

I am trying my best to keep my son calm and myself . It is a reminder of when this happened 20 years ago. 

[boltnrun]

I'm sorry your husband is struggling. You did the right thing getting him medical help.

I'm sorry you are going through this as well. Please make sure to take care of yourself as well including professional help. Lean on family and friends for support, they will want to help you. 

[arjumand]

I am so very sorry to hear this and I hope that our support in some way helps you. Remember that you need to take care of yourself at this time -- which can be very difficult -- but you can't help others if you are falling apart. 

Also, what is it with the military and the idea that picking on people is somehow productive? I thought we had left this behind, but apparently it just continues. Your husband's supervisor should be called to the carpet and put in his place. Disgraceful that this is a man who represents your country. 

 

 

[Seraphim]

5 minutes ago, arjumand said:

I am so very sorry to hear this and I hope that our support in some way helps you. Remember that you need to take care of yourself at this time -- which can be very difficult -- but you can't help others if you are falling apart. 

Also, what is it with the military and the idea that picking on people is somehow productive? I thought we had left this behind, but apparently it just continues. Your husband's supervisor should be called to the carpet and put in his place. Disgraceful that this is a man who represents your country. 

 

 

Actually it is a woman and she didn’t get the memo. 

[Jaunty]

I'm truly sorry.  I have followed your journal and know how much you have on your plate, and what you've been through.   

[Lambert]

I'm sorry. I hope he gets the help he needs. And you find some peace to get some rest. Have you talked to your doctor about some help for you? ❤️

[tattoobunnie]

Oh Seraphim, I'm so sorry. How scary and overwhelming. 

[Seraphim]

Aannnnnnd now he is Covid positive so I can’t see him. Universe i hate you . 

[Coily]

Dang, just a mess of everything right now. Hoping for the best for you all right now.

 

[boltnrun]

I'm sorry.

Is it possible for him to take a leave from work? I would imagine he would qualify.

[spinstermanquee]

Thinking about you and your hubby, Seraphim, and sending lots of positive energy and hugs your way...

[Cherylyn]

I'm sorry Seraphim.  Sending good vibes and high hopes your way.  I want positive things for you, your husband and family.

[itsallgrand]

I'm sending lots of love. Wish I could do more. 

[mylolita]

Thinking of you Seraphim - you’re a tough cookie. Look after yourself as much as you can. Best wishes and, I hope your husband starts to feel better soon.

 

x

[Seraphim]

I got to see him last night. They believe the Covid in his body is from our Sept infection as his virus load is very very small. So they moved him out of isolation and he can join the others . 
 

He seemed more upbeat than when I brought him in. They increased his meds to the max and added another. For now he is still classed as a class A patient meaning high risk of self injury and no privileges until he improves. He can have visitors but not his own clothes or his phone or anything he can harm himself with . 

[HeartGoesOn]

Sending good thoughts your way, Vic.  Take care, and be kind to yourself during this difficult time.

[Betterwithout]

Hugs and prayers for you Seraphim.  A tough situation to endure to say the least.

[Seraphim]

I saw him tonight. He may get out Friday if he continues to improve. 

[catfeeder]

Dear Seraphim, I'm so sorry that you and husband are going through this. Sending you loving thoughts.
Cat

[limichelle]

I’m so sorry! Sending much love and well wishes your way! 

[Seraphim]

So very sweet even in his own pain he was offering comfort to the very young adults on the ward coming to him . He said they could come to him anytime and offered them encouragement and listened. My gentle hearted husband. 

[Seraphim]

My sweetheart comes home tomorrow ❤️❤️

[arjumand]

Excellent news. 

 

[Seraphim]

I wanted to thank everyone for their support . 
 

He talked to his indirect boss last night and the harasser is no longer his boss. He got every concession he asked for except for one they are thinking about . I am hoping he will be ok once he is home. I am scared and nervous but I think he will be ok. 

[Batya33]

On 2/3/2023 at 12:15 PM, Seraphim said:

I wanted to thank everyone for their support . 
 

He talked to his indirect boss last night and the harasser is no longer his boss. He got every concession he asked for except for one they are thinking about . I am hoping he will be ok once he is home. I am scared and nervous but I think he will be ok. 

I just saw this thread now and I am so glad he is doing better and that his situation is better. I hope you are doing ok.  I cannot imagine.  Wishing you and your family all the best.