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You stay over her place, while he stays over at yours. Done! And she brings up the 14 yr old bit because after all this time, they have chosen NOT TO BE TOGETHER. She wants you, and chooses you. Some people know how to keep their pants on.

Um, nooooo. The only thing you owe her is the truth. That you will be not be marrying her. This is it. She won't change.

Narcissist are too shallow to care if you want them or not. You should have stopped at "for many years (we never met in real..." You don't need a pen pal.

I almost never talk about work with friends. But, I always ask questions! You could just tell him about your day at work instead of waiting to be asked.

If they think you are crazy, let the know you are going to record them doing it, and firmly say, "stop commenting on my body." Doesn't matter which gender; it's still unwelcomed harassment.

Your mom and sister don't have little children; they can get a second job. You are not an atm. I would take a break from them.

It's sexual harassment. Not normal, and not acceptable.

You aren't right for eachother. I see nothing wrong with him going clubbing with friends. Other than lying about going. But he lies, so you don't get upset. So either way, you aren't right for each other. I went clubbing each weekend well into my early 30's and loved every minute of it, and had a ton of fun. You have an entire lifetime to watch HGTV as an adult until you die.

Yes. People can spot self-loathing and hatred a mile away. Along, with thinking all women are just meeting you for a "free lunch" You are only 20; not sure why you feel you will be alone the rest of your life. I would spend this time focusing on what makes you happy and finding a bigger problem to solve outside of your own orbit, instead of driven by getting a girlfriend. When you do, your world will open up along with attracting different and new types of people in your life for the better. It takes 30 days to create a habit, and 90 days to create a life change. Stay positive and open minded, because negative never ever works.

That's not the point. You do realize just because a relationship doesn't work doesn't mean you weren't enough. It doesn't matter if you are the hottest or weirdest or whatever. Not everyone is right for each other. It doesn't matter if he wants to be your casual friend. He's wasting your time. You don't this kind of "friend".

He found someone else to hang out with. Please give this dude the heave ho from your life

Some men do. This guy, yes. "it’s hard in your late 20s, can’t sleep around like your early 20s." means I want to sleep around, but most women are pairing up at this age. If you really want to find someone, stop hanging out with a clown like this. A person you are casually dating is taking the time to get to know someone, and moving at a leisurely pace to do so, while maybe dating others. A person you are casually dating will never say, "I don't have romantic feeling for you," at any point. He already told you up front, that you will never be the one.

It only matters if prefer to be a placeholder I would stop hanging out with him; you are tunnel-visioning, meaning you won't be open to finding the right one for you, cuz you are hanging out with this clown.

If a dude makes you anxious, listen to your body; it's not love. It doesn't matter if he is dating someone or not. He's already told you, "doesn’t feel romantic." Which is weird, and unnecessarily He's hanging out with you because he's bored, and waiting for his next conquest. Dating or friendship should be this complicated.

It's only been a day. I'm old. So, I'm used to actually taking the time to get to know someone instead of the fast and furious constant contact in the beginning.

No one can read your mind. Tell him what you need. And don't be stingy on yourself! Your needs are just as important as his. He profits off of you if you didn't realize this just yet.

It's reads to me, "I think your hot, but maybe we are moving too fast. I hope you aren't trying on only get in my pants"

You were just telling us how horrible this woman is, and now you want her to eat your desserts... My MIL told my hubs how she wanted to punish me, right around the time she insisted I come over for dinner. No thanks. I would recommend therapy to work on your control issues.

You are already a part-time dad and spouse, since you have another dishonest life. Have you not seen any news since 2019? As an administrator, she is subject to endless Karens and Kyles, conspiracy theories how she's a "groomer," coupled with a culture of screens we forced upon our children to "remote" learn, along with armed security and prepping for mass shootings. And now, she's magically supposed to "turn on" for you, the dude who's been CHEATING on her for years now between two women. Maybe it's hormones, or maybe it's the fact that the dude who is supposed to be her rock has been CHEATING on her between two women. There is nothing romantic or sexy about this. It's time to call it a day. You are unfaithful, and she deserves better.

Oh, I know! But it helps people to learn to not take things personally. Some people try to amp up their kindness and stay in a toxic situation longer than they should have. Killing them with kindness won't sway the bar with someone who's deeply insecure or just flat out vindictive.

It's very easy to figure people like this out. 1 out of 25 people are sociopaths...hence why she responds to things wacky; it's because she does not know how to. Once you start learning more about how they are in the world, it's easier to spot them. Sociopaths are made; so while she may have started out cool, the sociopathy develops, so they are different as adults. But to clarify, when many think of sociopaths, we think of psychopaths and the scene in at the Bates Motel. But no, they are just ruthless people, superficially charming and shallow...and say things like, "it's great your dog died, so now you have space now to relax and be by yourself."

She's a psycho. You have done nothing wrong.

I stuck around in this one relationship far too long for a dog too that I was trying to adopt. He used the dog to jerk me around. So, I got my own dog, and she is now 14, so 14+ years and counting of tons of love. You may love the dog, but it's not yours, and you need to move on. Focus on getting a place that you can get a dog of your own that you don't need to eat a pound of poop to see them.

Then, find a new place. Either way, it's time to move on. If you had dated for years, I would say, maybe something is up. But after 8 months, she is letting her freak flag fly. She is telling you who she really is now.

You are out of the honeymoon phase, and are getting the real her. Get your own pup. None of them need a house, just good stimulation and exercise.