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No common law

He has no mortgage, no car payment, no debt. I pay him $300 “rent”, half of utility, I pay cleaning lady, and pay all of groceries. I also have all of my own expenses that everyday people have. Car payment, insurance, cell phone, medical bills. I think I could ask him about changing the ratio. My issue when I posted this was more of his lack of concern for my struggles. I appreciate all of you guys who have given your input

He has been married before and when we first met 10 years ago he said he didn’t want to get married again. It was a costly divorce. & to whoever wondered if my motive to be with him is his money, obviously not if I pay my own way. When I met this man I had no idea what his financial situation was because he doesn’t flaunt his money. He has no debt, not even a mortgage payment. He makes roughly $100k more a year than I do. We both work in the energy industry and depending on the market our hours change and sometimes furloughed. About marriage—over the years he has changed his mind about marriage and often brings it up, but obviously we have been in no rush to do it. Yes, you’d think we’d be talking about our finances together if marriage is the goal. I agree… Clearly we need to do better with communicating.

I live in his home and I pay half of everything. The reason I brought up marriage, is because I wanted to give more context on where our relationship is at. Yes, I will have to sign a prenup

For context I’ve been with my boyfriend for 9 years. We’ve been living together for 4 years. & he’s been mentioning he is going to ask me to marry him soon. He is a very well off man, he has over a million in assets and a couple million to inherited in the near future. I however am broke and and debt. I normally can manage my financial situation without any issues. I generally pay my bills on time and pay down my debts, but recently work has slowed down. Ive been earning significantly less. ive been very stressed with my situation and unable to pay my bills. He has noticed how stressed I am, but I haven’t wanted to mention what’s going on because I’m embarrassed. Hes kept pressing at me to tell him what is wrong because he thought it had to do with him and I. So I finally told him no, it’s not about you it’s me. I am having money issues and stressed. he didn’t respond and continued on as if I didn’t mention anything. Even tried to have sex with me within minutes after I told him, but I wasn’t in the mood. I’m stressed. That didn’t seem to bother him, he continued on with his day as normal. I am very upset and hurt that he didn’t seem concerned about my problems after begging me to tell him what was wrong. Even if he didn’t feel responsible or obligated to help monetarily you’d think he’d offer emotional support by giving advice or offering to help me find a solution. after all, he does supposedly marry me… Am I wrong for feeling upset that my struggles didn’t faze him at all? I feel so hurt, and feel as though if we are to get married what’s the point? We’re supposed to be a team, we’re obviously not.What should I do?