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limichelle

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  1. I had a friendship with this guy 18 years ago, just good friends we hung out a lot. Well we’ve been Facebook friends for years. We talk occasionally so when he said he was coming up to see me. He lives two hours away, I was excited. I told him we can meet for dinner. He said that sounds good. His mom was also a good friend of my moms back then. I gave him my address to pick me up. I figured he’s an old friend and no harm. Well he picked me up and suggested we take the dinner back to his hotel room just to relax and catch up on old times. It was getting stormy and we still can’t eat inside at most places because of COVID. I agreed and this is where I was stupid I admit. to make a long story short he raped me! I have reported him to the police that same day later that night. I even did the forensic rape kit. it’s a wait and see game as I await to see if they can arrest him. It’s right now a “he said.” “She said.” Situation. this happened This past Friday. I’m anxiety ridden, to the point I have trouble leaving the house. I’ve been set up for trauma counseling. I feel my trust is now shattered in the opposite sex. I’m now heavily guarded. I feel my heart is broken and won’t recover. I worry it’s just going to get worse from here on out. Like this was the string to break the camels back on my outlook on love. I was so happy and excited to get back into dating. I was working out with a trainer at the gym. Now I’m so scared and anxious my sleep is disturbed and I’m crying all the time. I’m not going to the gym because I’m frightened with all of these non rational thoughts. im right now being tested for stds. Me! Who the last time I had sex was back in 2012 has to now worry about STDs because he didn’t wear a condom. I keep replaying the idiotic things I did in my head. I just want to know if this gets better…..
  2. Okay I just read he goes to clubs with other girls. Why do you stay?
  3. My sense is if someone lies to you they are covering something up. It could be tiny or problematic. The only way to know is to ask. But you could also be over questioning the friendship making him feel insecure and that’s why he is lying, because he doesn’t want to upset you.
  4. Hi! I'm glad to read how self aware you are of your symptoms. That’s the first step to getting help. I would write these symptoms down and share them with a psychiatrist or psychologist. I wouldn’t worry about the medication because all medication has side effects. What you have to look at is will the medication improve your quality of life. best of luck!
  5. I used to have a rule with my friends when I was young. That if we both liked the same guy we both didn’t pursue. It was out of respect and it was a golden rule. It’s not worth ruining the friendship over. However that was if we saw the guy and liked him at the same time. unfortunately in your case it’s a bit different. It sounds like an unfortunate coincidence that you both happened to stumble upon him in different times without knowing it. So I don’t feel she is doing anything wrong. It hurts and I get that. But you need to ask yourself if this is something you can be happy for her. Because the guy really wasn’t yours and she didn’t steal him from you. If anything it’s two people who share a connection and you who has taken a liking. I say find another guy and one that’s right for you.
  6. Op, You know the amount someone messages you can be tricky because it’s not always adequate to their feelings. Just because she messages you less doesn’t mean she likes you less. If you feel though you are putting in more effort and it is one sided. I would advise you re thinking the relationship. Honestly it’s not healthy to have an uneven balance in feelings. You need someone who feels as much as you do.
  7. Thanks you guys! What I need is to really learn how to change my mindset and food habits. The surgery won’t fix that like you said bolt. I feel if anything I’ll have more issues. I do know some who succeed with surgery and then some who did horrible afterwards. I don’t want to do a risky procedure only to not know how to change my eating to not being able to cope. Plus I found out regarding the hunger hormones they cut out from surgery. People afterwards still have uncomfortable hunger and it’s even worse because the mind can’t catch up to the stomach size. The personal trainer is also well versed in nutrition, and so she can help me with both. Plus I like that she will be with me every step of the way on my transformation.
  8. I decided to cancel having the Bariatric surgery in September. I have given it much thought and it doesn’t sit right in my gut having surgery. I’m instead getting a personal trainer and going to loose weight naturally. I don’t think surgery is the answer. I found a woman trainer who is supposedly one of the best in my area. I have a consultation with her Tuesday June 29th.
  9. The only thing I would worry about is how he is with commitment. Seeing as how he’s never dated before or had a relationship. My concern will be if he’s really ready to settle down. You will be his first everything. On the flip side you should see where it goes but go slow keeping that in mind. However, I did date a wonderful guy and he was in his thirties still a virgin and never dated anyone because he felt being overweight at the time hindered him. He was very engaging and direct with what he wanted and his intentions. Unfortunately it didn’t work out as there wasn’t much chemistry. So this guy may be more settled then you think. The only way to know is to date him. I say give him a chance! We all have to start somewhere and who knows he may have been waiting for someone perfect for him to come along!
  10. Hi! What do you think is making you feel insecure? You trust him right? It’s just a group of friends regardless of gender no matter how you look at it. To be honest better a group then one on one with a female giving you suspicious behavior. Am I right? This all comes down to Trust.
  11. It’s good you recognize the situation is toxic. Now that you realize this please leave him, at this point it doesn’t matter whose the abuser. Just always leave toxicity behind. Life’s too short!
  12. Aww I’m sorry 😞 It doesn’t sound as if he’s interested. Focus on you’re healing and don’t give up. The right guy will be letting you know he’s interested.
  13. No definitely not! First it’s a thousand for school then another couple grand for something else. This is how scammers hook people. I would do a google search and background check on this guy. Better yet block and move on.
  14. I don’t know… but then I’m skeptical about long distance and when you go from fantasy to reality. I was in a long distance relationship with someone and when we met it was disappointing. Also if you feel she could be a scammer even though right now things are good, doesn’t mean you’re not far off from your gut instinct. Listen closely to it!
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