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  1. Good solid advice, thanks. I shall try and keep my distance more. It’s so difficult when you see them in a good light again to not lure yourself into questioning your own decision too. Must remind myself of how it all felt at the time though.
  2. Bait as in get into an exchange, as for the rest you could be right I likely did the wrong thing by staying (was trying to not be cold and not hurt her more) however I got more of an impression that she wanted to be reconcile like old times and be more than just friends - I could be wrong on that, it’s just how I felt.
  3. Oh gosh bit of a follow up to all this, the other day she text asking if we could at least still be friends, I said yes we can be friends (I didn’t want to be completely cold about it all) but had assumed it would be in time. Today she asked if I could come re-fit a fire alarm on her ceiling we took off (she had one above cooker that kept going off, has another in hallway), it’s her tenancy inspection tomorrow and she has no tall or guy mates so I agreed to pop by real quick to do it... got there and of course she had made herself look smoking hot (literally beautiful), then she’d bough
  4. Yep good advice and agreed, today I’ve felt a welcome feeling of relief now I’m thinking much more clearly. It’s definitely made it clearer what behaviours I will definitely be avoiding in future instead of hoping for the best!
  5. Thanks for your feedback everyone, much appreciated it’s helped me a lot.
  6. Thank you for this, I feel much better right now about my decision. Sad emotions can certainly cloud things sometimes! I’m sure I’ll feel rubbish for a bit but that’s normal. I really do hope that happens for me one day with meeting the right person to settle down with, that’s definitely the goal especially being 38. I wish the best for her too.
  7. Thank you, I needed to hear this was going out my mind hearing mates say all these things are normal.
  8. Hi guys, So a follow on from this, unfortunately yesterday I ended things with her after a turbulent two weeks and I must say I feel utterly dreadful and I'm not sure if I made the correct decision. A couple of weeks back it was reaching the end of the week and I had been absolutely run off my feet with work, working till 10pm most days, this is a very rare occurance (every few months) that it's this busy however it can last a week or two then I try and make time over the weekends for us and one weekday usually. This occassion we had met up for the Monday evening, and then I was tryi
  9. Brushing teeth first, not unreasonable, morning breath can be no fun but making him have to shower after showering the night before seems a bit OTT unless he stinks.
  10. All great points, and yes perhaps it may of been a dealbreaker to some people right away, I was willing to let it go and forget first time but the second time didn't help. I had hoped that eventually she would relax more once she knew me enough to trust me because I really enjoy the good things in our relationship.
  11. Good advice! Thank you. Can completely relate to the compensating for other peoples anxieties thing, I've had similar in the past and as someone that gets anxious themselves it's not a great mix.
  12. Thanks for this, all very good points and I certainly have some thinking and talking to do! I know that nobody is perfect including myself, hopefully it's just teething problems although seems soon to be feeling this way. We shall see!
  13. Thank you for your feedback, all very sensible advice. With the phone thing she wasn't going through it but she was looking at my phone when I opened whatsapp to show her something, then a little bit later questioned who it was that had messaged and why (mistakedly thinking it was a female name) and admitted she was worried I had been texting other women (without me giving her any reasons to doubt me). She was very sorry after and we did have a proper talk after that one, I explained that I understood her insecurities but I had gone through similar with an ex years ago and it's a red flag
  14. Hi, My girlfriend (31) and I (38) have been dating for just over 4 months now, we spend most weekends together as well as meeting once or twice each week so we've seen a lot of each other in that time compared to a lot of new couples (probably partly pandemic/living close too). My girlfriend has a lot of lovely qualities, she's very caring, thoughtful, beautiful and has a great sense of humour, she's also always up for going out and doing things which are all what I look for in a relationship as well as that spark obviously. The negatives are that she can be quite jealous and insecur
  15. Thank you everyone, really appreciated your feedback and will take it all on board moving forward. The next day she messaged me apologising for the wobble and seemed in good spirits again. Will see how it all goes!
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