crazycatlady80

Thank you for the replies everyone.. Yes it has killed it for me now to be honest, if I bump into him on Saturday I will of course be civil but the remark has put me off.. Also in response to the the thing about accepting drinks off strangers - I totally agree and wouldn't have taken a drink unless it was unopened/sealed.

A couple of hours away which is not the nearest but he had mentioned that of things progress with us we could spend weekends in each others towns regularly.. so would be semi long distance but I have a friend who was dating someone even further away and they are now living together so I don't see it as a total deal breaker

Hi This is my first post on here, I signed up after looking on Google for love advice forums as I am need opinions desperately. I am a young looking and acting 42 year old with a grown up daughter, been single for 3 years and not really looking but lately have been at the point of feeling more open to maybe meeting someone. So I get a random message on a music streaming app from a guy who has obviously seen my picture and looked at the music I liked, we have very similar music taste and upon following each other on social media found out we had other things in common too, he is 8 years younger than me but to be honest I seem to get on with slightly younger people as I am young ar heart. So I didn't initially fancy him or think he was that attractive to be honest but we have been talking quite a bit over past couple of weeks and was growing to like him but still being cautious until we have met in person. It turns out we are both going to the same festival at the weekend and he has a music stall there.. we said it would be perfect to meet there and have a little dance together. He mentioned he would take a couple of drinks in with him for me when he sets the stall up So I didn't have to spend ridiculous amounts at the bar which I found very sweet. Today I told him I love fizzy water and I prefer that over still and always have bottles at home.. he said he would take a bottle of that also at the weekend for me... then added 'don't expect *** from me every time I see you though, I just want to make a good impression first time' this has totally put me off.. I pulled him up on it and he said he didn't mean it in that way and he was just saying he wouldn't be bringing stuff for me every time to try and impress me... like why even say that? If I was a gold digger who wanted stuff bought every time he would soon work it out without having to lay down the law before we even met, and it's just a couple of beers and some water so seems like the chance of a nice dinner date one time would be out of the question if he is laying the law down over a few drinks... I feel like even guys who were just trying to get me into bed wouldn't say something like that but maybe I'm wrong, maybe I am over reacting over this remark but I feel really put off by it, we were getting on quite well before he said that and now I am thinking is that a red flag and should I even bother... i feel it is borderline insulting to me that just HAD to let me know not to expect much in future meetings and him trying to impress me by buying a couple of drinks was only for the first meeting. Thoughts please....