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Are women typically insecure about talking a lot?
Lambert replied to MrNobody1111's topic in Dating Advice
Hi @MrNobody1111 I have actually thought this and have said but rately... Go watch America Ferraro in the Barbie movie. She has a whole speech about the bs women are told from day one about every possible thing. so it's probably her criticism of her self not being perfect. There. I just explained women. lol. JK. did you think she talked to much? -
Weird stage of my relationship that I’m scared of
Lambert replied to Advice4888's topic in Relationship Advice
Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it, too. Don't put up with his $heet. -
Hi @Rita_S1996 I say congratulations! Its not how you wanted it, but you want the baby. The dad likes kids. You had a lot of fun making her or him 😉 I think people can be quick to judge and all... but be a good mom, and that's what they'll remember. It's shocking at first, but once the baby comes, it's a blessing. The good people around you will more than welcome the fun of a cute little baby❤️
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Help us define dating and having an affair
Lambert replied to RobertoPDX's topic in Relationship Advice
Well isn't this convenient for her? You probably know that a marriage is between two people and what they agree is acceptable. Her stance that she isn't doing anything wrong and therefore doesn't care what you think, is a single person approach to life. A married person considers their spouse, as they consider themselves. Now of course you're separate people and that is important but that's more about separate but together. For me, the deal-breaker would be the part I quoted. If my spouse doesn't consider how their actions impact me, what do I need them for? I can do lonely and dejected on my own. -
List your source. lol
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this is your own double standard that supports your own rationalization of why you were cheated on.
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Meeting my half sister for the first time
Lambert replied to Raddu's topic in Friendship and Friends
I would not bring up the dad or any opinions or judgments on his behavior. You are not responsible for the actions of your father. You don't need to defend or justify his behavior. I would also be careful to not promote the idea or ideas that your dad is some great guy to you and or she is lucky to be alive. As I gathered from your post, this is a delicate situation. If she asks you questions about your father or brings him up, let her talk and just listen. I think it would be OK to respond that you are not sure what to say as you are excited to have a sister and that's what you are focusing on. -
Boyfriend upset about me wanting to be there for my sister
Lambert replied to Kl1018's topic in Relationship Advice
This guy is too immature to be a parent. This is not someone you want to have a kid with. You have been together a long time, but it's been mostly as kids & young adults. As youths we mesh with many people and relationships can be easy because frankly, life up to that point doesn't have a lot of deal breakers. We are all students, we are all living at home, we are having fun. As we grow and age, our choices change and we grow away from our younger self. His ending this is a power play to manipulate you. I think this is a blessing. He'll be back but you should really think about what you want from a partner. Hiding or not bringing something up, is no way to have a relationship. I think you know this and too bad for him!- 20 replies
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I think when a spouse says, if you don't like it, you can leave, it is a very telling statement. It's manipulative to throw in the but I love you and don't want to lose you. That is also very telling. It's his way or the highway and that's not a good marriage IMO. Were things always this way?
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Yes. It does happen but you have to look at what is, not what others have done or what you wish it was. It definitely hurts and I'm so sorry. You might be nothing too him, so you better be something to yourself. Flip the script. You don't want him. He's not good enough for you. His family totally sucks. You can and will find better when you start acting in your own best interests. It's hard but it's your only choice, if you want a good relationship.
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Lean into this. You're not compatible with each other. He has a very strong guidance from his family on the expectations of his life. It's based on traditional roles and strengthening the family line. Some people have this. They have a strong family bond that dictates their behavior. They were raised in this environment. They can't just turn it off. Set yourself free from this. Find peace that you tried and if he were different, it would be different. but he is not and it is not. I hope you're health improves. You really do need to be with someone more on your page about what the expectations of a committed relationship requires etc. All this drama and stress is not good for you. Have to consider your health long term. This is not the relationship you want.
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Blow this guy off. His reaction is very odd. Next time have more tact and just say you have plans.
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I think the best thing is to let him go. your argument is from your perspective. If I had a child and they were with someone twice their age, I would blame the older person for having poor judgment and selfishly limiting my child's life. This is a long distance relationship. Have you ever met and do you ever spend time in person together? Think about what you really want for yourself. It's begging and fighting the inevitable really what's best for you, too? Look local and find a guy that you agree on being together. Sorry.
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Sometimes it's not the right person. we all go through times like this. As you know the saying goes, you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find one prince. Don't settle. That never works out well. In the end it takes two people with mutal interest to work out and it is rare. that's why it's special. Work on your self-esteem so that you can present yourself regardless of who is on the receiving end. Self confidence, knowing who you are and what you want are definitely attractive. Getting nervous is normal. learn to cope with it.
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This says it all. Save yourself drama and just drift away. fights are fir when you want to work it out. If there's nothing to be done, then move on.
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lots of good advice here. I agree... 5-8 hours! drive separately. come after him if you can and leave when you want. You are a couple and do things together but you're also your own people. You are an introvert that married an extrovert. Did something change? I wouldn't fight on this. I would own my experiences and actions. And then be OK with him doing what he wants. Do you still have quality time together?
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I think that quote about "if you love someone set them free, if they come back they are yours forever" Is at best a romantic way of justifying a toxic on and off relationship. You have to look at things more logically. Are you in high school and immature? then sure a break up and make up might happen. Are you in college and sowing your oats and bad decisions might happen. Are you a grown adult trying to find a life partner with a person that is putting in the same? it is more of a sign of incompatibility
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you're doing 👍 great
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yay! definitely ask her out... asap.
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Are you saying healthy people look for healthy people?
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Then don't. Here's my thought- I would let it go but don't forget it. like you could. but my point is if all of this... Is all true.... give him one benefit of a doubt See what happens. Enjoy a happy relationship. no one will react to things so quickly in a moment exactly the way you would. Maybe he thought he'd say something but then you didn't bring it up. Maybe he did tell her he is very serious about you, the proposal and all.
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I don't like the you're hot comment either. It is too aggressive, sounds insincere and gives the woman on the receiving end nothing to say. If you want to approach women in public, you're strategies need to be more in the moment than canned comments. For example if you want to say something in the grocery store, strike up a convo by asking for advice on what you're buying. like- excuse me, do know if this ice cream is keto? lol Do not approach people in parking lots. That is scary as hell for women. Recognize the difference between a male experience and a female experience in this world. Women are more guarded, more likely to think this person is out to harm me, be afraid and flee.
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My boyfriend doesn't value my opinions
Lambert replied to Bella Daniels's topic in Relationship Advice
Apologies without changed behavior are just words. At 5 months in you have to look seriously at red flags and this is one. Ask yourself this, if he never changes and you always feel this way, is this the relationship for you? -
Should I be worried about my boyfriends comments about our friend?
Lambert replied to JosieC's topic in Relationship Advice
I would not like this at all and dump him. its such a turn off to have keep explaining something that is so incredibly obvious. He is either clueless in the emotionalintelligence category. I would hate that or he's an immature little boy that enjoys making you feel insecure to make himself feel secure. I works also hate that. I dated someone with a similar situation with his female friend. I cringe every time I think of me putting up with him. ew.