quark Posted September 12, 2019 Share Posted September 12, 2019 So this is kind of an offshoot question from a recent thread I made (Here: https://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=561672) where my boyfriend and I had a big blowout fight. It was entirely my fault. I feel like a piece of crap. I am seriously questioning why I am the way I am. But, ultimately, he said that he values me and values what we have, so he is not planning on going anywhere. Things have been rough since then. I'm sure his moods change as he processes everything, and he may even have a change of heart. Anyhow..the reason for this thread is that I need advice on his birthday. It's a big one (40) and coming up soon. He is a big fan of an out of state football team, so much so, that he goes to that state regularly to attend games. He didn't go this year. That team happens to be playing here at home on his birthday. So, I thought it was a no brainer to get two tickets. Two fairly decent tickets. I wanted it to be a surprise, so in order to deflect answering what we were going to do that day, I reached out to his brother to faux invite him to his house for a get-together, but instead we would go to the game. I'm not sure if this would be viewed as selfish? So in the message I told him I didn't want to impose on anything he may have planned and that I still would like to get together with him that weekend. (He is super busy with a family). Well, at the prospect of a party over at his bro's he actually says to me that it's actually something he would like to do. I think he really wants to connect with family due to some losses recently. Then he says that he wouldn't feel right going to a game without his brother anyway. He doesn't know I have tickets yet..but we had thrown around possibly going. I'm thinking of reaching out to the brother and seeing if he wants my ticket. And also trying to formulate some casual get together with his friends at a nearby bar. I'm not sure what he would prefer. And again, since I effed up I am not sure he wants to spend time with me like that. Even if it is a month away. Should I reach out and set up the game tix with his brother? Should I stay on course and still pretend we are going to see him when we are actually going to the game? Should I just try and sell these tickets? Link to comment
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