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Everything posted by SarahLancaster

  1. It's frustrating to have a friend who is a constant talker and doesn't let you finish a sentence before she runs down another rabbit hole of narrative. It's especially frustrating when you really like that person otherwise. People who are compulsive talkers are generally not aware that they are being annoying, and they generally don't take offense when you intrude upon THEM. I finally started saying in a loud voice, "Let me FINISH." That generally shuts her up for a minute.
  2. If you can't afford your own place to live, you shouldn't be thinking about having children. Children cost a lot of money. Where were you living before you moved into this bizarre arrangement? You should move out until you're both gainfully employed enough to have an independent lifestyle.
  3. We live in the Florida Panhandle, and nothing here is locked down. I haven't done anything for New Year's Eve in many years. We're usually asleep at midnight (until the neighbors' fireworks wake us up).
  4. It was creepy of him to ask you that. Are you kidding me? What did you say to him?
  5. Any chance of moving your parents to Florida as well? I think you should pursue your dream to move where you want, as long as you keep in close contact with your parents. Are they capable of skyping or facetiming?
  6. She avoids the discussion? Don't be a doormat. Tell her that she has 30 days to find a new place. People can't take advantage of you unless you allow it.
  7. Having your own space will be worth everything you have to sacrifice to have it. Trust me on this. It will improve your mental state and give you a new outlook on life. Go for it.
  8. It was a picture of a wolf howling at the moon. I don't know why it doesn't show up.
  9. [ATTACH=CONFIG]11667[/ATTACH] Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!!
  10. Take the paint to Home Depot. Even if you have just a little bit, they can match it perfectly and give you a gallon of paint. Sheesh.
  11. I have two friends who found the loves of their lives on eharmony. I think the more you pay for a site, the more likely to get quality dates.
  12. After 6 months, I would expect you to have met his family. Why hasn't that happened yet? There's no point worrying about his sisters being friends with his ex. They have every right to interact with her and like her and think she's beautiful. That has nothing to do with you. Stop checking her page. If your boyfriend doesn't seem still attached to the ex, there's no reason for you to worry.
  13. I agree with catfeeder. What you perceive as 'passive' is actually not caring enough about you to pursue another date. Move on.
  14. It sounds kind of fishy to me. No one who is falling in love and enjoying the other person's company gets 'terrified' of letting that person into his/her life. There's something else going on here. I think you should ask HER what she wants to do about it. Perhaps spending two weekends together in only 10 dates is rushing things on your part. But definitely ask her what she wants you to do.
  15. Don't set too much importance on what someone likes on social media. It means nothing. She should have been honest with you from the beginning about wanting to be single, instead of making up a lot of excuses. But people do that sometimes when they don't want to hurt someone. She's not trying to reach out to you. It's over. Don't humiliate yourself by reading into things that aren't there.
  16. I think men do it to see if the woman is going to be an easy lay with no strings. Maybe he was hoping you'd be that person. But apparently you gave him the sense that you wanted to be courted, and that's not what he wanted. That's my thought on it.
  17. Cookie, do you really want to be with someone who can't make decisions for himself?
  18. Tiny, maybe you unconsciously invite people to unload their problems with you because of your sympathetic nature, so I wouldn't be too concerned about his mentioning the ex wife. The 1.5 weeks of no contact is nothing. People have lives, and some people aren't eager to move quickly in an online dating scenario. But the stabbing scenario would scare me the most. I would definitely want to investigate that more thoroughly before I invested any more of myself in him.
  19. Sometimes the squeaky wheel gets the most oil. I can understand why that would be annoying.
  20. Your brother sounds like a real blowhard. But as the others have said, he's not the problem so much as your inability to say no. You knew what type of person he was when you turned over the money, so you can kiss it goodbye. From now on, when he's having a crisis, just tell him and your mother that you don't have money to throw away.
  21. There is something to be said for taking things slowly and getting to know someone for a long time before you make major life commitments. I hope in the future that you learn to recognize red flags earlier. I'm not sure he's a narcissist, but I can say that both of you were impulsive. Maybe you need to work on your impulses?
  22. As long as you keep looking at what she's doing on social media, you are prolonging the grief period. The 'let's just be friends' line is a load of bovine manure. You can't be friends as long as you still have feelings for her. Yes, cut her loose completely. Your healing will come much sooner and you can get on with your life.
  23. I'm not sure I know what she means about 'her place.' Is she financially dependent on you? And your 'realities' existed when she met you. She knew you had children and yet she engaged in a relationship with you. How is she not adopting and building herself in your new country?
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