mrees0077

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Well... Most of you know the situation i've been going through over the past 2 weeks... for those who don't please check my previous posts... She rang me on Saturday and basically said no, she didn't want to see me and there was no hope in hell. We spoke on the phone for an hour, at one point she did say she wanted to meet up with me but changed her mind. I left it a while and rang her back... i told her i was going to be at a certain time at a certain place and that i was going to go away for the day, and that if she wanted to, she should be there at that time... i didn't give her a chance to get in a debate... and i said "Yes or no?"... she said yes! Took her to Brighton the following day (i.e.: yesterday) and we had the most amazing day together!!! Went to the beach for a picnic, went to the Aquerium, went on the Pier and went for dinner in the eveing!!! By the time we had finished the picnic on the beach (which was the first thing we did) and we were lying down on the beach, i knew we were back together. We were having such an incredible time... i turned round and kissed her... she then kissed me back... the rest is history!!! We are back together as a couple!!!! So yes we are back together... but i know this is just the beginning and there is still alot of work to be done, i am so happy we are back again!! Deep down i know she is the one for me and i suppose destiny will tell us one day... but i know she is the person i want to spend the rest of my life with!!! Thanks for everything, from all of you!!! I really mean it!!! I suppose the only thing i can say is... yes the people in eNotalone has helped me so much, but at the same time trust your own feelings... because no one knows you or that other person better than you do!!! I will definitely be back (hopefully helping others and not me being the realted subject) and will keep an eye out on other peoples stories as i would love to help them out too!!! Take care and God speed!!!

I would call her either the next day or at the most 2 days later... that way you will show that you do like the girl... Trust me, girls love attention!!! Don't be like in the film "Swingers" where they say at least 5/6 days... by then the girl might have met someone else or might think you just want her because you can't find anyone else!!! Call her tomorrow or Sunday... if its already been a couple of days... call her now!!!

I know what your going through... i'm on the same boat but at the stage where i have contacted her back and i'm at the stage where i am waiting for her (after speaking to her 2 weeks after we broke up) to contact me (she promised she would). Yes, these people are right... give her space and room... but at the same time use your own instincts, you know her best than anyone and as we know everyone is different and there is no set patten in life on how to get a loved one back! So yes, maybe give her a bit more time and then its up to you what to do next... you know her better than anyone!!!

Hi people!!! Well as most of you may know my girlfriend is contacting me tomorrow (according to her) when she gets back today from her mini-holiday from Dublin. Haven't received anymore text messages ever since Wednesday evening... so don't know if she truly misses me or if she fancied knowing if i was okay and not hurt (i still stand by the fact that why bother if that was the case, being on holiday and since she was only going away for 3 days and was going to contact me anyway when she got back)... and no, i'm not going to contact her till she contacts me! So yes... she will be contacting me tomorrow and of course i will keep you posted either way. To be honest my hopes of getting back with her was low until she text me the other day on Wednesday... now i'm confused and don't know where i stand... Well anyway, thanks for everything people and thankyou enotalone. This won't be the last time i will be posting here, depending on what she says tomorrow... if she calls!!! So i hope to come back to you with good... Please pray for me that it works out between us in the end and we do get back!!! God speed and as Schwarzenegger said... "I'll be back!"

Hi!!! Lots of you will probably know my situation... if not, check my previous posts... I'd taken everyones advice... wait till she calls you on Saturday, don't do anything more from your part. I'm cool with that!!! Last night i had the most unexpected surprise... i was sitting down in the pub before the football game started (8pm) and i had a text message from my girlfriend saying: Hows u? I was completely shocked... i did not expect anything what so ever from her, especially since she said that she would think about us during her holiday in Dublin and will call me on Saturday!!! I replied back saying: I'm okay!! How is Dublin? You 2 having fun? (has gone out there with a female friend) I didn't hear anything back... until i got home around 11:15pm where she replied back (3 hours later) saying: Good thanx I then sent one back to see what she had been doing and if she had been to the Guiness Factory in Dublin, she replied back saying: I was in a whiskey competition at the factoty and won a certificate 4 official whiskey taster! I then sent one back saying how jealous i was she was now an official whiskey drinker (i love whiskey). I then asked her how her clothes shopping had been getting on?... but i didn't hear anything back... an hour later i sent one back asking what her and her friend were doing (i.e.: if they were in a bar or clubbing) and that i wished i was in Dublin. Didn't hear back from her, it was now 12:20am... Is this a good sign? Should i not read too much into it? And is she thinking of me as she said she would and maybe even missing me? Please i need advice, i am starting to get confused...

Hi!!! I've been reading everyones post over the past day or so and whats worrying me is that everyone is saying to me "...well if i were her, i would be scared of you!". How do you think that makes me feel...??? I'm trying to win back the love of my life and people are saying that she is running scared... fantastic!!! Now what?!?!???! I'm worried enough for her phone call on Saturday plus she is now in Dublin with a mate of her's... she said she won't pull anyone, but one thing is saying and the other thing is doing... So many worries in my head! Yes... i will wait till she calls me... i promise... even if she doesn't call me on Saturday... I'm just really scared that she will end up destroying my heart because i will be devistated!!! When i looked at her into her eyes on Monday and asked her if she would think about us getting back together... i truly believed she was saying the truth when she said yes. I suppose the best thing i could do, as you all say, is wait... distance makes the heart grow fonder... i pray this applies to this situation. One thing i can say... i've not been certain about many things in my life, but for once it feels so right and certain it is meant to be!!! Any advice?

I would call.... you have nothing to loose!!!

Hi!!! Well some of you may not my situation and some of you may (previous posts)... but to be honest the advice i need her is totally new and has slightly moved on from the situation i was in... so any advice would be good, especially from women!!! Anyway... so i sent a card to my girlfriend last week to say how much i miss her and how sorry i was for hurting her emotionally... She is on holiday this week (off to Dublin with a female mate for 3 days) so yesterday (i had a day off) i rang her at 9:30am (yes i know what your thinking... you should leave her to contact me) and we talked till 12:30pm... 3 HOURS ON THE PHONE!!! To start off with she didn't want to get back and we did shout at each other... she said she would meet up to hand back my things but that's it... she had said that she was going to go to Dublin and meet guys and have fun with them.. and put the phone down on me!!! I then rang her back 2 minutes later (this is all in that 3 hour period) and she was a bit more calm down. She said sorry and that she didn't mean what she said about going with other guys because we only had finished 2 weeks ago and she didn't want to get involved with anyone, especially as she is not that type of girl (that i do believe)... Anyway, after that we started to talk about other stuff and we were joking on the phone with each other and laughting together... in the end of the 3 hours i said to her if she could please consider about us getting back together... she said she didn't promise me that we will be while she was away in Dublin she will think about it and that she will call me on Saturday to talk when she gets back... I did ask if she wanted to meet up aswell but she said no... all she wanted was to talk on the phone. Later on during the day (yesterday) i rang her up to see if she would like me to pick her and her friend (female) from the airport when they got back on Friday... she said it was no longer my responsibility... i asked her where she was and she said she was in a shop very close to where i was, so i asked her if she would like to meet up and she said yes. We met up and to sart off with she would back off everytime i tried to touch her... but then we started walking side-by-side and i grabbed her hand... she didn't seem to mind. We sat down and i carried on holding her hand... we spoke about us and to start off with she was saying there was no us but then (just before she went to catch the bus) i asked her to look in my eyes and asked if she really was going to consider about us getting back or was she just saying it to brush me off... she said she WILL consider it but didn't promise that we will... I asked her for a kiss but she said no, so i kissed her on her cheek and said that i will love her forever... she said she would call me on Saturday and got on the bus. So what do you think? Is she saying the truth or is she stringing me along?... i mean if it wasn't for that initial point of contact that i made on the phone, i wouldn't have seen her (she accepted to see me) and she wouldn't be calling me on Saturday and considering our future together! What do you think?

Here is the update with the card i sent... any advice? Well its Sunday night and still haven't heard back from my girlfriend... (read my previous posts if you want to know the full story) she would have got it yesterday afternoon or today at lunch time at the latest (if she would have gone out straight from work and stayed over at a mates house last night)... It's hard to say... one way i think, well... if she was going to tell me to f*ck off she would have have told me or call me straight away after reading the card to get me off her back... but on the other hand... she might just ignore it and think that if she doesn't reply back that i might just give up... who knows?!?!?!?!?! One other thing... on the card all i said that i missed her and that i was sorry for what i did (also on the front of the card it said "To the one i love..."), but nothing about meeting up or having another go between us... she might think that im just expressing my feelings but not really wanting to have another try... i don't know?!?!?!?! What do you think? How long should i wait until doing something else? Will she reply back even if it is to say no? Or will she just ignore it...???

Well... I would say that the third time for you 2 would be the charm, cause if that was wrong then girls would only go out with 3 guys in their whole life... (don't think so!!!!)... i would be more inclinde to say that the 3rd time back together will be forever (the charm)!!! I hope that is true because as i said i am on the same boat, not only have we broken up twice before but also my girlfriend had only been with one other guy before, i'm her second... i pray we get back together... forever!!! Also... i agree with what you say about "experience a broken heart in order to be a better lover"... he or she who hasn't doesn't know what love is!!!! About the e-mail you want to send... i would keep it short and sweat, that way a girl can think about what you said instead of you pouring out your heart and you doing the thinking for her... I'm writing a card (as i did a letter before) to my girlfriend tomorrow and this is what i'm going to say: Dear babe (changed her name for babe), I miss you so much... i'm sorry for hurting your feelings on the bank holiday. I hope you have a good week off from work, you deserve it! Love me xxxxx P.S.: Thanks for the cheque. You didn't have to pay it back, especially the cd... that was a gift. As you can see, to the point, letting her know that i still love her and miss her but without giving to much away so she can starting reading into what i said. Like i said, let her do the thinking, don't do the thinking for her!!! By the looks of it she still loves you, so fight for her but with caution and don't go over the top, but still show that you love her and miss her, thats the hard part!!! Good luck my man!!!

Hi!!! I know how you feel because i am in exactly the same boat right now!!! Me and my girlfriend have broken up twice... i'm praying she will give me a 3rd chance to!!!! All i can say is that... if you think she still loves you, even if it is deep down... then go for it!!!! If she doesn't love you then the thing gets complicated... but if you love her and if you think she loves you (don't lie to yourself) then go for it... you have nothing to loose. My girlfriend... on the day we broke up (just over a week ago), when we started arguing she said she still loved me, infact she said "of course i still love you"... after 2 hours she got more mad and then told me she didn't love me (but i know thats not true because she'd said that to me before in similar circumstances)... no one can fall out of love in a couple of hours or days!!!!... especially if you have been together for some time!!! What i'm trying to say to you is... your the best judge of yourself and of her... if you truly still want to be with this girl, you truly love her and you think that she does love you... then fight for it (with care and not over doing it)... nothing in this life is easy, not even love!!!! Good luck!!!!

Hi!!!! Well... in the end i have decided that maybe instead of a letter i will send her a card... The reason for this? On Tuesday night i received a cheque from my girlfriend (6 days after we broke up) with the money she owed me... but she still has my things round her house. She was quite cold with her message in the letter (see previous posts). Now i know if i don't acknowledge the fact i have received it, especially as i know she hasn't got that much money, she will think i am a b*stard!!! I want to try and get her back, by ignoring it i don't think i will be doing any good... so... instead of the letter that i was going to send her tomorrow... i was thinking that i would send her a card for her to recive it on Saturday (couple of days before she has a week off work). The card i was thinking of sending her would have the title at the front like: Thinking of you or Missing you and inside the card it would say: Dear Baby (substitute baby with her name), I think of you all the time or I miss you so much (depending what it says on the front of the card, i.e.: not repeat what it says on the front). I'm sorry for hurting your feelings on the bank holiday. You know where i am if you want to contact me, love Me P.S.: Thanks for the cheque but you didn't have to pay it back, especially the cd... it was a gift. What do you think? Anything i shouldn't say or forgotten to put in?

Well... Just be yourself... as if you were talking to a friend but in a polite manner... maybe instead of your friend, as if you were talking to your Uncle or Aunt... but be relaxed, girls sense us guys when we are nervous!! Thats the only and best advice i could say... Good luck!!!! P.S.: Don't ask her out straight away the minute she picks up the phone, talk to her first for at least 5 minutes...

I feel for you... I suppose destiny is the only thing we can hold onto... who knows what can happen around the corner!!! If i were you (and if you still love her) i would say how hurt you are and how much she still means to you... who knows she might re-think her decision of getting married with this other guy!!! You have nothing to loose by doing so!!!

Hi!!! My girlfriend broke up with me a couple of months ago (read my previous posts if you would like to look into it) but we got back 2 weeks after i worte her a letter... We broke up again a week ago (as before, see my previous posts if you require more info)... as before she said she didn't want to see me again. For 2 days i tried to call her and text her but when she did reply (and not ignore me) it was cold and she brushed me off. Yesterday (6 days after we broke up) i got a letter... well, i say a letter, more like an envelope wih a flat card and cheque saying: Hi, here is the money i owe you. Just incase you thought i forgot. No love you or take care or anything like that... Does this mean its closure from her point of view? I say that as she still has some CD's, cloths and DVD's round her house that belong to me... (she even borrowed a CD the day before she broke up with me which she still has) Or does it mean nothing and am i looking to much into it (i.e.: carry on with my quest and hope in getting her back) ? I could do with some advice please!!!!

continue!!!

Okay... My girlfriend broke up with me 6 days ago, tried to contact her over the first couple of days but got pushed away (via text) then i have left it... for now. We broke up 2 months ago, sent her a letter 2 weeks afterwards and we were back 3 days after that!!! The last time we broke up was because of little things... mounted up... too much!!! This time round it was one big thing (cancelling a weekend trip she was looking, the day before). Because text messages are not working and she doesn't answer the phone (although i haven't tried that in 4 days) i was thinking of sending her a letter as before. The thing is she is off on holiday next week for a week (don't know with whom or where... planning it last minute) and i don't know if to send the letter before she goes or after she comes back???? If i send it before she will be able to think of what the letter says while away on holiday... ... or if i send it to her after she comes back she might have had time to miss me and then sending her the letter by surprise. The thing is, as i stated before, before it was lots if things so i thought leaving it 2 weeks was ideal... but this time round because it is just one big thing, maybe if i left it too long she might think i don't care about what happened?!?!?!?! I don't know, i could be wrong... what do you think? Shall i send the letter Thursday (for her to get it Friday) or shall i leave it till she gets back? Please... need advice!!! Thanks!!

The thing is she is 21 and i am 26... she's only ever been with one other guy before and that was for 4 months, we've been together for 11 months... She can be very insucure (even with her looks, she could easily be a model) and needs attention to make her feel better. Because of that anything bad i might say (even if its a joke) she will times it by 10 and make it much worse. We've spoken about marriage...etc. I know she is the one for me and deep down i think she knows i am the one for her but doesn't want to say to me so not to give me that satisfaction that she will be an easy ride (in the none biblical sense) because i know i can have her. She basically wants me to work for it and not think i have her rapped round my finger. The day we finished it (in the evning), that same afternoon she told me she still loved me... If she still loves me, and no one can fall out of love in half a day especially after 11 months (even though in 6 hours she changed her mind), there must be some hope, even if it is small....??????????

Do you think there is much chance of us getting back together... even though we have been through this once already?

Hi!!! My girlfriend and i broke up 2 months ago because there were liitle things that had been mounting up that annoyed my lady (my fault). She dumped me saying there ws no hope in getting back together... i wrote her a letter 2 weeks later and she rang me up immediately asking me to meet up to talk. We met and then we got back together, promising her i wouldn't act like such a d*ck and promising her to her to put her first instead of myself all the time. Anyway... Everything was going fine (the odd little disagreement here and there, but nothing big)... until a week ago where we were meant to go down to the coast together to spend the night together. I'd been away to see my family in Spain twice in August and didn't take my girlfriend because she was either working or there wasn't enough space to put her in my familys home (plus she couldn't speak spanish). So as she hadn't been on holiday since we got back from Cancun in June, she was really looking forward to going away and spending some time together. What happened was that i was due to have a job interview the next day (after our night down the coast), and i knew about it 2 weeks in advance and i thought it would be okay (as she really wanted to do things during the day and go to bars in the evening), thinking the interview would be a 30 minute thing. But... 2 days before i found out that the interview was going to be very intense and that i had to do some reading before hand. I then thought that going to the coast would not be the best thing... I told her at lunch when we went out that it was best that we left it for the next weekend, she was devastated, i could see it in her face but she took it well and said okay. I told her i would have to read all day (day before the interview) and that thats why i couldn't make it. Anyway got to the day before and instead of revising all day, i only did 2 hours then spent the rest of the day with her infornt of the TV. She was not too pleased and asked why we had to cancel our day to spend the day watching TV. I tried to explain to her also that i had to be physically and mentally prepared for it and going out all day and night was not the best thing. So, went down for the interview (which was next to the coast) with her, i dropped her off in town so she could go shopping and i went off. Picked her up 45 minutes late as the interview was much longer than i thought and thats where it all started... She was in a mood with me and woanted me to drop her off home (instead of being with me) as she was tired and did not feel 100%, so i did. Tried to contact her all day and she ignored all phone calls and text messages (i got through once on her home number but was very cold and didn't really want to talk to me, was a very quick conversation). Next day i rang her on her work number (which she has told me not too, but as she wasn't answering her mobile...) and was not impressed, spoke to her and she said it was over... finito!! I text her asking her to speak to her and she said that she would call me at lunch. Instead i went to her work... she rang me and i said i was outside her work. She came out and she seemed okay, she said that she still loved but didn't know if she wanted to be with a jerk like me (for cancelling Brighton when she was SO looking forward to it), said that she would call me tonight as she didn't know what she wanted and needed some space. We kissed and left it like that... She asked me not to pick her up as she could manage, but i still went to pick her up (she had told me 1000 times in the past not to pick her up but ended up having a go at me saying that i should have tried to at least surprise her and pick her up) but didn't look too impressed. That same day i had sent her some flowers to work and when she got in the car i gave her a CD she really wanted. She quite liked the CD... but when driving back to hers i asked her if we could try sort things out and got very emotional saying that what she wanted was not flowers and CDs but to have fun in her life and i didn't give her that (referring to the cancelation of going to the coast for the day). I dropped her home and she still invited me in (her mum was in) and asking if i wanted something to eat. In her house she closed herself off, refused to listen to me and stated saying to me (in an angry voice) that she didn't love me (thats after she told me she did that same afternoon) and to leave her house... so i did. For the next 2 days i texted her. First she said (the next day) that we would talk in the eveing after work on the phone and i replied back saying that if it was okay for me to book the Saturday night away so we could sort things out. She said no and for me to realise that we were no longer together. The thing s that the next day after that she was due a pregnancy test as she was 2 weeks over-due!!! I asked her that i really wanted to be there for the test but initially said that it was none of my business now. I said it was because i love her and she replied back saying sorry for being so harsh to me but that anything i say won't change that it is over... I rang her the next day asking her if she had had thetest and that i would still like to go with her, i left a message as she didn't answer the phone. Found out at mid-day via the text message that it was okay, what she said was: "Hey, i've taken the test. Came out negative, was worrying over nothing" When i got the message i tried to contact her straight away to try and talk to her but didn't pick the phone up. I left a message to her saying that i was very happy on the results and that if we could meet up during the weekend so that we could talk and sort things out... she didn't reply back. That same day i sent her a txt in the eveing saying the same... she replied back 2 seconds later (via text) saying: "No thanx. Its best that we leave it" I made the big mistake to text her back late eveing (2am to be precise) saying that i knew she was angry with me because i had cancelled out trip away but that i loved her... etc!!! and that i hoped she could give me a chance so we could sort things out as what happened was a one-off thing because of my interview. She didn't reply back, that was 2 days ago... Last time we broke up i wrote her a letter (2 weeks after we broke up) and that worked, she rang me up and we were back together. I'm thinking of doing the same now but the only problem is that she is off on holiday in a weeks time (she still doesn't know who to go with, as i couldn't do it and doesn't know where to go). So do i send her a letter before she goes so she can have time during her time off to think about the things i have said in the letter or do it after she gets back? Can i get her back? I mean last time was lots of small things, now this time its one big thing... i knwo she does love me, no one can just suddenly stop loving you after 3 days after being together for 1 year and after the previous days she was saying to me how much she loved me and how much i meant to her... Do you think the pregnancy thing had any influence in her dumping me? But if it had why is she still doesn't want to see me now she knows the result is negative? Also last time i left it for 2 weeks before i wrote a letter, do you think i should do the same or is it not necessary as the situation is different from before. Please help me... i need you advice!!!! mrees0077 P.S.: I will post the letter (THE LETTER) to so you can have a look at what you think and suggest any changes you may think is necessary.