Tj williams

hey guys i have posted a couple of posts before and you guys help me and i thank you. i got another situation. though well kinda well here goes. ok me and my ex broke up a month ago. oh course i tried to get back with her in the beginning then i quit talkin to her, then we started talkin again and then stop and then we did it one more time and now im at where im at now. we stopped. i live in virginia beach in my old house my parent use to own and there about to sell it so i lived there for a year. me and my ex agreed that we need to get ourselves together. i was going to go to texas to do so. and she thought it was a good idea becuase since my parents live there they could support me and all yea. i choose to stay here and take care of myself. we got into an aguement for me not going and i asked her why she cant be satified with the decsion i made. and she just refuses to do so. then she stopped talking to me. honestly i think thats messed up. i told her how i feel about her and stuff and she knows how a feel about her. and i know how she feels about me. but i don't think its right for her to do that. when i went to her house today i asked her why she stopped talkin to me and she said becuase she doesnt want to see me struggle. i didnt know what to say after that. but i did tell her well i don't see why you just cant be my friend and suppost me on my own decsion. and i told her that was going to just go to texas. i thought that would make her happy. tonight when everything was going down about me moving i made a last minute call decision and decided that i didnt want to go. i could'nt do it. i just didnt want to go. i think i could handle myself down here. so thats what im going to do. and with her im just going to do nc so i can get my life together and not worry about her for now. does anyone have any opinion on my story and what you think about how she doesnt or no why she doesnt accept my decision? i love her to death i do but i mean if im not going to be happy about doin all that then im going to do what makes me feel happy.

hey i have a weird situation and i don't know what i should do. ok my ex and i started talkin again on thanksgiving and for five days straight. we have kissed and cuddled up every night. she told me that she was being dumb for breaking up with me. it was stupid of her. i asked her how she felt about me and she told me that she really likes me. she was suppose to go on a date with some guy that asked her to go bowling with her. and she said yea. but she ended up staying with me on her free will and i asked her why she didnt go and she said becuase i wanted to stay with the person i like. sooner or later she started calling me baby boo and stuff like she use too. and i think it was a good sign. so one night she was suppose to come over but she didnt and she said she will tomorrow. and then she mentioned that i need to talk to you . so i hope its a good thing. the next day came and she told me sorry again i cant make it ill come over tomorrow and i was like i guess whatever you had to talk to me about wasnt important but its fine. and i told her that you have a goodnight with a smile at the end. so i keep feeling weird about this but thats me being stupid. i think i should wait becuase it seems like waiting works. if yuo guys could help me with your opinion i would greatly appreciate it thanks

hey how are you doing? i hope better then me haha but anyways. im sure you want it to work and you want to continue to try but from what it looks like maybe doing nc is the best choice. you know the only way to heal a broken heart is to give it time. he said that he is kinda happy that you guys are doing this. thats a sign of just letting him go.

hey how are you doing? yea i think there is always a chance what you should do is when you get a chance ask her if you could talk to her alone. just let her know your serious . i mean if she still acts the same way then you should move on cuase i think it was brave enough for you to at least admit how you feel and what you did. she would be a jerk for not understanding. but thats how life is. its about taking chances. good luck

wow i just read that whole thing and im sorry to hear what just happened. in my opinion you should get out before its to late. yea you want your son to at least grow up with a dad that cares for him, not saying that your ex doesnt. you need to forget about him. yea its going to be hard cause you have a kid but relize this. all you have now is your son and let him be your motivation to move on and find someone who would treat you and your son right. someone who will take responsibilty and be a good role model. give your son something you never had. take that as an opinion. good luck!

yea i experienced this a couple of times and hell does it pisses people off. did you ever ask him why he gets so defensive when you ask things? i mean if he gets defensive if you ask that the tell him you need some time to yourself and find someone who would listen to you more like a friend. and talk to them about it. maybe giving you guys time to yourselves will make him feel like the need to treat the relationship like a relationship. i mean for one to work it takes two.

In a guys persepective, which is me, i see why some guys do what "relationship coach" said they would do. they are insecure. me personally i couldn't act like someone else to attract something i desire. i coulnd't live with myself. i mean i would want a girl who would love me for who i am and nothing more. i would'nt feel the true love without being myself. but back to the topic relationship coach got the main idea on your example.

hey things happen for a reason. all that just happened with you sounds wrong i bet but you know its what you wanted to do if you couldnt be his friend anymore becuase it hurts or anything then let him know just next time stop yourself before it becomes worse and it will hurt more. learn from your mistake thats all i can say good luck and hope you joy comes into your life

hey meeting someone business wise is not bad but what you said about who you have tickle wars and etc etc i would rather find a girl like that instead of a business person so that i can do business outside and yet go home to a beautiful woman that i love being around with and wouldnt have to change anything about me to be with that person. thats just my philosophy haha

ok i can tell you that i forgave someone for the same thing. even if you friend loves you to death and you love her or what not, isn't she suppose to support you? thats what best friends are for. she needs to realize that not every guy would feel the same if someone forgave them. it just makes you a stronger person. im sure he feels guilt no matter what. but you did do that right thing. about mine my ex girlfriend cheated on me. i mean i never would of open myself up i would of never let something like this happen but i saw something in her which made me feel me, but she was drunk one night and cheated on me but i told her face to face that, i forgive you, * * * * happens yea no one perfect an honest mistake. it helped me move on. but im glad your doing well now. _______________ Im not god or anything, but i forgive you no matter what you did.

well its your first of course everyone haf felt something like this be glad that it wasnt just him who helped you stop doing the bad things it was your par taking too. i mean if yall love each other then you guys can get through anything together. but what ever your mother said why should it matter? i mean it does i mean thats family but see if you can talk to your mum. _____________ Just tryin to help with thought

yea its possible i mean unless she did something which doesnt deserve to be friends but me i don't know im not god or anything but i can forgive. but until your heart is sewed back up from your ex then it will be hard but if it is no problem

yea i guess i see what you mean. thanks for the advice hope

so i won't feel depressed i think about her 24/7 but i stop showing it cuase ijust relize that i showed it but it just makes it worse. so i just hold it in. i tried to get with her but she just wants to be obligated to herself and theres nothing i could do so i can wait but she doesnt want me to. becuase she said feelings change but i know mine won't but hers? don't know

ok i know i want to get over this girl i was dating for five months but there is just something in me that won't let go. she left me cuase she wanted to be obligated to herself. she likes me and all but she just had a bad relationship in the past and she decided to be obligated to herself while we dated for five months. i mean i understand her i do. but i still have feelings for her. i havent talk to her for four days now but yesterday she send me a text saying " well i see that your ignoring me thats fine, but i want you to know (not that you care) i will always care about you wheather you like it or not.... you can stop talking to me or anwsering my text but don't let anything in your life go down hill.. your on the right track... well i guess this is good bye have a greatnight... and a wonderful life.... im always here for you to talk to so your always welcome to call... ps you are stillan amazing guy in my eyes" i want to be with her i do but i don't know what to do so what should i do can i have some advice please?> thanks

just things happen that some people can't explain. i mean i have girls tell me that and i feel that same way you do and all i can do it wait and fix myself to become stronger.

haha no problem i try and do my best but i hope for the best of you both good luck and thank god

well i think i messed trying to talk to her about us and then i just left and didnt say by or anything. i tried to call and apoligie but she didnt pick up so i left her a message saying that don't want to lose you if anything at least lets be friends but i never got a reply back so i think i just going to wait for her to reply but at the same time do my thing

well you shuld have a long conversation with her when you get a chance. maybe its better to do it in person or you can call her. talk about the situation and see what you guys could do to some how maybe even out how you guys hang out. maybe the reason she question it is because she starts to get use to hanging with you alot and then one week you don't see her as much and she wonders. i don't know but a good conversation with her could help you guys figure things out and answer any questions that you want answered, the people in this forum will always be here to answer questions. try this and see where it lead.

i mean you love her obviously but does she feel the same way and if she does can you to work something out so you could work around being able to see each other more so she won't have that feeling

are you alright with driving all the time? do you know if she is willing to work with you?

what do you mean by 7 years down the drain is that what she think it was?

hey if you guys love each other then you two should find a way to work it out. it doesnt work with one person two people have to work together to make this relationship work, go visit her at work when your not in school. if you really love her try and if she loves you she will try to. but don't force it. just be prepared for anything.

hey ok i came into a situation that i don't know how to face i mean i partially do but then i want to know answer kinda, yea confusing but yea im a 20 year old male and i was dating a 18 year old woman and she is a senior at high school. she broke up with her boyfriend that who she was dating for two years. about three months later i came accross her some how.i saw her working one time and i decided to talk to her. she was everything i was looking for in a woman and i was just so happy i was honest loyal trustworthy she was the same way. she was so honest, trustworty and loyal too, and she was as goofy as me and i could act my self around her and be even more happier. of course in any relationship people argue and we argued over stupid stuff . and i don't very often yell at her for anything im soft spoken and kind and stuff like that. i barely get mad but when i do i do get mad. we gone out for about 5 months and then she just started having doubts about us and of course i didnt want that to happen i really found what i was looking for and she felt the same way and she was so great to me and i was the same to her, but she ending it becuase she said she was not ready to be in a relationship. i was heart broken of course and i looked and talk to everyone i know for advice. about two weeks later we hung out sat night and watched movies at her house. i ended up staying the night and stuff. i layed next to her and fell asleep. we woke up in the middle of the night and just started making out. the next day she drop me at home so she could go to work. she called me asking me to go to blockbuster to see if she lost her licence there so i checked but i didnt find it. i called her to tell her that i didnt find it and then i mentioned that if your bored i can come up there to keep you company and she said i am always welcomed. so i did and i end up working with her cuase it was very busy. while we were working she talked to me about us like what she think the reason why she broke up with me and she said is that she doesnt want to be obligated to anyone but herself. so we closed to together and then she kissed me. when we were leaving we were soppose to go to her dads but instead she end up dropping me off at home and i was fine with that cuase she only told her dad she was coming.so she dropped me off. so about 30 minutes later she called telling me that her dad didnt pick up when she called and that when she was laying in her bed alone at night she was thinking about me and how she missed me. so i came over(big mistake ) i ended up spending a night again and we kissed a couple of times. she mentioned a couple of times that we should stop kissing and touching and all that and i said ok. so i stopped. but we ended up kissing again. the next day she dropped me at home and i said have fun at work and she was like ha ok. so i didnt talk to her till around eight at night. i wanted to talk to her about us so i called and ask to talk and she sounded like she didnt really want me to and she said she didnt want me to come up to her job to talk to her. i said ok and then i asked her why not she said becuase it was cold i said what are you serious i was like ill be over there in a little and i hung up. i got there and she seem like she was mad about something but she wasnt. so i tried to talk to her about us but she keeps sayig she just wants to be obligated to herself and i said you can do that, so why is it stopping us from seeing each other i mean if you love me like you say you do and i love you then why not? i don't know what to do. i just don't understand why she wants to be obligated she mentioned something about she was obligated with her ex for two years and she just wants to be obligated to herself. i was like ok so i want to wait for you then, and she said she doesnt want me waiting for her. that i don't understand eaither i know love is not a garentee but i thnk she is worth waiting for but she doesnt want me to. i dont know she doesnt like know one else but i cant wait for her? what should i do?

only time can heal you.