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  1. krnswte143
    my ex and i been broken up for few months now. we been talking here and there. we slept once too after we broke up. i ask my ex what happens now? he said he would try again get back but he is afraid things wil happen again. he wants to take things slow and start out fresh. he still wants to see me and go on dates. but why do i feel like its not gonna work? what if we both meet someone else... i guess it'l just be fate then... he really cares for me n stuff... do u guys think this will work out if we take things slowly. we both agree to take things slow but my question is...will it work out? will they b a chance for us to get back together again?
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    hey thanks for the reply....well i never contact him when im online... he sometimes instant messages me and thats it. i hardly start convo.... so do i ignore him completely? yeah i know.. i need someone who wants to be with me and makes me happy.. im planning on moving on and im not gonna sit around and wait for him... i mean we can talk or what not....but i guess thats it.. cus i dont wanna get confuse anymore......its hard to understand or to deal with.
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    Confused...need advice? my bf and i been broken up for 2 month now and we been in contact on and off briefly.. we met once last month before i left for the country.. it wasnt a good meet cus seem as though he acted as if he still liked/missed me...and try to make out with me...but i didnt let him or anything. i ask if he would wanna be with me again and he siad possible in the future and i ask why? he said he needs a break now. ( we been through a lot of dramas in the relationship. lots of downs than ups) we had our good times too...but we argued a lot. and also he wants to make cook for me on my bday... i dont know how to deal with this? has this happen to any of u guys? and how did u handle it? -c0nfused-
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    aww sorry to hear ur feelin down...i am too........thanks for the reply on my thread......it is hard i know.....im guessing u guys broke up too? its hard now but it'll get better soon......hang in there......and have a safe holiday!
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    Hey, I just need to vent out some stuff on here. Sorry, it'll be long. If you have time, please read and give some advice. thanks in advance! As many of you guys know my story, my boyfriend and i broke up a little over a month ago. The reason is because he was living with an ex girlfriend. ( & with other people) They went out 13 years ago. They were toghether for between 3-5 years. She was his first love and first everything. Anyways, I was having hard time in this relationship. I couldn't accept it. It was bothering me and made me uncomfortable. We argue/fight about this a lot for a whole year. We would argue every 2-4weeks. The things they do i question them. They were way too close! I felt like 2nd best. Honestly, that isnt a good feeling. I keep feeling he chooses her first than me. I could be wrong but that is the vibe he was giving me. There were a lot of reasons they gave me for me to feel this way. I wont get in too much details. He has told me that nothing was going on between them and that they have no feeling. He said this but gave me some reason to doubt him. I became jealous and had trust issues. I started to snoop around his cellphone,emails, and chatlogs. I was literaly going out of my mind. I never done this before and this is my first and last time i'l ever do it. I just couldnt give all my trust to him and her. Even though nothings going on...The fact that they live toghehter.. I couldnt trust the situation. We stressed out each other a lot. One day, he even pushed me once. That is something I wont forget. Our relationship was going down. It is sad because we did had our happy moments. We really love/cared for each other. We treated each other with good care. But this one big problem ruined everything. I do miss him and I do want to be him again but with what I went through It makes me think otherwise. So in a way I am glad we are not toghther. It gives us some time to think. I am going through some hard time now with all the dramas i went through and the break-up. Seriously, i hate my life now but im gonna try to be strong and fight these and change better for myself. However , I do have a problem. I keep giving and chatting with him. Sometimes i wil send a message and sometimes he will send messages and we'l both end up talking. It is so hard! I know i shouldnt but i get so tempted. I do need some help on this. Thanks all for listening I just needed to vent out again. I feel much better now
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    yeah its very hard cus i keep trying to talk to him.....i mean a week ago we got into a small fit......anyways i ask him if he could have lunch w/ me nxt weekend for his bday......u guys think its a good idea.....( just to let u know im not talking or hes not talking to me now)
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    ok, wow. sorry ur going through hard time......i myself went similiar thing too with my ex. its confusing right? ok, seem to me shes stringing u along which is bad she needs to make her mind up because she is giving u mix signals...obviously, she isnt sure.......so do this.....talk to her and let her know what ur feeling.....tell her where u both stand and what she wants........and after that u'l get ur answer and u''ll know what to do I guess I'm also scared of being alone... since it took me so long to find her... how much longer will it take me to find another? u will find someone soon. everyone does...it takes time....i know its hard...im going through same thing too and boy! its driivng me crazy too.....but please hang in there ! and heres a big hug for u!>
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    Ok, to make story short. my bf and i broke up a little over a month ago... we were in contact briefly on and off. things kinda got mad we started to argue few times then we stop talking and end up talking again........i see my ex online every damn day!! i get so tempted to IM him or what not.... and at night time he is online too! I started my NC on wed. I didnt talk to him all day but at night time I send him a funny link and said it was cute and I didnt start any convo. Please help me stick with NC because that is what I want. Its for the best for me and him. But sometimes I feel like talking to him . He doesnt try to talk to me now ( im not sure why?) We kinda got into an argument a week ago cus he wanted to sleep w/ me but he said he was sorry when i said i was sad n really hurt n disappointed. After that, we stopped talking. Few days later, I contacted him! I really need help cus i keep breaking it. What should I do? i dont want to seem desperate or crazy or anything...... thanks!
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    yeah, i know. thanks. i hope this will work out well.
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    Bf and I broke up a little over a month ago. We were in contact on and off briefly. Things got bad cus we started to argument and fought. Last argument was last week when he planned on taking me to dinner and sleeping with me afterwards. I felt so sad n disappointed but he said he was sorry. I didt talk to him for three days and I imed him on AIM on monday and tuesday. It seem ( i might be wrong) as though he didnt want to talk? I dont know. Im trying to remain in good terms with him. I know he isnt the bad guy . He treated me so good and showed he really cared for me. So, i dont know what to do. Any suggestions? RIght now, im planning on not talking to him for awhile until he talks to me or not.
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    my ex n i broke up a month ago and just recently he planned on sleeping with me cus he was horny. when i ask him and he was honest about it and that hurted my feelings. he said he was sorry so that was the end of it. why would u want someone to use ur body cus of their needs? why would u wanna make urself low and make someone treat u like a piece of trash...........that is wrong.......i told him straight out i dont wanna b used. i told him i been through it once and i dont make 2nd mistake twice. of course i want to do it.......why do it with someone that doesnt want to be with u and love u? yeah he says he cares for me but that isnt enough....u wanna share the moment w/ someone ur with and u love.....thats how i see it................i know if i called my ex he will come over in a flash............its hard to resist.........but hey ur not gonna die cus u dont hav sex................be a man and dont go n do it.
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    yeah,i know. guess im just sad. maybe he doensnt care how i feel about it or what not. i'll move on. hes a confusing guy. all my friends said that.
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    hehe thanks yeah i thought about us getting back but then again with the situation it makes me not feel good of getting back u know? but now , i know what i need to do. i'll be strong and stop talkng to him.. If he tries to contact me i will simply have to say in a nice way i am not ready to talk yet.
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    awww thanks flower!! that is so sweet of u! i know i will find someone who will love me and put me first not second. when i was in that relationship i felt like i was being 2nd best.. just the vibe i got. he did treated me good and i appreciate that..but i dont know after wat happen 2 days when he was horny and wanted to sleep with me.. i mean i understand hes a guy n he needs it but i was very disappointed in him for planning it and stuff. wow huh! at least he was honest with me . but anyways now, im not going to talk to him. ill move on now
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    FWB never work out in the long run because one or other will build emotions and feelings. TRUST me ive been in that situation myself and guess what my bf broke up with me a month and he wants to sleep with me and i siad NO! why would u let someone use your body for their own pleasure? I think that is so wrong! right now I am so hurt that my ex that i love wants to sleep with me only.............not a good feeling i tell ya. well, i hope everything goes well ..but maybe u should start lookin for a relationship if u are ready
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    you are totally right! i agree with u too. guess in his situation he couldnt move out cus he didn have money or what not. but yeah even though he treated me good and stuff.....situation itself was not meant for me to handle. i am glad i am out of it too. yeah i wasnt his first priority. but anyways, things happen for a reason and now i can finally move on with my life without him . sad to say but i really wanted to remain in good terms wit him so i can be friends later or so. but now, i dont see that happening. maybe after awhile i am cool down i will feel differently but who knows. now, i know is that im gonna move on with my life. i dont need this crap and drama. i know i am a good person. treat ppl nice and how i want to be treated. i might not be the smartest or prettiest girl but i know i am a good person. i will never do anything bad to anyone or change. but i will change for myself only to be a better person and learn from my mistakes.
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    Ok, this is what happen. sorry i wasnt clear. Im a bit emotional now. we were chatting me and my ex. (this has nothing to do with his ex) we were like talking about random stuff . friendly convo u know.. and then he started to flirt with me and i did too. i didnt take it seriously u know cus i know he was playing around. so anyways, convo got too deep. he said, he wanted to come over and pin me down and for me to take him to the candy shop or what not.. and then he said he got paid and he wants to take me out to dinner..i mean come one..and i said sure but im not gonna do anyting with u.......so i told him upfront. so anyways that night i had to go pick up my car at the bodyshop and he said we'l see maybe this saturday if he isnt doing anything with his buddie. i said, we'l talk about it more later. so yesterday morning, i had to ask and he was honest he was planning on sleeping with me. he said he was sorry and that he was horny. i am so hurt by it now. i dont know what to do. so anyways, i told him im not gonna talk to him for awhile because i dotn wanna go through this cycle again.
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    My bf and I broke up a month ago. We really cared for each. He treated me good and so nice. I treated him good too. We started to argue a lot because he was very close to his ex (went out 13 yrs ago) and lives with her and her sis/bro. I couldnt handle it. so i became jealous n had insecurites. We were in contact on and off. Few days ago, It happened. I didnt expect him to be like this and I try to understand. He planned on sleeping with me. He said he was sorry that he was horny and pled temp insanity or what not. I cant believe he would do that. I am so hurt and disappointed. I wanted to remain in good terms but now its messed up. How am i ever going to over come this? I gave him my all i treated him with soo good care and now I feel nothing. I feel as I lost hope in myself. I dont know what to do. I told him im not gona talk for awhile and said bye. he said he care for me and wants me to be safe and call him for emergencies. what did i do to deserve this? its my fault i kept in contact with him . so now i am stopping all contacts with him. i cant deal with him anymore. he said he is over me completely. how can someone get over someone so fast and he isnt seeing anyone too........its been only a month and hes already over? i guess i didnt mean anything to him . gosh, i just hate him soo much now. I dont know wat to do. Im so hurt now.
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    aww thats so sweet of u thanks! yeah, im doin a lot better than few weeks ago.. Im finding things to do to get myself busy... i work out on weekdays..weekends are the hardest but i go rent movies n jus hang out....sometimes w/ a friend...... funny thing is i even posted on here....few days ago... ex n i were chatting...and then he said his neck hurted and needed a massage bad...i said, ok go ask someone and he said he wanted Janella's Massage...i was like uhm ok lol.' u think he stil has feelins for me?
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    yeah i will tell him soon..jus tryin to get my thoughts together now...its pretty coo that we could still carry a regular convo even though we broke up......i mean that is pretty rare to find these days..... but it is still hard for me...... i went online this morning and he send me a message saying he post a thread on yahoo answers and told me to check it out...we talked about it and stuff. and he send me a site where it says" to avoid arguments w/ girls" and then he said its so true. i added and said " we argued alot. come to think of it we both were being childish" haha and he didn say anything......i wonder why. so i just change the subject. so iono......if i cant take it anymore i might have to say stop talking to me......wont be easy thing to say to someone u know?
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    yes, it was very long ago but he did gave me few reasons that he puts her "first" than me....and to tell u the truth i dont like that feeling. i dont think no one wants to be 2nd best......i mean he could see it differently than me but that is what i feel. yeah i dont know bout getting back w/ him.....i do love/miss him very much but his surroundings i just cant accept for some reason....... i mean maybe since we both realize things (if he did) maybe things wil be better now........but it is to soon to figure out....just been a month.......maybe later in the future.....if its meant to be and he is moved out or not........maybe we'l could try again. im trying to find ways to get over him and the situation...........but its hard.....guess i gotta be strong......but only problem is if i dont talk to im for few days....he ends up talking to me......so wat should i do about that?? and now he is online and he isnt sending no messsages? werid if you ask me...
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    im 26 and he is 33. i dated him for an year and 3 month. he dated her for maybe 3 or 4 years. well, i dont know. he said different things to me when i asked him. he said maybe he wil move out when he has money to buy a house. or maybe he wil live there and maybe she'l move out.
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    we broke up becus we were havin so much problems.. we argue so much......reason is.....MAIN REASON is......he was living with his ex gf.....(they went out 13 yrs ago) and other ppl too.. although they say they are friends.....i jus have so hard time accepting that.....and i was uncomfortable....i became jealous.....and had insecurities.....my ex would always say to trust him..nothings goin on......guess i just couldnt.....and we jus argue every few weeks....and got worse n worse.....towards the end...we became unhappy....so he ended it .. and i agreed...but now we jus talk on and off.. now. i know we both stil love/care for eachother.... n stuf....iono about him.. i would go back if we can solve the problem...unlikely we probably wont...cus i wil never be ok w/ him livin with an ex....it'l cause problems...jus as it did when i was with him.......if he moves out..then i might but who knows.
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    ok, werid thing happen but im not gona take it seriously. since today will be my last time i'l talk to my ex for now....so we were just chatting and then he said his neck hurts and he needs a massage bad....so i said, ok, ask someone to give u......and he said i want janella's massage parlor of course i didnt say anything and i ask him why does his neck hurts n he said he rode his bicycle for a long time or so... it probably doesnt mean anything but.....doesnt seem like he isnt over me yet?
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    yeah i'l figure out when or how to tell him again..........i would like to stay in touch with him though but then again i need some time away too. gosh, its really hard. i'll have to make up my mind fast.
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