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my boyfriend and i broke up few days ago.. anyways, saw each other on weekend to get my rest of our stuff. said our good-byes and gave each other hugs. does this mean its completely over? can we talk again later in the future? after we are both over each other? we had too much problem and i went a lil crazy so he broke up it up and i agree too...it was too much. so it was a mutual breakup. i know it will be hard but i'll get through this. i know i will. i will be strong. do u think hes thinking about me now? do u think hes goin through same thing as me? we both really care/love each other.. it'll take time to get over?? plus, his bday is next month.. is it ok if i wish him a bday ( like sending him an email?) or on christmas too ( just sending an email too) were not talking now for awhile. but i want to be nice enough to wish him a happy bday and christmas.. is that ok?

hey its cool. he broke up with me cus he couldnt take it anymore ( my issues) and i was planning too because i wasnt myself in the relationship.. i always look for small things from them... it wasnt healthy..... i guess i was paranod n a bit crazy.. he said he doent want to be with me now and that he is happy without me now. maybe in the future we could try if we are both single. well, there were few things ididnt like about them but who knows.. maybe it was my paranoia... cus he said nothin was goin on but i kept thinking so.. mabye he wasnt the right guy for me..

i dont know i would like to know that too.. my bf and i broke up few days ago!!! so im wondering myself too.. can ex's get back toghhetr? and try again? is it possible? good question!

My bf broke it up online few days ago. We had too much problems. We argue/fight every month. It wasn't healthy. It stressed us out both. Main, reason of the arguments are ....his ex girlfriend. to make story short. they live toghther w/ other people. I been struggling with it for awhile. I thought I could handle it I gues I couldnt. I saw him yesterday for the last time. I had to get my stuff. We said our good-byes and we hugged each other. I saw him walking away and he turned around! Anyways, Im so sad right now. I know Im going to start the no contact from now. I see him online everyday at work. So for now, I blocked him for awhile. I know its silly but right now im in a stage of emotional break down. Right now, I keep thinking of getting him back.. I know its impossible for now since he doesnt want to be with me and he is happy without me for now. He said maybe in the future we could try again but not now. He needs space from me and the drama. Also, I violated his trust by checking his emails all this time. Jus cus of the situation i was in. I guess i was going crazy. I regret doing these things and arguing to him. He is such a nice,caring, sweet guy i ever met!!! he showed me he love n care for me.. it is soo hard to let this go!! How am i going over this?!! Please advise!! Will i ever get to talk or see him ever again????

Hello, My bf and I broke up few days ago because we were having way too much problem. Reason, He was living with an ex girlfriend and other people. They went out 13 years ago. So, theyre just friends and nothing more. I wish i realized that sooner than now. I was having problems with them. I didn't like the things they did or she did. I guess I was jealous and my mind was only thinking about that. I guess I didnt see what was in front of me and now he is gone. We were so happy and loved. I pushed him away. I knew it would happen. It was bothering me and I couldn't handle it. I stayed because I love and care for him. He got tired of me and my issues. I dont blame him. I went a litttle crazy. I started to not trust him/her. I snooped around a lot. I became the crazy girlfriend. I cant stop crying. He treated me so good to me . it is so hard to let this go!!!!!!!!!!!!! but we had many problems.. and i didnt really like his ex. this is my longest relationship i was in. so its hard for me. I was planning on breaking up with him too because neighter one of us were happy toward the end. I guess I was afraid. He did it for me. He ask to break up. I am sad that this happened. I know it was for the best. I went over yesterday to get rest of my stuff. We talked a little bit and I cried of course asking him back that I will change for good. He said no, not now. Maybe later in the future. He said that maybe i'll find someone better than him. He said he is happy without me for now. I know he isnt over me yet.. im sure with time he wil move on. When i went to his house. he invited me inside and went up to his room and talked. and I saw our pics on his comp still.. and gifts n cards i gave him too... We said our good-byes and we hugged each other. I saw him walking away and he turned around and it made me happy. It was soo hard to do this but I had to. I know he still love me n care for me in deep inside of him. He is just sick of tired of the drama and disappoiinted of what I became or done to him. I really do love him soo much and care for him. I really want to try again later though. I know I could be a better person. I have a feeling that he will come back soon. Do people after breaking up get back toghther again? If so, How long do u wait for that to happen? months? years? If it was really meant to be.. it wuold happen right? Should i give him few month to see if he talks to me again? or Should I just move on?

hey, i actually went over my ex house today to get rest of my stuff.. was goin to wait few month but theres no point. were not gonna talk anymore for awhile. i went there. he still had our pictures up on his room. he still had my gifts n cards in there too.. but anyways, i talk to him and said that im sorry this has to come to an end and that hope everything goes well with you and etc.. i cried n cried and even hugged him n cried . but he made up his mind and he dosnt want to be w/ me right now. he needs some time away from me and the dramas. same goes for me. i need time away from it too. he said maybe in the future we could be toghether again. if any one of us dont find anyone. but i hardly doubt that will happen. he said u never know. i said i was very soorry to snoop around and how little crazy i went . iguess i wasnt handling the situation good. since he lives w/ an ex ( went out 13 yrs ago) and other ppl. guess i couldnt handle it. anyways, its over betweem him and i. i am very hurt n sad now. but i ended it nice. he walk me to my car. we both gave each other hugs and said our goodbyes. cute thing was, he said he was about to cry and that i should go now.. and he walk away.. n i stayed in my car and he turned around. that made me feel good so now i could move on peacefully. maybe in the future, we could remain friends or not. but for now. i'll give him space and myself too.

thanks yeah, its very hard.. im trying to not dwell on the past as much now.. maybe it was for the best in my situation. we both werent happy but i was trying to be more better and think everything will be fine.. but i guess i was wrong. i guess its all over now betweem me and him. i know my mistakes i made in my part and i'll work on that for future relationships. i gues its very hard to believe it just happened but then again i knew it was coming because i was thinking of breaking up too. so i think this is good. right now, he and i are not talking at all. as he says for me to leave him alone now and so i am not talking to him. i do not even want to try to. i am hurt myself too. i need some time away from all this too. maybe in the future, we'll become friends or something. i keep thinking he'll come back to me cus i know he really love/care for me.. but i cant hope for anything right? i do have a feeling that he'll come back. i mean we were so happy and in love with each other..although the problem was there and never solved. i gues he got tired of my issues and problems.. and plus i told him about snooping around.. i guess he jus needs time away from me now. i dont blame him. i wish i could change back time and make thing better.. but who knows.. if there is such thing is fate.. i'l let it decide for me.

yeah i know. it was my fault to do that....gues my emotions took over.. he was livin w/ an ex , that went out 13 yrs ago or so.. its long time but i was having trust n jealous issues. as he said too. guess thats why he broke up w/ me cus of my issues and too much problems.. i guess i pushed him away for good this time. i ono. i feel half regret and half relieved.. regret, cus i really wanted to try n see how it goes cus i love him.... relieved , that i wouldnt be in this drama anymore. maybe if its meant to be.. he'l contact me n see how it goes . but for now he doesnt want to deal with me.

thanks !! i know i will get through this but it is very painful cus i really loved him. im sure he did too.. things were going good cus i keep havin problems w/ him and his ex ( they roomate with other ppl ina house) we fought every month.. we were happy before.. jus few hrs ago i was lookin at our pics we took.. it put a big smile on my face.. cus it was good memories.. i know i'l get through this cus i been in this situation many many times cus i know the process hehehe.... its jus this was my first longest relationship... so it is a bit painful u know?/ it'll be hard n werid that everyweekend from now i wont be spending it with him anymore... but i'll get over it. i'l find stuff to do. hehe. it takes time. time heals the pain one another thing....my ex said to leave him alone... and he doesnt want to talk to me for now for ahwhile...maybe few month later.... do u think hes really mad n hate me? or what? he aslo said he doesnt want to be wit me for now. and that it is over? im confused...

yeah i know i also feel so horrible checkin his emails all this time. hes probably piss about that too.. i mean if he really did love me he would forgivve me right? maybe he is very disappointed.. i would be shock too if he was reading my emails but i would forget it about cus i havve nothing to hide.. this relationship was bad for me cus it turn me into a jealous person n had trust issues i knew i had to go out but was afraid... im glad that i am out now..

thanks for the comment.. yeah i know it is very painful.. im sure i'll get throgh it.. im gonna misss him a lot.. maybe he'l miss me too. its so sad that it happened like this.. u learn from ur mistakes..

As i posted similar one as this.. I want to add more details on it. I am feeling very sad now. I couldnt eat for 2 days now but I am getting a little better. I knew our relationship wouldnt last long. I guess I told myself maybe it was possible to be toghether in the long run. We were having too much problem in 1 year. Jase ( my ex name) he said he doesnt see any future with me because we have too much problem. He says what will it be like 10 years from now. There will be more problems as the relationship goes. He doesnt want to be with me now and doesnt want to talk to me now. He told me to leave him alone. he said we could be still be friends and talk again later in few month. I'm sure he feels very sad about this too. I wish i could change back time and make things work out good. i was having a problem with him living w/ an ex. ( and other people) things werent going good. I guess i was jealous and had trust issues. I know my issues and I will work on it. I even snooped around because the situation I was in. I even told him that. he wasnt very happy about it. he even said, somene close to him spying on him..it'll take him some time to forget. I feel so horrible for what i did and cause. Maybe this is part of reason he is ending it. Anyways, he doesnt want to try anymore. Im sure he is tired and fed up. We argue every month for the whole year. its not heallthy at all. I was planning on breaking up too but was afraid. I think i could handle this smoothly because I knew this was coming to me. I wasnt happy and he wasnt too. We both didnt see a future so we both end it. I tried to get back wit him yesterday but he kept saying no and no and no. That it was over. I feel very sad to hear this from him. what can i do right? just gotta move on. So, today is my first day of no contact. He is online but I am not talking to him. It's funny though. He always goes on AIM right? He signs on Yahoo just to talk to me.. funny thing is.. he is signed on Yahoo. I didnt sign on AIM cus I am going to avoid him. Anyways, I guess i got my hopes up thinking he is thinking about me and stuff. I feel as if he will come back to me but I dont think so. as he said it is over. I read his xanga and he wrote this ( a quote i guess) But then of course everything always happens for a reason I guess it was never meant to be But it's just something we have no control over and that's what destiny is But no more worries, rest your head and go to sleep Maybe one day we'll wake up and this will all just be a dream. Eminem Maybe he is right.. it wasnt meant to be.. So, I have a question to ask .. how long do u wait til u talk to your exes again? I know from my past experience...it takes about roughly few month to get over but for some it takes awhile.. I know i want him back so bad now!! but knowing the problem i dont think it'll work . I wanan remain friends w/ him. He wants that too. Since we both are good people. But I dont know. also, if u really loved/cared for me he'll come back right??? or is this all over? right now, i jus want him back so bad.. i miss him n i love him so much! i cried for 2 days now.. am doin a lil better.. i ono wat to do!!!! help!!!! i wanna talk to him or send email to get bak.........maybe give him time to miss me?....... i dun wanna meet any guy,... i want him. i know its impossible.. but maybe after awhile we dont talk and see how it goes from there? He still has my stuff ( jus a jacket and shoes) i was about to get it back and we talked about it but i jus end up saying maybe when we both are cool down i'll go get it and he said he'll take good care of it... will there be still hope in the future??

I know. I got my stuff back. I didn't say any word and I left ( this was last night) I was talking to him now about stuff. I dont know my emotions are making me feel very uneasy now. Yeah, i wont talk to his friends about it anymore. he said this to me " I dont hate you but for right now I dont want to be together. just let fate take it's course" Gosh, this really hurts and its so painful

he broke it yesterday. we were chatting online and we broke it up on the phone. he said he sees no future with me and it wont work in the long term. i went over last night to pick up my stuff. we didnt say any word. he came down with my stuff and i just left. that same night, he IMed me saying he forgot to give my shoes. I didnt reply back. I was shock and sad. I talk to his friend last night about this. He as well broke up w/ his gf too. i couldnt sleep at all. i cried and keep crying. i cant believe this is happening . i dont know what to do now. what am i suppose to do. i even emailed my bf at 3am asking why he broke it up all of sudden and if we could think this again.. i really love my bf and i dont know what to do!!!! i want him back!!!

wow thanks.. i feel so much better to hear such postive thoughts. thanks u so much! i think u are right.. i just feel jealous of their friendship. well, she told my boyfriend that she doesnt like being around me cus tension starts to build... and that she doenst like the fact i sleep over all the time (weekends) her mother had said something about that to her i guess and she always stick up for him. reason, she doesnt like me is cus she thinks i have something against her and her past...which is true cus i do.. i wanted to talk to her and try to be in good terms.. bf said she didn want to talk cus theres nothing between us. so that was it.. so i dont know about it anymore. he still wants me over his house on weekends and spend the night....when he knows his ex doesnt like it.. so what should i do? i ask him to come to my house but he doesnt seem to thril with it.. iono what else to think.... he says he doesnt like the location i live.. or something like that.. i gues its hard for me to deal or understand cus they live toghether under same roof. i dun even kno if my bf is fully over her.. its really hard to tell. iono wats real n whats not.. i want to believe him but part of me wont let me. hehe gosh what mess did i put myself into now. maybe i'l give a chance and trust him and see how it goes from there?

thanks blender for your kind thoughts and advice.. no i didnt send him that email... i guess my emotions took over and said, hey janel, its time to say good-bye to him. im going to think it through and see if breaking up is what i really want..if so then i will see him face-to-face and call it quits. reason, i thought about breaking up is because since him/her are close i feel as if im nothing to him or i dont mean anything him. like she is important to him more than me. jealous? just a little. maybe im jus not myself now cus of im just emotionally unstable now. iono my feelins r somehow going away.. also another part of the reason i wana break up too. a lot of thoughts r jus goin thru my mind now.

thanks for comment caro.. as i posted on my other thread.. i was planning on breaking up with my boyfriend because i dont know if i could handle this anymore. im emotionally drained now. i want to look at it a bigger picture and see things differently.. but for some reason im not looking at it now. i dont know why. i love my boyfriend and i do really care for him.. but i dont know if i could do it anymore.. plus seem to me my bf doesnt want to be with me anymore.. its a feeling i get.. i keep gettin these feeling.. i did talk to him last weekend and he said he doesnt want to break up with me... but i dont know why i keep thinking that he wants.. . jus an hour ago we talk on the phone.. i was of course sad was talkin in a sad tone... and he didn really talk... and said he had to go cus someone was calling him. i dont know...

im planning on breaking up with him. i got the email all ready to be sent now... but i am afraid to do it.. i dont know. i know i want to be with him.. but after all this stuff... i dont know.. i neeed suggestions before i send him that email... should i or not?

i dont really know how long they went out.. im guessing more than 2 yrs.. maybe 3, 4 or 5?? i dont know when they last slept toghther.. im guessing those time period when they were dating.. bf n her had other girlfriends/boyfriends after.. .. my bf did say feelings of havin sex is gone and that i should trust him on that. n that he sees as a sister.. i dont know. i am emotionally drained of all this stuff.. i guess im jus overly tired now hehe. my bf is 33 yrs old and his ex is 29 yrs old.. and im 26 yrs old.. 13 years from now.. i would b like 13 yrs old when they were like 18 and 20 yrs old. i was probably in jr high or highschool by the time they were dating. its past right? and i shouldnt care? but the feeling i get sometimes.. its hard to control... jus like this one.. him askin her to list as a reference.. that kinda hurt my feelings.. made me feel like im not worthy to him...or importnat.. but she is... so iono.. u think im jus overly being jealous or thinking overly ?

If you had met her as having the place in his life that she does and she wasn't an ex, would that make a difference to how you feel? If she was just someone he had always been close to? yes, if i knew she was jus an old highschool friend and nothing more. i wouldnt be having all these issues. i wish my bf never told me but he was being honest which is good..but there was a price to pay .. me having crazy issues. well, sometimes when i see them talking... they talk like close friends i guess.. and nothing more...no, he has no families here. i guess she is his only family, if that makes sense? thanks for the hug

thanks no, he said that i was important to him in his life that i will always come first... i dont think so cus i dont feel that way... perfect example... him listing her as a reference... ( well they live toghheter with other peopls) ( n known her for 13yrs) maybe he feels more close to her than me ( jus not romantically or having any feelings). i dont know. there are other things that bother me a lot w/ their friendship.... what do u think? right now i feel like nothing i feel as if im nothin to him anymore.. i dont know what to think . im so sad now.

bf n his ex went out 13yrs ago and they known each other for all those years. i only known him for an year and 4 month. it seem as tho his ex is first priority and im 2nd. i might be wrong but that is how i feel. im feeling down cus i found out that he list her as a reference for something. he didn't even bother asking me.. so i am feeling sad. u guys think i should let this go? or what? why is he with me if he finds his ex main and important person.. why is iwth me if he has her.. i dont know if this is bad or good.. i need others perspective on this... bf said he sees her as a sister and that feelings went away long time ago... since it was 13yrs ago.... she also sees him as a big brother too... so what am i missing here? am i being jealous?

if u are not ready to move in w/ her and her family then u are not. they shouldnt preassure u to move in w/ them. tell them u are not ready. what if u moved in and things got worse between u guys....and plus her family is goin to be living there too!!! i would feel so uncomfortable.. tell ur gf how u feel about this situation.. if she loves u she will understand..

yeah thanks a bunch!

thanks blender for the advices!! its good to hear postive things. you are right. i shouldnt care what she has to say about me or what not. so, i'll give another try and see how it goes.