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  1. I shouldn't have mentioned the dishes. It just so happened that she went to clean some dishes, but that is mostly irrelevant to what I was trying to say. There were only a few dishes, and we'd usually keep them until later, when I would usually do them with all the others. That is not the point. 😋 I was saying that my wife feels that spending time relaxing or doing things that are not productive is just wasting time that could be used moving and getting stuff done. She will even make up stuff to do, if there is nothing to do (like "maybe we should move all these books from here to ov
  2. I've been married to a woman I love since 2017. We have two daughters, which take a lot out of both of us, but we try to help each other as much as possible. Well, the other day, our daughters both went down for a long nap and we finally had some time to do what we wanted. I chose to play one game of cards online while she was messing about on her phone. She finished with her phone and took a 15 minute nap herself. After that, she got up to be productive and do the dishes. My game of cards was still going. I know I had things to do, but I always have things to do, but am almost alway
  3. You can't delete your account, but you can edit your post and start again. Just delete what you said, so people can't use it against you.
  4. We want to have a second child, so our daughter can have a sibling. The Japanese healthcare system not only makes childbirth cheaper, it is extremely subsidized; they pretty much pay for everything. Also, my wife gets an extremely long maternity leave; with our first daughter, she took a two year maternity leave. She got paid half her salary every two months during that time as well. Healthcare here for me is also very nice. I have a pre-existing condition, so it cost me like $500/month for insurance in America. Here: around $150/month. Plus, the subsidy program for my medication in the
  5. No. She's from Japan, but up north, so her family is far away. Plus, most of them are either incompetent, too old, or too busy with their own children to really be much help anyway. My family would love to watch our daughter, but we are on the other side of the world. We don't really have any friends here either, except each other. My wife has some mom friends she met through the nursery school or whatever, but they are busy with their own children. Sometimes they can get together to chat, but usually it's a playdate for the kids at the same time, so they can't really "get away".
  6. I used to be extremely patient, relaxed, laid back, and never really got that angry. And, I was content with my life, but not happy. Then, I moved to Japan, met an amazing woman and I felt truly happy just being with her! Now, we are married, and being with my wife is wonderful and I love her so much. But, nowadays, since we have a kid and I have a job that takes up almost all my time, we don't really get to hang out anymore; I don't have "me" time, she doesn't have "me" time, and we don't really have "us" time either. It's mostly a routine of: get up early, go to work, work hard all day, c
  7. She sleeps in her crib, at first, so we can fool around or whatever we want then. Even so, I come arrive home from work kind of late, and often my wife wants to get to bed earlier, since our baby gets up at 7am, regardless. So, it doesn't happen as much as my wife would like, but it's a decent amount. Even so, after we are done, we kind of separate on the bed, so there will be room for our girl to sleep if she wakes up in the middle of the night. I'd often prefer to just cuddle with my wife to sleep.
  8. This is a good suggestion. Thank you. Maybe I can use this to convince my wife to let our friend take care of her while we go on a date. That'd be nice. :)
  9. I was diagnosed with MS 12 years ago, after a spinal tap and MRI results, after having optic neuritis. So, yes, I have MS. Also, I have a lot more than one lesion, as you have to have at least like 10 lesions to be diagnosed with MS. I believe I have just over 20, though I haven't had an MRI in many years.
  10. I've heard this too. That's what I'm waiting for. Thanks. Yes. Hit the nail on the head there. Our baby has a crib, but usually sleeps between us in bed for at least part of the night. I have to keep my distance from my wife in bed, so that we can have space in between of us for our daughter, if she wakes up and won't sleep in the crib anymore, which adds to the feeling of being distant from my wife. Babysitters aren't really a thing here, and nursery schools are so congested that they are super expensive to get in for a day. There are lots of rules too. Even so, as I mentioned
  11. That's not even an option. I love my wife more than anything in the universe, and would do anything to make her happy. So, I could never leave her! You are right though. I will try my best to make the best out of what I've been given, even if I'm not really enjoying it all right now. Thanks for the reply.
  12. My wife is Japanese, so we live in Japan now, so the day care/nursery schools are run differently than in the States. We could pay a buttload of money to a daycare for them to watch her for the day, but my wife is not interested in having other people watch her. She enjoys hanging out with her and loves being a mom. She's happy; just has to deal with wrist pain and things like lack of sleep. It's me that's complaining, not her. We have a family friend that would be more than happy to watch her for a few hours, while we go out somewhere, but my wife doesn't want to leave her somewhere where
  13. Thank you for the nice reply and the suggestion. I'm sure things will get better as she becomes more of a person and has more of a personality.
  14. My neurologist has talked to me about this before. He said the area that controls emotion is fully intact, but there is a lesion there, so that's why I'm more logical thinking. That could be part of it. Also, I have heard mood swings are common in people with MS, so that might explain why I get so pissed at my daughter sometimes, though that rarely happens anymore. It's gotten a lot better, though she can still pick me off sometimes, but that's not her fault and I try not to let her see I'm upset.
  15. Many years ago, I met a beautiful woman, whom I fell madly in love with, and I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. So, we got married. Everything was going great, until we had our daughter. I always hear other dad's saying they fell in love with their children the minute they saw them. And, even with all the difficulties of raising a child, their hearts are filled with joy from having a child. I don't know why, but I didn't feel any different when my baby girl was born, and I still feel no different a year later. Don't get me wrong, I love my daughter, but she doesn't bring
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