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Oh i see.. right now im having hard time not contacting my ex... i know i should stop....but things happen and i end up talkin to him......i was planning on sendin him an email jus to wish him a merry christmas nxt month....jus to be friendly....but if u guys say its not ok.....then i gues i shuoldnt...

I would had trusted him more....but things were gettng werid as far as i saw it......maybe i was havin trust issues..... but who wouldnt feel tat way if ur bf lives with an ex. plus, his ex was bein mean n a * * * * * to me.. so made things worse as is.. anyways, i gues i couldnt handle the situation. i have friends but they all moved far away....we dont really talk that much......but yea u are right...i'l try to stop talking or asking for his help

Well, My bf ( ex now) lives with an ex ( dated 13yrs ago).( and also living with 5 other people) .although they are friends......I was having issues with it........this is something we cant fix......but if he was to move out.......then it will be solved.....and he knows it too. Nothing I can do now...Things happened for a reason

How about sending an email to wish a merry christmas to your ex? no present..no cards...just a plain email.......is that ok?

no, i have no familes here or friends.. he was all i had that was close to me.. kinda sad but its true... i usually dont depend on ppl.. cus things dont happen to me....but recently jus happens i dont know why. its werid.

we broke up 3 weeks ago.. was in contact briefly for a little bit.. until we got into an argument!! it was something stupid but we screamed at each other n etc! so, two days ago I told him lets not talk for awhile and to give time...cus we still argue and were not a couple anymore. so i decided to go NC...but this morning....i get a flat tire n i of course called him cus it was an emergecny and i didnt kno what to do.. same thing a week ago.. i contacted him again cus i got into a bad car accident too... its werid... things keep happening to me.. is something wrong with me? why cant i stop contacting him! i know its hard and i keep want to try not talking for awhile but its hard!! what can i do u guys? i dont wanna keep talkin to him n bothering him... i just want some time to myself...n give him time to himself.......so later we could be friends or something....... i know i still love/care for him...and its really hard to let go of it.. he showed how he care for me...although we were having a big problem ( couldnt solve) sad, but he had to end the relationship. we were arguing too much and gettin on each others nerves... if we could solve the problem, i would get back with him..cus we were just having one big problem and that was it...everything else is okay. any suggestions?

we broke up 3 weeks ago....and was in contact for a little..and he wants to see me........why? he is the one who broke it up n saying "i dont want to be with u now" why does he wanna see me? for what reason.... i can only think of 3 things. 1. he wants to get back and he misses me n realizes he made a mistake ( i did ask him if we did solve the problem we were having, would he stil want to b w/ me he said dunno, its too soon to tell) 2. he wants to have sex with me. (if this is the case, oh boy that wil be the end of me talking/seeing him ever!) i dont do these things. not me. he could go find someone else. 3. he wants to say good-bye ( once again) a closure....( i dont thin he is gonna come see me for that) oh btw, he first says he has a gift....i think its an excuse just to see me...im confused u guys... what the hell is going on..... oh when i first contacted him...he said he was jus bein nice and contacting me back......so what does this mean? god damn it... hes freakin confusing me and i told him hes confusin me... * * * does he want from me! (pissed off now) im suppose to call him tonight after i get back from friends party...its stressing me out..why does he wanna see me??? i keep asking him....n he says not worry. confused

u guys are using each other for good pleasure.. i think its wrong. u guys have sex.. n one of u get attach..and then one of u leave n find someone else...horrible feeling...i been through it once and i never do that again..... if u guys r planning on gettin back then continue doin it...but if not.........i would say stop n move on. find someone u could love and with him n share that moment toghther........thats how i see it.

yeah, i dont know. i'll just need to find out and see what he wants.. i need some time to think about this....

we broke up two weeks ago... and was in contact briefly last week. so, i stopped talking to him for few days until He instant messaged me yesterday and today. So, i was going on NC u know cus its hard for me to talk to him... and rigt now im confuse.... he says he wants to see me and wont tell me why.... he says he has a gift for me....but i think its an excuse to come see me.. and i told him why do u wanna see me... and he giggled and said dont worry and not to ask many questions. so, he said to give him a call friday night after i come home so we could set up a time next day to meet up..... what do u guys think of this?

thanks !! i'l be strong

haha yeah im hanging in there.. i guess he miss talkin to me thats why he IMed me.. most likely but im not gonna intiate contact.......if he does then he does hehe

hahaa i know wat u mean.......i do myself get tempted too..when i see him online.......or wake up in middle of the nite thinkin should i email him to see how he is doing? yes it comes to our mind very oftenly than we know it....and its HARD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

yeah, jus be strong.. i was goin on NC until my ex IMed me.. im sure its hard for him too. im sure he'l figure out what to do....as for me im goin to stick w/ it.. im not gonna contact him......if he does then he does.

well i was in NC for 4 days and going until my ex IMed me!!

yeah i know. i wont think he is part of my life.. although he shows he cares...jus how he shows how he cares for his ex. although he went out with her 13yrs ago so i dont know why he contacted me. he shouldnt have. its not were gettin back toghhter..why does he wana talk to me/ is he bored ? has no one to talk to ....he has his f***ken ex girl he lives with... why cant he jus go to her n talk all n stuff. sorry jus a lil mad lol

he jus said some random stuff about something he heard on the radio about korean dramas... so guess he was sharing lol.... i thought that was werid.. so we on and chatted for a little bit...we didnt talk about us or anything... i mean i know that he wont try again and i know that i wont try again too now. things werent goin good so i dun wanna get back to it again..... i mean why do u think he started to contact me again?

he Imed me today . a bit surprised...we talked a little.. so what do i do now?

yeah u are right hehe. its not gonna change anything.. thanks for ur input. i guess its very hard to deal with . i'l just gotta do my own thing for now.. and let fate decide.

i know im trying to accept it.... its so hard left with this empty feeling.. im goin crazy now.. wakin up in middle of the night wondering why ? i dont know what to do!!

i havent emailed,phone,IM my ex for few days now. Last time we email each other was on saturday and after that I haven heard from him. im curious on why he didnt email me back? is he mad at me? i didnt say anything wrong to him...jus said i was confuse about us both and etc.... should i email him back? i dont want to end it with a feeling im havin now...wondering why he didnt email me back..... so what should i do? this is killing me? our last email was about me saying how i miss seeing/talkin to him... n he feels the same way.......and no replies back? confused.. need advice! thx

some people keep it for memories..some are jus lazy and dont erase it....guys in particular are jus lazy to erase or delete or throw away stuff.... cus they might feel its memories of u guys shared..why throw away good memories away right? but for girls,, we throw, erase, lol cus we want them out of our lives...cus its easy to move on right thats the difference between girls n guys when it comes to these matters

it could mean anything really... i wanna know the answer myself too.... but u could only know the answes because u know them more than us .... we really duno how the other person feels...if we dont ask them right.... we keep assuming stuff like,,,hmm do they feel same way as me? do they stil love/care for me? or they are over me?.....these questions do come in our mind. in my case, we broke up 2 weeks ago... we may not never get back but i do have hope we will soon. we both really loved/care for eachother. and maybe if its meant to be we'll get back again

bf and i broke up 2 weeks ago.. we been in contact briefly last week but i stopped talking to him cus i was getting confuse...probably confusing him too.. we both miss seeing/talking to each other.. i send him an email on saturday saying how confuse i am and etc..he hasnt replied back..and that waiting for the reply... its killing me... anyways, its been 2 days i havent spoke to him. ( no emails, Ims, or phone calls). i know it'll be hard..but reading your posts and others here...made me realize i shuold go on NC for awhile. time heals the pain right? we been thru a lot of drama in our relationship..so that is why he broke it up. i wont get into details cus it'l be long. i see him online..and i get so tempted to IM him but i don't. I stop myself for contacting him. i dont want him to push him futhur away from me.. so if i do go on NC will he get anxious about what im doing and stuff? maybe contact me? do u think he'l miss me more? weekends are so hard for me too! cus i use to hang out w/ him all weekend...and now being alone.....feels so empty inside without him....iono how he is feeling about it....its not a good feeling... im jus so sad now. any suggestions would be appreicated!