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I've also never experienced this behaviour myself so I'm not really sure what to make of it exactly. It might just be that he finds oral sex particularly sexually satisfying. What I mean by saying that he's being a little selfish and inconsiderate is that he doesn't seem to have any concern for her sexual needs, but perhaps he simply hasn't realised how much this bothers her and she needs to communicate this to him. If he doesn't feel the need to prevent pregnancy using condoms (because she's taking the pill), why does he feel the need to prevent pregnancy through withdrawal?

I don't think that there's any cause for concern that you're still a virgin at your age, try to stop beating yourself up about the fact and you'll have a much better chance of having sex. Losing your virginity might seem like a milestone but you need to realise that while sex can be a wonderful, pleasurable experience; it can also be really, really ordinary. If you're putting so much pressure on yourself to lose your virginity, you'll just be having sex that first time for the sake of it, and that's just going to decrease the chances of your first time being a great experience.

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I tend to think he's just being inconsiderate and selfish. If he was trying to ensure she doesn't get pregnant, wouldn't he just take care of contraception for himself?

I guess that's often a sad thing about the end of a relationship, people decide to have a relationship together and the person who decides to end a relationship makes their decision alone. Obviously, things weren't what they seemed as far as she was concerned. I'm not sure how to interpret her behaviour because it could mean that she's regretting having ended your relationship, but it could equally mean that she still feels uncomfortable that you might still have feelings for her. I think non-contact is a good idea in either case.

Having read your other post on this, I don't think you have the right to decide that you're ending the romantic relationship AND that your friendship with her will continue. It's your decision to end the romantic relationship, you should let her make the decision whether the friendship continues or not. If you do remain in contact with her, you need to be careful not to mislead her into thinking that there is a chance of reconciliation. You can't allow her to misunderstand your intentions because it makes you uncomfortable to make them clear to her, doing that will only lead to further heartache. Non-contact is advisable to allow her time to accept that the romantic relationship is over, and you'll have to be patient enough to see if you can still be friends.

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It's just a word? No big deal? Just because it's "just a word" doesn't mean it isn't offensive. There are many highly offensive words, such as racist and sexist terms, that are "a big deal" whether you personally think Chick is one of them or not.

While I agree that people can often be very rude about the use of their phones in social situations, and that it does sound as though the women you went out with that night were being pretty inconsiderate, I'm not sure that that's really the issue here. Remaining friends after the breakdown of a romantic relationship with someone is inevitably fraught with difficulty, I can certainly believe you've had to work hard to maintain a friendly relationship. You say you realise that a reunion won't happen, that the relationship between you two is over and that you have separate lives to lead but I'm not sure whether you actually believe or have achieved acceptance of that yet. You seem to contradict all of that by saying that you would still like to be with her, acknowledging you still have feelings of jealousy, and seeming to really care whether she's dating someone else or not (perhaps, being honest with yourself, her rude behaviour would not have bothered you as much otherwise?). It certainly looks as though you still have conflicted emotions about your relationship with your ex.

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If my boyfriend sent me letters by snail mail, obviously subject to the content of these letters, I would find it both sweet and thoughtful. I would consider it a grand gesture since letters are no longer merely an everday method of communication.

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People do intend for infidelity to happen, they make the decision to be unfaithful rather than to resolve the problems within their relationship or to end a relationship that isn't working. It is only human to want affection, to be flattered when people show us attention, to feel sexually attracted to others, to connect to people, to be annoyed with our partner who we have to deal with the reality of a relationship with, to empathise and sympathise with others etc. but is a cop out to say that these things just happen. Infidelity doesn't just happen to people, people make infidelity happen. As for the man involved, he didn't do this because he's a bad person. He did it because he is a human being with human weaknesses and faults, because he feels temptation, and because he allowed himself to cheat. I don't know him so I can't criticise him, but I think you should. You are not the one in the relationship, you are not the one who has betrayed his partner, though your actions have not been moral. He betrayed the responsibility he owed to you all throughout your relationship, I am only sorry that you think otherwise. If he had any intention of leaving his partner, he would have left her instead of constantly giving you excuses for the inexcusable! I am genuinely sorry that you're feeling sad, but you should know that your decision to end this self-destructive relationship is for the best

You are certainly not doomed, infidelity is not something that just happens to you, it is a choice you make. You are fantasising because a real world relationship can never compare to a fantasy, no matter how happy that relationship is, because every detail of a fantasy is perfect. You fantasise about this person that you work with because you do not actually have the sexual relationship with her that you imagine having. In your fantasies, all you think about is your sexual attraction for that person uncomplicated by anything else. It is easy to fantasise, but you should try to recognise that should your fantasies ever become reality, your infidelity would fail dismally to meet your expectations. It is human to have desires and to fantasise, but your fantasies are unattainable. Nothing is in reality what we fantasise it will be. If you genuinely do not want to cheat on your wife, or hurt your child, I would advise that whenever you find your thoughts straying that you consider the possibility of your wife and child ceasing to be a part of your life. I am not saying that if you did cheat on your wife she would necessarily leave you, but I am saying that if you think about this possibility and cannot imagine living without your wife and child that it will help to stop these unwanted feelings. You need to consider what the reality of your infidelity would mean for you in your life rather than what your fantasies tell you sex with your colleague would be like.

It's not because your personality is inadequate or "crap" that you have difficulty getting past the first few dates with girls. Your personality may not have been ideally suited to some of the girls you have dated, as they may have discovered when they got to know you a little better. It is often inexplicable that we connect with some people and not with others, sometimes you just don't click with one another for no particular reason. If girls tend to like you at first for your looks, the chances that you will really get along are less because these girls like you without having considered your personality. I agree with heloladies21 that you shouldn't worry about having called twice. She called you at eleven to go out with her friends, so she obviously didn't think you had called obsessively. It is always possible that she was herself trying not to appear desperate in asking you out with her friends and doing her own thing that night. I also agree that she probably asked you out with her friends to evaluate you. I don't think that dancing with the other guy was necessarily about testing your mettle. She asked you to go out with her and her friends, and then did her own thing all night, because she wanted to see if you get along with her friends and if they like you. She wants to know something about who you are as a person, that shows that she's interested. And as for going to dinner or something like that with her, you should just be yourself. That's really cliched, but its actually true because you don't want her to like you for someone you pretend to be. Surely, you want her to like you for the person that you are. And if she doesn't, someone else will