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I've also never experienced this behaviour myself so I'm not really sure what to make of it exactly. It might just be that he finds oral sex particularly sexually satisfying. What I mean by saying that he's being a little selfish and inconsiderate is that he doesn't seem to have any concern for her sexual needs, but perhaps he simply hasn't realised how much this bothers her and she needs to communicate this to him. If he doesn't feel the need to prevent pregnancy using condoms (because she's taking the pill), why does he feel the need to prevent pregnancy through withdrawal?

I don't think that there's any cause for concern that you're still a virgin at your age, try to stop beating yourself up about the fact and you'll have a much better chance of having sex. Losing your virginity might seem like a milestone but you need to realise that while sex can be a wonderful, pleasurable experience; it can also be really, really ordinary. If you're putting so much pressure on yourself to lose your virginity, you'll just be having sex that first time for the sake of it, and that's just going to decrease the chances of your first time being a great experience.

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I tend to think he's just being inconsiderate and selfish. If he was trying to ensure she doesn't get pregnant, wouldn't he just take care of contraception for himself?

I guess that's often a sad thing about the end of a relationship, people decide to have a relationship together and the person who decides to end a relationship makes their decision alone. Obviously, things weren't what they seemed as far as she was concerned. I'm not sure how to interpret her behaviour because it could mean that she's regretting having ended your relationship, but it could equally mean that she still feels uncomfortable that you might still have feelings for her. I think non-contact is a good idea in either case.

Having read your other post on this, I don't think you have the right to decide that you're ending the romantic relationship AND that your friendship with her will continue. It's your decision to end the romantic relationship, you should let her make the decision whether the friendship continues or not. If you do remain in contact with her, you need to be careful not to mislead her into thinking that there is a chance of reconciliation. You can't allow her to misunderstand your intentions because it makes you uncomfortable to make them clear to her, doing that will only lead to further heartache. Non-contact is advisable to allow her time to accept that the romantic relationship is over, and you'll have to be patient enough to see if you can still be friends.

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It's just a word? No big deal? Just because it's "just a word" doesn't mean it isn't offensive. There are many highly offensive words, such as racist and sexist terms, that are "a big deal" whether you personally think Chick is one of them or not.

While I agree that people can often be very rude about the use of their phones in social situations, and that it does sound as though the women you went out with that night were being pretty inconsiderate, I'm not sure that that's really the issue here. Remaining friends after the breakdown of a romantic relationship with someone is inevitably fraught with difficulty, I can certainly believe you've had to work hard to maintain a friendly relationship. You say you realise that a reunion won't happen, that the relationship between you two is over and that you have separate lives to lead but I'm not sure whether you actually believe or have achieved acceptance of that yet. You seem to contradict all of that by saying that you would still like to be with her, acknowledging you still have feelings of jealousy, and seeming to really care whether she's dating someone else or not (perhaps, being honest with yourself, her rude behaviour would not have bothered you as much otherwise?). It certainly looks as though you still have conflicted emotions about your relationship with your ex.

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If my boyfriend sent me letters by snail mail, obviously subject to the content of these letters, I would find it both sweet and thoughtful. I would consider it a grand gesture since letters are no longer merely an everday method of communication.

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People do intend for infidelity to happen, they make the decision to be unfaithful rather than to resolve the problems within their relationship or to end a relationship that isn't working. It is only human to want affection, to be flattered when people show us attention, to feel sexually attracted to others, to connect to people, to be annoyed with our partner who we have to deal with the reality of a relationship with, to empathise and sympathise with others etc. but is a cop out to say that these things just happen. Infidelity doesn't just happen to people, people make infidelity happen. As for the man involved, he didn't do this because he's a bad person. He did it because he is a human being with human weaknesses and faults, because he feels temptation, and because he allowed himself to cheat. I don't know him so I can't criticise him, but I think you should. You are not the one in the relationship, you are not the one who has betrayed his partner, though your actions have not been moral. He betrayed the responsibility he owed to you all throughout your relationship, I am only sorry that you think otherwise. If he had any intention of leaving his partner, he would have left her instead of constantly giving you excuses for the inexcusable! I am genuinely sorry that you're feeling sad, but you should know that your decision to end this self-destructive relationship is for the best

You are certainly not doomed, infidelity is not something that just happens to you, it is a choice you make. You are fantasising because a real world relationship can never compare to a fantasy, no matter how happy that relationship is, because every detail of a fantasy is perfect. You fantasise about this person that you work with because you do not actually have the sexual relationship with her that you imagine having. In your fantasies, all you think about is your sexual attraction for that person uncomplicated by anything else. It is easy to fantasise, but you should try to recognise that should your fantasies ever become reality, your infidelity would fail dismally to meet your expectations. It is human to have desires and to fantasise, but your fantasies are unattainable. Nothing is in reality what we fantasise it will be. If you genuinely do not want to cheat on your wife, or hurt your child, I would advise that whenever you find your thoughts straying that you consider the possibility of your wife and child ceasing to be a part of your life. I am not saying that if you did cheat on your wife she would necessarily leave you, but I am saying that if you think about this possibility and cannot imagine living without your wife and child that it will help to stop these unwanted feelings. You need to consider what the reality of your infidelity would mean for you in your life rather than what your fantasies tell you sex with your colleague would be like.

It's not because your personality is inadequate or "crap" that you have difficulty getting past the first few dates with girls. Your personality may not have been ideally suited to some of the girls you have dated, as they may have discovered when they got to know you a little better. It is often inexplicable that we connect with some people and not with others, sometimes you just don't click with one another for no particular reason. If girls tend to like you at first for your looks, the chances that you will really get along are less because these girls like you without having considered your personality. I agree with heloladies21 that you shouldn't worry about having called twice. She called you at eleven to go out with her friends, so she obviously didn't think you had called obsessively. It is always possible that she was herself trying not to appear desperate in asking you out with her friends and doing her own thing that night. I also agree that she probably asked you out with her friends to evaluate you. I don't think that dancing with the other guy was necessarily about testing your mettle. She asked you to go out with her and her friends, and then did her own thing all night, because she wanted to see if you get along with her friends and if they like you. She wants to know something about who you are as a person, that shows that she's interested. And as for going to dinner or something like that with her, you should just be yourself. That's really cliched, but its actually true because you don't want her to like you for someone you pretend to be. Surely, you want her to like you for the person that you are. And if she doesn't, someone else will

1) Australophobia, Novahollandiaphobia - Fear of Australia, Australians, Australian culture etc. As an Australian myself, I am obviously in a constant state of fear

I agree, it is best to have the professionals do your waxing for you once a month if you're going to use waxing as your main method of hair removal. The salons use professional quality waxes that are far less painful, give longer-lasting results and stop you getting ingrown hairs. Also, beauticians have trained in the art of waxing and are the only people who should ever wax anyone's eyebrows

I also think that its a really good idea to travel to a place to get the feel of it before deciding to move to that country. However, this may not be possible or may be too expensive depending on how far the foreign country you are considering moving to is from where you live. However, you can find all the information you're asking about on the internet if you look in the right places. A good place to start for information about any foreign country is to visit the website of its embassy/high commission in your own country as well as the official government website of that country which will link to a wealth of information about every aspect of that country. You can also look at that country's entry in general travel sites such as link removed . You should also read the websites of newspapers from that country because most newspapers have sections such as fashion, lifestyle, sports etc. that will give you an insight into how a society and how its people live their lives. You can find newspapers from around the world, and in the english language, at: link removed link removed link removed link removed ... and many other sites . I'd need to know which specific country you are considering moving to, to be of any further help than that

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I really dislike the suggestion that your girlfriend has done something bad in her past. All your girlfriend did was tell you at the beginning of your relationship that she had slept with less men than she actually had. Your girlfriend probably lied to you about the number of men she has slept with because: 1) Society has double standards about male and female promiscuity; 2) She sensed the importance this had for you and lied to protect your feelings; 3) She thought it was unimportant and that if the relationship became long term you would grow up and get over it. It is ridiculous to act like your girlfriend has been lying to you for six years. If you asked her every day over those six years how many people she had slept with, then she lied to you for six years. Otherwise, she actually lied to you once at the beginning of your relationship when she had no idea that the relationship would continue six years into her future. Unfortunately for your girlfriend, it seems she was wrong to expect that you would mature enough to get past your need to wear the crown for notches on the bedpost. You've obviously justified infidelity to yourself, and nothing anyone here has said about the immorality and stupidity of that has had any effect on you, but you can't just say that no one here will sanction your cheating because they don't want it on their conscience. If it makes no difference that people here disapprove of what you're thinking of doing, what difference would it make if someone here did approve!? You have no choice but to make a choice between the girlfriend you love and the tally of your sexual experiences. You can choose your number of sexual experiences over your girlfriend, by leaving and/or cheating on her; or you can choose her. It's up to you.

I don't know if I am able to help you. I do know that I have myself considered suicide, and that Australia has one of the highest rates of male youth suicide in the world. Just don't ever think that you are completely and utterly alone, though I understand that it is human to feel hopelessness. There are alot of things to like about the self-deprecation that Australians like to consider themselves as possessing, your comment that "its not doing me any good whining like this" is not one of them. You should be allowed to express your despair if that is what you're feeling, you should not feel as though it is important to maintain a stiff upper lip when you really are feeling down. Anyone with an easy conscience would not disagree. Don't you know deep down that you do matter, that you do mean something, that people do love you? You're considering suicide because you think it's the only way to get everyone's attention and because then you would finally mean something to someone. Don't you see that the reason your death would mean something to someone and get everyone's attention is that it would distress them? That people in your life would care if you died because they care right now!? Everyone wants to be loved and wanted and to have a sense of purpose in life. You're feeling alone, just as many other people feel, and you should know that there are always people there for you if you reach out for them. I know its phenomenally hard but please do try to reach out.

The last sentence of your post suggests that you think the girl concerned only became close friends with you because she had no one else to talk to over the summer. I think that's really unlikely to be true. This is more like boy meets girl, then boy and girl misunderstand each other Girls supposedly have a tendency to form much more intense personal relationships with our friends than guys do. This really doesn't apply to all girls and it doesn't mean that girls can't or don't also form casual relationships with less close friends and acquaintances. Do you really think that this girl would become close friends with you because she had no one else to hang out with over the summer? She probably did start hanging out with you because you were available, but she obviously decided she liked you as a person. Otherwise, friendship so close that she told you everything would never have developed between you both. She just would have hung out with you, for something to do, until summer ended. She seems to be a decent person who is trying to avoid hurting your feelings. She obviously considered you a close friend and because you told her you like her in a romantic sense, she thinks its unkind to be that close to you because she only thinks of you as a friend. If you want that closeness back again, its going to take time and you'll have to convince her that you see her solely as a close friend. It can't be forced but if you stay friends with her you might get some or all of the closeness you had with her back "being that close to a girl seems kind of loserish"!? You should be so lucky

Hey It depends on whether you know that you'll see the girl again or not. If you know you will see her again, I think it's a good idea to approach her first and then ask for her number a little later as this probably increases the chances of her giving it to you. If you've just laid eyes on the girl and are unlikely ever to see her again, you have no choice but to approach her and ask for her number right there and then. Watch her body language because if she's feeling anxious, defensive, tired, upset etc. she is more likely to reject you. Don't sit there thinking about approaching her, you're only making yourself more and more nervous. Introduce yourself, tell her why you like her or what it is that makes you want to know her (tastefully) and ask her if it would be alright if you called her or something along those lines. If you make her feel like its not a big deal for you, it won't be a big deal for her. If a girl is in a relationship, she won't bite a stranger's head off for not knowing. She'll simply say she can't give you her number because she's got a boyfriend. Don't worry about it. She won't say that, she just won't. Human beings care about what others think of them, she might say no but unless you come on really sleazy I can't see a girl refusing an approach with so little tact. If someone did say that you'd know they were immature and unkind, why would you deify that kind of person? Why be nervous of them? I don't believe that there's a strict sex-in-the-city style rulebook that says how many weeks you have to wait before asking a girl out. What's more important than the length of time it takes before you ask her out, is how you ask her. Ask her out casually and open-endedly, if you've been speaking to her for a while you'll know something about what she likes and what she's interested in. Tell her that you are doing something, and would she like to come e.g. that you're going to the movies on Saturday and were wondering if she'd come with. If it seems to her that you are going anyway and would genuinely like her to come she is likely to say yes. Even if she does say no, other girls will say yes. People with boyfriends or girlfriends don't have some special magic trick or special code you don't know about, at some point they have tentatively approached another person to be in a relationship with them. If you never make the approach girls will never reject you, but if you dont ever approach girls they will never accept you. Even if I find someone attractive, pick up lines make my skin crawl. I can never understand why men use pick up lines, obviously many men are nervous about approaching you, but I would have thought it was harder to say some of the pick up lines I have heard to someone than just to introduce yourself. Pick up lines are dangerous ground in my experience, if a girl takes objection to a pick up line you're through. It probably makes us more likely to reject you nastily because it can come accross as sleazy or boorish, and because we like to feel as though you're asking us rather than just asking some girl. I don't think pick up lines really work unless you're really confident approaching women and making small talk with them, and anyone that confident doesn't need to use pick up lines anyway. Try to take it easy, honey