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  1. trash mail
    I disagree. i dont know what you want and you are afriad that you are missing out and that is why you want him to be close. If he goes with your friend you lose the attention.
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    hmmmm.. i can see hamsters... are you by any chance and 33year old hamster?
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    well, dor someone that has travelled alot.i can give you this advice. sometimes in life you have to take a step. The step is, "doing it on your own". NO doubt it is expensive to travel, and as it is your first ime travelling, i would advice that yo choose a country that is more developed then a 3rd world country and then slowly expose yourself to see the world that is out there. It's like when you have your first bicycle. you start with your street then your neighbourhood, then the next street after that and you realise that there is so much to see. Start small, start with a developed country. talk to people that has been places and taell then what you want.
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    It cracks me up that people are now thinking like there is an atheistism group Talking about religion to an atheist is a not a bad thing. When has atheist beome so closed minded??? I am an atheist, i dont mind people coming to ask for donation to church or talk about their religion to me. I know where i stand within myself and dont really have to SHOUT out and say, "HEY i am an ATHEIST!! dont talk to me about religion!!". Do we have to group together and have an atheist group?? GOOD grief!! Personally if the donation is for a good cause whether it is a church/ muslim/ budhist etc organised event i would give to it. BUT, if it is a direct donation to a church to restore that church then i wouldn't as it isnt my responsibility to do so. Being an atheist and living in a environment of christians and catholics i enjoy the festivities, christmas is great! boxing day, good friday, it all brings peole together. WIthout these events i believe the world will be a less inteestig place. Being in a country will many diffeent religions makes life even more interesting. Muslim feativals, indian feativals, chinese. What i am trying to say is that though i dont believe in all these i am not against it either, and neither am i against the fact that they want to share their though about their religion with me Just dont try shove it down my throat. There is so many things that make our world a colourlful place. Having an atheist saying that "I dont want to know" because there a religion affiliated within the sentence just make people think that being an atheist means that you are ignorant. So where is the problem? There isnt one, it is about the choice to give to something that will benefit the environment you live in or not to give the a organisation that you dont believe in. Not believing has nothing to do with not learning. Knowledge about something that you have no interest in only make you wiser and not ignorant.
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    YOu really have issues with the size of you willy dont you?? you have had a couple of really good answers but it's not what you want to hear. If you ask a question, listen to the answer otherwise dont ask the question. i would like to hear my gf say i was hung like a horse and had the stamina of a whale, a tongue that can read her thoughs which pleasured her to no end. I would know it is a lie but i would accept it.
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    she is using you. I dont think she is coming back. the next stahe is that she will want to take your son away. Start preparing for that. You have a choice to continue to be nice to her as keep your son happy, or separate from her and thus make it diificult for your son. As i dont have children yet, i only advice is to prepare for the problem she may make with your son
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    hmmmm.. interesting question. lets see, i am the type of person that will tell all, unfortunately it usually scares the * * * * out of the girl it tell it to. HAHAHA. i have been place and done things that well, is not really bad but you wouldnt go boasting to your mother in law about! hahahaha Usually i would tell all but in little amounts. Anyway, that being said, there is a movie out there called "must love dogs" that had an interesting concept, IF you tell all the the person you are with can make a decision then and there to be with you or not, if you tell later emotions are in the relationship and it get really messy. Better to avoid that and make a clean judgement from the start. BUT that is only when you meet people for the first time. I like that theory, but it requires BALLS which i hav to admit i lack a little of on occasions.
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    DavidK. THe only real advice i can truly give you when it is time to end it with her is.... Fous on the GOAL. The goal is doing the right thing. Irrigardless of wha she says focus n one goal. You will have to deconnect from her to solve this problemand to move on with your life. FOCUS on the right thing to do for YOURSELF and not for her. YOURSELF meaning that this relationship is not healthy and it isnt going anywhere. FOCUS. Good luck mate and hang in there.
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    i have obvously rub some ladies the wrong way by asking the question but, i have had 'friends' that believe otherwise. Guys that say that all is fair game unless there is a ring, so they will attempt to court the woman even though he knows she is attached if he finds her attractive. I have even seen men that try all kind os skimming methods to get her into bed. Eg wine and dine them, clubbing after that and get her tipsy enough to break her will/ commitment. I am just wondering if there are the fe out there that would go after a women/man ieven though they are attached because they believe he/she is the one. Personally i have never done that, but i have had my girlfriend tell me that there ws a 'friend' that tried to do that to her. eg. go out for a casual dinner with a bottle of wine and then clubbing with hard alchol. Towards the end of the night she was pissed and then he tried pressuring her. UNfortunately i wasnt in the same country or i will be there with a baseball bat and a pair of pliers.
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    I would like who in here believe that if there isnt a ring everything is game? I would ike to knw your perpective on this if you are willing to share. Thanks
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    Dn. After givig it some serious thoughts, i do love this woman but i think that it wouldnt be fair if i kept on pushing the issue to her. I have given myself and this relaitonship a deadline. If there is no progression and the fear of commitiment with me is still there in 4 months (late feb my brthday) i will move on from this relatonship. I know 4 months looks to be short to some people but it would be roughly 2 years from that date when we got together so i believe that is more then enough time for 2 people to know each other. What is your opinion?
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    i have had a few days to think about all the advice and the conversations that i have had with my girlfriend and have reaslise something so obvious. Youcant make someone love you more, you cant make someone love you faster and you cant make someone commit to a relationship irrigardless how long you have had/having the relationship. If they arent ready, they arent ready. If you can wait then you are going to have to wait, if you cant wait then YOU will have to let go. It isnt their fault if they can't commit. In the end, it isnt anyones fault. They arent ready and you are. Thanks all for your advice!
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    momene... what is a medium term relationship?
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    momene. I do agree with you there.. to me there isnt the "one", i refer it to the one that you hope that you marry or see a future beyond 10years. Somene that are willing to plan the future with.
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    Although, it might be wrong place to ask, IF thee are any successful relationship here how many times did you breakup before with your curent before you realise she is the "one"?? Or do you think that as soon as you end the relationship that is it. No more. THanks for you answers and your opinions.
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    Hey silky88. THanks for our advice. It really hit the nail on the head. Only, i have a feeling it is over. i made a big mistake and tried to rush her. I didnt even realise that iw as doing that and now she is really not into the relationship. I now feel like such an * * * for trying to rush her into tis decision. i only wish he had listened to my mistakes that i have admitted. and reconsider. Sigh. We agreed to think about us being together for the next 4 days and come out ith an answer. I have a feeling the horizon is grey and storm clouds are forming. It was me the suggesed the ending of our relationship now she is using the reason that i made for us to end the relaitonship. What i said was true about us tat she has a porblem with commitment and the TEAM, but there is one important thig that i left out. I love her. How would i convience her that it is worth saving. After all, i am willing to slow the relationship down and take our time then to end a relationship and regret of both of us losing each other without trying.
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    thanks guys for all your replies, i really appreciate it. We've had after a long weekend and with our nerves raw from considering ending this relationship. We had our tempers flare, grit teeth and "i don't want to talk to you about this anymore". We have come down to the conclusion that we have different expectations of a relationship and where about in the relationshp we both stand. I suppose i thought our relaitonship had moved further on and thus expected the relationship to have a certain level of expectations and loyality etc. But to her she is still getting to know me, so i have figure out that the relationship is still at the early stages for her and i understand it is a trust factor for her. That is where the friction lies. I have to thank you guys for giving me a different point of view so i can assess and understand where she was coming from before blowing up. As we are able to see the problem i hope that we are able to solve it. Endig it will be such a shame as i love this women.
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    i suppose i have to go back to the source
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    scout. No, i am not taking a month off in hoping she will miss me. I am thinking of taking amonth of to make sure that she wants me. I dont want anyone that doesnt want me. I dont play games, it is a waste of time and effort. Yes you are hearing one side here and i understand that, but this is what i am sure of, between her and i, i would say that i am far more expressive and emotionally connected. I know what i want, i want a women that wants me. i dont want a woman that woulld play with me pride. A mans pride is everything, so i would rather her be sure if she stays, if she leaves i would be hurt but my pride is intact as she wasnt the one for me. To be honest i dont like the month break but what other alternative is there? I mean, am i moving that fast?? i think not, we have been thru quite alot.
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    do you know the girl that he is having the fling with. If you do. just say that you heard on the grape vine that he has been having an affair. Remind him what you told him, "you will beat the snot outta him" and as you have heard it his wife might have heard it too. Tell him that you wil not lie if his wife ask you. THe pressure is on him to change or fess up.
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    kafka, if we dont get back together after the month then it isnt the right relationship. i would rather that then to striggling on without knowing. We have iscuss mariage, children, career. what people think... hmmm. interacial... asian and european. History. commitment problems
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    yes, we agreed to be exclusive. long time ago.
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    just for the sake of throwing an idea in the air, what do u think of taking a break for a month with ground rules so she can clearify things in her head.
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    too big for her.. doesnt feel that she knows me and she really doesnt know. she is confused why she doesnt feel she can take the step
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    You're perplexed, what am I?!?!?!?! Frustrated! I have tried the souce, souce is confused! which adds to my confusion. Sigh. i love this girl and i want her in my life, but if this step is such a hurdle for her, is it weak of me to say that there is not point? does it say that i do not love her enough?
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