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On a first date, goodness no. Not unless it was going very badly and I wanted to scare him off. I should try that next time someone gets the wrong idea. No, I know better than that. And I'm not planning on telling anyone now, in fact I'm recently single again, so it's not really pertinent...just something I was wondering about when things started to look a little serious for a while. Mostly I've been trying to figure out why I don't want to share that information with someone I'm in it for the long haul. Don't get me wrong, I'm all about baring souls, but I'm about mystery too...there are certain things that are just better left unknown, in my opinion. Or certain things should be kept...for later...sometimes it's nice to find out something surprising about a partner years later.

But seriously. What about # of sexual partners? I have gotten slightly uncomfortable with my "number" (though it's still limited to one hand) and wonder if I'll have the compulsion to "control-z" them when asked about my past... I get tested every time I get out of a sexual relationship, so it isn't as if I'm putting the other at risk; it's just that I don't like talking about that stuff.

Oh, shoot. Drinking human blood is a must-tell? See, I neglect to think about these things. Better tell him about the gimp in the basement too.

So just curious... Does anyone out there feel there are some Deep Dark Secrets that are obligated to share? Obviously things like being married, having venereal disease, anything that could potentially cause physical harm to a partner. I'd rather take it to the grave, but I have a friend who thinks it's a must-tell. Ah well, she's she and me's me. Whatcha gonna do. Dako posted and deleted. That's cheating. What a lead-on. That's like saying "I HAVE SOMETHING TO TELL YOU!" and then swearing up and down that it's nothing and you're not going to say it. Tsk. (I kid, I kid)

What do you all think of telling a SO about something big in your past? Me personally; I struggle with whether or not I need to tell a potential mate (only if it's serious) about my one serious bout with depression + time in a psych ward (five days). Psych wards...that's heavy stuff. I equate that incident with having an abortion or having been abused or something. It was after being badly dumped -- the guy ripped my heart out, jumped on it, picked it back up, chewed on it, spat it back out, jumped on it again, and ran away laughing. No, just kidding. (No, I'm not bitter ... nah, again, kidding...very bitter! STILL!) Anyway, that was years ago and I am over it, we aren't friends and haven't spoken since. I am better for it and like myself quite a bit with or without a guy. I don't settle for less than I deserve. In the end, it was a good thing. What doesn't kill ya makes ya stronger. I will never get back to that awful place again -- so lost and depressed and completely unhinged--BUT. I am obligated to tell someone I am serious with about the incident?? What do you all think? Do you carry your deepest darkest secrets to the grave? Or do you bare every bit of your weathered soul? I'm new, by the way, so Hi!