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  1. Blured
    They are out there, you might get one if you didnt call them "diehard every sundays going to church kind of girls" good luck!
  2. Blured
    Thanks for the replies, I feel genuinely better about myself I am going to start exercising and eating healthily to lose a bit of extra weight, but I guess right now it's more important to work on my self esteem.
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    Are you still harming yourself? It's not how you self harm, it's why you self harm. There are different methods and reasons but it usually all boils down to the same thing; Theres a dissatisfaction with a situation that you put on yourself. You have some beliefs that aren't true, and even if they are, you have have a way of dealing with it that only contributes to the cycle of blaming yourself. Self harm isn't the problem, it's a symptom of the problem. Ask your doctor to refer you to a therapist, I would recommend Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) as it tackles the reasons why you do things, and should help break the depression to harm cycle. Good luck, and I hope this helped.
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    I'm not pretending to be a shrink or anything, but the best best way of ending phobias is facing them. Though you can't vomit in public, try eating with small steps? Start by snacking, and work your way up. And though this may not help, I vomited in class once when I was 14, all over my teacher's books. People forgot about it in days. Watching someone vomit isn't beautiful, but people feel more sympathectic than disgusted.
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    I know this is a very common thread, but it varies from person to person, so searching doesn't really help me. Im a size 14/12 [uk sizes, no idea what that is an American], 5ft 10 and weight 10stone 11 pounds. Im a healthy weight, just not an attractive weight. I hate the idea of being seen naked. I guess for everyone without amazingly high self esteem it's daunting, but I absolutely dread the thought. I know confidence is attractive, but wouldnt it seem unjustified? Friends and family have said Im good looking, but isnt their job to validate me?
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    I'll keep the moaning short this time: 1: What do guys think of cellulite on a girl? Do they see it in the same 'DEAR GOD NO!!' light that many girls do? 2: Is there anything that actually makes a difference? 3: Is it a sign I have a weight problem, or is it a common thing? My BMI claims I'm healthy.
  7. Blured
    Ross, you've taken up two of 'this week's buzz' topics for the same problem.
  8. Blured
    A therapist doesn't change the structure of your brain, they give you coping strategies and tasks. After therapy you wont think differently, you'll just have more methods of fighting problems.
  9. Blured
    They don't turn you into a drooling monkey, but they can knock you out and stop you from functioning normally.
  10. Blured
    What are you doing to stop that from happening? A therapist doesn't have all the magic answers.
  11. Blured
    They aren't designed for that, they're designed to be taken over six months to one and a half years.
  12. Blured
    But medication can only give you the strength to make changes, you cant stay on anti-depressants for the rest of your life.
  13. Blured
    Opps, questions was already asked. Pardon me!
  14. Blured
    You seem content living like that. What are you doing to change?
  15. Blured
    Concentrate on getting through therapy and achieving that, take small steps. Like try going for just one drink in a local pub once a week? If you assume your going to be rejected anyway, what are you going to lose? And the UK is an awesome please to live.
  16. Blured
    Ross, what do you get up for in the morning? Think about what you'd like to wake up to. Work towards getting it.
  17. Blured
    Just listen listen listen. When he talks to you he isn't expecting you to have answers, it would be much more beneficial for him if he could just know your always there and you care for him.
  18. Blured
    Panic Total, utter, inescapable, unspeakable panic Stealing logic Heart, body, mind lurching in different colours; Yellow Yellow, a sun that doesn't produce light Your heart refuses to be chased away Pounding red hot blood around Thud, thud, thud Your hands dance to the beat You, I, We crash Air falls on top We forget air sustains life, existence itself Air is the perpetrator, the murderer, the villain But perhaps black; the sun hides Darkness comes to find you, me, us Remember your body shaking with fondness Cold sweat drips into my mouth Forget insecurity You proclaim that security never existed Who can say it ever did? Introducing the hostage, the laughing stock of the universe We don't care Tremble on your knees Calling, cawing out to something Nothing, everything, us. You are the realization of what we have become.
  19. Blured
    The only way you can save the relationship is to insist you have a group meeting, there's no way you can stay with him if you dont trust him. Stating the obvious, ah well.
  20. Blured
    Ross, stop comparing yourself to others. From what I can see from your posts, you have this idea that a person is only valuable if they fit a certain mold. Everyone says this, I know, but there really is more to life than girls. Find simple pleasures, a sport you like, eating a favourite food slowly, watching a dumb comedy show.. Another classic; You really dont know whats behind the corner, there may be a perfect girl who feels just as alone as you are, or even just a friend. Finally, helping others helps you to help yourself. If you feel depressed, it's probably the last thing you'll want to do, but helping others helps you to forgive yourself, and you'll meet new people!
  21. Blured
    What a sweet person! I agree with the others, he has to come to terms with this on his own. You can remind him that he can retake it, and that in the long term it's nothing. Jokes are only a temporary solution, though that may be what he needs.
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    I'm 16, and though I do help with my brother I don't do enough cleaning. Though my mum does must of it - Dad doesn't care, or have enough time. Me and Mum have suggested to him that he goes to a doctor, or has some kind of therapy - he actually grimaces at the idea. He doesn't like the idea of telling his problems to someone he doesn't know, which is understandable.
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    I know I've been asking for help alot recently, but this is really bothering me. I live with both my parents, and my younger brother, who has severe autism (14), he can't verbally communicate at all, and needs constant supervision. My dad works probably around 40 hours a week, two days a week he works well over 12 hours (leaves at 6am, gets back around 9/10) his work is opretty stressful; he's a chaplin in a young offender's prison. When Dad isn't working he has to look after my brother, my Mum does her fair share too, and she works part time. Dad is constantly expressing his frustration with life, he says he has no life outside of work, and is constantly wearing a frown. In the few hours of free time he gets a week, he's working on a degree. Sorry to blurb, but what -if anything- can I do?! I offer to help with my Brother, but they feel that I'm not old enough to take him out on my own yet, and that it's not my responsabilty.
  24. Blured
    I guess, I'm just going to go to a few friend's partys and such. Not so much of the drink though, I just fall asleep/+giggle too much.
  25. Blured
    Yeah, it does feel like my nose. Hopefully, that means panic over Thanks for all the advice!
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