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he does not know of some of thses things. i tried to tell him but he just ignored me. but at least i tried.

you could just be scared of being commited. i know that i was at first. but if you truly love david, then i think you should tell him. he could help you with your problem and help you overcome it. just communicate

so if you have read my post before this i have been dating my boyfriend for 5 months next monday. im just going to quickly go over some of the things in my last post then get on to the more updated stuff. well he has seemed really distant from me lately over the past 2 months or so and it just keeps getting worse. he wont even walk next to me in the mall and rarely we would be walking and he would hold my hand but thats only if we had gotten into a little argument or something... sooo.. on to the updated information. over the weekend: friday night i was planning on spending the night at my friends house and hanging out with her and my boyfriend and just doing whatever. so she and i are over at my house and im talking to him online and i really dont know what started our argument and i dont really remember what it was about but i said i was getting offline and then pretended to be my friend and get on to talk to him. he ended up basically saying that he would rather hang out with my friend then me because i " irritate " him.. i have no idea what i do to irritate him. he gets mad when im just sitting there and he says im irritating and im not even saying anything! well i totally blew up about this and went off. well me and my friend went to the mall for a little shopping and she was texting him and he told her that he needed his space from me. i dont get why he couldnt be a man and tell me himself. well i gave him his space and went over and stayed the night with my friend. later that night he texts me all messed up because he had been smoking and drinking and he knows that i dont approve of excessive use of these. the next morning i wake up and i have a text message on my phone from him saying " i do love you i hope you realize that" im so confused i dont know what to do. i dont understand why one day he is fine and the next he is really mean to me. he makes me feel really horrible about myself sometimes. he will say how all these other girls im friends with are so hot or sexy and it just really makes me feel ugly. i cant remember the last time he called me beautiful. he used to call me or text me in the mornings saying " hello beautiful " i miss that. i miss him. if anyone has any advice how i can get the guy back i fell in love with 5 months ago please help me out. i would give anything to know that guy again.

oh my gosh that sounds just like him ( in response to the last reply) one day he loves his job and the next he hates it. he will talk to me alot one day and not much the next. im trying to figure out what i did to cause this. or if its not me at all.

okay so i have been dating my boyfriend for 5 months. everything was perfect in the beginning you know. but lately over the past 2 months he has seemed kind of distant. wont walk next to me in the mall, just seems like he doesnt even want to know me. when i ask h im whats wrong he says nothing. he just always seems so gloomy. even all of our friends think something is always wrong with him. his best friend has asked him but he said nothing. well last night i asked him if he was happy with us. he said not really, so i asked him if he wanted to break up but he said no. this doesnt make sense to me. if hes not happy then why would he still want to be together. idk maybe he meant hes just not happy in general cause he said he has always been this way. does anybody have any advice on how i can cheer him up? thanks in advance

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yeah if she was your friend she would have the respect not to date him at all.

you know i've seen this happen with my friends. i know that i love my guy, because we both think logically. people say they " fall out of love " because of fights or different points of views. but its just ridiculous. fights happen.. thats what goes on between people nobody is perfect. if you can " fall out of love " you didnt really love them to begin with. but alot of people just say it to say it.

okay i have this friend. im still in highschool and hes in college. so hes about an hour away from me. we talk all the time online, through texting, whatever. alot of the time he talks about wanting to have sex with me and the things he wants to do to me. i change the subject. cause i mean when we talk about other things its fine. but he really wants to have sex with me. he wants to come over and hang out tomorrow. but idk if thats a good idea or not. my boyfriend doesnt like him and might be really mad if he does. but hes my friend and i'd like to hang out with him. idk what would happen if he asks for something and i tell him no. hes been like that before. we were talking online and he asked me when we were going to have sex, and i told him we wernt, and he totally went off on my yelling about how since he was the " big bad highschool all state quarterback " or whatever. that he gets what he wants when he wants it.. meaning me. hes such a sweet guy when he wants to be but idk what to do about him. help please!

he told me he loved me a little over a month

ok so me and my boyfriend went through the whole pregnancy scare. and now i cant help myself but think of how i would really like to have a baby with him at some point in our lives. well he is 19 and im 16 and totally not ready at this age. we are so in love so i know that we will have a lasting relationship. he doesnt like kids. im hoping he will get over this. but is it wrong for me to be having day dreams about us having a baby together?

im the same way. i get jealous so easy when i see that a girl leaves a comment on his myspace. i have to check out her mypace and see if he commented back or whatever. and see where she lives and who shes friends with. its just that you and i are posessive people. its nothing to be embarrassed about. its better to talk about it and let him know how you feel and you cant help but feel that way. could you be upset because you think that he might leave for some hot chick he met on the net or something? thats a feeling that i get sometimes. but chances are that they wont talk more then 1 or 2 times and i doubt that he will go meet up with her or something. every girl gets jealous. some are worse then others and its just the way god made us. we have our insecurities about ourselves, every girl does. but your best bet would be to just talk with him about your problem so he can help you with it.

a webcam would deff be your best bet as to see who your really talking to

yeah im in highschool and people around here are crazy like that. im not trying to sound big headed at all. but im a model, you know tall long legs, the kind of stuff guys like. so naturally girls get really jealous because they think girls like that can have whatever they want. when in reality, they cant. my attention only goes out to one guy and thats my bf. so the recent rumor is that when i went to nyc recently that i had sex with a guy in my hotel room. well.. naturally everybody around this town knows it ( 4 highschools ) and i've heard about it non stop. but i know who started it and why. because they are jealous of what i have. people just try and ruin things just because they cant have the happiness that you have. so im guessing that this girl is jealous of what you and your boyfriend have. i wouldnt let it get to you. you should feel very proud in knowing that you have him and not her. and that he is loyal to you. it is prolly bugging her soo bad inside, that should always bring some satisfaction

yeah i've tried all of that. i have been keeping track of everything since the first court date but she hasnt really done anything. we are awaiting another court date and she has been running her mouth saying that she is waiting for all the legal things to be over before she does anything again. she has her friends come up to me and threaten me in school. and they wont leave my boyfriend alone. i really want to know whats wrong with her. she has been kind of distracted lately by her new boyfriend ( god help him ) but what about when they break up. does anyone know anything about the law really? because the judge said the best he can do is a " peace bond " but i really want a restraining order.

we have with and without a condom. we have done it once then maybe 15 minutes later done it again. he only lasts for maybe 20 seconds longer. its pretty frustrating.

the courts say they cant give us a restraining order because she isnt trying to harm us. they said they can give us a "peace bond" meaning she cant have contact with us for a year. what happens when a year is up? she hasnt only been harassing me.. but my friends as well. when she talks to people she asks them if they know me and are friends with me. and i do have alot of friends, so she tells people if they want to be her friend then they cant have anything to do with me. everybody just pretty much tells her to take a hike but i just think its so immature and im not sure what to do about it. because she might have to leave me alone but she can still bug my friends. and get her friends to bug me

go to your local ER they can give it to you. it might cost alot more but if you could be pregnant it will help in the long run.

i've been with my guy for about 4 months now. and about a year ago he broke up with his girlfriend of about 2 years. shes a real you know what and treated him very badly. we are in love with each other and so happy. earlier into our relationship she would get online and send me nasty messages and even threatning my life at times. one day when we went to the mall and were sitting down enjoying lunch together her and her little friends came up and she demanded that he walk off and talk to her. he told her to leave us alone so we got up to leave, she followed us around the mall and then outside and we had to go find a security guard to get her away. she has been coming by my house and even being as childish to throw an egg at my house. its just her and her little friends and they just wont leave it alone. she even went off running her mouth to some thugs and got my boyfriend and some of my friends jumped and put in the hospital. it was very sad sitting by his hospital bed all night long just to make sure he was going to be okay ( hes fine ) she even had the nerve to show up that night to " see how he was doing " wow i almost lost my cool on that one she calls my phone all the time threatning me. she even called a total of 80 times in one day. finally i went to the magistrate and reported the phone calls and the mall incident. we have court dates set up but i really dont believe that they court is going to do anything about it. i would really like some opinions on what i can do about this. i've tried talking to her, shes just pshyco. its really upsetting because it causes arguments in mine and my boyfriends relationship because of her. has anyone been in situations like this before? how did it work out? help please. some say i should just beat her up because shes about 4'11 and im 5'9 and a very taletented athlete and so on and whatever. but i've come to find im a lover not a fighter. and i really think doing that would only create more problems. somebody give me some advice please!

no problem. if people want to know where you met, you dont exactly have to say the internet? how did you get his screen name? did a friend give it to you. off of myspace or a forum or something? if so.. you could just say.. ' through a friend ' but more then likely most people that will ask, have also met someone off the internet. if you to are happy together then there is no reason to be embarrassed or anything by saying that you met on the internet! thats what its for! but PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE make sure that when you meet him for the first time it is in a very public place or take a friend with you. sometimes you've got to be careful. people can misrepresent themselves. also a tip that i've learned. keep a cell phone on you. in a pocket where it cant be seen, and on silent or vibrate, it really helped a friend of mine one time when she met up with a guy and he was trying to get rough with her and even tried to rape her. he did not know about the cell phone and she called the police and it saved her. but im not saying your guy is like this. only tips to help others be safe.

there is no way you should move in with him. i agree with a previous comment that he just wants it as a chance for him to keep an eye on you and go through your things. have you ever tried just sitting down and talking with him about it? and he should respect your family and the things you are doing in life. college is very important and he needs to understand that.

lol my boyfriend has about 8 on him at the moment.

i would say that you are still a virgin. sex is sex. and you dont have sex with a finger lol

sometimes they are kind of gross. like if there is alot there or whatever. just a little bit is how i like it.

i made the mistake of letting my ex boyfriend trick me into it. i thought i loved him and he said if i didnt he would break up with me. i was 14