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Well, bit different from my usual posts to start with..... Yesterday, my Grandad had a triple heart bypass. He was then put in Intensive Care which is a routine thing to do after a big operation like that. My family were told that only 2 people could visit at a time, which was understandable i guess. He should have been brought out of intensive care by now, but he took a turn for the worse and is finding it very hard to breathe still. I really wanted to visit him but all of my family said that i was too young, that i would be too upset. But if im going to lose my grandad i WANT to see him, i want him to know that i'm there and that I care. I know my family are just trying to protect me, but they are keeping me in the dark about everything, i even had to phone the hospital myself to see how he was doing. It's hurting me to not know what is going on. I'm really worried and very upset. I confided in my ex (i know, what a stupid idea!!!) but he's been ok recently. He comforted me and then tried to cheer me up but then or course, he went back to his old ways of "please go on webcam and strip for me". I said no, obviously. And then he went off in a mood. Why does he do this the other week, he was telling me he missed me, wanted to try again, then he's all cold saying he doesn't need or want a girlfriend. This, on top of my grandads op is killing me Does anyone have any ideas of how I can persuade my family to allow me to visit? I really want to see him, no matter how much it upsets me, I want to be there for me. With my ex, well he can just f*** off lol. I want to be his friend. Be there for HIM but he makes it so hard. I know he's going through a hard time right now but he shouldn't take it out on me when I'm going through a hard time too. Little vent there, anyone got anything to say??
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Well, I took some of your advice and decided to cut contact right down with my ex. We WERE friends but he tended to want sex from me a lot and that's all he would talk about and then when I refuse, he goes mad. So yeah, I cut down contact until today something happened....i was on MSN (i had deleted him) and a conversation popped up from him saying: "are you going out with A yet then" andI replied saying "no" and that's all. Then about 5 mins later he completely kicked off saying A is a ranny fat (change the first letter around on each word) and that's all he's after with me and that I did not attract anyone. I was completely GOBSMACKED! I didn't know what to say so I just said "Oh thanks" and he kept going JUST SOD OF, SHUT UP AND LEAVE ME ALONE. I had done NOTHING wrong to him, had not uttered a word to him for 2 days! I don't know what to think anymore...he really upset me. He said i upset him but i do nothing wrong. He's really annoyed me too, I know A would only be after sex, that's why i'm not with him....but now everything just seems worse 'cos of what he said....i feel really down and couldn't believe he said it!! Does anyone have any clue of WHY he could have done this and said all of this?
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Mr Mister1, No, she wouldn't have heard about us slagging her off as she's not speaking to any of us who were there! Also, the other friend normally takes Sarah's side on everything (there's a bit of history between this other friend and us lot - she was new to the school, made a bad impression and not many people liked her but Sarah stuck up for her). I have tried to talk to her, asked her what was up and is she speaking to us because we don't know what has gone on. I did this on Bebo and e-mail. She deleted my bebo comment straight away and didn't bother replying to the e-mail! And Syrix you are probably right. She will come straight back to us when her and her boyfriend split. She seems to think they are going to be together forever though. But will we allow her back into the group if/when they do split? When I was with my ex, she kept saying that when we split up I would have no-one because I left her all of the time (totally untrue) and that she would not be my friend. To say this to my face hurt me...yet she was still my friend when my ex finished with me....but very distant with me at the same time.
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This post is about one of my "best friends" called Sarah. I say "best friends" as she's not been much of a friend recently. The whole problem started on Saturday. My friend Titch phoned me inviting me out to the local pubs on the Sunday. She also phoned Sarah and asked her but she said no. I also asked Sarah but over MSN and she said that she didn't want to go out with us because we "do her head in". This really annoyed me. We've been best friends for 7 years and now, because she has a new job and a boyfriend she's dumping us. So anyway we all went out on Sunday and had a good time. Being honest, we did slag her off a bit about what she's doing and what she said because we were all surprised and hurt by it! It then got to Monday where my Titch phoned me again with this story: Apparently Sarah text another one of our friends who didn't come on Sunday, telling her that we had not invited her. Even though me and Titch invited her! So our other friend text Titch saying that she was not speaking to any of us and that Sarah hated us because we hadn't invited her! So basically, i'm confused. Two of us invited her and she refused to come. Now, she's ignoring me on MSN. She hasn't spoke to any of us since. I find that rather shocking, like I mentioned before, we've been friends for 7 years. I know that people change but this has been a very quick and drastic change!! Then today I found out that on Sunday she went out anyway even though she "had absolutely no money, felt ill and couldn't drink". She had gone out with her boyfriend, her friend and her friend's boyfriend for a meal. She really is sacking us off for her boyfriend. He's her first proper boyfriend so I understand that she wants to spend time with him but she ALWAYS used to get at me and Titch for wanted to spend time with our boyfriends saying that we were leaving her out but we weren't because we always made time for her - went out once or twice a week with her! To top it all off, she's decided she probably won't come to our Prom. Even though she's paid and everything. I find this sooo pathetic as we haven't done anything wrong (ok, apart from slagging her off lol but that's expected with girls!!). I just think she's throwing everything away for her boyfriend. She's lost 5 good friends in the space of a day and she's not going to Prom which is the last time everyone will be together! Do you think I should talk to her? I've tried but she just ignores me. She was a really good friend and I can't believe she's doing this!! Shall I just let her move on? Cos that's obviously what she wants.......... Any input would be great thanks!!
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My ex dumped me about 3 months ago now. Said he was "worried" that I was becoming obsessed by him (err...no lol) and that he felt claustraphobic because all of his other relationships didn't even last 3 months. He said he was scared to fall for me as he would end up getting hurt again.....so he hurt me instead. Oh what a lovely guy
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I can not stand my gf when she drinks
xblondyx replied to dazzednconfused's topic in Relationship Advice
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Okkk I have i've kinda met someone and don't want to rion anything that may happen between us because of the ex.
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Lol yeah I guess I do. I was out last night at the local 'village' at the pubs with my friends and I got home, checked my phone and had a message from him saying he was over emotional and had been sat listening to the same sad song over and over for about an hour trying hard not to cry. He just text me contantly with all his worries. I'm now worried about him. I wanted to try and NOT be his friend any more but now I know that his life isn't great right now I care and i'm worried about him.
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Yea lol.......
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Hmmmm. I know he's my ex. He still holds a very big place in my heart. I mean, I do still love him but I figured that being friends was all I could have, so I settled for that. Now, I believe i've lost him all over again, he will no longer be in my life. It's crushing but I guess he was a PIG and only wanted one thing and i'm better off without him? Am I right?
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Right, I just told him how I feel lol I said: "Listen, you are a really good mate but when you talk about my underwear and having a quickie with me and stuff, it really makes me feel uncomfortable. Like, I know I went along with it there, but it was just harmless pretend flirting and banter". He said "kk" Then i said "I just don't want you getting the wrong idea or thinking that I fancy you or anything". Once again he just said "kk" and now he's shut up. I think i have quite possibly lost myself a friend here.
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Lol at ShaKe! On MSN he just asked me to put my webcam on so he can see my underwear. So i asked him why he wanted to see it and he said he didn't :S:S guys confuse me! This is really helping me to get over him quicker 'cos he's such a....typical guy!!
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Well, this is just a carry on to what I posted last night I guess it's an update about the thing with my ex. Like I said, i decided to try and cut contact a bit 'cos he's hot and cold with me. So I'm on MSN and he talks to me, I ignore him and set my statue to 'Away', he continues to say HI or my name with ?????s! So finally I change my status back to 'Online' and say Hi. It's just general chit chat once again and then he asks if my parents are in. I said no, but i'm babysitting for half an hour. He then says "hows about I pop down for a quickie then lol". So, I decide to see what he says so I said "ok, the condoms are waiting". Just kidding but wanting to see what he said, he put a shocked face and said nothing else. So then i put "i'm joking" and he said "kk". So i guess that kinda killed the conversation. This guy is clearly just after sex and not a proper relationship. I just don't get it why he's sooo nice to me, he's a great friend we clicked when we first met and get along like a house on fire, yet he changes so quickly. I HAVE to maintain cutting the contact because it's really bugging me. Thanks for letting me vent. Anyone got anything to say? Anything I should do?
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girls, is it possible to be just friends with a guy?
xblondyx replied to TheWriter1's topic in Friendship and Friends
I am friends with a few guys and have no romantic feelings about them. We are all comfortable with each other and talk about everything...so i could never feel anything else for them as i know too much about them. -
Thanks everyone i've decided to cut contact for a bit, he can talk to me, i will be civil but won't be overly nice to him so that the conversation will not last for long. To be honest, if i did get into a FWB relationship with him it would screw me up big style as i loved this guy and he f**ked me around. I'm just gonna continue with my life - the sun is shining and i'm happy!!
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I'm confused you see. I tried to start up a conversation about our past feelings the other day but he told me that he would prefer never to talk about it. So basically its ok for him to want sex from me but i can't talk to him about anything :S men.....who needs em ay?!?!
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Well a few weeks ago he asked me to be his friend, with benefits. I didn't say i would or i wouldn't as i was confused but then he called it off saying it may be weird and we may get attached again....then he goes and says this.
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Well this post concerns me and a past ex of mine. I guess we are kinda friends, we don't talk in person but we speak everyday over MSN (he is always the one who initiates conversation). Anyway, like I said me and this ex talk practically everyday and sometimes we get this good humored banter going which is really good considering what we had been through in the past. Rolling back to about 3/4 weeks ago, this guy said he still had a few feeling for me. I just brushed this comment aside as many people have told me to leave the past in the past. Today, well about 25 minutes ago, we were talking on MSN. He started the conversation and it was just a normal start to a chat. He was asking what I had been doing today and i told him i had been sunbathing and that i was all red from the sun. He kept saying "haha" so i was like "well at least i'll have a tan" and he was like "bet you get all peely skin" and i was like ok i'll hold you to that bet blah blah blah and he kept bringing it up in later conversation. Then a few minutes later he goes so hows the redness? and I said it was going down, no sign of peelyness. He was like "bet you a shag it goes peely". This kinda gobsmacked me. I didn't know what to say back so i just put "lol" and then he said he was just joking and now he's gone all quiet. I really like it how we get along so well and i still do have feelings for him but i'd rather keep that quiet so we can still be friends as i want him in my life. But sometimes he says things like he just said then the conversation gets all stilted and we end up not talking. I just wonder what this guys thinking. Does he still have feelings for me? Or does he just want to be friends? Anyone got a clue?
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I disagree with Vert. You CAN be friends with an ex if you want to be. I'm close friends with a few of my ex's, i can talk to them about anything and the past is not an issue with us. I do however agree that sometimes, being friends is hard. Especially if you are hurting and not over the person. I thereforeeee think you guys shouldn't be friends until you are fully over him other wise it could just end up with you being even more hurt. Perhaps in the future you could be friends, who knows, just not right now.
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Don't know if some of you will remember me posting about a Testing Session I had last Tuesday. Well, I though I had completely failed it but they just rang me up and said I did well and could I come down for an interview on Thursday I'm happy that I didn't fail it!!! So now I have an interview on Wednesday and Thursday! Wish me luck everyone - I really need a job!!!
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Hey all, just a little vent here. Last night I was at my friends 18th birthday party with all of my friends etc. Of course, my ex was there with all of his friends which was no problem, we are friends now. Didn't speak to him, smiled when he arrived but I was too busy having a good time to bother to try and chat to him. Anyway, me and this guy, lets call him 'A' were talking. We are good friends, have been for some time. I was just sitting on his knee having a chat about the girl he likes and stuff. When it was time to go, A picked me up and gave me a big hug and a peck on the cheek to say thanks for the advice I had given to him about this girl. The ex saw this. About half an hour later when I was at home, I received a text message from the ex saying "You and A looked very close, what's going on there". I replied saying "Oh nothing, we are just friends who were having a chat!" He text me back saying "Well even so, I don't like you talking to guys in front of me, you know I still care and I don't like it". Ok, I really didn't know what to say back to that so I just left it and went to sleep. This morning when I woke up I had 4 texts from him saying stuff like "Do you hate me now", "why do you do this to me" etc. I text him back saying "Look i'm sorry, I was just out to have a good time with my friends including A, i was only giving him some advice it's nothing to get worked up and jealous over." Then, i got a text back from him saying "I don't give a * * * * really, we are just friends after all". Ok, this confused me cos like, he had been telling me not to talk to guys in front of him cos he cares and stuff, then he says he doesn't give a * * * *!!!! We are ok now, we've sorted everything out and are friends again. He keeps telling ME not to get ideas about us getting back together (even though i've made it very clear that i never want to get back together) and now i feel like it should be me saying that to him. He's giving me very mixed messages. Any guys (or girls) out there want to interpret this for me?
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Hi. Well i left school on Friday so sad! I now have to enter into the big world of work! Scary lol. Well i have a job interview tomorrow.Well, it's more of a testing session. It's at a law firm to be a trainee legal secretary. For this testing session I have to do the follwing: A verbal reasoning exercise (i hate public speaking, i go bright red and never know what to say!) A text checking exercise (i'll be fine with that) A numerical computation exercise (anything to do with numbers..i'm bad! I've done a test on the website that they provided for example questions and they were SOO hard i could not do any of them so i'm really worried about this bit!) A copy text exercise (that's fine) A word processing/audio exercise (fine also)I'm really not looking forward to this because of the verbal and numerical bits. I'm really bad at them. I feel like, if i go to this testing session i will * * * * everything up and feel really bad and down. Should i go? I know, it's a good opportunity (and £6.25 per hour if i get the job!) but i know i'm gonna fail on these bits. I'm so scared and worried and nervous and i'll be on my own with people i don't know who are probably cleverer than me and more confident! Someone give me words of wisdom and encourage me to go PLEASE!!
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Talk to him when YOU are ready. When you won't feel anything for him. If this time never comes then don't speak to him.
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When applying my makeup i just use my fingers as i find that sponges just soak up the makeup. I wash my hands before though. I change my pillowcase either every weekend or every other weekend. Thank you for all of your advice.
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Yes i guess i do pick at it a bit but when i find myself doing it, i try to stop myself. I drink more water than soda pop recently. Makeup hmm i think i'm using Almay makeup which is meant to help the skin. And also Avon Clearskin conceler. I wash my face every morning and every night. I read somewhere (possibly on here) that you should not wash it more than 2 times. Sometimes i do wash it around 5 o clock if i'm going out anywhere and then reapply makeup after. - ehm doubleyou - i am going to google it to see how it all works. Thanks