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  1. finsjm
    Yes - hang in there!! I went through that this morning!! I was SO MAD yesterday and felt great then cried this morning and wanted to disappear!! It's so hard!! Just keep writing - you have friends here
  2. finsjm
    Thanks everyone - appreciate the advice. I know he wants nothing more and the way I look at it is I will take it day by day. He proposed then broke up with me!! I love him but am seriously questioning if this is the right person to be with anyway!! We'll see!!
  3. finsjm
    Ok - my ex and I just talked yesterday after a week of NC. It was good till we started talking about 'the stuff' then he got weird. Totally understandable - but he says he does not want a relationship from anyone - mind you he proposed 2 weeks ago. He wants to be friends and I have never done that before. I am not sure if I should so I figured I would take it on a day to day basis and see how I handle it. Either way it sucks and I'm hurt! He lives in CA and will be home in 2 1/2 weeks - says he wants to get together. He is a nice person, just has a lot of issues which makes me realize that the breakup may be a good thing right now. Until we get over our 'stuff' individually we can't really be together. We rushed into the relationship which makes me feel that maybe friends is an ok thing. any thoughts?? Thanks!
  4. finsjm
    oh no I agree. I do not need him. But he lives in CA and I am in CT, so the fact that he is coming home is big. After that - who knows when he'll be back.
  5. finsjm
    Thanks for the comments!! I agree on the push and pull!! And why is it always a month!! lol That seems to be the magic number for people getting back together! Coincidentally he is coming back home to CT in a month, and he has something of mine - who knows!!
  6. finsjm
    Thanks - and thanks for all your kind words!!
  7. finsjm
    Yeah - it is real tough. I hope he does come around - I can't imagine such a huge shift in feelings like that! I know - when we fought I did the same thing and he said the emotions were pushing him away. It's tough because as females - that's what we're best at!! lol Good luck I just want him back so bad!! It all happened so quick! I'll be strong!!!!
  8. finsjm
    Thank you! In my rational mind I know this - I am having a FREAKED out moment. My story VERY QUICK - he proposed to me the night before I flew out to meet him in CA (where he lives) He changed when I got there and we fought most of the time. It stressed us both out SO MUCH and he started to pull away. When I came back he gave me the 'I don't know what I want' line - so I pushed and we broke up. I don't regret it - he needs SPACE and you can't miss someone if you know they're still there. I only hope he realizes he made a mistake and comes back, he was truly my best friend and I believe my soul mate!
  9. finsjm
    It has been 2 1/2 days of NC - and I am flipping out!! I know it's the right thing to do as I have said many times, but I miss him so much!! I don't understand what happened but I know that space is what he needs. I'm just so scared and confused!!
  10. finsjm
    No, but it's only been 5 days. It's only been 2 for me and I feel like it's forever!! Just hang in there and DON'T call again!!!
  11. finsjm
    No, just let it go. Really - calling her to tell her is still calling.
  12. finsjm
    I agree. My ex wanted to be friends too, but I really think that is because he doesn't want to lose my completely. It hurts them JUST as much as us to go cold turkey!! I still have him on IM and yes, I still check, but NO I do not write!! Because the potential of getting him back because I left him alone is worth more to me. If he/she does not know what life is TRULY like without you, they will never appreciate you being in their life. It's the hardest thing in the world to do, I KNOW, but you have to. Hang in there!!!!
  13. finsjm
    You say you're the breakee?? I WISH my would would contact me and it's only been 2 days!!! He was the breakee and I feel he should make the first move. He's contacted my friends which was weird, but not me. My advice, follow your gut. Not your heart, your gut. Do you feel uncomfortable calling her? Then don't! Do you really miss her, then do!! It has been a while for you, don't let a good thing pass you by! She may be playing the NC game too!! Good Luck!!
  14. finsjm
    I hope so - thanks
  15. finsjm
    I agree. I hate the game! And yes, I want him back, so if he contacts or calls I want to talk to him, not judge or be mean. I love him and if he did panic and get scared (please God please) then I hope he realizes and contacts me. Either way he has something of mine and is coming home in a month, so I'll have to get it from him. Who knows - please keep your fingers crossed and thanks for the advice
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