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Some of you may have read my last post about a guy i've been seeing (here's the link if ya wanna read) Anyway, I've did it, i'm sick of him treating me like a fool, I've told him to just leave me alone, blocked him on IM and deleted his phone number! I wanna new start, I wanna guy who's NOTHING like him. I feel properly happy for the first time since I met him

Easier said than done. I know that if I ignore him like he does me, he'll just come round and make me like him even though I shouldn't. And reminders of him in my house: the lovely cd he made me of our songs, the roses he bought me, the photos. Im sad

He finished with her. He wasn't happy, he didn't feel the spark anymore..apparently. And they still live together because they had a joint mortgage, and he only just got it put into his name. So she's looking for somewhere to live and will move out in March. This is what he tells me, it could be the truth, it could be a pack of lies. Only he knows!

His ex only has something to do with it because he doesn't wanna lie to me and he also doesn't wanna rub her nose in it by bringing me home. We've been friends for 10 months, and we decided to move our relationship on a bit. But you're both right. Ahh I dunno what to do. I like him, I think he likes me, but I do think that when we aren't together, he's like...up to something. I do think him and his ex are still together. But now I've met him and been dating him, I don't wanna lose that!!! This hurts. I'm gonna give up for a while and let him come to me.

This could be quite long, and I apologise, but a lot of things have happened these passed few weeks and I would like some points of view on my situation! Well I met this guy online about 10 months ago, we talked, exchanged numbers, talked for a while but then lost touch. Then in Novemberish time, we started texting again, getting closer and decided to meet up. I guess it was a big step to meet someone online who may or may not be who they say they are. But this guy was who he said he was We just clicked straight away, I felt so comfortable with him. Then I found out that he still lived with his ex gf. Apparently she's moving out in March. I was a bit concerned about this. My first thought was "they're still together" but he explained the situation and I guess I had to be okay with it if I wanted to see him again. Also, if they were still together, would he really be spending this much time with me and this much money on me?! This problem sorta pushed us apart a bit. He said he couldn't be more than friends with me while his ex is still around, he needed to sort things. Fair enough, I see the logic in that. One night before he came to pick me up, I received a text message from his number (unsure what it said now) but it was like he was texting his gf. I text back saying "Wrong person?" and he replied saying it was his friend who was annoyed that he was coming out with me and not going out with him. I was really annoyed at this point, I didn't know whether to believe him or not and we had a little argument, but he proved that it was his friend and apologised and we made up! Since then we've had our ups and downs. We have some amazing dates and then sometimes he cancels on me and ignores my e-mails and texts. This annoyes me. Then today, we had plans but he was unable to make it because he's away. I said I understood and he said we could do something another day this week. Okay, fair enough!! But he said something which got to me a bit, he said something along the lines of "i think you expect mor from me than I can give" and to be honest, I do. I want us to be together so much. Even though he needs to sort things before anything progresses, he has led me on....maybe I did make a big mistake sleeping with him, but it's not like he hasn't been in touch since. When he took me home the night we slept together, about 10 minutes later he text me saying "I don't regret making love to you tonight". Things like this really make me like him more and more. And it feels like nothing will ever progress. I'm scared that I'm wasting time on him and that I'm gonna get my heart broken. He says he doesn't want to leave it but right now we can't be more than friends. We both don't wanna lose what we have, but I'm scared that I'm gonna get hurt. I truly like this guy, he is the sweetest, most caring, funny, gorgeous guy I've ever met I think about him 24/7. When I see him, get an e-mail/text/phonecall from him, my heart skips a beat. When he says sweet things and when I see him I get butterflies and when we kiss and get close, it feels like fireworks going off in my tummy!! The first time we kissed, he said he felt this as well things can be so amazing with us. But then there's the ex gf problem, and the ignoring problem. I'm just so confused! I guess I should back off a bit, give him some space and let him come to me, rather than me going to him. We're meant to be meeting up on Wednesday, so what I propose to do, is make myself look drop dead gorgeous and make him see what he's missing. I really don't wanna lose this guy, but should I be willing to be friends and wait around for him, when I have no reassurance that anything is ever going to progress? Sorry for long and confusing post, my thoughts just kinda came running out and I needed to get it all off my chest!! Opinions greatly needed, thanks in advance x

anyone else??

Forgot to mention, they have defo broken up, because I've spoken to his friend about it, and apparently I'm all he talks about. And the only reason they are still living together is that they have a joint mortgage, which he is currently changing to have is his name only. But I don't know. She doesn't know about me because they both decided it would be best if they didn't talk about other relationships... The old him is dead and buried (him cheating) it has been 5 years and he's grown up a lot but I'm still a bit unsure. Babybees when you said "But after I found out about his ex-gf...he started to become flakey to the dates and stuff... he showed so much to me that he was a player. So he was out of my list!!" My guy TOLD me because he didn't want to lie to me..and even after he told me he didn't become flakey or whatever, if anything, he's become more into it...he seems to want to talk to me more, see me more and just be with me. That's what's confusing me ahh i dunno what to do!

I'm gonna apologise now, this may be a bit of a long story. Where to start...at the beginning I guess, here it goes. I've been dating this guy for a while. I've known him for about 9 months, but only started dating a short while ago. We get on amazingly. We've both admitted how much we like each other and how we get butterflies when we are together. Then, I found out that he still lived with his ex gf. He told me the full story, saying that they broke up and she's moving out in March when everything with the house was sorted. I dunno how I feel about this, because he's never taken me to his house before, so he could still actually be with her, but just lying to me. He's told me about his past, I won't go into details but he's done some pretty sick things with his friends before..sleeping with MANY girls whilst he was in a relationship. This totally got me thinking that he could still be with his girlfriend. But I asked him this and he explained the full story again. I dunno what to do, cos I really really like this guy. We have chemistry, as soon as we met we clicked. I just now have a few doubts, I do trust him, I'm just worried. He told me before we make anything official between us, he has to sort things in his life e.g. getting the ex to move out and getting over that big step. I understand this. He says he doesn't want to lead me on, but when we are together, we just can't resist each other. We have so much fun, every date is special and we talk all of the time. He does the sweetest little things, like sends me a lovely e-mail out of the blue, or sends me a picture, leaves me cute little voicemail messages, sings songs to me, makes me a cd of love songs, tells me I'm amazing...but i'm worried this could all be charm, him trying to get what he wants. But he said if that was all he wanted, he wouldn't spend this much time with me, thinking about me, taking me everywhere and just talkng to me - if sex is all he would have wanted he could have just got it like wham bam lol! I dunno what to think though. I'm scared that he is lying to me and that I'm gonna end up getting hurt. But then I think, would he really do that? I mean he spends a lot of time with me, and when we aren't together we are on the phone, e-mailing or texting. He also tells me that he doesn't ever want to hurt me and that he wouldn't lie to me. He just has to sort things in his head before anything happens. Then things happen between us when we are together and it just complicates things in my head even more. What do you guys think? Ditch him or wait around? Considering I really like him, I dunno what to do.... Thanks i advance

Just a little question here. I've recently met a guy who I get along really well with (met him through a friend online, never met him in real life yet). & we want to meet up with each other, but I'm scared! But anyway that's not the point. I'm 18 and he's 23, do you think that the age gap is too big? I like him but i'm worried that he will think I'm just a little kid! Opinions anyone?

What happens if this guy isn't who I think he is? What should I do?

Tonight, my boyfriend finished with me. It was a long time coming to be perfectly honest. We weren't communicating, went for days without having a conversation (I tried, he didn't want to talk). So now, it's over. In a way, its a bit of a relief. It was a long distance relationship so it was hard anyway, so now I can take a step back and get back to normal. Don't get me wrong, I'm upset, very upset because I love this guy lots, he's a great friend as well, but now he's thrown it all away. I'm not gonna waste my time trying to persude him to get back together, I'm not gonna contact him. What I AM gonna do is be happy. These things happy for a reason. Hopefully we can be friends, in the future of course, we both need time to ourselves, to get back to normal. I'm pretty scared how calm I'm being. I mean, this guy meant the world to me, now i've lost him, probably forever, and I'm ok. Perhaps I just knew he wasn't "The One". Another reason is, since me and my now ex boyfriend haven't been talking to each other much, I've started talking to this other guy a lot. Being honest, I don't know him in real life. I know him online. He lives near me though. We talk a lot, text a lot and he leaves cute little voicemail messages on my phone. He makes me smile. We were gonna meet up, but i felt like i would be cheating, but now I can cos im single. The only worry is, what if he's not who he says he is? I don't trust people easily, so I'm very wary in case he's like a 50 year old man or even a woman...or worse, a friend taking the mick!! What do people think? Is it too soon to date again? People out there going through a break up, just be happy, be strong, you'll be OK

Arghh i've spoken to him and he says he's "scared..loves me but doesn't wanna lose me". well doing this IS making him lose me. fool.

Yup he has...once before I think. And it makes it even harder that we live so far apart so if he doesn't reply to my texts I can't just go around to see him cos it would take 3/4 hours!! What tops it off is that he sits and talks to his "first kiss and best friend" everyday on MySpace and says "love you" yet he can't even leave me one little comment. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR lol

I listen though. He knows how much I love him and he said he loves me and now he just does talk to me, it's been a week since he last spoke to me and I've tried to get in contact but he never responds!

He's fine. I know he is because he's been online, updated his profiles etc. And I also know his phone is working as a mutual friend has told me he has spoken to him. I'm giving up. Gonna let him make the first move!