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Well, I have two job interviews this month and my skin is awful. I've tried everything to try and get these spots away but nothing works. I've got tablets from the doctors - two or three different types that i have used over a year, cream from the doctor, other random tablets and creams from the local Boots the chemist and now the ProActiv solution. I guess some of them have helped a little bit but right now, my skin just looks sooo bad. It's all red lumpy and dry and looks horrible. I need to give a good impression and when my skin looks this bad i feel depressed and don't even want to leave the house. What are my potential employers going to think when i turn up for an interview looking awful? I know i should just be happy, not judge myself on my looks but every time i look in the mirror i want to cry. Also, i leave school on friday forever and everyone will be taking photos and i will look awful on them another thing is that my friends and i are going for a drink after school and i'm worried in case i am going to look a right mess and won't be able to cover my spots (my mum has to help me to do my makeup as when i do it, i make it look even worse - a 17 year old girl with her mother helping her to do her makeup - pathetic!) Anyone got any advice on what i should do?

Thanks for all of the replies. It seems like a lot of people have different opinions on FWB relationships. I've decided they are not for me, as EH said, i get too emotionally attached.

Don't Look Back. I know you love him, but this guy seems like a right jerk. By unblocking you on AIM he was getting you interested in him again, even though he's with someone else. Does it not feel like he was starting to string you along so that when this girl leaves, he could start getting closer to you again? No, i know it's hard, but don't look back. You can do better. If he really loved you he wouldn't have broken it off.

A mixture of all 3! Should be kind and caring, but also have a cheeky dare devil side but also normal, not some geeky person. Gosh i'm so shallow!

Maybe she just wants to be friends with you, but is finding it hard getting over you so she just snaps but then realises she wants you in her life so she starts talking again (that's how i used to feel).

You are ALL right. I simply cannot be friends with my ex. Everything was going fine, we spoke a bit (only on MSN/text) then he just changed. At our special school leaving dinner last night, we received the award for 'Ladies Man'. I was fine with that. Anyway, after the meal me and my friends went for a few drinks and i received a text from him saying "did you like my award then?" so i replied saying "yes welldone, that must mean you have a list, hope i'm high up on it" just joking around. He took what i said wrongly, thinking i was annoyed with him and he booted off saying i had ruined his night. I text him back saying i was only messing with him and to have a good night. He text me back saying "kk. do you want to come over for some fun tomorrow!". i was exteremly shocked. I didn't reply, then about 2 mins later his ex before me, my friend came in and came straight up to me and showed me a message that our ex sent her, inviting her to his tomorrow aswell for a bit of "bump and grind" this annoyed us both a lot considering he is playing us both against each other. We hatched a plan to play him back, not sure if that is going ahead now. Spoke to him briefly today telling him that i don't want us to be friends, we could be civil if we bumped into each other and that is it. I don't want to be unhappy any longer and do not just want to be his sex object. I then deleted him from my MSN and my phone book again. I've finally come to my sense and realised what a utter pig he is. I can do soo much better! Just a bit of a vent...i really dislike him! Thank god he didn't get to hurt me again!

It isn't with the ex, even though he has asked and i was tempted! No, it's with a friend of mine, he is gorgeous and we get along great. I was just wondering what people thought.

Good or bad idea?

It's purely friendship. It's back to what it was like before the relationship. We both know that nothing will ever happen again. I'm crushing on someone else and he just wants casual stuff. We both talked it over and realised we wanted each other in our lives, but how it used to be. And it's soo much better. He's one of my best friends and i think it's good that we can still be friends after what we've been through. I know people will think i'm stupid, and i'm sorry for not taking your advice but i've decided to follow my head and heart and do what's best for me. It would hurt me even more to cut him out of my life forever.

Well i think it's sweet. And i talk to him because even though we were together and he finished with me, we were friends for 6 and a bit years before this and we did not want to throw that all away. We connected on a friendship level and are both happy being friends. I know people out there will say i'm stupid, but i'm happy. He didn't screw me over, he was scared as i was the girl who hadn't dumped him yet...no-one has ever loved him before and he couldn't believe that i did. Is that so bad?

Ok, i'm just gonna copy this from our MSN conversation. I thought it was pretty sweet and shows this from the dumpers perspective 2 and a half months down the line. He said i feel really bad about what i did to you. i wish i hadn't * * * *ed up your life like i did. Knowing what i did to you makes me feel like * * * * and it doesnt matter how much you say its ok, i still cant forgive myself. Now, sometimes i look at the picture of you and think, should i still be with her? what would it be like if i was? but then i think that i would end up hurting you all over again. i just cant explain how bad i feel for doing this to you. Sometimes i still think i want to be with you but i'd end up doing something totally stupid if i hurt you again. Seeing how hurt you were makes me think how * * * *ing stupid i was to do this to you. Im so sorry. You loved me and it scared me as no-one has ever loved me before. And i hurt you. Im so sorry. I can't understand why you still speak to me or like me. Im sorry. Jus thought i'd share that with you all x x

Hmmm.....hard one. Well, i can see that there is two sides here. Get back together which could end up with you hurting again, or not getting back together and you could be missing out on a great love. Go with your heart, if you think that everything would be ok, go for it. If you think he will just break your heart again, leave him, don't look back. He obviously broke up with you for a reason, if he really loved you then he wouldn't have broken up with you would he? He wouldn't do anything to lose you...Plus he's with someone else! Maybe things are going bad with her so he's making you his back up. You don't deserve this! I know you may love him, but are you sure he does love you and want you back? Normally, it's best if you don't look back, move on, move forward with your life and find someone better.

Hmm doesn't really matter anymore, i didn't bother texting and he just text me lol.

Right, well last night my friend made a big scene with my ex so today he's been texting me to try and sort it. So it's kinda sorted. He doesn't hate me anymore, he hates me friend lol. But anyway, on MSN a few mins ago he said he had to go but text him if i want to talk. Ok, guys out there, what does this mean? Was he just being kind by saying that or does he WANT me to text him? I'm really bad at reading between the lines so i don't know what to do!!

I have to go to the party - it's my 2 best friends party and they would KILL me if i missed it! If i see him, i'll ignore him. There will be over 200 people there so i might be able to avoid him!

Well, i know i know, posting about HIM again. But i just want to vent a little bit. Ok, well, just had a conversation with the ex. He said he just needed to get something off his chest and told me that he hoped i didn't get the wrong idea about our conversation last sunday night. I told him that i didn't and that i'm happy just being friends. He said that he just didn't want to get my hopes up over us getting back together and in his eyes there is only a tiny glimmer of us getting back together (and in my eyes there is none but i didn't say that). He then continued talking to me, being nice, kinda flirting even though he doesn't realise he's doing it) saying he will see me at the party tomorrow. Right, i know he made it clear we aren't getting back together but we've been getting along great and i'm happy. I'm always happy after talking to him. It even helps me sleep better after i've spoken to him. He also said that he is getting very drunk at the party, and i said as normal i would be to. He said that he's going to get the dj to play my song and give me a shoutout (he's friends with the dj). Grr i don't know what i'm trying to say. I think he still likes me but wants to be single but wants to be friends. I still like him but i don't think he knows it, i don't want to be single but i think i would find it hard to be friends with him but i want to stay close to him. I don't want to lose him in my life. I don't really know what i'm blabbering on about here, i just wanted to write down what's just happened. I guess i'm happy...is this a good thing? i'm probably setting myself up for hurt so i'm trying to go back to NC but when i see him tomorrow its just going to bring everything back to me. Should i avoid him at the party? i know i will run into him but probably won't speak to him...i don't know. What should i do?

I completely agree with the above, going through it myself! I say don't contact him, cut him out of your life. It will be hard but things do get better.

You are probably right, maybe i shouldn't be friends with him. He's a * * * * *...i dislike him right now

Well, as you all told me to do, i went on MSN last night to re-block and delete my ex from my list. As soon as I logged on, he started a conversation with me it started like this: Him: I know i'm the last person you would expect to speak to you but i need to know, is R and A's party on friday or saturday? Your their close friend, that's why i'm asking you. Me: Saturday Him: Thanks, u ok The conversation just flowed from there. I was so surprised. I didn't want to speak to him but he just kept talking and talking. We only touched conversation about our relationship twice. The first time was when he said "gosh i really don't know what to wear" and i told him he sounded like a woman and he said "shows your taste in men doesn't it lol" and the second time was when he was asking if anyone new was in the frame and if i'm going to pull on saturday. Basically, we both made it clear that we don't want to get back together, but we still want to be friends. I think that would work. While talking to him i realised that he's more like a brother to me now, which i guess seems weird but good as it means i CAN be his friend without having any other feelings for him. In a way, i'm glad i didn't block him now, i feel more settled to know that we can talk and not bring the past up etc. Thanks for all of your advice yesterday though, i know i went against it but it worked for me in the end

Still not that good, been to Doctors and he gave me Doxycycline tablets and is referring me to a dermatologist

I know EH, always looking out for me! Had some great advice from you, don't worry, be as harsh as you want lol!

Going for guys that are way tall is a bad thing for me, personally. I went out with a guy who is 6"7! I'm only 5"4/5ish. It looked incredibly stupid i tell you lol (but i guess i loved him so i didn't can), also it was hard as he had to bend down and stuff so he got a bad back and i got a bad neck lol! I go for guys who are about 5"7-6"2 now. I would never go out with a guy that tall again. It was way to hard for us.

I know ElektraHere! It's just because it's a Sunday. And to be honest, i haven't got time to do activites as i have school work and stuff to do. It's just me being stupid.

So do you want to get back with her? Yeah, good idea to give it a few days. Phone her or something and arrange to go out to talk. Let her talk, you talk, explain how you feel. If you want it to work and want to be with her, go for it, but with caution. You don't want to end up hurt again. If my ex contacted me after 3 months of NC and said he made a mistake, i would ask to meet up with him and then tell him how bad he hurt me and how i wouldn't want to be hurt again... I'm not actually sure whether getting back together is such a good idea though, you really don't want all of the heartbreak again. Go with your heart i guess and good luck with whatever you do.

Grrr...just when I thought i was getting somewhere, i go and get all paranoid and stuff and feel stupid and upset!! Well, basically, i was bored about an hour ago, signed onto MSN and re-added the ex, just to see if he was online. He was. I didn't speak or anything thank god! But i also noticed that one of my good friends was online. I knew my ex used to be completely obsessed by her, he fancied her loads but she messed him around by saying that maybe something could happen between them, but she always backed away when he tried it on with her (turned out she loved his best mate!). Anyway, about two mins later, they both went offline at exactly the same time! Coincidence or not...i wonder. I'm now paranoid that he's asked her out or something and they both went off because they are meeting up. I know i'm being stupid, he can do what he wants but still i'm upset for some reason. Everyone knows that a close friend shouldn't date an ex. But...would she? I know she wouldn't!! Shes involved with someone else but still i can't help feeling insecure and stuff. It also didn't help that he stood and talked to her right in front of me the other day (even though when we were together he told me he went right off her and didn't want to be her friend because she messed him around). Also, he's been talking to my friends a lot more. He told me he hated them all yet he's spoke to all of them being nicey nice and everyone finds that really weird. I'm trying to get over him but i still care (i wish i didn't!!) argh, i hate set backs. I should be happy, he's not worth all of this! Just as i'm typing this, my friend logged back onto MSN. Don't know why, but i feel relieved. Jealousy is soo bad. How can i stop feeling this way?